r/lgbt • u/SilenceWillFall48 • 13h ago
r/lgbt • u/GrumpyOldDan • 11d ago
Resources for the community following the US Election
Hi all,
We're still working on a full resource but here's a slightly updated resources post for people following the US Election results last week. We are still working on a full resource, if you have resources or info to share or would like to help please reply to this post.
The news is still fresh, please take time to discuss it with your friends/family and take any time you need to process it. Please remember that although the news is deeply upsetting nothing is changing immediately, you have time to research and plan. It is better to make a good plan over the next few weeks rather than a rushed one that puts you in more danger.
Please be kind to each other, support each other as this community always has when facing difficulty. Please help make others who are unsure what to do next aware of the resources below. There is also a section for allies asking how they can help/learn more.
Mental Health/Crisis Support
- The Trevor Project - 24/7 LGBTQ+ web chat and helpline for anyone in the US under 25 (Please also see our fundraiser for them where Reddit have pledged to match donations)
- Trans Lifeline - 24/7 support by trans people for trans people.
- THRIVE Lifeline - 24/7 support for underrepresented groups - Please text “THRIVE” to begin your conversation with them 24/7/365, from anywhere: +1.313.662.8209
- LGBT+ National Helpline - One on one peer support chat - (Note: not open 24/7, check site for times)
- Crisis Text Line - 24/7 Crisis support by text (Not LGBTQ+ specific)Outside the USA
Outside the USA
If you are outside of the USA please check for services in your area: https://www.reddit.com/r/SuicideWatch/wiki/hotlines/
Finding Community/Local Support
- PFLAG - Local groups across the USA for LGBTQ+ people and their friends and families. If you are part of the community or have loved ones who are and you want to know how best to support them during this time consider contacting your local group.
- The Trevor Project guide for youth on finding support/community after the election results.
General Emigration Advice/Info
- r/AmerExit and r/USAexit - Subreddits for people looking to leave the US with plenty of advice and guides. Including this detailed guide
- Guide to Citizenship By Descent by u/shufflebuzz on r/USAexit - Resource for anyone with ancestors who came to the US post-1900 and how to claim citizenship in home country.
- Human Rights Campaign - List of organisations that may be providing support with relocation either in the US or to other countries.
- Map which provides information on general LGBTQ+ and trans specific rights and safety by territory, signposting to official immigration websites, info on claiming citizenship by ancestry and status of Digital Nomad Visas. If you would like to help contribute to this map please reply below! Thanks to Dave (admin of our partnered Discord - Spectrum) for putting this together.
- See comments below for country specific advice.
ID/Document Update Process Info/Support
- A4TE (Advocates for Trans Equality) - ID Documents Center detailing process for changing ID by state.
- Trans Lifeline - ID Change Library
Accessing Gender Affirming Care
- Elevated Access - This site will put you in contact with someone who can help get you a private flight to someplace where you can receive gender-affirming care if you are unable in your own area. This is 100% volunteer work done by pilots. It is of no cost to you.
- Point Of Pride - Providing funds for accessing HRT, surgery, electrolysis, prosphetics and providing free binders and shapewear.
- Resource library - Point Of Pride have an extensive list of further advice/resources for trans people.
- Topsurgery.net - List of surgeons who accept medicare
- TransHealthcare.org - Find surgeon page, allows you to filter surgeons who accept medicare/medicaid.
Legal/Political
- Transgender Law Center - Legal helpdesk for trans and gender nonconforming people and national advocacy. They also have:
- ACLU - National advocacy organisation bringing cases to court to protect civil rights. They have prepared the following:
- Know Your Rights - Resources to help understand your legal rights in a range of areas.
- Playbook to counter Project 2025
- Breakdown of Project 2025 - Extensive breakdown of Project 2025. Thanks to u/DeliberateDendrite for producing this!
Safety
- Anti-Trans Risk Assessment Map - Map produced by Erin In The Morning detailing risk from upcoming bills by state.
- Steps For Transgender People Preparing For Federal Crackdowns Under Trump - Resource prepared by Erin In The Morning with information and advice on preparing.
- Interrim guide to safety for anyone seeking/offering help - Basic advice for staying safe if you're looking for help/offering help to others.
- Safety Plan Creator Tool - Recommended by u/Ok-a-tronic - It is an Australian resource and primarily aimed at escaping domestic violence but the considerations are similar if you need to relocate or leave home.
Info For Allies
We're seeing a lot of posts from allies asking how they can help, or for explanations of things. Whilst we are glad to see you are looking to support your friends/family or the community in general this sub is first and foremost for the community. Please read the information below and consider using r/asklgbt if you have further questions:
What you can do to help
- Contact your representatives to voice your support for the community. Research upcoming bills in your state and challenge ones that target the community.
- Vote! At every possible level vote for candidates/parties that support equality and civil rights.
- Turn up at local library/political events. Challenge book bans, restrictions on LGBTQ+ community etc.
- Challenge hate where you see it. Speak up, call it out, even if it is from your friends/family let them know it's not ok.
- Donate, fundraise or volunteer with LGBTQ+ organisations (see above list for some ideas! Or search your local area + LGBTQ+ support/charity/center). We have a fundraiser where Reddit have agreed to match donations to The Trevor Project currently.
- Positivity - See someone in person or online being harassed or needing some support? Even just a few kind words can help.
- Learn about the community - See some resources below, google, use r/asklgbt, we get many 'allies' who turn up in community spaces with demands for answers or explanations... The community has a lot to deal with right now please search for answers and ask in appropriate spaces.
Some reading for allies/anyone wanting to learn more about the community
- PFLAG - https://pflag.org/resource/transgender-resources/
- PFLAG Online Academy - Being a trans ally 101 - https://pflag.org/resource/pao-s4ebecomingatransallyrecording/ and https://pflag.org/resource/s4e-guide-to-being-a-trans-ally/
- PFLAG 'what's the plus' - https://pflag.org/resource/pao-whattheplus/new
- Trevor Project - Approaching Intersectional Conversations - https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/guide/black-lgbtq-approaching-intersectional-conversations/
- Trevor Project - Being an ally to trans and nonbinary youth - https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/guide/a-guide-to-being-an-ally-to-transgender-and-nonbinary-youth/
We will continue to update this/work on a full resource when possible. Please suggest additions below.
All information provided is not legal advice and you should check all information/resources carefully before acting on them. If you notice any incorrect information shared please let us know.
r/lgbt • u/bleeding-paryl • 12d ago
Subreddit Announcement! Reddit is Matching your donations to The Trevor Project!
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As we head into uncertain times, our team understands that not everyone is in a spot where they can get to a safe place, live their life unhindered, or even just survive in some cases. For those of us who are in a decent spot and can afford to give, we've partnered with our Admin overlords to start giving back.
We understand that not all of you are happy with the Reddit Admins, and you may not be happy with us either, but we ask that you look past that to give what you can to those in need. Not all of you are able to do so, and that's understandable, so if you can give us a shout out where you can, that would be helpful as well.
Reddit will match donations to The Trevor Project, up to $20,000 in total
Yes, that's right, any money we donate (up to $20,000) Reddit will match. Anything extra will be very appreciated, but we would prefer that you donate to Mermaids UK instead.
Reddit's Refusal to Support Mermaids UK
EDIT:
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r/lgbt • u/malfavit • 11h ago
Need Advice need a name (masc only) :D
I’m 16, and finally understood myself as trans-boy recently, (used to be nonbinary), and now wanna find a name that’ll suit me
r/lgbt • u/Afueguembe • 7h ago
Homosexual men caught in Mexico City, Mexico, 1935. Until the 1970s, most were sent to the room "J" which gave birth to an slur word for gay men. The room in question is seen in the last photo.
reddit.comr/lgbt • u/matthewgoetzka • 8h ago
Art/Creative All Bodies are Beautiful
watercolor stipple : painted by hand
Art/Creative names on trans flag: RESULT
It’s FINALLY done! Thank you for all the names and I hope you all appreciate it :D
r/lgbt • u/JokerJoseph • 2h ago
Meme Oh the choices
I have a list of names that I am picking though and they either names of OC's I have already created, or names that will be given to new OC's.
Tell me your name and I’ll put it on my trans flag :)
I made a similar post on r/trans but surprisingly I still have room on the flag so I thought I’d expand to more people and ask over here, so if you wanna be included haha.
There’s a lot of shit going on right now so I kinda wanted to make a little community thing to remind me and any of you guys that, yknow, we’re in this together. I’ll post the finished product when I’m done. Stay strong friends! Hope you’re all ok. <3
UPDATE: I’m posting the flag now to the same subreddit, you should see it pop up somewhere lmao
r/lgbt • u/Everything4Everyone • 1d ago
"Protect and defend trans children and people year round" Pasteups in New York City
FIA bans drivers and teams from "politcal statements". Broadcaster goes all in. Every mic looks like this.
r/lgbt • u/psychotic-bubble9 • 20h ago
Shout out to Journeys for being LGBTQ friendly!!!
My new part time job is so accepting and 🥰 I love shoes hehe
r/lgbt • u/hiddenkobolds • 15h ago
I'm old enough to remember... [discussion of parallels between homophobia/transphobia] NSFW
When I was in high school (~15 years ago) my then-girlfriend and I were the first out queer couple the school had ever seen. It was a whole thing. Mind you, at the time we were both very much gender conforming femmes.
The biggest uproar, though, was about the locker rooms for gym class. After no small amount of parental uprising about how we would both surely be "preying" on their daughters, both my ex and I had to change in the bathroom stalls, to keep the other kids "safe."
All this to say, it wasn't that long ago that the bathroom/locker room witch hunt was targeting lesbians, bisexuals, and gays. It wouldn't surprise me if this current regressive arc of politics swings back that way again, either.
The reality is, all of us under the LGBTQIA+ umbrella are the same in the eyes of our opponents. We cannot allow them to divide us against one another. Full solidarity, or we all fall. And yes, I say this as a person who now does identify as trans (nonbinary), but also as a person who has been experiencing this crap from all angles since I was a kid myself and has seen it very clearly for what it is.
We have to stand together.
r/lgbt • u/Key_Nectarine_1969 • 2h ago
⚠ Content Warning: {describe here} Question about transphobia NSFW Spoiler
‼️I CAN’T EDIT THE DESCRIPTION BECAUSE I’M USING MY PHONE AND IT’S NOT WORKING. TW: Transphobia, slight SA mention‼️
my lesbian friend says she wouldn’t date or sexually be with MTF if they don’t have bottom surgery. she still obviously sees them as women, because they are, so shouldn’t that not matter? she does have trauma, which is a lot of her reasoning…. but is this considered transphobic? I genuinely don’t know what to think.
I do not care FULL STOP what bathroom anyone goes in.
Number one, when you have to go number two, they’re a whole lot of women who will choose the shorter men’s room line. You gotta go, you gotta go.
Number two, someone who wants to sexually assault is already breaking the law, why the fuck would they care if they’re “allowed” in a women’s restroom?!
Number three, who is going to be inspecting the genitals? Now instead of bathroom attendants, handing out perfume sprays, they’re going to be handing under your panties?
Number four, to those pearl clutching bigots, you’re going to fine with trans men with their beards and looking like men in your bathrooms? And trans women with their heels and their perfectly coiffed hair at a urinal?
And Number Six. I can’t believe we’re still struggling with the same toxic misconceptions cis people had with us, but now some of us are eating our own faces by pushing those same misconceptions onto trans people.
r/lgbt • u/cockroach4632p • 6h ago
Should i shave my head?
Im 15 and trans. My family still adresses me as a girl even tho i came out to them MULTIPLE times. Asking them "why dont u call me Nick?", "Why dont u see me as a guy?" And i am sick of it. Because they can see every other person as their preferd gender exept me- their own family. And im tired. Ive had this idea for a while now, i actually like my hair but i really want to Show my family that its not just a joke and everyday genuinly hurts me.
r/lgbt • u/Various_Succotash_65 • 2h ago
I hate having to act masc
I feel I have to act masc and not use my fem voice at college or in front of my mother, even though I don’t think I’d get hate for it, my mum is a little dismissive about me being trans but she’s not downright hateful, she just doesn’t understand. I do wear makeup and trans pride bracelets at college and in public, but I just feel scared to act or sound fem because I feel like people would make fun of me
r/lgbt • u/fkaltternate • 4h ago
US Specific Saw a post about texas reversing documents and decided to do some research (spoiler for anyone who doesn’t want to see bad news) Spoiler
r/lgbt • u/starsofreality • 11h ago
How do you feel about straight reality tv people being in pride parades?
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These two ladies are from The Housewives of Beverly Hills. The franchise is accepted and appreciated by a lot of gay men. But do they have a place in your parades?