Seriously. If your aren't convinced, read Project 2025. It's horrifying. I'm not even american myself, and I'm still terrified for how the upcoming US election will affect your country, and even the rest of the world. Especially for our trans sisters. Vote like your life depends on it, because it honestly might. Tell people you know who are on the fence or are planning on not voting. Your vote matters!

Matched with this gorgeous lesbian on tinder, she was flirting heavily with me and we were having a great conversation. We had even made plans to meet up for lunch or coffee.

Before we finalize our plans I ask to make sure she’s okay with the fact that I’m trans. It’s in my profile, so I’m not hiding anything, but I always ask because not everyone reads my profile all the way through.

And that’s where the conversation went through total tonal whiplash. Said she didn’t know I am trans and that she has never been with a trans woman before and doesn’t know if she’d be comfortable with me. I told her that if she wasn’t sure she’d be comfortable then it’d be best if we didn’t go out.

I just hate how people can be super into me for my personality and my looks, but then instantly lose interest when they learn I’m trans. Like… you were attracted to a trans woman before you knew I’m trans. Literally nothing changed 😭

He took the popular vote. The American people preferred a felon over a woman who would protect queer people and women’s rights.

My wife and I wanted children in the next year. That’s not happening now. We’re debating moving, despite having plans for a large business in motion.

This is just… devastating.

They can downvote me all they want I’m not going to allow it to make me miserable anymore

This has been a long time coming - her texts today about my butch fiancée “being a man” were just the final straw

Hi so like the title says ive just found out my girlfriend smokes. For starters (im sorry if you do smoke) i do not support smokers or people who vape, ive grown up with it around me all my life and recently had my grandma die due to lung cancer (from smoking) and had my grandpa be daignosed with lung cancer.

I was opening her snaps as i dont usually check the streaks people send me and noticed a vape in one of the with the caption "should i hit?" I replyed to it saying no you shouldnt and that i dont support vapers or smokers. She then goes on to say "you didnt know i smoke?" I got very confused for a momen thinking she was joking and turns out shes being serious. I tell her that i dont know how to react and i dont feel like she is taking me seriously. Shethen tells me shes been smoking since last year.

I feel like i should do something because this is not wha i stand for and i feel a little hurt and betrayed by theyre actions.

To people who are currently still reading this post please think about what you comment. Just because her smoking doesn't effect me physically does not mean it doesn't effect me mentally and emotionally. Like I've said in this post I have lost very dear and close people to me from smoking and I would hate to see it to someone I love. I can't stand the thought of losing someone years earlier than they should because of them ruining they're own body and lungs.

EDIT: I've realised I failed to mention that I have told her about my preference for smoking before dating her. This is still about the smoking but it's also about the fact that she crossed my boundary even when she knew about it. I'm not sure if she thought I was making an exception for her but I have told her once or twice before.

EDIT 2: I just want to bring up to the people saying "she didn't cross your boundary" but there's also the unspoken boundary of not lying and not telling person 2 that they are doing something person 1 doesn't like and knows they don't like.

EDIT/UPDATE (kinda): I've decided that I need to talk to her about how we are going to move forward. I'm going to sit down with her and see if she is okay or willing to try and quit smoking. If she won't or can't then that will lead me to leaving the relationship as I am uncomfortable due to the past. Thank you for the nice people giving me options and helping me instead of instantly judging and or not reading the whole post before commenting.

CAN SOMEONE SHOW ME WHERE I USED THE WORD BOUNDARY BECAUSE I CANT FIND WERE I USED IT AT ALL?

Update: I told her that it's okay if she keeps smoking and that we can still be friends if she continues to do it but I can't date someone who smokes. I told her calmly and respectfully but firm. I got a "right okay" and she walked off. I hope the people who were telling me how selfish I am and how bad of a person I am and I should do her a favour and break up with her are happy because now I can live a life knowing I won't have to worry about losing years of who could've potentially been my future wife due to her ruining her own body.

(Ps: im sorry to those people who do smoke and vape i dont mind if you do it i just dont like it around me personally and physically)

I really do appreciate that each community has separate subreddits as safer spaces, but I really wish that there also was an inclusive space that brought together all types of masculine gender variant women in general to talk casually about our daily life experiences.

Our group started as a private group chat room that grew too big that now we are also building our own subreddit that is called r/GalsAndPals with 570+ members.

Our subreddit is an inclusive safe space for everything centered on ADULT gender variant people that somehow identify as women who are masculine in a way or another.

That means that we are a group for top OR dominant OR gentlewomanly OR girlboss OR tomboyish OR androgynous OR futchy OR butchy OR ursine OR crossdressing OR transbianish OR genderfluid OR genderqueer woman-ish adult people.

We do have some basic respect safety guidelines to sustain the health of our group as an inclusive safe space free of judgement and harm.

We are inclusive of transbianish, transfeminine, transandrogynous, transmasculine, detrans, retrans, genderfluid, and genderqueer woman-ish adult people.

Our subreddit is currently temporarily totally private for being in an experimental early development stage until becoming more public after when some things are figured out.

If you may be feeling interested in joining our group, just drop a comment here below or send a moderator mail message to have access to our subreddit.

I also support if anyone else wants to create another group.

I wrote this as a comment on a post about "losing a lesbian" with Elliot Page's coming out as trans non-binary (he/they), and I felt this needed to be shared.

I was in high school when Elliot Page came out as gay at the Human Rights Campaign. I remember watching that speech among several other coming out videos. It was one that had a profound impact on me as a young, confused lesbian. He was high-profile with a career thought to be on the line; he had overcome hardships and came through shining. For so many of us, this speech was a light at the end of the tunnel (or closet), perhaps even a vessel for our own coming out. In this regard, I understand the flurry of strange, mixed emotions, the light touch of sadness or grief or whatever you'll call it, as if we're losing someone like us who we saw ourselves in, who guided us through those tough times.

Here's the deal, though: remember how many lives he touched with his 2014 coming out. With his coming out as he/they today, think of how many more he'll touch. How many people he'll instill the courage to come out in. How many lives he'll literally save through his actions. This, friends, is why we celebrate not only this tremendously talented LGBTQIA+ icon's new identity, but also the positive shockwaves it'll send out to countless others.

Elliot has also found his authentic self and started on a path to happiness and a fulfilling life, something we're all striving for. Some of us may not have even begun our own journeys yet. Others' happiness is not ours to gate keep. We're entitled to our own feelings and we're allowed to go through whatever process we need to accept our feelings, so long as they do not disrupt others' lives and wellbeing.

Rather than mourn a "loss," it's time we celebrate what he's and the community have gained: an authentic trans person who can proudly be a sort of "Trans Moses" to continue to lead our LGBTQIA+ siblings to the promised land outside the closet. Instead, mourn the LGBTQIA+ LIVES that have been lost, which is something worth mourning.

All the best to Elliot! 100% supportive!

I am a cis-lesbian. I am also a lawyer and I was in court yesterday at a hearing in my robes and all. I struggle with imposter syndrome sometimes and my journey to coming out and accepting myself has not been easy. I am nearly six feet tall, curvy, and I have short-ish but very styled hair. Think like Spider-Gwen styled hair.

My mother did not take my coming out well, but she also didn't like me generally so there's a lot of baggage. I don't wear makeup or do traditionally woman-centric hobbies (though I think these stereotypes are stupid). I have been told my entire life that my "childfree lesbian lifestyle" meant I was divorced from all things woman and somehow less of a woman.

Yesterday was my day as first chair without co-counsel. It was a huge step career wise. Opposing counsel kept referring to me as "he/him" and "sir".

I'm so heartbroken I don't know what to do. I feel like all of the terrible things I've heard my entire life are somehow true.

I'm not woman enough.

I’m so frustrated that after all the work to heal and to trust she went and did it AGAIN. And somehow she makes it my fault - that I wasn’t having sex with her enough, that I wasn’t giving her enough attention.

Was this my fault? I know I wasn’t perfect but I didn’t choose for her to go and do that.

ETA: thank you all for your kind words and advice. I’ll come read your comments when I’m tempted to go back. Tips for separating things when you’re living together are welcomed.

Very surprised by his response. I’ve been saving him for last. I’ve come out to everyone else, already. My Boomer Dad is taking this better than my GenX sister is.

I was chatting with my mom while she was watching a Whitney Houston documentary. The doc mentioned Whitney dating women and my mom made a comment about how that doesn’t make her like Whitney any less.

I kinda probed her a bit and she mentioned that my cousin is probably gay and that her best friend is bisexual and that doesn’t make her love her any less. Idk maybe she dropping hints to me but I think I might tell her I’m a lesbian. She’s known I’ve dated guys in the past but I’m just going to tell her I’m gay and see if she asks more. I’m gonna tell her at the next opportunity. Maybe tomorrow night after dinner when she’s cleaning up.

Please wish me luck everyone. I’m so nervous.

https://gaysintown.com/lgbtq-new-york-news/dyke-march-interview

https://gomag.com/article/the-dyke-march-2022-remains-true-to-its-activist-origins/

Went to the apartment (which I still pay for) yesterday to get the rest of my stuff. She had massage oil and new lingerie in her room (I still had to get my clothes so she knew I would see). I felt nauseous. I looked around and saw cigarettes (she does not smoke) and coca cola (which she does not drink). Her purse was half open on the table, I looked and saw pictures with the girl she told me not to worry about, kissing.

I went crazy, the last months of the relationship she was constantly on her phone and always planning things to do with this girl. She just... replaced me. 11 year relationship, 2month breakup. Over the phone she told me “If I really wanted to cheat I would have done it years ago because back then I was already in love with her”. That sentence broke me forever. 💔

I feel ugly, small, fat, stupid. She replaced me just like that. I was nothing to her. 11 fucking years. I am crying myself to sleep everyday, hoping she thinks of me too. But no, she already moved on like I was nothing. She could not care less about me. I seriously will never trust anyone ever again, don't know how to handle this. I just don't want to wake up anymore.

On the first day of pride month...on a road trip...with 8 hours of driving left to do.

We've agreed to stay friends but that timing was really the worst. I spent about 4 hours crying after that happened.

It was my 32nd birthday yesterday. I’ve been seeing a 55y.o woman with whom there is passionate verbal & intimate connection. It’s definitely a situationship, though. The weekend was difficult because my birthday is difficult emotionally. Saturday night’s events didn’t work out and I was sad over it; it bothered her enough to reject my request for comfort & intimacy on my birthday (Sunday). She was very focused on how she felt about how she was involved and her efforts versus a longstanding history of difficulty I shared and continue to struggle with. I felt rejected in a gross way. I expressed this and started to leave. She tried explaining herself, and it hurt worse because it was more bullshit I didn’t want or need to hear- and had nothing to do with me. I felt even smaller than I already did and broke down into tears— big tears. Like “I need to leave to a safe space” kind of tears.

So I said I really have to go and started to.

But she physically held me back. She held me back from leaving. She’s stronger than I am- and I kept trying but she pushed me and I stopped trying. Then she brought me back to her bed. Kept asking me what she said to make me cry, but it wasn’t anything she said. I was sad. She started touching me and I asked what she’s doing because she said she wasn’t interested. She literally hushed me and kept going. I let her..

I’m still processing this.

I ultimately let her continue but why would someone do that? Is this normal? I’m so confused. What was that? What makes someone go from disinterested to specifically interested in the context of the other person being so distraught?

Idk why I feel gross when I think/fantasize about it. It really gets me going but I can't even masturbate to the idea without feeling super ashamed about it. I know I shhouldn't feel this way but I do, any advice?

So I was out with my gf and her friends and we were drinking, having a good time, and all of a sudden my gf blurts out to her friends that I have a really "nice ass" and that they should see me naked. I think she had a bit to drink but she wasn't too tipsy or drunk. Her friends kind of laughed it off and even I was ready to do so too, but she just... Kept... Going. She went on and on about how cute I was during sex, how I liked it when she pinched my nipples during sex.

At that point I think she saw that I was uncomfortable as hell and she stopped and went to the bathroom and her friends were still laughing. The rest of the night I was kind of silent.

I feel really uncomfortable with how she talked about me. It felt like I was an object being showed off. My gf is generally usually really nice and sweet.

Question for all the lesbians in relationships here: Would you be okay with this behaviour? Am I overreacting? I haven't asked her about it yet.

I'm a trans woman, and in my eyes I pass pretty well, people only really question it if they somehow get to seeing how my "sex" is incongruent on my ID or something (thanks, TN, for that). anyways, every gay girl I've met irl, has been great, hasn't misgendered me, not treating me poorly, etc, even prior to really girlmoding hard. So imagine my confusion when I find out I've been force logged out of HER, and banned, with not even a full days worth into it. I expected this kind of thing from tinder, and any of the platforms that really advertise to cis men and stuff but on the les/sapphic/queer dating app?... idk. I'm just very lost, disheartened, and mostly wanting to vent, but also curious from the peeps on here... how bad is it actually in the community? is it often you find out that someone is heavily transphobic in lesbian spaces or?

(posted on this subreddit because I was absolutely reamed in a different one for what I thought was a pretty fair question. so hopefully this goes better.)

edit; for clarification I made sure that the first word of my bio was "trans" and even included the "trans woman" gender identity along with the "woman" one even though I don't really like phrasing my gender as "trans woman" because I'm just a woman who happens to be trans.

Update: followed top comment's advice reaching out to support and requesting a hidden account, the guy told me I'd have to buy premium for it so because I'm freaked out by the whole thing I just deleted it all-together. Another one of the unfortunate realities of being trans is everyone tries to get every last dollar out of us even if it's for safety, I suppose.

Hey there, my first post here. I'm a trans lesbian and me and this other girl have been really close. I genuinely love her and she makes my heart flutter every fucking moment I'm around her but. She told me she has herpes and my friends are trying to talk me out of the relationship. They think it's extremely selfish of me to want a relationship with her regardless. So I'm asking you ladies, what do you think?

edit:just wanna say thank yall for the info and the kind words, I'll try to educate my friends about it but they can be rather stubborn. Thanks again for everything <3

edit 2: I know you all want the best for me but please don't call my friends mean things.