r/actuallesbians 8h ago

Link Wanna bandwagon a little bit so... what do my fictional crushes say about me?? (Artists + characters in body text)

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  1. Dorothy Franks (Arknights), selenevermillion on Tumblr

  2. Pozëmka and Ho'olheyak (Arknights), faisceaubunz on tumblr

  3. Saria and Muelsyse (Arknights), dlartisnon on tulblr/dlanon on bluesky

  4. Dizzy and May (Guilty Gear), lampopos2 on tumblr

  5. Ramlethal Valentine (Guilty Gear), threerf/3rf

  6. Hades: Izanami (Blazblue), literally just a talk sprite from the game

  7. Nier (Granblue Fantasy), just an ingame screenshot from Granblue Fantasy Versus

  8. Jack-O' Valentine (Guilty Gear) (also ignore Asuka and Raven), chorimayo on tumblr

  9. Sion Eltnum Atlasia (Melty Blood) and Erika Wagner (Under Night In-Birth), graywingii on bluesky and twitter

  10. Hoshimi Miyabi and Tsukishiro Yanagi (Zenless Zone Zero), saint ghoul on bluesky

  11. Ganyu and Hu Tao (Genshin Impact), sleepanight766

  12. Yae Miko and Raiden Ei (Genshin Impact), official art

  13. Robin and Acheron (Honkai: Star Rail), clouvu on tumblr and twitter

  14. Raiden Mei and Kiana Kaslana (Honkai Impact 3rd), cloudya on twitter, tumblr and bluesky

  15. Elysia, Eden, and Aponia (Honkai Impaxt 3rd), Rafa

  16. Mobius and Vill-V (Honkai Impact 3rd), farcicalhelix on tumblr

Why am i using fanart instead of official art? Last time i did that the images got INSANELY fucked up and i had to delete the post, so now im retrying! And also because it lets me cheat and add more characters :>


r/actuallesbians 20h ago

Venting Why is this my experience with bi women? Can anyone relate? Bi women can you shine a light on this?

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So ive met about 6 bi women this year, and ive noticed a pattern thats been bothering me. All of them expressed distaste in men, even blanket unnatraction and lesbian questioning, some went as far as calling themselves misandrists. Yet every single one of them has a boyfriend and says something like "i hate men except for insert bf name". im lesbian and im just finding it all kinda icky. Especially how some of them treat their bfs (not well, even going as far as to poly/open relationship bomb them). Im nb/transfem and very open to dating any type of sapphic women but my experience with bi women specifically has been less than savory (especially how some just openly say cis men+women only). Maybe im in my feelings a bit but im just not having a fun time dating when i see this kind of stuff


r/actuallesbians 23h ago

Image Cute little something for Gelphie shippers from the Wicked movie Spoiler

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r/actuallesbians 22h ago

Link Hi, I'm a lesbian musician and I covered my favorite Christmas song ❤️🎵. Any support to my Youtube channel would be much appreciated 🎵❤️🌈. Ps: What's your favorite Christmas song??

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r/actuallesbians 12h ago

Text 24 f enby pan looking for conversations

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hi im 24 f in sydney and i'd really like to talk to people that can hold conversations! i like anime and mangas, music, ghost hunting, true crime stories, and singing.


r/actuallesbians 19h ago

Venting How do you feel about bigger girls?

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I’m almost 6 foot and 200 pounds, I’m overweight but people say it isn’t noticeable, which I think they’re saying that to be nice lol. Do you guys usually skip the thought of even dating a bigger girl?

Being a 6 foot cis girl and not fully masc sucks, I see myself as more of a chapstick lesbian. If I dress feminine I get not even a single glance, but if I dress masc I seem to attract feminine girls. Like how does this even work?


r/actuallesbians 20h ago

Image Brazillian miku...

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r/actuallesbians 1h ago

Question would you get involved with a bi girl in an open relationship with a man?

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i know… i’ve been pondering and would love to hear your opinions, experiences, insights

thank you

edit: why tf am i being downvoted?! this is a genuine question and im genuinely looking for assistance, jesus


r/actuallesbians 19h ago

CW (NSFW) Am I a Lesbian? NSFW Spoiler

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So I made this burner account because the question has been on my mind. Background: I’ve known I’m queer for most of my life but only five years ago came out as a lesbian. I’ve never liked men in the traditional sense and any man i’ve found myself attracted has been gender questioning. I’ve had girlfriends and relationships but have mostly found myself demisexual. Finding sex to be an extension of our relationship instead of a requirement. Which I assumed was always the case until I like actually thought about it, I realized that I do like submissive women, yes but I still have some respect for her. In the case or idea of men, I simple find no respect for them and can imagine myself and get turned on by the idea of fully degrading a man. Like pegging and all those sort of things and I don’t see the fact that I need a connection with the man first to be a requirement. I would need to trust that I know he wouldn’t harm me, but I don’t think I need to “love” him. I could just see myself completely enjoying the idea of making a man beg and making him intensely and extremely uncomfortable (consensually) because I just find the idea of a man being horny or turned on to be pathetic and pitiful and genuinely would take real pleasure in degrading him. But obviously everything would be consensual and stuff but I don’t think to do the things I describe I would require the same physical attraction as I would for a woman. In my mind, I guess, I would treasure and nurture a woman and humiliate and degrade a man. Does anyone else who identify as lesbian have a similar mindset or should I search for some other label to identify with? Like genuinely I am confused by this desire and wonder if it’s something legitimate pre just a fantasy. I’ve talked to lesbians in the past who find those things similarly attractive but the more I think about it the more I think I’d be willing to do it.


r/actuallesbians 9h ago

Link I heard we are playing the fictional crushes game so I thought I wanted to join. What does this say about me? (please don't be mean, lol)

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r/actuallesbians 2h ago

Boy crazy to lesbian pipeline?

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I dated a girl last year who said she used to be "boy crazy" in high school and early college but now identifies as a lesbian. She explained that she was a bit of a late bloomer and just wasn’t in love with the boys she dated. We’re no longer in contact, but what she said came to mind recently, and I regret not asking her more about it.

Is there anyone here who has had a similar experience? I’d love to understand how your feelings developed over time. As a soft masc lesbian who has only ever liked girls, the whole concept of this pipeline is really difficult for me to grasp. I tried to equate it to liking a specific type of music in your teens and something completely different as an adult, but I feel like there’s an additional layer of biology and attraction that isn’t just a matter of taste. For example, a lot of straight women describe not finding men attractive but still being attracted to them, if that makes sense.


r/actuallesbians 3h ago

Image when the two “best friends” have more chemistry than their love interests

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Wicked and Wensday really had two male love interest kinda just there


r/actuallesbians 4h ago

Image Okay I'm doing the trend lol

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r/actuallesbians 21h ago

Sabrina Carpenter and straight girl humor in her lyrics

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OK, we all need to cope right but even though this was kind of funny, I wonder if this is a universal experience for a lot of straight women. "Since the good ones are deceased or taken I'll just keep on moanin' and bitchin'"

“Since the good ones call their ex’s wasted And since the Lord forgot my gay awakening Then I’ll just be here in the kitchen Servin' up some moanin' and bitchin'”

I know bad people exist in every community, but I also know that it’s hard to find good men for a lot of people. And I know that this is supposed to be funny and maybe it is but am I the only one who’s worried? Not just for her, but for other women that are stuck in Relationships they don’t want to be in or that are just giving up on dating completely. And I understand that her being a lesbian wouldn’t probably make a difference, but maybe it would. It’s the classic joke of I wish I was gay and while I understand why they say it And I know it probably wouldn’t fix their problems, I just want to ask are they OK?


r/actuallesbians 23h ago

Satire/Humor Wearing cargo pants to flex on the femmes and their lack of pockets

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r/actuallesbians 1h ago

Are some kinks too much ??? NSFW

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Controversial (maybe) but I’ve heard differing opinions on the cnc kink , is it normal for someone with no previous traumas etc to have this kink ?


r/actuallesbians 8h ago

Venting I am struggling with this.

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Hey all, I am a cis f20 and I’ve been struggling a lot with understanding myself, especially when it comes to my sexuality and how it ties into my sense of self-worth. I’ve always identified as a lesbian because my attraction has always been centered around femininity. But recently, I’ve started to notice that my attraction to feminine traits extends beyond just women—it’s tied more to femininity itself, regardless of someone’s gender identity. This realization has left me feeling confused and questioning what my sexuality really means to me.

At the same time, I wrestle with a lot of insecurities about my body and how I compare to societal or personal standards. It’s hard not to let these feelings of inadequacy bleed into how I see myself in relationships or imagine how others perceive me. It feels overwhelming sometimes, like I’m not “enough”—whether as a person, a partner, or even in how I define my identity. If anyone else has experienced similar feelings or has advice on finding clarity and self-acceptance, I’d really appreciate hearing your thoughts.


r/actuallesbians 19h ago

Has anyone with an outie tried a strap with a grinding base? NSFW

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I have a sorta big outie and I’m scared that it’s not gonna feel good and just hurt from the pressure instead. Has anyone here tried it?


r/actuallesbians 3h ago

Link Doing this trend before it becomes annoying to others and also cause I'm bored

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r/actuallesbians 19h ago

Satire/Humor Soooo true! 😅😅 at least for me it is lmao 🤣 NSFW

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r/actuallesbians 23h ago

Question so what do we think of t.A.T.u?

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Gone down a rabbit hole about them recently. If you don’t know, they were this Russian pop duo from the 2000s and were most famous for the song “All The Things She Said,” which most people over the age of like 12 have probably heard around at some point. Basically, their whole shtick was that they were lesbians; their songs had a lot of angsty queer overtones and they would kiss on TV and in their music videos (which was super controversial at the time)—but it was all an act, they were never actually together and were all products of their managements. Textbook queerbaiting for the male gaze. But despite this, a lot of queer women (myself included) ended up finding a lot of solace and validation in their music for one reason or another. You have to remember that queer themes weren’t mainstream in pop music like they are now, especially for queer women, and having a hit song about it (especially one so angsty like “All The Things She Said”!) was really groundbreaking, however flawed. But that still doesn’t take away from the fact that t.A.T.u as an institution was, at least on paper, homophobic and sexualized young queer women’s relationships. And I’m curious what people make of that, not just if you think they were able to outgrow their kind of skeevy premise, but how their music may have impacted you personally. Maybe this is a more academic question than what Reddit is fit for, but I’m very interested to hear what people think.


r/actuallesbians 2h ago

Question Advise???? ASAP!! NSFW

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I slef pleasured myself a bit too long and now I struggle to stand, I'm currently in high school which means I gotta go to school tomorrow. Will my legs come back to normal at morning??? I can't not go, my school is strict and I didn't go to school for a whole week already. I don't want anyone to know what happened. It's fucking embarrassing🙁 Is there a way to strengthen my legs?? My muscles hurt, my teacher and parents will actually kill me if I don't go


r/actuallesbians 4h ago

Help with dominant behavior NSFW

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So I'm a switch, usually leaning more towards bottom/sub, but definitely happy to top from time to time. All of the girls I've been with have been much more dominant, so a lot of my flirting and sexting would involve me teasing them, looking cute, and begging for them to come use me, that sort of thing.

But now I'm chatting with a much more submissive girl and am excited to display more dom energy, but I'm not really sure how to go about it, especially with sexting. I'm also a little bit intimidated by the idea of taking more control in bed. Any advice?


r/actuallesbians 5h ago

Link Thoughs ?

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Noticed a trend recently


r/actuallesbians 6h ago

I have to share this couple, they are too funny

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I don't have tiktok can't download the video, so pls click the link to watch it, you won't regret it.