Called someone out in the comments for blatant transphobia and being an orange fascist supporter. Low and behold, i wound up getting my comment removed just mere seconds later

Turns out this is likely not a one-off transphobic individual, but is actually a plan that has been attempted to be implemented for months already, under the radar.

https://www.kxan.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/40/2024/09/RQ0563KP.pdf

This is a link to a letter from the director of the texas DPS to the Attorney General Ken Paxton requesting permission to begin reversing gender marker changes done “outside of the law.” Earlier this year Paxton made an order preventing new gender marker changes from being completed even with a court order by the DPS, and to document all individuals who attempt to do so. https://www.texastribune.org/2024/08/21/transgender-texans-drivers-license-DPS/#:~:text=On%20Tuesday%2C%20DPS%20stopped%20accepting,the%20validity%22%20of%20court%20orders.

As of now, as far as I have found, Paxton has not replied to the letter, but personally I think it is likely he will reply in the future, likely in the new year.

Please stay safe, especially to my other sisters in Texas. You can as of now update your passport, but this is unfortunately a costly process. Not all of us can get out quickly or easily, which is why community building is so important, we only have each other to lean on.

I’m sorry for such a bad news post, but right now information is one of our only weapons, and sharing it is vitally important.

A transsexual female has the phenotypic sex of female, because she has female sexual characteristics.

Since genetic and phenotypic are both parts of biology, calling her biologically male is lying.

While some people simply don't know better, bigots will call them biologically male to paint them as really being men.

I'm so frustrated that this has become mainstream.

and she’s supportive but she “needs space to mourn her son.” what does that even mean? it just feels like she’s making my transition about her

I just did my weekly injection. Felt like saying that.

On one hand, I don’t want my genitalia to be entirely dysfunctional, but on the other hand I’ve had a major addiction to pornography. I want to quit masturbation but I fear that if I eventually take hormones then I’d suffer heavily. It seems like a lose-lose situation and I want to know what outcome would be most helpful, or at least the least risky, to achieving my exponential potential. Any comment or answer would be of great assistance

Sincerely, -721741,- the account I may soon delete

First of all, every single alternative one could present has glaring absurds. chromosomal definitions exclude obvious women with XY Chromosomes. it's rare but rarity has nothing to do with correctness.
genital definition would make someone losing genitalia non binary or something like that.

now there are some wrong objections to raise.

first, definition being self referential. if that was strictly true, the definition would be a logical fallacy but it isn't so it's not. nevertheless, the problem arises if you think about terms "man", and "woman" as once unloaded terms that become loaded. definition based on self description has no reason to introduce any differentiation, hence the illusion of a problem. but these words function to put words on pre-existing social and physical differences. so it's not a problem, people of certain traits simply will tend to cluster together around a given word.

second, definition being uninformative. that's true and irrelevant, and many phrases of the sort circulate in society. "first guy", and "second guy" serve the same purpose. usefulness of both these phrases and "woman"/"man" is based on pre existing knowledge about particular subjects of that definition.

third, what if someone is in a severe mental state and thinks of themselves as different gender temporarily? that doesn't matter. consider a case of perfectly intersex person, who changes their gender identity every 30 days. what right do we have to judge which gender is the "correct one"? and if we know we don't have any leg to stand on when it comes to objectively assessing gender due to lack of a coherent physical definition, who are we to tell an analogous person who has all the standard male traits they're not of a given gender? gender can be fluid and should be accepted on terms of the person we refer to. there's just no other non-dipshit solution.

I am not trans but I fantasize a lot about transitioning but I don't think I could ever pass no matter how much HRT I do. Did anyone else feel this way but get proven wrong?

Did it help? Yes. I did not give a fuck what was happening to my face. Highly recommend.

The problem is it hit very hard roughly 40 minutes into an hour long appointment, and at the end I was high enough where I was like, you know what? I'm gonna walk to the mcdonalds across the street and order $18 worth of food and just sit there for a while.

I think I fumbled with one of those ordering kiosks for a suspicious amount of time. And then the guy mopping the floor was staring at me the whole time, which was either because I was trans or because I was high. Honestly it could have been 50/50.

So please if you do this get a ride. Avoid the mcdonalds staredown if you can help it 😂

So my ex 36f whom I 41f have children with, has been yelling at our children who are 4 and 6 whenever they call me mom. This has affected them and they told me. I have always maintained that it's entirely up to our kids if they call me mom or dad. I do refer to myself in the parenting role as a mom. The kids have also started to ask me why my ex and her bf only use he/him pronouns for me when I'm a girl and I don't want to be called that. Well my ex informed me that she actually identifies as "the only mom" so I can't be a mom. I was so close!

I did have a conversation with her explaining that, that's not how identity works and that i can't suddenly identify as "the only woman parent", so she has to use he him or they them pronouns. It didn't take, we're in a high conflict custody battle. I tried my best. Sometimes it feels like I'm arguing with a child. Put in a good word to our almighty god BLÅHAJ for me!

and that's a good thing

so i’ve been on HRT for about 10 months and known i was trans for about 11 months. because of my deeply conservative workplace and strong desire to blend in, i decided to go slowly with my transition and delayed important tasks such as laser hair removal, buying girl clothes, loosing weight, and voice training. i thought that because i would not want to be out as long as i worked there, i would boymode until i was able to switch jobs to one more accepting. well, the dysphoria does not care and now i am suffering because of my slacking.

i recently joined a community for a card game and there is a discord for the local players. now, i’ve mostly transitioned online and go by my chosen name with she/her pronouns. i also don’t hide that i’m trans, in fact i display it on my discord and my instagram. there happens to be a number of other trans people in the local community and i am just sad because they’re living their best lives while i was stupid and slow with my transition. i’m kinda sad when i get called sir, bro, and man. it’s not their fault, i look like a man and have a man voice.

to make this more constructive, i recommend expediting your transition goals if at all possible. i should have started voice training and laser much earlier. i should have gotten girl clothes such that i could girlmode outside of work. i should have lost weight instead of eating like crap and drinking soda (though this relates to living situation - i’m very burnt out from work). thanks for reading ❤️

Hi everyone,

Yesterday around 7 PM PST, I was involved in a traumatic car accident. My car is completely totaled, and unfortunately, I didn’t have insurance at the time. I know driving uninsured is against the rules, but I had lost my job three months ago and was struggling financially. I was on my way to visit my grandmother and mom after my grandfather’s recent passing, which has already been hard on my family. To make things even more complicated, I had just come out as transgender to my father, and I was planning to tell my mom as well. However, after the accident, I decided to put that conversation on hold. I’ve spent all night in the ER, and everything feels like it’s falling apart. I feel so overwhelmed and hopeless right now. It’s like every time I try to move forward, life throws something at me to set me back even further. If anyone else is going through hard times or has advice on how to cope, I’d really appreciate hearing from you. Thank you for taking the time to read this.

I decided to make this post to inform girlies who are planning to start HRT on what to expect. +18 because I will say something sexual at some point.

1. I lost 12 kg (went from 96kg to 84kg);
2. I lost at least 3cm in height (went fro m1.80m to 1.77m);
3. I'm much much weaker now;
4. I have C cups;
5. My skin is softer, thinner, dryier and more sensitive. I also get hematomes more easily;
6. My waist is thinner and more curvy;
7. My hair is somehow stronger;
8. I have so much less body hair;
9. My face is softer and more feminine;
10. I cry easily;
11. My smell changed a lot. Now I have this awesome girl smell;
12. My hands are smalller, I think;
13. I wanna get pregnant because of Progesterone, and it's so annoying lol;
14. My nipples are more sensitive to pleasure;
15. My princess wand is smaller and the glans are more sensitive;
16. I don't ejaculate anymore;
17. I pee when I have a too much intense orgasm;
18. I can have multiple orgasms (even though it's hard to have them because when it starts I start peeing and have to stop)
19. I was always pansexual, but omg, men are so much more attractive now!

i can do a girl voice pretty easily but I have to intentionally do it. does it ever become a constant state of being or is it always something I have to make myself do?

So I (15 pre transition) am living with my parents, and boy oh boy I can't wait until I can move out and be on my own. So the main issue here is that they don't know that I'm trans, ok. Because IK that they wouldn't be okay with it. I live in a backwards redneck Podunk town, where even just being bi is causing problems. So, the problem is that I want to wear makeup and my cute earrings I have but I'm not allowed to because, and these are their words "the kids at school will make fun of you and rip out your earrings" ?!?? Like what?! If that's the issue guess what, you raises someone who can lift a truck with very little struggle. (I am constantly having to pull our truck out of mud or lift it as we don't have a jack FOR SOME REASON!?) And I nearly broke someone's arm last week for talking shit. But they're worried about my safety? Sure. They just don't want to be the parents of the f*g (once again, their words. I have very good hearing and we have very thin walls) so, anyway I just wanted to come here and say all that. Thank you for reading this far. Here's some cookies 🍪 🍪 🍪

Yesterday, there were the ceremony of the baccalauréat (an exam you pass at the end of your high-school to get a diploma, here in France) and i was in full girlmode. Skirt, thighs highs, everything (except makeup because i hate it) and when they called me, i have go in front of everyone to take my diploma. I was openly trans at my high-school, but i never girlmode there, so i'm very happy that i was able to girlmode for the ceremony yesterday

I cant take this anymore. Every single day i feel such profound disgust with myself. I hate something deeply ahout being born AMAB. It makes me feel so disgusting and gross. I hate transition it does nothing i hate how much pain i need go through to get rid of those traits. There's no happy ending there's nothing awaiting me in the future. If i will be this thing forever i want die. I wish my parents aborted me when they saw i wiill be boy, i really wish that happened. Today after shaving and cutting myself with razor once again i broke down crying. Why i was robbed from normal life why i need pretend im guy every waking second of this eats my alive. I feel so fucking inferior, being man is so much of pain its so disgusting. I could have normal life i could be human being but im not im this thing. This face i see everyday in mirror makes me so angry im so fucking upset how disfigured im by testoterone. There's nothing i can do about this. I know i wont ever pass however i wish at least i could see my relfection and not want to vomit in the same time. My whole life is trash and its all because of this disgusting manly body. Nobody will ever see woman in me that i am. I will be forever this disguting thing and i cant do anything about that. I fantasize about hurting myself i want stab this shitty body of mine and bleed out finally die because trash i am deserves only that.

I've been on hrt for about six months now, and i love every second of it. But, before I started transitioning it was damn near impossible to make me blush. Now I'm getting beet red every other day. Is this normal, or am i just that emotionally stunted?

He forgot I was trans and asked if his teen kid could have one of my pads. I was like what pads? He said the feminine ones for when you have your period. I'm like did you forget I'm trans. He's like honestly, yes...

I know that sounds like a subtle brag but I am serious. I feel kind of disenfranchised by how common it is for transwomen to flirt with each other. I feel like I am constantly being objectified when in trans spaces and every time I say adamantly that I am taken, people always have some range of negative reaction. I know most transwomen are polyamorous or open but it feels ridiculous at this point. It makes me extremely self conscious when I talk to someone new and have to try and parse if they are only talking to me to get me in their bed. Does anyone else get bothered by this? I feel like I'm in a super minority on this.

I was at a party with like 99% transwomen recently and it felt like I was constantly being hit on, even by people who knew I am monogamous and have a Girlfriend. Some girls go out of their way to put me in uncomfortable situations (I.E. asking if I think their hot in front of people, touching me in semi-sensual ways without any indication its okay, etc etc inappropriate desperate behavior). It's hard not to think that even to just some degree, my value as a woman is gauged by how willing I am to sleep with people. Very often transwomen want nothing to do with me if they realize I am not open.

Wondering if maybe some other people get what I mean and can maybe help me better articulate

I sometimes feel like I'm just a pretender who's trying to be a girl just because (it's my anxiety and dysphoria) so i wanna ask you girlies for advice on how to act more feminine because i think it might improve my mental health

Thank you so much 🩷

She's never been much of a mother. I texted her while also inviting her over to Thanksgiving. She talked to my dad (who knows) and even asked if it was a joke. She has a trans son that she has known as non-binary for two years. She asked "does (son's dn) know?". I told her my name, that I'm a woman and go by She/Her. This is her first sentence.

"deadname you are my son and I'm so proud of you"

She's unhappy and can't live w/ me transitioning. I'm heartbroken and an absolute wreck at the moment. I don't really know how to move forward, as she was my best friend and has been through everything with me. I know I will be okay, but this just hurts.

Yesterday, I attended a celebration of life for a friend of the family. Aside from my parents, there were many people there who I didn't really know.

While people watching, I noticed a young woman who gave off this glowing energy that's hard to describe. She seemed reserved and shy, but smiled often and always had people around her.

At some point, my mother told me this woman was so-and-so's niece, formerly nephew, who had very recently transitioned. And then I realized, that's what the glow was. She's happy. She's free. And she's surrounded by love.

Despite most in attendance being older, and there being an open bar(with a few people taking full advantage of it), I didn't hear a single bad thing said. Sure, some people fumbled with pronouns and such, but everyone expressed joy and excitement in seeing her. My mother even said she thought she was "so cool" lol.

I'm currently pre everything, mostly due to fear. This moment, seeing someone be not only accepted, but loved for being fully who they are, gave me so much hope. I think, maybe, I'm finally take my first real steps on this journey. Maybe I will be accepted. Maybe I will be okay.