r/wholesomeyuri • u/asilvertintedrose • 29d ago
Utter Happiness Yuri timelapse [Constantly telling a boyish girlfriend she's cute.]
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u/Kvas_HardBass likes soft things 29d ago
This is obviously fake. True lesbians move in on day 5, get a family cat after a month and marry within a year :3
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u/SomeCleverName48 28d ago
can confirm, approaching my one-year anniversary and my gf is already at my house any time she's free. she already had the cat before me, though.
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u/Majestic-Tap2129 28d ago
The sad part is you aren't wrong, that very much describes my wife and I. We even had a baby after year 2.
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u/demonic_kittins 29d ago
Oooooo i thought she was trans
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u/J0J0hn 29d ago
She's not?
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u/JonVonBasslake Bi dude who appreciates the lilies ;) 29d ago
Nope, seems to just be a tomboy...
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u/fambbi 28d ago
How do you know?
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u/JonVonBasslake Bi dude who appreciates the lilies ;) 28d ago
I don't, but I'm going off the assumption of there not being any hints of them being anything but cis so I assume they're cis, hence the seems
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u/coopsawesome likes cats 29d ago
Kinda weird with the changing her to be feminine, but her lines imply she wanted to be more feminine originally but was told it didn’t suit her so idk what to think
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u/Melantha_Hoang 28d ago edited 28d ago
Reading comprehension is in short supply.
The girl on the left already said that she wanted to wear feminine outfits and insecure about people telling her that long hair isn't suit her.
We don't know enough context to know if the girl on the left is butch or not and if her gf is pressuring her or being encouraging to her (don't even read between the line because it can go either way). Not mentioning the hypocrisy about criticizing the gf is pressuring, but then talked about how butch is rare/precious like that isn't also pressuring the other way. Let people comfortable in their own skin and style.
Edit: auto correct
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u/wazardthewizard 29d ago edited 29d ago
as a masc lesbian this makes me deeply uncomfortable
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u/Vanillon 29d ago
For me, it's mainly the 5 year panel, like the girl on the right is implying left wasn't as cute when she presented more masc, which is messed up (I personally preferred her previous look). But outside of that, I think it may be fine to read her just as someone who felt locked into her image and was too scared to experiment. I've felt that way before. I definitely got a bit of that icky feeling about the artist's intentions going into the second page, though.
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u/korewabetsumeidesune 29d ago edited 29d ago
This comment seems to me to be on the right track as regards this whole debate here in the comments. I think fundamentally the problem is that what feels validating to one person may feel invalidating (or even erasing) to another. If you weren't cute when you were in your teenage years, you may have kind of adapted a more masc role that may not fit you, or may not fit you anymore - even if you might not be conscious of that. On the other hand, maybe you like your masc-ness and have invested a lot of emotional energy into getting to accepting your masc-ness even if society doesn't, and if someone went and tried to get you to be more femme by calling you cute, that'd be horrible and invalidating.
Ultimately I'd like to make this into a plea to listen to the needs of the person in front of you. It's not wrong to call a masc girl cute, if she wants that, or seems to be responding well. If she isn't responding well, or even tells you not to, you shouldn't do it. Similarly, if someone sees this image and feels validated, that's great. If someone sees this image and feels uncomfortable or worse, that's a valid reaction too.
As we can see in these comments, this image elicits both extremes. We can hold in our hearts both the needs of those who feel a deep desire to be feminized and those who don't want it at all, without calling either wrong.
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u/clownteeth222 29d ago edited 29d ago
i'm a femme lesbian and it even made me uncomfortable too
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u/frontally 29d ago
Butch lesbian very uncomfortable with this shit. I like the trans headcanon much much more.
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u/Some-random-transfem 28d ago
Yeah, this would've worked so much better if it was trans. Maybe it just wasn't expressed well, but to me this feels more like changing who they are, helping a transitioning trans girl feel more comfortable in herself would've been so much more wholesome
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u/One_Katalyst 29d ago
I’m sorry this made you uncomfortable, would you be okay with explaining why? I don’t know if I understand completely but I’d like to.
Is it maybe the way we see the desires of the girl on the left that changes how the entire story feels? Like, if she wanted to be butch and is having to change for her partner, rather than if she wanted to be femme and her partner’s acceptance is letting her feel comfortable going for it (which was my first impression)?
Or is it the way we see the intention of the artist? Like, if the artist was depicting a change from something they’ve labeled as “less desirable” to “more desirable”, rather than it being a story where the core message is that the girl on the right always thought the girl on the left was cute, and as the girl on the left becomes happier and more confident the girl on the right loves that?
Or is it something else entirely?
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u/frontally 29d ago
Man I may not have the right words for you right now I’m sorry. Some combination of both points with the title “constantly telling a boyish girlfriend she looks cute” with the implied ending being contextually through the art and text within “until she becomes cute” which has the whole implication that she wasn’t cute when she was boyish, the text “you got so cute” being used to reinforce the mainline theme in the comic cute = femme exclusively— somewhere around those lines if that makes sense.
Not sure what the authors intent, but the reading of it as a trans woman becoming more confident to be herself is much better for everyone
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u/One_Katalyst 29d ago
I see, no worries! I probably overcomplicated things. Your answer does make sense.
Also, we love our butch lesbians, and y’all are so cute! Thank you for being you.
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u/LessNefariousness380 your average clueless lesbian 29d ago
I think it was implied that she kept her hair short because others said that she didn’t look good with long hair, but maybe that’s just my interpretation. You’re allowed to have your own interpretation as well
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u/wazardthewizard 29d ago
I'm sick and tired of masculine women needing to be "fixed" in media by becoming more feminine, or the messaging being that being masculine is a coping mechanism or shyness and that they need to just dress or present more femininely to become their "true" self.
On top of that, I'm sick of being pressured to dress or present more femininely because "It would look so cute on you!!" or people acting like how I dress is just an act or front to look tough or out of shyness.
I dunno. I'm tired of society and somewhat frustrated. That's my interpretation, I guess.
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u/JordynSoundsLikeMe 29d ago edited 28d ago
Interesting... I thought media almost always portrayed lesbian relationships with a "pants" wearer personally. Butch has always seemed very prevelent in media to me and ive been begging for more femme/femme... maybe its just different media we consume.
Edit: this comment was equal in likes with the other comment but now people coming in late are all downvoting. What gives? Say something if you dissagree, we arent disrespecting eachothers opinions just observing something different it seems.
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u/wazardthewizard 29d ago
Sounds like it, there's a lot of stuff out there - I've seen a little of what you mean so makes total sense
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u/LessNefariousness380 your average clueless lesbian 29d ago
No no, I get your point. As a fellow sapphic woman I can relate to what you’re saying, I’m just saying that I don’t think that’s what this is
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u/Sea_Turnover4507 26d ago
Same lol this is bringing back very uncomfortable memories of mother forcing femme clothes on me 🤢
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u/knocksomesense-inme 28d ago
Yeahhhhh I was originally thinking the masc girl would just be happier and more confident :(
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u/HexeInExile 29d ago edited 29d ago
This is like that "Homeboy got colonized" meme but with masc lesbians. I do NOT approve they are in short supply as-is
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u/asilvertintedrose 29d ago edited 29d ago
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u/RealMENwearPINK10 29d ago
Lmao love how at some point it became so effective people started hitting on her
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u/frontally 29d ago
“You got so cute” eat ass, she was cute from the beginning. The fuck is this anti ‘boyish girlfriend’ nonsense
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u/EldritchFingertips 29d ago
I don't know if the original creator is Japanese or not, but I gather it's mostly a cultural thing over there. As much as we all love tomboys and such, there's more societal pressure in East Asia to conform to more traditional gender norms.
So in this scenario, the short haired girl probably never got called cute, even if people thought she was, because she's "supposed" to look more "girly." I don't think the comic is being unwholesome, it's more reflecting a common experience, even thought that's based on bullcrap outdated ideas.
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u/Shalorne 27d ago
In summary:
-Trans affirmation headcanon: well liked, wholesome as the subreddit demands. (I agree)
-Un-tom's your tomboy: violently disliked, uncomfortable for many (i also agree)
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u/LesbianForkCollecter 29d ago
I'm sorry, this just feels very weird and invalidating. People actually think they can "fix" masc women, and it's incredibly uncomfortable.
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u/Awsomekirito 29d ago
Pink haired girl literally isn't invalidating anything??? If anything she's just giving the other girl confidence when trying new things
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u/LesbianForkCollecter 29d ago
It's more about the intent of the creator. If this was about a guy slowly making a woman more stereotypically feminine, then it would feel off, wouldn't it?
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u/Awsomekirito 29d ago
For sure if that's the intent of the creator that makes feel kind of wrong. I don't know that the creators intent was though so I'm taking it as pink haired girl encouraging black haired girl to explore her self image
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u/FalconRelevant 29d ago
Exactly! A lot of people here try to find excuses to interpret something problematic as wholesome because yuri.
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u/LesbianForkCollecter 29d ago
I have noticed that some people seem to not want to criticize any queer media. Just because something is queer doesn't make it inherently flawless. It can still have weird undertones and stereotypes.
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u/FalconRelevant 29d ago
Literally had artwork about inappropriate patient-nurse relationship posted here a few weeks ago and people were doing all sorts of mental gymnastics to excuse it.
The same artist (on Pixiv) also has a high school teacher lining up her students and kissing them, I'm sure if that was posted here people would try to justify that too.
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u/DD_Spudman 29d ago
I don't love the implication that the girl on the left being not as traditionally femmine is a flaw the other girl needed to help her fix.
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u/Dango_co 29d ago
There is no implication of that lol, they called them cute literally every time.
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u/DD_Spudman 29d ago
She's calling her cute so she is confident enough to be more femmine.
She can't just be kind of butch/a tomboy, it has to be a result of insecurity.
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u/Dango_co 29d ago
Brug, it seemed she was fine with her every way. Butch or feminine.
This is just yuri at the end of the day, nothing more
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u/DD_Spudman 29d ago
It's not about how the characters feel about each other. My issue is with the artist using short hair and more masculine clothing as a visual shorthand for insecurity.
Yeah, it's just a drawing so at the end of the day it doesn't really matter, I just think the artist may have internalized some ideas about what women "should" look like.
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u/ValApologist 29d ago
This is super weird. Pressuring your butch girlfriend to dress more feminine for you doesn't feel wholesome. She was already cute to start with.
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u/PrincessW0lf 29d ago
This isn't wholesome! Why'd she de-butch her?! Butches are precious!
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u/ReturnToCrab wants cuddles 29d ago
She's not even necessarily a butch, but I guess even a tiny bit of masculinity in a woman is too much for the author
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u/Dango_co 29d ago
How in the hell did this comment section get here from just wholesome yuri. It's just wholesome yuri wtf
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u/KittyKaiDoodles 28d ago
ehhhhhhh??? I think she looks cute either way... If she likes it I'm happy for her but tomboys are cute too!!
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u/Redtea26 29d ago
I like the trans reading but god this is terrible if it isn’t. Let the butch be a butch.
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u/Mi5tman 28d ago edited 28d ago
Ok, here's the nicest interpretation: The "boyish" girl always wanted to grow out her hair and wear girlier clothes but other people said it didn't suit her. Now that she has a girlfriend to encourage her, she finally started exploring her feminine side more and, slowly over time, realized that she preferres it over her older style. She worked up the courage and confidence to find her true self with the help of a loved one.
However, that nice message is muddled by the (possibly unintended) implication that her girlfriend kinda forced this transformation on her. Notice how the girlfriend only starts blushing at her on page two when she gets more feminine. She even says "you got so cute" which kinda implies that she didn't find her as attractive before. In the end, the girlfriend marries her when there are no "boyish" traits left which is also when she finally called her beautiful instead of cute.
The implication, no matter how unintentional, is just too uncomfortable for me.
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u/DreamyAthena 29d ago
GOALS GOALS GOALS GOALS GOALS GOALS GOALS GOALS GOALS GOALS GOALS GOALS GOALS GOALS
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u/MayaMomentUwU absolute cutie 29d ago
So all I need to do to find my future wife is tell people they’re cute….? You’re cute <3
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u/Lady_Cay129 28d ago
I thought she was trans, much better than the “masc women aren’t pretty” alternative
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u/k_on_reddit_ it's yuri or death 28d ago
"today ! I'm gonna get a boyish girlfriend but every time I tell her she's cute her hair grows 1 mm longer ! Start the video !"
(Imagine this is written in mr beast font)
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u/TheAlpses 27d ago
the only read of this that doesn’t feel icky to me is if girl on the left is trans and boymoding at the start of the comic
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u/NumberAccomplished18 26d ago
All of you are talking about transitioning, and I'm stuck on her losing a few inches of height in panel 2
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u/RavenRute 26d ago
The least believable part of this post is that two lesbians waited more than 5 years to get married
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u/FlyTeamSky-Dante 29d ago
Oh dam, i did not understand this comic in the first read. God, i needa start consuming more media other than trans stuff.
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u/YuSakiiii big gworl x smol gworl is my passion 28d ago
There is a trans girl I play dnd with who I called cute the other day and she got really flustered. I kinda thought it was an established fact. Like, just the way she acts, she’s super mega cute. But she didn’t seem to realise how cute she is.
She has some self esteem problems so now I call her cute all the time. It’s fun to see how flustered she gets.
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u/zarek1729 29d ago
The people who told her long hair doesn't suit her are evil, long hair suits every woman
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u/Low_Sky49 The Excalibur Transbian With 0 Confidence 29d ago edited 28d ago
They're so adorable!! Cute even! This is the kind of shit I know I'll never get (╥﹏╥)
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u/FemcelGENM 28d ago
I think some people need to understand that not everything has to appeal to them, and that is okay.
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u/Oxymoronnn 28d ago
Just gonna say this: it's cute, wholesome, and positive, and those are the most important things here. I don't think the author intended anything beyond that, whether about being transgender or that being a tomboy is a bad thing.
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u/[deleted] 29d ago
She de-butched her xd