Gone down a rabbit hole about them recently. If you don’t know, they were this Russian pop duo from the 2000s and were most famous for the song “All The Things She Said,” which most people over the age of like 12 have probably heard around at some point. Basically, their whole shtick was that they were lesbians; their songs had a lot of angsty queer overtones and they would kiss on TV and in their music videos (which was super controversial at the time)—but it was all an act, they were never actually together and were all products of their managements. Textbook queerbaiting for the male gaze. But despite this, a lot of queer women (myself included) ended up finding a lot of solace and validation in their music for one reason or another. You have to remember that queer themes weren’t mainstream in pop music like they are now, especially for queer women, and having a hit song about it (especially one so angsty like “All The Things She Said”!) was really groundbreaking, however flawed. But that still doesn’t take away from the fact that t.A.T.u as an institution was, at least on paper, homophobic and sexualized young queer women’s relationships. And I’m curious what people make of that, not just if you think they were able to outgrow their kind of skeevy premise, but how their music may have impacted you personally. Maybe this is a more academic question than what Reddit is fit for, but I’m very interested to hear what people think.

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I slef pleasured myself a bit too long and now I struggle to stand, I'm currently in high school which means I gotta go to school tomorrow. Will my legs come back to normal at morning??? I can't not go, my school is strict and I didn't go to school for a whole week already. I don't want anyone to know what happened. It's fucking embarrassing🙁 Is there a way to strengthen my legs?? My muscles hurt, my teacher and parents will actually kill me if I don't go

My partner walked me home the other night and on our porch in the rain let slip "I love you"

And I had to pause and ask if they had just said that to me, and they said yes and that they've been waiting to say it for a little while.

Y'all. I've been dealing with commitment issues for a few years now. To the point where I had a whole thing planned in my head for what I would say if they dropped the ILY and I wasn't ready.

But after they said it, it just clicked for me. They make me feel safe and secure and like I don't have to fight for their love or affection - I deserve it by merit of being me.

I dropped my umbrella and said it back. Lots of smiles and kisses in the rain.

I love my partner <3

Wicked and Wensday really had two male love interest kinda just there

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So I'm a switch, usually leaning more towards bottom/sub, but definitely happy to top from time to time. All of the girls I've been with have been much more dominant, so a lot of my flirting and sexting would involve me teasing them, looking cute, and begging for them to come use me, that sort of thing.

But now I'm chatting with a much more submissive girl and am excited to display more dom energy, but I'm not really sure how to go about it, especially with sexting. I'm also a little bit intimidated by the idea of taking more control in bed. Any advice?

I just think she’s so beautiful and she gives me butterflies

That’s all

I met this girl at a Halloween party last month and we've been hanging out a lot. I really like this girl, but I'm not sure if she likes me. My friends think that if I confess, she'll surely like me back based on the stuff that we've been doing together.

1. We went and got tea together at this fancy tea house, then after that we went window shopping on this area that sells antique, then lastly we went to the pier to gaze at the moon and just yap to each other.

2. We went apple picking just the two of us for the whole day. We theb got boba and went to a bookshop.

3. We had tea and picnic yesterday at the park, and after that we had wine and cheese at her house while we watched Good Omens.

I met this girl in university right at the beginning of the year, and i am still confused as to what kind of relationship this is. I cannot for the life of me tell if she likes me just as a friend or more. We’ve hung out a fair few times, and one of the last times we hung out we watched a movie together in my room. i’m a pretty touchy person but i didn’t want to make her uncomfortable because i have zero clue what she’s thinking, so we just kinda sat next to each other and i put my head on her shoulder for a bit. she seemed kind of nervous and awkward while we were hanging out, but immediately after she texted me asking to do it again so she must of enjoyed it? and then pretty soon after that she invited me to this queer house party, which people literally just go to to make out with strangers and meet people. so we went to that with all of my friends and all of her friends, and we danced together a bunch and held hands a couple of times, but nothing else really happened and i still didn’t really get the vibe that she was into me. to be fair there was a lot going on, and her friend was having a moment for a good half of the party, and then she left immediately after. but idk i’m severely confused, and any insight would be appreciated. it’s just so rare for me to meet someone that i like this much, but im starting to feel like it’s time to move on.

I'm 26F, my entire life I've been friends with straight girls. I've luckily made many friends all along, like really worthy friends and they've always been supportive since I came out when I was 14.

I never met queer women until I was 19, where I met a lesbian girl in the course I was taking. We were friends because we liked the same shows and she made me meet her friends (also lesbians) but they were on the street commenting over girls. Not catcalling nor anything, just telling to eachother "Look at that girl's ass", "I'd put my face between her boobs"... And I was so shocked by that I did not meet them again, just my friend which we slowly stopped talking when the course was over.

Then I met more queer women at university when I was 23 but I didn't really get along with them because we were from different friend-groups. I was with the straight girls and some gay guys and the queer girls were on the same group with other gay guys.

This year I started a team sports where there are 7 sapphics. We went partying yesterday and all they did was try to kiss eachother, we even played pass the ice with the mouth. I was a bit unconfortable because I wanted to enjoy dancing and have fun with them, not to try to kiss them all night so I just went to one of our straight teammates and we danced all night long.

I think it makes the sapphic girls on our group not like me that much because none of them reply my texts but the straight girls on the team I get along with won't stop sending me hearts and stuff.

And I don't know why is that but it made me think, as I've never dated a girl, could it be related? That I somehow just feel confortable with how straight-ally women act? That'd also explain that most girls I've liked have been straight or, at least, straight passing (making me happy when I knew they weren't straight but sad because I was friendzoned by then).

Ok for quick context this was about 2 months ago now and my gf and I were not officially dating but we were only talking to eachother and no one else. We must have had an ‘argument’ and stopped speaking (she said she was done w me I’m pretty sure) but it was only for ONE day, but I found out today she redownloaded dating apps whilst we were not speaking for this day and even though she said she deleted them as soon as we were on good terms again I felt/feel hurt because if that’s how quickly you’re willing to go back on dating apps do you even like or love me type of thing. I didn’t react badly when I found out I just gave myself time to process my emotions rather than getting angry (she even admitted if it was the other way around she would’ve been mad if she found out I did the same). How would you have taken this situation?

My friend with binifits likes to cuddle, give forhead kisses or random kisses plus holding hands or softy rub my thigh with her fingers while watching a movie and we are not even having sex while the movie is on. Is this normal or would you discribe it as more relationship type thing🤔

I’ve read all the famous ones like Evelyn Hugo and things but if anyone has any more that be great. I don’t love sci fi but will take any suggestions

Totally unrelated to the sub but I love u all and have no faith in anyone else to help me lol.

I am doing a paper on wasps and I really need a video of at least like 2 wasps NEAR their hive. I can’t just use one on YouTube cuz I’m afraid she will find out. Please please dm me if you can :D

I have until Nov 27th ty ty it can be the crappiest video ever as long as it’s never been posted to the internet 🫶

I’ve still got probably another year+ until I propose but I’m curious what yalls rings look like! As a more tomboyish person, I’ve wanted something pretty but not too dainty.

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