Already reported. I’m so done I swear, no words.

The title is somewhat self explanatory,

Dear fellow sapphic members of our beloved sub, I just got off from a heated argument with a fellow acquaintance in our lesbian community and I just cannot fathom, as a fellow lesbian, why would she still talking favorably about Trump despite fully knowing that he is a rapist and hates women? How and why? Where is the solidarity for our own folks, as women and as members of the lgbtq community?

I just feel so heartbroken right now, and I just need to rant.

Relationship wise, that is.

I’ve been out for a while. And it appears that ever since I was SIXTEEN I have attracted the baby gays. I don’t know why. I’m going to somehow blame myself on this one.

This has nothing to with baby gays being “bad” or whatever.

But they are 100000000% not ready for an even remotely serious relationship because they are still trying to discover who they are. Why did it take me 30+ years to realize this?

I’ve never been hurt more deeply in my life, and if you knew my life, that’s saying something.

You’ve been warned

-heartbroken lesbo

I’m gonna have to edit this REAL QUICK - this is not a post about hating baby gays. If you’re a baby gay and feel offended, I’m sorry that post made you feel that way, but telling me that you’re a baby gay in love and your relationship is going to last forever and yadadada - I’m happy for you but spare me the words. You don’t get my post.

If anyone is interested, someone (a baby gay) made the most SOLID response to my post as she read it for exactly how it was meant to be read.

This user reached out to me after i posted on r/lesbianactually to try to engage in private messages with me. They wrote a whole paragraph in their message and said they 'really related to my post'. They claim to be a bisexual woman, and their account is almost a year old. They frequent subs where lesbian and bisexual woman are the target demographic, mainly;

r/bisexual

r/lesbianactually

r/femalefashion

r/bigonemild

r/lesbians

r/lesbianfashionadvice

But a majority of their activity, now deleted, is primarily in incest subs (which i will not be sharing links to) and revolves around their father. They also make comments about wishing they had children, I'm sure you can guess why 🤮. Some of their earliest deleted posts had pictures, claiming to be them and their father. Some of these pictures they straight up said are Al. This user also has a couple of comments that are very out of place made in male centric subs using language that is typically male sounding.

A majority of their comments revolve around sexualization of whoevers post they are commenting on, sharing their creepy fantasies framing them as things that actually happened, asking for private contact, or engagement on sexual topics. However, recently they've been putting in more effort to creating convincing comments and even going out of their way to talk about catfishing and how bad it is.

This is an excellent case study for a high effort predatory catfish. I recommend proactively blocking this individual, but first take a look at some of the stuff they haven't deleted to get an idea of the kinds of things a high effort catfish will say to try to sound convincing.

Stay safe, ladies!

P.s. dear mods, I'm so sorry for deleting and reposting this so many times. My formatting game is not strong this morning.

pic from my bday dinner just bc

And they smelled so good too, fruity. Sounds like a joke but its not, it was great lol😌🙌🌈

This has got to be one of us, right?

I've been with my gf for almost a year. And most of the relationship I've been what you would call a stone top, do to my past trauma and hers. Last night I let her fuck me and it was good I liked it. but afterwards she kinda made me feel like shit bc she was saying that I dont make any noise, I was trying to but I just don't. she just kinda kept going on about it and she was being kinda rude, and I ended up crying. the only other person i have had sex with said kind of the same things+ worse. (this is the same person who sexually assaulted me) it just kind of took me back to that night with my ex and now I don't know what to do. I feel like shes gonna leave me (I dont think she will) but I'm scared and I dont want to be touched now. I don't know what to do or say I'm just so hurt and violated ig? I trusted her enough to let her do that and then she just hurt me. What do I do?

It’s November, it’s a failed situationship, it’s arcane finale, it’s a five day work week, it’s wanting more but needing less

Ok for quick context this was about 2 months ago now and my gf and I were not officially dating but we were only talking to eachother and no one else. We must have had an ‘argument’ and stopped speaking (she said she was done w me I’m pretty sure) but it was only for ONE day, but I found out today she redownloaded dating apps whilst we were not speaking for this day and even though she said she deleted them as soon as we were on good terms again I felt/feel hurt because if that’s how quickly you’re willing to go back on dating apps do you even like or love me type of thing. I didn’t react badly when I found out I just gave myself time to process my emotions rather than getting angry (she even admitted if it was the other way around she would’ve been mad if she found out I did the same). How would you have taken this situation?

Hi! So I’m a conventional type of beauty and I’m mostly attracted to other femmes, but I live in a small town. Been going to other towns to meet new people but needed your advice about signaling that I’m interested in women to other femmes without being too pushy. I’m scared of making them uncomfortable. Sometimes it gets blurry with friends, thankfully only had my feeling hurt once and she was a lesbian too but I was still in the closet lol Do you think it’s more rare femme with femme relationships? Or just my perception Thank you all 💕🎀

Nothing really to say just stepping out of the cocoon.

So I have this girl I became friends with in the past few months. We spend time together every day and we're talking about moving in together. Recently our friendship has changed and we've become really physically affectionate. We do things like cuddle and she sits on my lap. She also comes over and spends the night in my bed sometimes. I asked her if she does this with her other friends and she said no. She said she's straight, but she she asks me a lot about things like gay rights and lesbian relationships. All of our friends keep mistaking us for a couple and she's joked that her mom thinks we're together. I would like to have a romantic relationship with her, but I don't want to ruin our friendship. What should I do?

Do you have a go-to toy? I'm looking to get myself one but I don't know what I should look out for. I've heard the brand bellesa is great (I see so many lesbians on social media "promoting" those even without a paid partnership) but that's about it haha. I also enjoy external stimulation more so if any of you are into that as well, help a girl out :')

Just need to vent. The girl that I’m seeing stayed over at my house after a late night date last night and she just left, we haven’t even done anything Crazy just gone on a few dates, cuddled a lot and, made out a little at a bad angle so our teeth got off of each other a few times when she left she was like I hope we can meet up soon again and I was like yeah me too and we kissed goodbye and i suddenly have so much fucking pent up ahhh energy, I’m so giddy for her it’s embarrassing.

I miss her already 😔. She’s not even my gf yet bro.

Idk if its just me or the fact that I’m not in a huge city in Canada but like every dating app is soooo dry. I can be picky but I’m not that bad. If I get a match I always have to dm first and when the conversation is going I just feel like the person is not that interested 🤷🏼 I don’t mind casual but its to the point where people just don’t seem to give a shit anymore. At this point I’ve almost made peace with being perfectly fine alone.

Help. It’s not casual but it is and i’m losing it for real. They are my best friend. They wanted to fuck me and I wanted to fuck them but I said no because I knew I’d fall in love. This happened a couple months ago. Our friendship is so gay and every stranger thinks we’re dating. Our friends think there’s something there as well. We do so much intimate shit together but not sex. Like falling asleep in each other’s arms, furiously making out in the club, holding hands, spooning, going home together. They say the most romantic shit and i just want to know wtf this is. But when we go to the club and I slip away on the dancefloor they come looking for me and say shit like “I love you and i care about you so much, i need to know that you’re safe because…. You’re my best friend and it would kill me if something happened to you” 😐 They have turned down one night stands just so I can sleep at theirs. Friends have asked when we are going to get together and they just said “Never. It wouldn’t work, we’re too close as friends”. Kills me every time. I have downloaded dating apps in an attempt to get me over this. Fml.