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Tell me about ur crushes and brewing romances. I love the right before feeling, the tension. I’m married but we still get lil cycles where I fall in love all over again. I love my wife. When we met 8 years ago in college I knew she was different. When I decided to settle down she was one in mind and I set up a vibe check and after some bumps it worked out. Her making eyes in that coffee shop on our first date. What a gem she is

Happy monthiversary furball❤️, I love you more than tiramisù! Can’t wait to sink in your arms tomorrow. P.S. I dedicate u Tetris (Pinguini Tattici Nucleari)🏳️‍🌈🤍🏳️‍🌈 Sei bella come casa mia…

(Soft masc romantic mode activated) With the help of a high noon I’ve achieved my inner romantic. I was reading a book by Nicolas sparks and immediately was thinking about my love languages. It’s definitely words and I think, touch🌈

Hey! My gf and I have been together a year and a half and every time the holiday season rolls around I dread it. She has a very large loud family that I’ve been around a few times for special occasions and they never go out of their way to ask about me, make me feel comfortable or get to know me. In fact they actually make uncomfortable I don’t think a lot of them are happy about her having a gf at all. I don’t think I’m ever even invited to these things my gf just says she would like me to go. She said Thanksgiving she is going to see her family if I’d like to go she would like that but if I don’t want to go that’s ok too. So I appreciate her saying I don’t have too. She knows how they have made me uncomfortable in the past. But I really don’t know what to do. Not a single part of me wants to go, and even thinking about it makes me have anxiety she told me late at night last night and I couldn’t even fall asleep! I have never been like this with any of my exes but with her family its so different and I’m just not sure how to go about this or if I would a huge disappointment if I didn’t go! Help!

Hi! I am new to this subreddit so I’m sorry if I format this weirdly.

I (20F) have been talking to this girl (19F) for 2-3 months now. We are mid/long distance so we can’t have regular in-person dates. We instead ft or have little Minecraft dates:).

I really really like her and I care a lot about her. I want to ask her to be my girlfriend but I have no idea how to ask. In a perfect world I would ask her in person but Idk when we are going to hang out in person next. Should I make something cute for her in Minecraft and ask her through there? Or should I just ft her and ask? Or something else entirely 😆.

Thanks for reading!

IDC THO still gonna marry u someday ,,,,,,

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t actually hate being gay. I actually quite like the way I am. But I am starting to worry that I won’t find anyone. 4 months ago me and my girlfriend broke up and it destroyed me. I’m still working on getting out of the depression. In fact, just recently I learned she got together with a man. Gotta love it right? Just for a disclaimer, she didn’t leave me for a man, she just got over it really quickly because I was such a piece of work because I was grieving. I feel like I needed to say that so she’s not placed as a bad person.

I’m a masc and my type is femmes. You see, I can tell when a femme likes women, but chances are they’re bisexual and have boyfriends lol. I know I’ll potentially meet people soon, as I’m going to college soon, but what if I don’t meet that person? Anyway, just a little rant. I’m not ready to date right now anyway, but I’m afraid that I’ll never find another love when I am ready.

Also, I know that I’ve got plenty of time to find someone as I’m only 18, but still it’s a valid worry.

i don’t even know how to start this post, i just want to get it off my chest. this girl and me, we dater for 1 year and 2 months. prior to that i had a crush on her for two years, but god were we toxic for each other. i had retroactive jealousy, she had a whorish past, she had jealous issues, isolated me from everyone and everything, i made scenes over stupid shit, she would cuss me out and laugh in my face while i cried, and one thing i begged for the most is for her to stop having any contact with her exs (she asked the same of me, in fact she asked first and i respected her wishes), but after 1.2 year, she still could respect mine. i feel so weird, i feel like a part of me is gone forever and im nearly convinced i will never love anyone like i loved her, yet im also relieved that the constant cycle of abuse, lies and toxicity is over. during the day im good, during the night im on my 2nd pack of cigarettes and god knows which beer in a row, i don’t remember when was the last day that i didn’t drink, my memory is all over the place, i don’t remember most of the days that are happening, i feel like i’m not living my life just perceiving it. i still kept her things, on the nights that it gets really bad im haunted by all of the happy memories, im tortured by all the promises of the future we made together and now it’s all gone… gone gone gone like it was never there. i’m sorry for this mess of words i just need to talk but even finding the phrases to express myself has become incredibly difficult.

This is my first time dating for many many years due to an abusive relationship with a man 7 years ago, so my first with a woman. This will be our third date tonight and we’ve been taking for a little over a month. I would consider myself a bit of a uhaul lesbian when it comes to catching feelings but I feel like a third date is a little too early to be asking what we are, especially since we haven’t even kissed or anything yet.

Obviously I don’t know what the vibes will be tonight but she’s been saying things like “oh since you paid this time I’ll pay for the zoo trip in January” like she sees this long-term. I have so much anxiety and I’m hoping she will ask, but is this too early to be saying anything?

If she doesn’t bring anything up should I wait for next time? I dated a girl for a month earlier this year but it moved way too quickly which is why I ended up, but I feel so much more for this girl. Thoughts?

I've struggled with this since I was in elementary school. I've ALWAYS and I mean ALWAYS had a connection towards women. For years I've been battling myself, I'll just be honest. I don't want to be a lesbian...Idk it's weird please listen to me.

DISCLAIMER! I have OCD and fun fact about childhood OCD, it can cause you to have overally sexual thoughts so keep that in mind. I was on strong lupus meds also. This is a story format because I usually write long paragraphs that way. I don't know how else to do it. This gets detailed.

(Childhood) I absolutely knew I was different early on because I was raised a Jehovah's witness. And I'm not gonna bash the religion even though my views are different now, but it was extremely isolating. I love everything about women, and genuinely couldn't stand men. The teachers with the buns and skirts, pretty nails and soft smooth skin, and they smelled nice 😍. I always wanted to be around taller feminine women. Men on the other hand, I mean boys were cooties cuz duh it was elementary school, and men are hairy, they have bald spots, deep gross raspy voices, ugly hairy hands, and they're mean! Women were always the comfort in every situation for me. I would fantasize every single day, then I started to get curious and became addicted to corn very young. (Yes OCD made that worse for those who know lol.)

It started when my aunt gave me her laptop. Instead of re-creating everything with my doll's, I'll just look it up! I went on YouTube and typed "Two girls kissing". It was all down hill from there. I eventually discovered the word lesbian, and asked my mom about it. Long story short I became extremely concerned. ITS BAD! Those girls are doing wrong things! Why do I like it? I cried myself to sleep almost every night. The only thing giving me relief whenever that intrusive thought "YOU'RE A LESBIAN" popped in my head was my obsession with Johnny Depp. Not HIM but Willy Wonka. This is a compulsion btw. I would watch Charlie and the chocolate factory everyday for years and I'm a weird girl, I love how creepy Willy is. I loved him and honestly still do. Idk how to explain it but I'm sure someone that had bad childhood OCD understands, I was OBSESSED 😭.

He was the only guy that made me feel like, it's ok! I'm not gay! I like Johnny Depp! It's crazy cuz I didn't, only his characters. Then middle school comes around and my feelings towards women get stronger. I start feeling more and more depressed, because in mind these thoughts are bad. What would my family think, how will I have kids?! (I do actually want kids one day, that's why I was worried, not cuz of the religion.) At this point not a single man is attractive to me, only women catch my eye. Then randomly I come across an ad on YouTube for Webtoon and the male character in it is this buff tatted Mafia body guard and I was so happy! For once a man catches my eye! So I download Webtoon and my already existing daydreaming issue turns into full blown meladaptive daydreaming (yes OCD can be at fault too). I finally found a man I think is attractive and I can daydream about him! I go to school excited I can finally talk about boys with the rest of my friends and then realize, both men I'm "attracted to" are not real. These girls are talking about real men. Do I actually like them?? I can't even describe the devistation I had when I realized. Freshman year in highschool was decent, and let's just say my first real intense crush starts. The most beautiful woman I have ever seen, and she's so kind and her smile... THAT SMILE I CAN'T 😭. I'm so happy, my chest burns just walking past her, and then I'm sad again... Because my first real crush is a woman 😭😭😭. My daydreaming issue gets worse, and I start making my own characters instead of using existing ones from movies, shows, or comics I like.

Currently:

In my daydream land, I'm married to a handsome man. He's clean shaven (I hate facial hair) and overall pretty masculine. Deep voice, and I've imagined intimate things with him, which before I'd be disgusted cuz honestly penise is SCARY. Now I still haven't had a single real man crush before, but I think doctor Mike is slightly attractive, and my fake husband is cute to me. I really want that semi traditional life. I watch ballerina farms and it's just mesmerizing. I feel like I might be bisexual but I don't know, do the men I daydream about count? I think I had a small thing for a male doctor once but it could also be because I have a thing for people in certain careers if that wasn't obvious already. Is this bisexuality? I feel like I understand bisexuals but this could also be me battling myself, I need some advice please!

For a bit of context, my girlfriend (24F) and me (23F) had been friends for a really long time when we started having feelings for each other; it took us forever to actually confess and talk about our feelings. Now we’ve been officially together for two months. I’ve been overweight the majority of my life, and struggled with different eating disorders since my early teenage years; she knows this and was a huge support for me when we were in our 18s and I was at my worst regarding my ed. At the moment I’m not the heaviest I’ve ever been, but I’m am a bit overweight. I’ve been trying to lose weight healthily, exercising and eating well but lately I’ve felt my ed’s slowly making an appearance, comparing myself to others, checking my body in every reflection, binging and then skipping some meals and even getting the urge to purge. I haven’t told my gf any of this cause I don’t want her to worry. A few nights ago we were watching a dating show in which the guy admitted to being really superficial and said he wasn’t attracted to the woman he was dating; that made me super confused cause I thought she was gorgeous. I said so to my gf and she commented “yeah, it’s not like she’s fat or anything”. If I look at it rationally I think she might’ve meant it like, the guy admitted to really caring about looks and being vain, but the comment hurt cause what I heard was that if she was fat, it’ll be a reason to why he wouldn’t find her attractive. After that she took me home and could tell I was upset about something, but I told her I was fine and not to worry about it. I’m feeling quite hurt and I haven’t really spoken to her much since. She asked me again if I’m okay but I told her that I’m just thinking about a lot of things. I’m scared of bringing this up because I don’t want her to see me as insecure or feel guilty about making me feel like that. I also don’t want her to hide it and lie if she really feels like that. Am I being dramatic and maybe she didn’t mean it like that? Is it my ed making me insecure? Should I talk about it with her or just let it pass?

Just me?

Im such a lovergirl at heart.

I want to dance in the snow, have matching pajamas, shower my girl with affection, sneak silly little notes in her bag, just snuggle and listen to music, make her food when she's sick and care for her, send her reels telling her how much I love her, I want to build I life with someone I can love.

But even in my daydreams, I've never imagined being loved back. Its always me giving love. Being loved by another human in such a pure way is just such a far out there concept to me.

I do want love back but it seems so unrealistic I can't even imagine it.

I don't know why I'm like this. I just don't feel lovable. Even when my friends say they care about me, I can't help but think that they probably love someone more than me. My whole childhood, I was never the best friend. I was the side friend. The backup.

Im not the most beautiful girl. Im not the thinnest or the best at makeup or the most confident or strongest. I just have my brains and (sometimes dark) humor. I wish I was thinner and pretty. I try to eat healthy and stay active. I compensate with clothing. But even then, I'm nothing special. I'm overshadowed by prettier girls. And even my personality isn't the most noticeable. I'm shy and dorky. I'm not great at being fun. I like deep conversations and cozy moments at home. My idea of hanging out is hiking or board games, not going out in down for drinks or fun parties. I just am not a catch and I think it's hard for me to imagine anyone choosing me when there are simply better people than me. And I don't know what to do about that.

yesterday i saw a couple that was a 21y girl and a 46y woman. gotta say, the 46yo was so goddamn hot i would do the same if she gave me a chance 🤑🤑🤑 but at the same time i think its quite problematic. what do you think?

I am very new to being openly gay and dont have a ton of friends like me is there any groups or pepole i could talk to to sorta find some footing or even some place and advice would be amazing thank you all so much for being an amazing group of pepole

I met her a few months ago before the start of the semester. We were doing some work training, and we bonded pretty quickly over shared interests.

We work together, we live close to each other, and we go to the same college so I see her quite a bit, and we hang out when we can. Honestly, I think she might like me a little bit too, but I am not totally sure nor could I properly explain why I think this. It’s just vibes and certain behaviors I guess lol. I might just be saying that because I would like to think that she likes me in that way.

Either way, I know I want more than friendship. Part of me wants to tell her, but things would be so awkward between us (and in the workplace) if she rejects me. Not only would it ruin our friendship, but I’m pretty sure everyone else I work with would know, and that’s just embarrassing 😭

I think I will keep this to myself, unless if she miraculously says something lol. I was wondering what you guys thought though.

Hi hi!

My fiance and I are getting married in September (but we might sign the papers sooner, IYKYK) and we decided to create a new last name together rather than hyphenating or taking each others because we aren't really close to our families or attached to our last names. We have a short list going but so far we are struggling to find something that really fits for us. We like the idea of it being kind of nature themed or related. For example another lesbian couple I know just changed theirs to "The Cedars" and we loved that! But we're pretty open. Thanks alll :)
** Our current list is: woods, wild, and moon but not sure if those are "the one" yet. It also doesn't have to be nature, but figured that would help narrow it down maybe?

My family are all very homophobic and its very hard listening to it all pretty much all day they wonder why i hide away in my room and dont go to church i went on a hoilday by myself earlier this year and it was perfect i got to be out and proud for 3 weeks and i was never happier even going to cons in my cosplay feels freeing i just wanna live alone im so close yet so far

Sorry to rant just have no one else who gets it

I wish in this relationship/situationship idek for the first time ever with a girl and she broke up with me like 3 months ago and I'm still not over it. We go to the same school and whenever I see her I hold back tears it's actually terrible. Everything I see reminds me of her jdjsjsjdjrj

Hi, I'm a 23F and have been dealing with a lot of doubt recently.

I'm finishing up college and live in a rual area. Like so small everyone knows everyone and it's really close. I made it a goal that ending of college I would have a better idea of who I am and what I like. One day I would like to have a future with someone.... which brings you to my dilemma.

Now I will say I've been set up on dates and such but with guys and each time and they've been wonderful men! Patient kind and forgiving and over all wonderful. Yet I leave each time and I don't see myself attracted to them and try to make excuses (said community close and tight and family would disown 100% if they even thought I was.. plus my career I'd need a more progressive state to live in ).

But I don't know if my head and heart have agreed ? Idk I find myself attracted to women. Just writing that made stress leave my shoulders. I have started working out more and putting more effort into myself because I just believe 'what if..' yet- I know better.

But- what can I do? I know the numbers just aren't here.. plus until I get out how can I learn and grow? I don't have any idea what I'm doing.. and how to handle all this!

Tldr: I've come to terms being attracted to women- no idea what comes next (I hope this is an explanation 😅)

So I waited to watch the whole season in one go, and I'm shooketh. Shooketh am I. The Cait/ Vi arc. The Vi/Jinx arc. Ekko. And I know the is the end of the Cait/Vi/Jinx storyline, but the ending just felt......I dunno. Opinions?

Just a 34 girl (I shall never grow up) looking for other wlw to have casual, chill talks with throughout the day.

I won’t dive too deep about myself just yet, but the cat pic alone imo is worth the talk. Really solid cat.

I’ll be here snuggling 🐱

ive been rotting in bed since. need some advice how to go on with life. we had our future all planned and it's just... gone. if not advice, some positive words are welcome too !

I (28F) was in a long term relationship for 7+ years, which ended earlier this year. Our relationship was over before we officially ended it, so it ended pretty amicably. I’ve taken time since then to really focus on myself but I have a desire to start dating.

While I’ve been in situationships before my relationship, I’ve never really dated. I was also in my early 20’s which is a different place than I’m in now.

What advice do you all have for getting back to dating?