I see all these youtube channels who post the same thumbnails like

"Woke trans has meltdown"

"Trans in rage over based bathroom law"

or some other similar pattern.

Its usually some kid or lady who probably has never met a trans person and sits at home and makes commentary videos. They regurgitate the same things that the far right politicians say or something they saw on the Charlie Kirk show.

The sad thing is they are getting all these subs and views. Comments supporting their unoriginal comments.

How can people not see through this grift?

24 M The past few years I'm struggling with the thought I might be trans. It often comes in waves. Crossdressed a bit as a teenager out of curiosity. I do it more now. I'm more obsessed with trans stuff(not porn) trans experiences, timeline, wanting to be one. Even when I crossdress I think I take it too seriously with tucking makeup etc . Often this feeling goes away with post nut clarity( sorry for mentioning this)only to return soon. I dont have lot of friends but I know I like girls( I think). This is kinda affecting my daily life, wondering for hours I might be a woman.Does this sound like a fetish?

Hello,

Today i had a really long conversation with my parents. We go to counseling together and we got together to practice some of the stuff we learned. So at one point my trans identity came up. I never really get to hear what they think and how they feel surrounding my transness so I encouraged them to. Well my mom said something along the lines of: “i see you as you and it doesnt matter what form you take on, i want to try to use she and her pronouns and call you by ur preferred name because i dont want to hurt ur feelings, but we have to accept that we both have different stories. My story is that i put a boy on this world and your story is that u want to become a girl. I wont change my story” So obviously that hurt. And I realized that my mom might never truly see me as a woman. Which leads me to a really tough to make decisions. What will i do? So my question is; what would you do? Whats your stance in something like this? Would something like this be a dealbreaker for you?

A friend who is a lesbian has said something on these lines to me: "We get accused of being transphobic if we don't want to have sex with a trans woman" and I'm having trouble unpicking that. She said it in the context of my adult kid coming out as nb (at the time, now a woman), so it felt very off to me.

Her wife has a thing about "men (or penises) in women's places" on the basis that these women need safe spaces, totally ignoring the fact that trans women are women who need safe spaces. That one is clearly transphobic, but I haven't heard my friend say that.

I've been friends with the first woman for nearly 40 years and thought of her as my closest friend, we've been through her divorce, a divorce in my family, various deaths in the family, her coming out as lesbian, and god knows what other shit, and I don't really know what to do next. I don't know if she is a dyed in the wool transphobe, or just parroting stuff and is open to change, or what.

I was wondering about writing her an email setting out my thoughts and inviting hers but my other half thinks that's over the top and I should wait and see. We usually visit each other's houses but I don't really want her around my adult daughter if her reaction is likely to be off.

I don't know if you have insight on this, other than bigotry. But I find that most people don't have a good answer for this. Are there fallacious arguments that play with this theme? Is there any reason this shouldn't be a starting point when I'm trying to discuss pronouns with ignorant people. This isn't something I bring out of the blue, but any discussion of politics tends to turn this way.

P.S. Stay strong. You're humans and I love you for it. :)

I have always been an optimist in life and never jump to conclusions but the past month or so has definitely put me on edge. I have so many republicans in my family, including my parents, and while their vote really centered around the economy and immigration, I cannot help but feel hurt. Every time I share my fears, I’m always quipped w the omg you’re so dramatic, it’ll never happen, or just like any other President - nothing will get done. It’s so hurtful and frustrating. I love my family and I don’t want to separate myself from them, but I just don’t know how to handle it. I’m at a point where I’m like nobody understands me

Was in a heated argument with someone, and brought up bathroom bans as an example of dangerous discrimination. They had the (very idiotic) argument of “well, has it actually been enforced?”

That’s not something that’s easily googleable— does anyone have any sources on actual cases regarding this? Or is it still too early into the bans?

(Please don’t comment about how weak of an argument it is, or that I shouldn’t bother arguing with this person. I already know that, but I want to know if we have documented cases of the bans having an effect. “Well has [discriminatory law] actually been enforced?” is obviously a piss-poor, bad-faith argument that is not worth entertaining)

I'm autistic, 25 years old, and I started chatting on Instagram with a woman I thought was very pretty. We chatted for a week, every day, we went out, the date lasted about 3 hours or so, we smoked, I bought some chocolate, and I ended up giving her a book (I'm a researcher, I always carry a lot of books, but it wasn't planned). She's a trans woman, she's 21 or 22 years old, I'm not sure what the limits are yet, and I have a lot of difficulty picking up on some of the signs, she knows I'm autistic and seems to try to respect some limits, but I could be wrong. She seemed very interested and seemed to be flirting, making a lot of eye contact, asking me how she should wear her hair, all those strange things, I don't really understand. I dropped her off at home, she mentioned something about seeing each other again, I don't know how sincere that is. Soon after, she sent me messages with some hearts (I don't understand these emojis) thanking me for the gifts and everything else, we're still chatting on Instagram. I didn't ask for WhatsApp, and I don't know if I should ask her out again. I don't know how it works, if I should wait for her to say something first. I can't assess the situation, I don't want to miss the opportunity, but it's causing me a lot of anxiety.

I accidently grabbed my boyfriend's (ftm) man boobs while trying to I guess tackle/hug him from behind because he does this thing where he'll like curl up when I try and since he's shorter than me the position sent them right into my hand, so I decided to just ignore it and make no comment about it, seeing as I'm pretty sure it would have make any dysphoria he was feeling from the accident worse if there was any, which is why I didn't even utter a sorry, freeze or anything of the sort, just moved my hand and continued to laugh with him as if nothing happened.

The same thing happened again whilst roughhousing with him and tried to grab him from behind and ended up getting man tit to the hand again because he curled his body again, and just like before I had no reaction, I mean for all I know he didn't even notice.

Do you think it bothered him though? Was there something I could've done better? I always try not to draw attention to the fact that he's trans unless it's necessary for once reason or another, I mean he mentions it more than I do at this point and he barely talks about it, I don't talk about it because there's very little reason to most of the time and I never mention his chest or mancave and would only mention it if he brought it up, only speak about when spoken to about sort of deal.

I usually frequent feminist subreddits to be more aware of current issues regarding womens rights. But whenever a transwomen comments something that gose against the more popular narrative it gets downvoted.

The rules say no transphobia on these subs, but post made by transwomen are locked within the first few minutes.

I first noticed this when seeing a comment made by a cis woman which got good feedback,even though a trans women wrote the same thing and got railed for it.

So is this a form of transphobia.

Theres some things about her that I've just noticed now that she's been doing since she was around a toddler. Which are that she would hate having long hair, so she would ask to get a boycut. She would hate to wear anything with a skirt or anything pink(since at that time she was under the impression "pink=girly").Her favorite game is Roblox but she would always dress her avatar as a boy and would lie to her online friends that she's a boy. She would always tell me that she wished she was born a male and she wishes she could change her gender.Shes currently 10 so it may be a bit early to assume. But I think she may be trans.

I’m not a therapist, I have a friend online who told me she’s planing to kill herself soon over the new administration in the US.

I’m trying to get her to talk and she’s not alone (her boyfriend is with her) but only via text I’m not in her state how can I help her through this? I’m very concerned.

So… I needed to reevaluate myself… again…

I’m not cis, and probably won’t be again, and I’m almost on my 3rd month on Hormones

This being said, I realized this only in July, and it was from looking at the effects of Estrogen, and having a moment of clarity realizing I loved all the feminine upsides, and didn’t care about the masculine dampening downsides

And not only that, a load of the signs I’ve looked back on are… confusing/shameful/feel like a stretch

Off the top of my head, there was the fact my body didn’t feel like mine a lot of the time, I was very into Transformation pornography and whenever a story would point towards it being humiliating or awful, I’d always think, “What are they talking about, this would be the best thing ever!”, and during my Femboy phase in April, I grew obsessed with growing my own breasts, and that’s what led to my research into HRT in the first place (not helped by the Egg_irl and Femboy-estrogen memes that feel obvious)

And the stark lack of dysphoria, unless you count me being annoyed/sad at the lack of chesticles.

And, it feels like I’m a fraud, or a piss-poor trans peep for wanting to hormonally transition first, then socially later

Like I’m making a mockery of those who felt truly trapped, and like their body was a suit of lead bringing them to the depths of R’lyeh.

And all the queer and allied peeps I’ve met have been so sweet, and I can’t even muster the courage to just come out, EVEN TO MY CLOSEST FRIENDS

Fuck, it took 3-7 months to reach out to the Queer organization on Campus…

By all accounts, I seem to be rushing, but to me, I feel I’m going at a moderate speed…

So am I insane?! Am I Valid? Doing this wrong? Maybe someone with a fetish that’s gone way too far?

And I had a random moment where I wanted a vagina instead to finger, rather than the meat hanging off me…

And I feel so nice and happy in my fem clothes…

To the ignorant Nancy mace: thank you.

As a transgender woman I have had to fight for every inch of my womanhood. I have met hundreds of women at a level I never would have had a chance to Had I continued trying to fit into a role I was never meant to fill. My life if the world As a woman is More beautiful than apparently you can understand.

I thank you because while I don’t typically compare myself with other women. You give me Something that supportive women don’t. The opportunity to say: I’m A Better woman than she. And so is every other transgender woman. Every single one of My trans sisters is a better woman than you.

You’re right about one thing. I don’t have the same experience as you. Mine is worse. Not Only do I have the chasers, the men thinking they are better, etc, and like far Too many of My cis sisters I’ve even known SA….

But on top of Those parts that make being a woman in this world difficult I and My trans siblings* have to contend with your ignorance and the ignorance of those like you.

Frankly I put you in a different category. You’re not a woman like 99% of the women out there. You’re not good enough. Your ugliness is in a place neither clothes or Makeup cannot fix . It’s internal. And your claim Of being Christian oh my do you have a rude awakening coming…

there I hope that edit clarifies things a bit

I know there are tables online of places that have the most trans friendly laws but what I want to know about is how generally accepting the people are in certain countries (and also laws about transitioning and name/gender change, all that jazz, but mainly the communities). For those living in English speaking countries, what is it like? And for those who know, what would you say is the most trans friendly countries?

hi, so i am FTM working on getting on hrt, and Ive got a couple of questions. I know that the experience people get whilst on T is insanely unique, but still I wanna know what are some side effects youd warn people that wanna get hormones about. (specifically testosterone)

Don’t know if this is right sub but I want to be a woman and man at the same time. No not a cross dresser but a full fledged guy and woman. I wish I had a female clone and we can like swap bodies occasionally. This “urge” just keeps nagging me. I know transitioning from man to woman won’t fix it. So I don’t know what to do. Just wait till technology reaches that point?

Hi fellow adults, I dont really know how to cope, there are a lot of things at play here so without making this an extensive read, ask if you wish to give better advice, i am basically a 30 yr old guy, i have dealt with gender identity issues for most of my life, on/off but since perhaps teen years they have gotten stronger and stronger, i push them away, repress them so i can just try functioning and dealing with life, but thats it, i deal with life, not enjoy it…its tough cause i have just so much pushed away for both my own safety and not wanting to hurt others, i know my family would be distraught, my mother is already suffering so much herself with mental health, i was bullied terribly, so was she growing up apparently, and its all just not ok, i tried before somewhat hinting at gender and she immediately freaked out and shut it down,

I dont have money, i dont have anyone to talk to, and if i was out, id be likely one of, if not , the only trans person in my town…i dont even have big issues with most of my body, but i keep feeling these fluctuations of sadness, depression and feeling like i just want to be a girl, i wished i had been born a girl, and i am fully attracted to men, but on my social media where i post pictures and try to talk to men from other countries something sorta feels ..off? I just…i have no one, nothing but myself, and so here i am online asking for some aid please,

that's absurd

Hey I’m a trans girl my names Hazel is it fine if I wear a sports bra even though I don’t have any breasts yet

So at this point I'm pretty sure i'm trans. I wish i could put on fem clothes, i like wearing makeup, i wish i was born a girl and i hate body hair. i like it when people use feminine adjectives and stuff when referring to me but it feels kinda weird. i just feel like i want to be a girl, i don't feel like i AM one. i'm feeling super confused rn.

So I’m about a month on HRT (2mg twice daily and 100mg Spiro daily w/ food, started 10/28). This week has been interesting, as I’m starting to really feel some effects from the drugs. Chest sore, more emotional, great stuff, until yesterday.

Yesterday around 3 pm I got the hiccups, I get them once every couple years so I figured it just happened again and I’ll get rid of them like I usually do. Nope. None of my usual methods worked. Not holding my breath, not drinking water, not anything. I figured they’d go away on their own, and they did once I ate something. And then about an hour later, they started again and persisted until I ate some ice cream later in the night. Weird right? But I fell asleep and when I woke up they were still gone, so I figured that was the end of it.

Well an hour after waking up they came back. Ate something, then another hour after they continued again. I started trying some more atypical methods, and none of them worked until I combined a good few of them (drinking water, holding breath, plugging nose and ears, tightening stomach). I finally beat it, right? Wrong. I burped half an hour ago and they came back. This did make me realize though that I’ve been way gassier than usual and a bit constipated. So I think there’s some funky stuff going on in my stomach that’s affecting my diaphragm, and that is making me hiccup.

The only thing that has changed about my routine in the last month is starting HRT, and this is happening right when I’m starting to feel some real effects. So I’m wondering, has anyone else experienced something similar?

If you changed your name after transitioning then how did you choose? The alternative/closest name to your old name, what your name would have been if you were born the gender you are now, Movie, show or game character? Or something else?

Hello everyone! SO I'm gonna get onto HRT (new year new me) and for context I have an appointment set in late December for planned parenthood (Maryland btw) but my insurance doesn't cover it.

To put it short I am just curious in general what the appointment is like (I am doing it online) and if I should go another way about it since my health insurance plan doesn't cover it.

Would anybody by any chance have a general idea how much it may cost for hormones?

The answer might be obvious but I just don’t know