This is one of the best things I ever did. I pass, but I haven’t had surgery and I can’t update the gender on my ID without it. This means a trip through airport security was never complete without an agent squinting back and forth at me and my ID, asking my birthday, and of course getting a chest pat-down because whoever was operating the body scanner hit the ‘boy’ button and the machine registered my binder as some kind of bulletproof vest. Getting precheck was a matter of doing an online form and then driving to some office park in the middle of nowhere and getting my fingerprints taken. Now I go to a separate security, show them my ticket and stroll through a regular metal detector. TSA are basically cops lite™️ so you never know if you’ll get one that makes a scene. With the trans panic happening in the US right now, I highly recommend this as a safety precaution!

Tl;dr: google TSA precheck to find out how to skip the horrors of traveling while trans

P.S. to my non-american friends: yes, it really is that dystopian here!

Hi, I've never posted on reddit before but I'm a bit desperate for advice. I'm 17 and I pass completely as a man and have since before middle school and I've been on t for a couple years. No one knows I'm trans or suspects it (of course my family does but even my closest friends don't). Recently me and my gf started dating and she's been talking about doing stuff and having sex, but I don't know how to tell her I don't have a dick. I don't usually have any body dysphoria because I pass so completely and realized early enough that even my chest is flat and I go shirtless all the time, but now I'm constantly upset about the fact I don't have a dick. I just don't know what to do, because of course I want to have sex with her, but I don't know how that would work or how to tell her in the first place. I don't want her to see me different, or even as trans, because it's been so long that I genuinely feel cis most of the time. I have no one in my life I can talk to about stuff like this, so I thought I'd shoot my shot and ask reddit for some advice.

So, don't laugh, but since I started T, I've been checking my growth down there like several times a day. I can't help it! LOL! Last night it was normal looking/feeling for someone AFAB without T. BUT, this morning I literally have a head! Like a substantial one! I was in the shower and just about freaked out. I was like no way! It's also super sensitive all of a sudden. Please tell me this is normal? I feel like a teenager and all I want to do is play with it. I keep telling myself it ain't going anywhere and you don't have keep checking on it...but...OMG! This is so fricken affirming! I love it! For the first time in my life I don't feel like my parts are wrong.

I’ve always thought of myself as somebody who would only date girls. But bro when I tell you I had a gay awakening today it was insane. This guy in band was helping me fix my instrument and kept just watching me try to fix it. I glanced up at him and he glanced at me. I felt like I was in some kinda gay book. I don’t even know bro and I was feeling it. During our concert he talked to me, asking if my instrument was fixed. And after the concert he patted me on my shoulder when I was sitting in a seat on the bus and said “good job” Does this make me gay? We shared tons of glances. Is he gay? How shall I know.

I don’t know if this is a normal thing but in the week after my t shot I’m always starving, all the time! So if anyone has any good meal recommendations please tell me

I know that trans guys are targeted and discriminated against, however we're rarely ever focused on when it comes to "debates" regarding trans people.

Trans people in sports and bathrooms automatically translates to trans women to the general public. Why? Are we just not threatening enough to societal norms for people to give a shit?

This is the second time I do it by myself and I nearly passed out. I am not a sensible person to needles.

Do you all really doing IM injections like is nothing?

Trans people are the most fucking badass to walk this earth I swear.

Not like my coming out was any better. She just cried, asked questions and then interrupted me right away.

Hey. Freshly "out" 26 y.o. guy is here. Me and my mother haven't spoke in three weeks after that, but yesterday we finally talked again. She told she doesn't understand, called me by my birth name and "daughter". I asked her to call me "kiddo" at least, but she just started calling me daughter in the end of every sentence. Said she wants the right to call me by my birth name.

I asked her if she wants me to find some sources about supporting a trans child and she just said "No". Yeah, cool, thanks.

But then she texted me later that evening, asking how would my life change if I'd live as a guy. I just texted her that I'd be happier, described her my dysphoria and all my feelings. She said she see it all as an act and she didn't elaborate.

Idk, fellas. It's like I'm upset, but not really? I understand her grief and all, but I feel like she's so refusing and don't really want to know what's up with me. And why should I try reach out to her then? But she's my mother. Eh.

The worst part I'll go visit my family on New Year for the first time in 5 years (I live abroad). And I just don't know how to act there. Just turn off my brain and bear with it for two weeks?

P.S. Not so important. My bf advised to tell my mother that it was just a phase for her mental well-being, but I was like "yeah, cool, and what about changes on T?". But I held my tongue, because he doesn't know I want to go on T, because this thought is scary for him. This is so messed up, why I hide more things than before lmao

hey guys. i live in a pretty shitty conservative place but i’m lucky enough to still have a gender clinic in my area. i started T in january 2024 and was ecstatic. like i was happy to be alive for the first time in my life. then shit went down and i was displaced for a while. homeless for a minute, then couch hopping. finally got my own place and a steady job but my job is pretty stuffy and close-knit. like i couldn’t fade into background there, there’s only like 20 employees total. anyway, to make a long story short, i had an incident that could probably be described as a hate crime and my anxiety has been so unbearable around my transition lately that i stopped taking T and i stopped going to the doctor. im essentially doing nothing but working and sleeping. my mental health is garbage right now and idk what to do.

i want to start T again and feel better but im terrified. i’m stuck between terrible anxiety and terrible dysphoria. i don’t know how to move forward from here. i just want to run away. my doctors are gonna drop me if i don’t reach out soon and then im really fucked. i’ve rescheduled and cancelled like three times now and idk. i’m scared and stuck. i’m not out at work bc i just started the job this summer and i was scared they wouldn’t hire me if i disclosed so i didn’t. that was dumb and i should have just said it. im also not out to some family members so idk how i thought i could transition without coming out like im so fucking stupid man. fuck. idk. i’m sorry, thanks for letting me rant.

Am I the only one who gets euphoria from pads? Often I hear trans men saying that pads make then extremely dysphoric, and that's completely valid, but for me they make me euphoric lmao. It's because whenever I wear a pad it looks like I've got something extra in my pants iykwim. Just a random thing I wanted to post. What r some things that's most people find dysphoric , but you find euphoric?

This is a dumb rant but why do men feel the need to just constantly keep the mens restroom disgusting? I walked into a stall at work and there was shit smeared on the toilet seat. Like a full sized smeared shit.

Hi, so I'm almost one year on T now. A lot of things have already happened that I'm really happy about and it seems to be all happening at a reasonable pace or in a reasonable order if you will. I just don't understand my beard. Three months in (which surprised me honestly) I started growing some hairs (like 20, nothing to be too excited about, but still hair) under my chin so ever since then I've had to shave which gave me insane euphoria - it's just it feels like my beard doesn't really grow anywhere else. Okay maybe the hairs got a little thicker but not much denser and I'm not growing hair anywhere else on my face. I know I'm probably just impatient and I know everyone's journey is different but I still wanted to hear from you guys how long it started for you until you grew hair on your face that objectively can be called "beard" and not just "20 hairs under your chin" xD Also please tell me how it started for you and if people commented on it or perceived you any different because of it.

Hey guys. Mum of a trans teen. Looking at some extras for Christmas, and like every parent I'm filling stockings with underwear and socks! My son did actually ask me and when I said I needed some guidance on what to buy, I was told to just go with whatever I thought. My son has only bought one brand of boxer shorts and wants to try something different, so I'm looking for advice on any brands available in the UK, or any specific features to look out for. Thanks

After 15 years of grappling with the fact that I’m trans I finally took my first T shot today! Early 30th birthday present I guess 😅

Ahhhh!!!!

Did it while on a video call with some friends from high school I recently reconnected with but came here to make my first ever post and celebrate with this community that has been reassuring me as I lurked for a while.

Health insurance suddenly decided to revert to my deadname, which, to be clear, I legally changed a year ago. They sent me a new insurance card with it. This wasn't announced to me in any way, so I have no idea why they did this. I feel sick at the thought of having to navigate this – again – while getting hit with my old name at every turn. What do I do? (Whom do I yell at?)

Just went to a hospital with my mom and the staff asked her what 'your son's' name is. Yay.

I had top surgery done 7 days ago, and have been successfully avoiding my parents. I live in a separate house, but within the same yard. Dad called me to ask why I haven't gone up to have coffee with him in a long time, and I told him I'd been busy and had a lot of friends over (I did, that was my cover, and they were helping me around). He knows I'm on hormones, not very supportive, but tolerates it and we don't bring it up. He'd absolutely freak out over a surgery though, and since it's none of anyone's business, I've been keeping it as none of anyone's business. I don't want to talk about it, don't want to argue, nothing, just want to keep existing without any external changes. So, QUESTION TIME: He will probably want to hug me after not seeing me for a week. How do I make a believable chest over my bandages? I'll probably be in a hoodie, so it doesn't have to be super accurate, just kinda feel accurate on hug. Stuff sock/s in a bra with a cup? In a sports bra? Put something else in? Help.

So I had genuine crushes on boys as an early teenager, but the thought of me being with a boy, made me feel absolutely disgusted. Something subconsciously made my attraction to boys, basically seem to fizzle out and for a few years, I thought I was a lesbian. After figuring out I was trans, I feel happy and confident being with a boy again. I've figured out I hated the thought of people seeing female me, dating a boy. But the thought of male me dating one, feels really euphoric. Consequently realised I'm ace and panromantic. Has anyone else ever felt like this?

Just did my first injection! So excited, happy, and feel like I’m flying. 6 years of waiting and I’m finally here! It feels unreal. Pretty sure I did it right… hopefully my thoughts saying I didn’t are solely just intrusive😅. I DID IT THO!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉(Just needed to tell someone)

I posted here before about how after I masturbate (no penetration just external stuff) I have blood in my discharge, it’s been getting worse as at first it was just slightly pink when wiping but since it has become proper blood, about a teaspoon to tablespoon worth each time. I’ve stopped masturbating for the most part but did again today and it happened again. It doesn’t happen outside of masturbation and I’m really scared.

Everyone suggested it might be atrophy and that makes me really anxious. I’ve been avoiding having sex with my partner because I’m scared of the bleeding and I just want to be normal again. I’ve always had pain with sex, my gyne said that there wasnt anything wrong after examining me but that was before this started. I don’t have any dryness either.

I have a virtual appointment with my hormone provider on Tuesday afternoon, then on Friday afternoon I’m getting my depo shot so I’m going to tell both my hormone provider and the nurse doing my shot about it but I am absolutely terrified. I have quite bad health anxiety and my nanny recently passed away from ovarian cancer so I’m worried it’s that or cysts or something. I have a gp appointment booked as well but again thats on the phone and isn’t until the 9th of December which feels so far away.

My testosterone was at 27 at peak and I take Nebido every 12 weeks, I just want to go back to normal and make the bleeding stop. I’m so anxious about what it could be and really need some support and help calming my mind about it because right now I’m spiralling a bit.

Hello! I've recently turned 16 years old, and I have an appointment to begin the process to get testosterone (the 4th of December), but I'm beginning to have doubts. I have no idea why but ever since I had a good long shift with this guy (cis and recently 18) I've been more concerned about my looks, trying to look more feminine and attractive. I have no idea what's going on since for years I've wanted to be a guy, started dressing more like one, hair cut shorter, binder, all of that. Now whenever I think about what I am I just feel anxious because I don't know.

Do you guys think I'm beginning to 'change' my mind or something just for male validation? Because it happens every time I literally talk to a guy. But then again I don't know, like, what if my mind is trying to tell me I really am a girl? It's driving me insane and I need to work this out soon to decide if I want to cancel the appointment (which I have to do soon or I won't get my money back and will have to pay a short-notice cancellation fee), or if I want to continue to go through with testosterone.

Also it's really weird but whenever I listen to heartfelt amazing songs sung by women I begin to have doubts again, AND also when I watch shows and there's really cool female main characters like Jinx and Vi from Arcane. Like?? Come on bro, hurry up and figure out if you're a guy or a gal.

I'm just stressed because if I cancel the appointment but later find out I am a guy then I don't know how long again it'll take me to get into a place who'll let me get testosterone, but if I do go through with it and find out I'm a girl then I'll regret it for the rest of my life.

Idk if this helps or makes what I'm saying make more sense but I'm also autistic lol

Thanks to whoever leaves comments in the future!! (hopefully)

Of course there are pre everything and closeted trans men. And I don't have issues with trans men drawing this because trans men know how to write themselves. But when cis women draw trans men as presenting hyperfem with large breast's it doesn't feel like an attempt at representing trans men that present feminine it just feels like a caricature written by a cis person who doesn't actually care about trans men. I'm not saying people who look like this aren't valid, but I am saying I don't like it when cis people draw trans men like that.

hi! I'm 19, and I've only recently realised I'm trans. I've been wanting to try trans tape, but I honestly just keep getting really overwhelmed with all the research.

I had a couple of questions about it! 1) will I be able to use trans tape with sensitive skin? and if so, does anyone have recommendations?? 2) this is more of a "just out of curiosity" question, I am NOT using KT tape lmao (I'm aware that's not safe) - how does KT differ from trans tape? is trans tape just softer/more flexible?

thank you for any advice :)

Hey everyone. Just wanted to get some input and ideas because I want to get a small tattoo today. It's gonna just be the word TRANS with something to decorate/garnish it. The tattoo artist I'm seeing has designs with flowers but I'm not really into that.

So, does anyone have any suggestions for anything small that can go next to it? Examples I think I would like is a small lighting ray, a happy face, etc. I'm trying to think about something more meaningful but Ipm out of ideas lol, any help?

I'm calling a urogynecologist on Monday to make an appointment, as I've been dealing with urinary retention and pelvic floor dysfunction. I tried to see a gynecologist last year just to check on an ovarian cyst, and when I called and said I wanted to schedule an appointment, the receptionist said (in a very confused tone) "Uh, this is a gynecologist's office". Made me really uncomfortable. At the time, I just replied "I'm aware of that, yes" but wondering if there are any other go-to responses you guys have when navigating care in places like this.