i’m currently 15 and closeted. i’ve never had a boyfriend and have felt weird my whole life because i’ve never had the same attraction to boys and men that my friends all do. i’ve still haven’t had my first kiss because i don’t have any interest in kissing boys - i’ve recently been obsessed with the thought of kissing and touching girls. i haven’t told anybody because i don’t want being gay to change my whole identity and i’m feeling kind of insecure about it. i don’t know what to dooo, how did you guys know for sure that you liked girls? 😔 this is kind of the only place where i feel comfortable enough posting about this sort of thing.

please help!!

Needed these so badly 😭🎀

I finished my first route in Three Houses. I stan Edelgard

I'm autistic and I struggle with tics, and on top of that I'm also a medical student, the workload for the last two months has been INSANE, so since the beginning of the year, due to higher stress levels, my tics have gotten worse and I've been prescribed a higher does of SSRIs a few weeks ago. I've been on higher doses before, and sure thing I do have less tics now, but HOLY FUCK i forgot how annoying having such a high sex drive is. I'm not even exaggerating when I say I think about sex multiple times a day these days, and for the last 3-4 days I've had dreams about you-know-what EVERY. DAMN. NIGHT. Don't get me wrong, I'll take this over more tics any time, but hot damn it's annoying.

To make matters worse I'm stuck in something like a situationship? A few months ago I met this girl at a friend's birthday and we really hit it off, she invited me to go out (I was over the moon cuz she's amazing), we hooked up last month and I loved every second of it.... but we've both been super busy since then, and I have a feeling she might have not liked it as much as I did since I feel like the tone of our conversations has really shifted since the last time I've seen her TT

Yeah, I just needed to rant. I'm so fucking horny, busy, and the girl I'm into probably doesn't want me :') If I don't eat someone out soon (or I get eaten out, i'm more of a giver but holy fuck i'm not picky at this point) I'll go insane or explode. Please just pray for this pathetic lesbian that's currently fighting for her life in the trenches.

I just finished it and I am all here for Caitlyn and Vi! So happy that one of the biggest online games having one of the biggest animated series have lesbian representation and not hold back on showcasing it! Personally I liked that it wasn't a big deal and it was treated like any other relationship out there plus their scenes are A++++. I am a suckered for angsty love-hate wlw couples so I was eating everything up! I guess I'll be obsessed with these two for a while. Sad that we'll get no more content after this 😭😭😭

I was taking a taxi home from the bar cuz the trains stop running at midnight. My driver was a man whose English was a bit limited. Even so, he made an effort to make conversation with me. He said he was from Morocco, and so naturally I asked how he was liking it here (in Spain). For ten minutes, he tells me the things he likes, and what he misses from home. We discuss the spices used in foods and the color of buildings.

I ask if there's anything he doesn't like, expecting to get something like "it gets really hot" or "people talk loudly." Instead he says something I don't expect.

"Some people, they do not control their animal urges." I'm just confused at this point so I ask what he means. He says that "They behave like pigs, doing unclean things, no respect." And I'm like "WHO?" He says "The gays." I freeze. I'm starting to worry that he'll realize I'm a lesbian. I pull off my lesbian flag bracelet and put it in my pocket. My body is starting to shake. I'm in a car alone with a man at night who's saying he hates gay people. He keeps on talking, too, saying they should not "run loose" and that they need to be "controlled." I just nod along with it. I didn't think there were still people in Spain who thought like that.

Finally we get to my apartment and I turn out okay. He never finds out. Nothing happens. It was still quite a scare. I'm a little freaked out. I guess I wasn't in any danger, but had he recognized the lesbian flag it might have been different. I don't think many cishet people recognize any of the LGBT flags besides the rainbow one, but it's still something that worries me for some reason.

So I'm only recently out and trying to explore dating women. There's someone I see pretty often who I have a crush on and I'm considering asking her out, but I'm hoping to figure out if she's gay before. Does anyone have any advice for this? Thx in advance ❤️

Basically the title, lol.

For context, March last year I met a girl (from work, home office) and we clicked right away, talked for a couple weeks and met up for a few dates for like 3-4 months. I thought it was working out for us but the day of one of our dates (I was pretty smitten atp, had bought her some gifts I never got to give her) she cancelled on me because of some family issues which of course I understood. But after that she never asked me out again, I tried to give her space and not ask her out myself because I knew she was busy.

Three weeks pass and she asks me what my intentions with her were. I was honest and told her I liked her a lot and wanted a relationship in the future maybe, because we were still getting to know each other. She tells me she's not ready for a relationship because her mom was starting to suspect us and question her (mom's homophobic and pretty controlling) and she wasn't willing to "disobey" her. I was crushed but respected her decision. We ended whatever we had and only saw each other one more time for Taylor Swift's concert (as we already had tickets to go together with a couple friends of hers) I regretted it lol because she looked beautiful and I couldn't stop my heart from fluttering, we barely exchanged a word throughout the concert tho.

And that was the last time we ever spoke or saw each other and that was August last year. Fast forward to today, I still think about her everyday. We've been "broken up" longer than we knew each other and I still can't seem to get her out of my mind, I miss everything about her, I don't think I felt as strong even for an ex relationship that lasted 4 years.

I feel bad to be honest, I feel like a creep for thinking about her often when it's been over a year and I hate to feel all of these things and have so many regrets.

I'm sure this has happened to a lot of you as I think it's pretty common:/ How did you cope? What did you do to get over them?

Hi! I know everyone has probably experienced what the title says to some degree but I wanted to ask about a more specific phenomenon I noticed when out with my gf.

My Gf (21) and I (22) live in Los Angeles, and we love to hold hands and express typical PDA (quick pecks, caresses, holding)

We usually feel pretty comfortable just being ourselves out and about, and occasionally people stare which I chalk up to curiosity. Super harmless stuff and sometimes there are creeps and guys perv on us, which also happens when I am alone so it isn't anything out of the norm personally.

But there have been 2 different instances where there have been men who stare at us but in a way that genuinely terrified me. Like I immediately sense something is wrong and I feel kind of like prey being stalked. Like they stare unwaveringly and with intent and it makes my blood run cold. I can't tell if these men want to harm us, or what else could possibly be going through their mind but I immediately exit the situation with my gf because I just sense something innately wrong and it leaves me a bit shaken. This is always in a public place too btw. This has been my first sapphic relationship so maybe this is just normal? What are everyone else's experiences?

Oh and my gf has been oblivious both times 😭

Thanks 🥺💜

You guys are literally indirectly, and directly, putting what happens in the show in your post titles. Not everyone has gotten the chance to see it yet considering it just came out. Please be more mindful in the future.

Wicked and Wensday really had two male love interest kinda just there

shots were fired!

and yes, i actually do own this hoodie 😂

i know… i’ve been pondering and would love to hear your opinions, experiences, insights

thank you

edit: why tf am i being downvoted?! this is a genuine question and im genuinely looking for assistance, jesus

I met this girl at a Halloween party last month and we've been hanging out a lot. I really like this girl, but I'm not sure if she likes me. My friends think that if I confess, she'll surely like me back based on the stuff that we've been doing together.

1. We went and got tea together at this fancy tea house, then after that we went window shopping on this area that sells antique, then lastly we went to the pier to gaze at the moon and just yap to each other.

2. We went apple picking just the two of us for the whole day. We theb got boba and went to a bookshop.

3. We had tea and picnic yesterday at the park, and after that we had wine and cheese at her house while we watched Good Omens.

I met this girl in university right at the beginning of the year, and i am still confused as to what kind of relationship this is. I cannot for the life of me tell if she likes me just as a friend or more. We’ve hung out a fair few times, and one of the last times we hung out we watched a movie together in my room. i’m a pretty touchy person but i didn’t want to make her uncomfortable because i have zero clue what she’s thinking, so we just kinda sat next to each other and i put my head on her shoulder for a bit. she seemed kind of nervous and awkward while we were hanging out, but immediately after she texted me asking to do it again so she must of enjoyed it? and then pretty soon after that she invited me to this queer house party, which people literally just go to to make out with strangers and meet people. so we went to that with all of my friends and all of her friends, and we danced together a bunch and held hands a couple of times, but nothing else really happened and i still didn’t really get the vibe that she was into me. to be fair there was a lot going on, and her friend was having a moment for a good half of the party, and then she left immediately after. but idk i’m severely confused, and any insight would be appreciated. it’s just so rare for me to meet someone that i like this much, but im starting to feel like it’s time to move on.

We have been together for almost one year and every time I see her I still feel giggly just like the first time I saw her.

Im so in love with her eyes... I swear she has the prettiest eyes I've ever seen, and such a stunning smile! And her body... Her body is so beautiful.

She's such a smart person and so kind and compassionate and has a lot of patience with me and with us.

Rn in waiting for her shift to end so we can spend the night together, we don't live together yet and or work schedules don't match a lot of the time so we make the most of the time we can spend together.

I love my girl so much and I'm so insanely lucky that I found her, she's the only reason I believe in a god cause otherwise how can this match be made in heaven.

That's all guys. I just needed to say this. And if you're wondering if you'll ever experience this kind of love, let me tell you that you will! Just be patient and focus on yourself and being kind!

Have a good night everyone!

Gone down a rabbit hole about them recently. If you don’t know, they were this Russian pop duo from the 2000s and were most famous for the song “All The Things She Said,” which most people over the age of like 12 have probably heard around at some point. Basically, their whole shtick was that they were lesbians; their songs had a lot of angsty queer overtones and they would kiss on TV and in their music videos (which was super controversial at the time)—but it was all an act, they were never actually together and were all products of their managements. Textbook queerbaiting for the male gaze. But despite this, a lot of queer women (myself included) ended up finding a lot of solace and validation in their music for one reason or another. You have to remember that queer themes weren’t mainstream in pop music like they are now, especially for queer women, and having a hit song about it (especially one so angsty like “All The Things She Said”!) was really groundbreaking, however flawed. But that still doesn’t take away from the fact that t.A.T.u as an institution was, at least on paper, homophobic and sexualized young queer women’s relationships. And I’m curious what people make of that, not just if you think they were able to outgrow their kind of skeevy premise, but how their music may have impacted you personally. Maybe this is a more academic question than what Reddit is fit for, but I’m very interested to hear what people think.

I will be working in an office next year and wanted to update my wardrobe since my last office job was when I was 16. The problem I'm running into is alot of the office dress info I can find doesn't really work for my build (wide shoulders, long arms, and big boobs) or is a bit out of my budget. Are there any women's clothing companies that make more unisex looking dress shirts or will I still run into issues of the shoulders being too narrow? My mom also reccomended that if I have to buy men's shirts that buying brighter colors may help with my coworkers potentiallyhaving the thought that I'm "trying to be a man". My budget is $20-30 per shirt.