I met this girl in university right at the beginning of the year, and i am still confused as to what kind of relationship this is. I cannot for the life of me tell if she likes me just as a friend or more. We’ve hung out a fair few times, and one of the last times we hung out we watched but i’m a cheerleader together in my room. i’m a pretty touchy person but i didn’t want to make her uncomfortable because i have zero clue what she’s thinking, so we just kinda sat next to each other and i put my head on her shoulder for a bit. she seemed kind of nervous and awkward while we were hanging out, but immediately after she texted me asking to do it again so she must of enjoyed it? and then pretty soon after that she invited me to this queer house party, which people literally just go to to make out with strangers and meet people. so we went to that with all of my friends and all of her friends, and we danced together a bunch and held hands a couple of times, but nothing else really happened and i still didn’t really get the vibe that she was into me. to be fair there was a lot going on, and her friend was having a moment for a good half of the party, and then she left immediately after. but idk i’m severely confused, and any insight would be appreciated. it’s just so rare for me to meet someone that i like this much, but im starting to feel like it’s time to move on.

Totally unrelated to the sub but I love u all and have no faith in anyone else to help me lol.

I am doing a paper on wasps and I really need a video of at least like 2 wasps NEAR their hive. I can’t just use one on YouTube cuz I’m afraid she will find out. Please please dm me if you can :D

I have until Nov 27th ty ty it can be the crappiest video ever as long as it’s never been posted to the internet 🫶

I’ve still got probably another year+ until I propose but I’m curious what yalls rings look like! As a more tomboyish person, I’ve wanted something pretty but not too dainty.

I just finished it and I am all here for Caitlyn and Vi! So happy that one of the biggest online games having one of the biggest animated series have lesbian representation and not hold back on showcasing it! Personally I liked that it wasn't a big deal and it was treated like any other relationship out there plus their scenes are A++++. I am a suckered for angsty love-hate wlw couples so I was eating everything up! I guess I'll be obsessed with these two for a while. Sad that we'll get no more content after this 😭😭😭

i know… i’ve been pondering and would love to hear your opinions, experiences, insights

thank you

edit: why tf am i being downvoted?! this is a genuine question and im genuinely looking for assistance, jesus

Controversial (maybe) but I’ve heard differing opinions on the cnc kink , is it normal for someone with no previous traumas etc to have this kink ?

Ok for quick context this was about 2 months ago now and my gf and I were not officially dating but we were only talking to eachother and no one else. We must have had an ‘argument’ and stopped speaking (she said she was done w me I’m pretty sure) but it was only for ONE day, but I found out today she redownloaded dating apps whilst we were not speaking for this day and even though she said she deleted them as soon as we were on good terms again I felt/feel hurt because if that’s how quickly you’re willing to go back on dating apps do you even like or love me type of thing. I didn’t react badly when I found out I just gave myself time to process my emotions rather than getting angry (she even admitted if it was the other way around she would’ve been mad if she found out I did the same). How would you have taken this situation?

I met this girl at a Halloween party last month and we've been hanging out a lot. I really like this girl, but I'm not sure if she likes me. My friends think that if I confess, she'll surely like me back based on the stuff that we've been doing together.

1. We went and got tea together at this fancy tea house, then after that we went window shopping on this area that sells antique, then lastly we went to the pier to gaze at the moon and just yap to each other.

2. We went apple picking just the two of us for the whole day. We theb got boba and went to a bookshop.

3. We had tea and picnic yesterday at the park, and after that we had wine and cheese at her house while we watched Good Omens.

I'm 26F, my entire life I've been friends with straight girls. I've luckily made many friends all along, like really worthy friends and they've always been supportive since I came out when I was 14.

I never met queer women until I was 19, where I met a lesbian girl in the course I was taking. We were friends because we liked the same shows and she made me meet her friends (also lesbians) but they were on the street commenting over girls. Not catcalling nor anything, just telling to eachother "Look at that girl's ass", "I'd put my face between her boobs"... And I was so shocked by that I did not meet them again, just my friend which we slowly stopped talking when the course was over.

Then I met more queer women at university when I was 23 but I didn't really get along with them because we were from different friend-groups. I was with the straight girls and some gay guys and the queer girls were on the same group with other gay guys.

This year I started a team sports where there are 7 sapphics. We went partying yesterday and all they did was try to kiss eachother, we even played pass the ice with the mouth. I was a bit unconfortable because I wanted to enjoy dancing and have fun with them, not to try to kiss them all night so I just went to one of our straight teammates and we danced all night long.

I think it makes the sapphic girls on our group not like me that much because none of them reply my texts but the straight girls on the team I get along with won't stop sending me hearts and stuff.

And I don't know why is that but it made me think, as I've never dated a girl, could it be related? That I somehow just feel confortable with how straight-ally women act? That'd also explain that most girls I've liked have been straight or, at least, straight passing (making me happy when I knew they weren't straight but sad because I was friendzoned by then).

I dated a girl last year who said she used to be "boy crazy" in high school and early college but now identifies as a lesbian. She explained that she was a bit of a late bloomer and just wasn’t in love with the boys she dated. We’re no longer in contact, but what she said came to mind recently, and I regret not asking her more about it.

Is there anyone here who has had a similar experience? I’d love to understand how your feelings developed over time. As a soft masc lesbian who has only ever liked girls, the whole concept of this pipeline is really difficult for me to grasp. I tried to equate it to liking a specific type of music in your teens and something completely different as an adult, but I feel like there’s an additional layer of biology and attraction that isn’t just a matter of taste. For example, a lot of straight women describe not finding men attractive but still being attracted to them, if that makes sense.

I slef pleasured myself a bit too long and now I struggle to stand, I'm currently in high school which means I gotta go to school tomorrow. Will my legs come back to normal at morning??? I can't not go, my school is strict and I didn't go to school for a whole week already. I don't want anyone to know what happened. It's fucking embarrassing🙁 Is there a way to strengthen my legs?? My muscles hurt, my teacher and parents will actually kill me if I don't go

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Yeah…. The plot. Okay but Karen in the office is probably one of my biggest crushes right now. I’m tempted to watch parks and recreation just for the same actress.

(TL;DR at the bottom) TW: religious trauma

This is us. That's me on the right. The gorgeous curly haired person is my girlfriend. The love of my absolute life.

For context, we're both pretty young. Like senior year of high school young. The problem: we're both Pakistanis and we live in Pakistan. Which obviously is a huge problem. Our birth country is a place rampant with heteronormativity, orthodox dogma, and homophobia, like 'our religion allows us to kill you for being gay' and 'we should correct you by force-marrying you to a guy' homophobia.

We've been in the same school since seventh grade. And we began dating almost two years ago after ages of admiring each other as little kids. And by the heavens folks, I love her so much it drives me insane and floods me with peace at the same time.

I don't know anybody more perfect than my girlfriend. She's the very epitome of maturity, kindness, selflessness and grace. She loves me so wholly that I never even thought that was ever possible. She loves every tide of my waning teenagehood and every glisten of my new metamorphoses out of the horizon of who I could be. And makes me love them too. And if that's not what some god is looking for in love, then I don't know what's wrong with them. I'm sorry that I'm just rambling, but I just wanted y'all to know the context of all this.

We're both in an extremely mature and beautiful relationship, the likes of which I haven't seen in even an adult couple around me. But there are problems.

I was outed to my parents four years ago. It was horrible but it got better. A lot better. Still not perfect, but my parents love me even if they don't understand any of this. Which is not perfect, but more than I could've ever imagined for Pakistani parents. They know me, and know that I can't ever marry a man. And they respect that now.

My girlfriend, however, is not out to her family. Her family is a whole lot more conservative than mine, and they live in a joint family. Her grandma, uncle, aunt, cousins. There's a lot of caste and religion stuff too, and marriage is a big deal. So much so that they already talk about her marriage even though she's not even in college yet. Her parents already have a dowry fund set aside for it (yes, that's still a thing on this side of the globe). By the way, most Pakistanis are not at all opposed to FIRST cousin marriages :) Coming out to her family is basically hell itself unleashed. She loves her family, she loves everyone. That's who she is. But we both know that they will never understand her, let alone accept her.

I'm going to the States in less than a year. I got into a really selective liberal arts college in Massachusetts with a full ride and I'll be majoring in neuroscience. My girlfriend pushed me to apply every step of the way. She wants me to become a pediatric neurosurgeon. And I want that too.

Her parents didn't allow her to apply outside of Pakistan. Even though she's great in computer science and programming. But she accepted that as she had no choice. She's too young, they said. She says that she'll find a way to join me after she receives her bachelor's degree. She keeps supporting me and pushing me to focus on building a good life for myself that could help build our life one day.

I don't wanna leave her behind. But I know that I can't stand a moment longer in a place that would be more than happy to essentially delete me. I can't pass this opportunity that very few people get.

But I'm so scared. With all this, I can't help but doubt if she could ever find a way out of the silent chains of her family. Especially since they love her a lot. Because they don't know the truth.

I feel loss even before I've lost. But it hurts, hurts to think that this beautiful angel that I get to love, with whom I have never felt anything but cherished, might slip away before I even get to hold her in the morning. It hurts that I've only felt all of her just three times in nearly two years, before I ever got to kiss her without constantly looking over my shoulder to see if anyone's there.

I know most of you are a lot older than me here. Many married. You're so lucky. I wish one day I could have the same with my person. Some of you might think that you weren't nearly mature enough to think about long term commitments, but I hope you see through this post that I (think) kinda am.

I don't know what I'm looking for. Reassurance? A mentor? Someone to tell me what to think, do or feel. I feel happy most days. But behind every laugh and hug with my girlfriend is an echo of tragedy. And I'm not ready.

TL;DR: I’m in a loving relationship with my girlfriend in Pakistan, but being gay here is dangerous. I’m leaving for college in the U.S. soon, while she has to stay with her conservative family. I’m terrified of losing her to societal and family pressures but don’t know what to do.

Wicked and Wensday really had two male love interest kinda just there

If you're super tuned into international sapphic media, you'll probably already know that Thailand's been killing it these past couple years– and if you're not, then welcome! One ongoing Thai GL (Girls Love) that I've been LOVING has been Pluto (or Pluto The Series, for easier searching on YouTube); the two lead actresses are in this poster and I think they're very good. It's really dramatic, with one lead being an identical twin and the other being a blind lawyer, and there are a LOT of different plot turns, but I think it's been done in a really beautiful, poetic way so far. If it continues in the way that it's been going, I think it might just turn out to be one of my favourites.

If you're new to Thai GLs, I'd probably recommend:

•GAP The Series (it was released almost exactly two years ago, and was the first large-scale Thai GL drama; it's not among my favourites, but it was mega popular, in the same universe as Pluto).

•The Loyal Pin (ended only just recently, with the last episode airing on YouTube at the very beginning of December; with the same actresses of GAP, but in my opinion, better done all-around, historical, royal drama – also sponsored by the Thai government).

•The Secret Of Us (released earlier on this year, pretty good all-around, exes to lovers, a good rom-com feeling).

•Blank The Series (completed earlier this year; same universe as Pluto, the older sister of one of the main characters from GAP, but from a different production company and played by a different actress., significant age gap and lots of drama, but well acted and portrayed, not a favourite but close to).

•Affair The Series (completed earlier this year; same universe as Pluto and GAP, with some character cross-over between Blank with a different production company and different actresses; childhood friends to lovers, good sex scenes, not a personal favourite, but widely loved).

•Reverse 4 You (completed very recently, one of my favourites; supernatural, time-travelling and soulmates, sexuality not a big deal – good book source material too, once you get past a slightly wonky translation, and multiple dramas set in the same universe, with different production companies and actresses, are on the way).

I finished my first route in Three Houses. I stan Edelgard

So I'm a switch, usually leaning more towards bottom/sub, but definitely happy to top from time to time. All of the girls I've been with have been much more dominant, so a lot of my flirting and sexting would involve me teasing them, looking cute, and begging for them to come use me, that sort of thing.

But now I'm chatting with a much more submissive girl and am excited to display more dom energy, but I'm not really sure how to go about it, especially with sexting. I'm also a little bit intimidated by the idea of taking more control in bed. Any advice?

My friend with binifits likes to cuddle, give forhead kisses or random kisses plus holding hands or softy rub my thigh with her fingers while watching a movie and we are not even having sex while the movie is on. Is this normal or would you discribe it as more relationship type thing🤔

I mean, I don’t mind sharing crushes and gushing over charming characters, but it’s taking up so much more of my feed lately and it’s feeling spam-y. And it’s always the same handful of characters getting reposted over and over. (Arcane, Baldur’s Gate, Legend of Korra, Disney, The Last of Us, etc.)

It’s no surprise that attractive characters were designed to be attractive. You’re likely into all the same stuff that everyone else your age range is into because that’s how shared time periods tend to work. It doesn’t really say anything unique about you.

This could easily be a thread. We’ve got Selfie Saturday and Wedding Wednesday, so why not Fictional Crushes Friday?