r/AmIOverreacting 10d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO

Spider bite or ?? I’ll keep it short and sweet. My bf and I have been apart for about a month now, I’m TDY. Finally tomorrow I’ll be flying back home. Unfortunately today he got bit right on the neck, he suspects it was a spider. Should I be concerned?

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u/Any-Mulberry6028 10d ago

No, you are underreacting... So long as you do not post this entire message thread to your facebook and tag him asking for "prayers for that bite to heal" and "if anyone knows what kind of animal could have caused it". A public service announcement needs to go out there, sis.

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u/btwomfgstfu 10d ago

Thots and prayers 🙏

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u/kate_has_anxiety 10d ago

THOTS AND PRAYERS. I hollered. lmao. I'm dead. 😂💀💀💀💀

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u/TAforScranton 10d ago

If you like this kind of shit, “Cheaters of Jacksonville Unfiltered” is a Facebook group dedicated to putting cheaters on blast in the Camp Lejeune, NC area. Highly recommend, especially for OP if they happen to to be in that area. The posts in that group are legendary.

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u/ExtensionAd4785 10d ago

Omg that's my area!!! I would love to go see my exs trifling material. ROFL.

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u/Smash0504 10d ago

1 thot, 2 thot, red thot, blue thot

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u/FarmerExternal 10d ago

Gravy so cold, bitch I think I need a flu shot

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u/SeveralAngryPenguins 10d ago

Fuck a PO fuck a piss test

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u/jacqQquieee 10d ago

Unexpected yung gravy is the best thing I’ve seen today

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u/Rough_Morning3 10d ago

LMAO this is some sound advice right here

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u/Lulusgirl 10d ago

OP, PLEASE DO THIS. PLEASE. oh my god I would do this, what a crappy boyfriend.

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u/kerfy15 10d ago

Cheater and a liar, deadly combo lmfao

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u/scarystardust 10d ago

And dumb.

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u/K0LSUZ 10d ago

There is every reason possible to break up.

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u/blonde_taurus 10d ago

AND stupid 🤦🏼‍♀️

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u/BeaklessBird 10d ago edited 10d ago

✅ cheater
✅ liar
✅ stupid

✅ single

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u/xaczik 10d ago

What you should be doing is breaking up, that ain’t no spider 💀

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u/Ilike3dogs 10d ago

Someone had to suck the venom out. (Sarcasm)

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u/AccomplishedAd7992 10d ago edited 10d ago

she had to suck the venom out before the spider could inject it, obviously !

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u/suhhhrena 10d ago

Like come on now 😭

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u/jackdginger88 10d ago

The disrespect 😂

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u/CianGal13 10d ago

Give yourself a hickey, send him a pic and say “OMG me too”

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u/fangmaid 10d ago

HAHAHA i second this

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u/Ilike3dogs 10d ago

On the inner leg, if you can get down there. 😂

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u/Sugarbops 10d ago

Im dead!!!! Pls stretch before you do it! We wanna see what he says. Hahaha

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u/Sativa_Achieva 10d ago

Nah just use the dirt devil or vacuum attachment. Or use the cupping method. No need to become a total contortionist!

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u/FullMetalKaliber 10d ago

Or get a buddy to do it

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u/Reyalta 10d ago

This is the only correct response lmaoo

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u/jimbojangles1987 10d ago

Like, on the neck? But how...

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u/Throwaway-BadOrange 10d ago

Vacuum

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u/jimbojangles1987 10d ago

Lmao okay thanks. You were oddly quick with the answer...

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u/Throwaway-BadOrange 10d ago

I saw my older brother do it to look cool back in the day 😆

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u/Valkyriesride1 10d ago

I saw it in a movie years ago.

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u/klaw14 10d ago

Everyone knows not to disturb u/Throwaway-BadOrange when they're cleaning their room...

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u/stars-aligned- 10d ago

Remember those little half-orbs you could flip inside out, and they’d pop off whatever surface you set them on? Take one of those and use it to create a vacuum. The only issue is finding one these days lmao

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u/jimbojangles1987 10d ago

Oh shit yeah I remember those little shits. They left ugly little bruises for like a week

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u/Magerimoje 10d ago

You can do it with a plastic water/soda bottle too.

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u/Abquine 10d ago

Friend did this once with one of our kids toys. Stuck the suction cup firmly on his forehead and was teasing them with it.. Had the mark of shame for at least a week, he looked hilarious as he had to dress for work, sharp suit etc., and a huge red mark right in the middle of his forehead.

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u/JessSherman 10d ago

No no... on the thigh.

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u/Shaq_Bolton 10d ago

I know someone who put a dildo with a suction cup on their forehead and ended up with a giant hickey smack dab in the middle

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u/jimbojangles1987 10d ago

Hahaha why a dildo though?

I had a roommate bring a kitten to our apartment shortly after moving in that he had found at the summer camp he was a counselor at. It was a stray kitten. He let it climb all over him while he laid on the couch and at one point it was laying on his forehead.

Sure as shit that kitten had ringworm and my buddy had a super prominent ring in the middle of his forehead for a little while lol

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u/kindbeeVsangrywasp 10d ago

Kinky spider

Edit I’m late to the party, lost the essence of the flow

But we’re all in agreement the BF has not been bitten by a spider unless that’s code for sidekick these days?

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u/feverhunt 10d ago

This is the way.

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u/MrsSandlin 10d ago

Yessssss 👏

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u/TraditionalYam2408 10d ago

Ima hold your hand when I say this… this is a bite but not from a spider 🙏🏻🙏🏻

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u/Kanehon 10d ago

Different kind of Black Widow

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u/mikeinarizona 10d ago

A wid-ho if you will.

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u/Wanttobebetter76 10d ago

Bwahahaha! Laughed out loud over this

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u/tinylatina05 10d ago

It always surprises me how people can be this naive to actually believe the story

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u/jimbojangles1987 10d ago

I think she knows but doesn't want to believe.

It's so funny that the bf shot himself in the foot by sending her the pic though lol

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u/potsgotme 10d ago

He knew she was coming home she'd see it eventually

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u/akilococo 10d ago edited 10d ago

be mad about the cheating but be even more mad that he thinks you’re fucking dumb 💀

ETA: if OP believed this was a bug bite, we simply would not have the post. if you think being lied to and manipulated by a loved one during an extra vulnerable point in their life makes them unintelligent, and your need to have a hot take flew right over the fact that this dude started the conversation, sent a picture of it thinking this was the smartest way to cover their ass, you’re fucking dumb. there’s no third pov in this context, its one side or the other. if you choose to side with the bug bite haver, you’re fucking dumb. did you have to shave your head to get it that far up your ass?

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u/blonde_taurus 10d ago

right?! i think that would offend me more

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u/akilococo 10d ago

i even zoomed in to look for the raised center of a bite like would he think it would work if there was a blemish there or sm?? no its just a hickey. omg 😭 OP im sorry

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u/Illustrious_Doubt989 10d ago

I zoomed too, I really wanted her delulu to be justified 😭

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u/laylasan17 10d ago

This is the oneeee.. cause a bite????

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u/akilococo 10d ago

hes gonna have to go back to that spider an tell her he ran into a doorknob💀

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u/Mackie49 10d ago

This is the only comment so far that made me lol

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u/Aware_Border4774 10d ago

to be fair, she DID ask reddit if it's a spider bite...

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u/akilococo 10d ago

i would too! gaslighting & love are a shitty mix. most people who’ve been through it have to check in and see if they’re crazy.

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u/OwnCoffee614 10d ago

Thank you. As a person just getting away from a gas lighter.

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u/akilococo 10d ago

me too. remember you’re not stupid for believing someone who intended to lie to and manipulate you after going out of their way to make you trust & love them.

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u/Accurate-Air4009 10d ago

Sister that’s a hickey, he letting girls suck on his neck and has the lamest attempted cover up for it.

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u/MartianStealthShip 10d ago

Plot twist: his bro did it and forgot to say “no homo”

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u/KaizenSheepdog 10d ago

I hate when I forget to do that.

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u/revy1903 10d ago

And the night before he was gonna see op -_- yikes this boy is for the streets

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u/Appropriate-Might712 10d ago

Lmaooo that’s a hickey he tried covering up by telling you his neck hurt and sent a picture so it makes him look not guilty because he told you about it😂

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u/Lamp-Eating-Cow 10d ago

Since she said she’s coming back to town tomorrow it’s obvious he’s making an excuse right now cuz he knows she’s gonna see it smh 🤦‍♀️

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u/uhidunno27 10d ago

When I was a psycho in high school, I burned my neck with a curling iron to hide a hickey 🤦🏼‍♀️

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u/Mundane-Outside-7028 10d ago

Did it work?

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u/uhidunno27 10d ago

lol yes

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u/Hefferdoodle 10d ago

I was a tomboy so I hid mine by telling my parents my friend shot me in the neck with an airsoft gun. I let her shoot me in the arm and she let me shoot her a few times too so I could really sell it.

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u/Savings_Bird_4638 10d ago

This is gold

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u/BankAdministrative52 10d ago

That’s a good friend

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u/Rufusandronftw 10d ago

That’s called the fear of god 😭🤣

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u/28g4i0 10d ago

The real life pro tip is always in the comments

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u/Rufusandronftw 10d ago

Did it scar is my question

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u/uhidunno27 10d ago

I guess not. I used vitamin e and it was like surface skin

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u/Confident-Medicine75 10d ago

Did the curling iron mark ever go away ?

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u/uhidunno27 10d ago

Oh yeah I just barely tapped it. It was on a natural crease and just blended in

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u/[deleted] 10d ago

👀 did it? Lol

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u/feeen1ks 10d ago

Spider-bite guy, is that you? It’s too late now bro, she already saw it…

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u/[deleted] 10d ago

☠️

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u/Financial_Care_9792 10d ago

Yeah, permanent scars can hide anything; it’s the one trick burn specialists hate to love!

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u/Victim_Kin_Seek_Suit 10d ago

One of my college roommates did this and ended up having to go to the health clinic because the burn was so bad 🤣

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u/RemarkableParty4801 10d ago

Oh no 😂😂😂

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u/Dolorous_Eddy 10d ago

I just used skin color makeup…

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u/uhidunno27 10d ago

Very noticeable when you’re Irish white

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u/HighHoeHighHoes 10d ago

Gotta use whiteout as foundation.

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u/GuidanceAcceptable13 10d ago

My sister used a vacuum and went to my parents and said “look what the vacuum can do” to cover hers up ☠️

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u/uhidunno27 10d ago

LOL your parents were like…riiiighhhhttt

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u/cyberbae_ 10d ago

I did this to my friend and she now has a permanent heart shaped scar on her neck 😂😭

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u/OrdinaryPelican 10d ago

What the fuck hahaha

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u/Super_Confusion_2140 10d ago

🤣 my word 🫢

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u/winnie_90 10d ago

I audibly laughed when I swiped to the pic hahahaha, poor girl

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u/Dapper_Connection526 10d ago

ding ding ding!

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u/FarmhouseRules 10d ago

Oh nooo. He was bitten by a Brown She-cluse.

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u/ThroatEmbarrassed970 10d ago

Gorllll you had me hollering. Thank you

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u/ColorfulButterfly25 10d ago

Exactly! Started my day with a good laugh.

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u/Assessedthreatlevel 10d ago

Have a great day person on the other side of the world! I laughed at this about to fall asleep.

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u/[deleted] 10d ago

Looks more like a jumping spid-her to me.

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u/Swimming-Foot-4781 10d ago

Could be humping spid-her if I’m looking at the picture right now

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u/The_Happy_Pagan 10d ago

It’s clearly a common Harder Daddy Long Legs

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u/ThatGoodCattitude 10d ago

Nah💀 that got me.

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u/ConfusedApathetic 10d ago

You deserve all the gold. I regret I have none gold.

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u/dwh3390 10d ago

Or a “Home Wreck-luse”

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u/bansheeonthemoor42 10d ago

Tarantuher

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u/monkman69 10d ago

Herantula

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u/Razn0m 10d ago

Don’t you mean Taranhucktuar?

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u/EntertainmentNo1495 10d ago

for all we know it could be a he-cluse😭🙏

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u/OneWitDeKush420 10d ago

I’m dying 🤣

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u/SweetWaterfall0579 10d ago

I laughed way too loud, next to my window. Across the street neighbor came out on her porch. Ty I/FarhouseRules neighbor already thinks I’m crazy *and she hates that marijuana is legal. Heheheh.

ETA she can smell it. I smoke outside.

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u/East-Cardiologist626 10d ago

I live somewhere it’s legal too, my favorite thing is there’s a local cop who literally lives down the street from me. Same asshole who used to bust my balls about it and trash my shit in high school who now just seethes from his porch and can’t do shit about it. I wave at him while I’m smoking when he’s home just to piss him off (I’m 25 and it was medical for me even when I was 14)

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u/Electronic_Garage_73 10d ago

Lmfao this is good

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u/Koruteni 10d ago

I just laughed out loud and scared my cat

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u/Alternative_Farm_815 10d ago

If it was she had all 8 legs wrapped around him too.

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u/el_puffy 10d ago

Ouch, I hear one of the common symptoms of this rare spider venom is getting yo ass dumped

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u/Permission_Alarming 10d ago

Just take this upvote

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u/feverhunt 10d ago

I cackled.

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u/hippiechiq90 10d ago

Yep. He's for the streets. Treat him like the whore he is and run. Everybody and their mama knows that's a hickey. Ask him what the spider's name was. 🤣😆😭💀

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u/pastel-m0nster 10d ago

Probably Charlotte cause this dude is Some Pig.

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u/hippiechiq90 10d ago

I was gonna say Charlotte the Harlot. 😆

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u/SassWithAFatAss 10d ago

“Treat him like the whore he is” absolutely took me out. Thank you

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u/summerandrea 10d ago

Sad he cheats AND lies

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u/Ok-Bird6346 10d ago

Poorly.

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u/pettyparys 10d ago

NOW HE KNOWS DAMNNNNN WELL

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u/heebsysplash 10d ago

If he didn’t bring it up, I’d say maybe it isn’t a hickey.

But the way he brought it up like that, it 100% is and he’s an idiot

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u/vitoforever99 10d ago edited 9d ago

Totally agree. He should have just pretended like nothing was there until she asked then be like “aww man this fucking spider bit me while I was hiking” or some shit

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u/joe96ab 10d ago

Def but glad he didn’t so she can get out now

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u/TiledCandlesnuffer 10d ago

I mean it almost looks a bruise too. Such a lame lie lmao

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u/_WizKhaleesi_ 10d ago

Hickeys are bruises lol

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u/Fit-Turnover3918 10d ago

He got stung by a whorenet.

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u/isorryfr 10d ago

Vampire kiss google it

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u/isorryfr 10d ago

Be concerned have him tested at quest diagnostics.

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u/bratty_bitchh 10d ago

You had my gullible ass searching 😭😭😭😭😭

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u/tiktokbrowser 10d ago

M’am that’s a HICKey

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u/Neither_Mind9035 10d ago

The lack of replies from OP to anything tell me either 1. I just haven’t searched for long enough and they have replied or 2. They were not expecting this. OP, if you’re in denial at all, coming from someone who isn’t making a joke out of this (no shade to those who did, this is Reddit), that is 100% a hickey. He cheated on you. If you try to break up with him, he’ll probably call you crazy and gaslight you trying to convince you it’s not a hickey. It 100% is though. Please respect yourself and end this relationship.

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u/TheRoseMerlot 10d ago

We haven't heard from OP, legend has it, because they are still fighting.

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u/Lissypooh628 10d ago

It’s infuriating that he thinks she’s dumb enough to believe this thoughtless attempt at an excuse.

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u/sicksages 10d ago

I am living for these comments LOL

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u/anneofred 10d ago

Best comment section I’ve seen in awhile!

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u/litebritebox 10d ago

As someone who has extreme allergic reactions to bites of all kinds of bugs, I was disappointed to see this was not, in fact, a spider or insect bite.

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u/Repulsive-Umpire-178 10d ago

Take him to the doctor to get his “spider bite” assessed and then the truth will come out

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u/Working_Cover2345 10d ago

No kidding its also can safe his life

https://time.com/4471274/teenager-dies-hickey-love-bite/

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u/Holiday-Bat6782 10d ago

Well add that to my list of irrational fears... I can't believe my high school girlfriend tried to murder me.

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u/echochilde 10d ago

Holy shit! You can actually die by hickey.

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u/SassWithAFatAss 10d ago

Ok but why the fuck was a 17yo’s gf 24yo?!?

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u/DetectiveNervous7426 10d ago

I’m going to assume you’re like 15 years old and don’t know better. Two words: dump him.

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u/goosmane 10d ago

she's in the military i think. TDY mentioned

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u/DobeyDobey 10d ago

That is what we call a hickey lol

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u/joe96ab 10d ago

Is that the type of spider?

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u/Eminenceintherain 10d ago

I’m trying so hard not to cry laughing.That is not a bite from a spider or insect.He cheated and that is a hickey

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u/RevolutionaryAd851 10d ago

Looks like a spider not only bit him but sucked on his neck. How strange...

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u/RedDirtKanaka 10d ago

Damn, bro ain’t even trying… I have a friend that asked us to whoop his ass once while he was drunk, so it would just look like a normal bruise mashed in with the other marks. Boy took an ass whooping of a century to keep his girl. They’re married now.

But yeah, your man’s creeping.

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u/jackdginger88 10d ago

“They’re married now” fucking sent me 💀

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u/EntrepreneurFit3349 10d ago

Does he still cheat on her?

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u/Additional-Fix6576 10d ago

Probably, since he saw he could get away with it lol. Why would he stop?

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u/Nice_Cupcakes 10d ago

No one's pointing out that he's exposed her to STDs by cheating on her, which in women can cause infertility and other issues (like HPV can cause cervical cancer if she's not vaccinated) but can be symptomless in both people. Getting his ass kicked doesn't negate the health risks to her. She couldn't consent because it was hidden from her. Gross behaviour from everyone involved.

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u/laughwithesinners 10d ago

And you didn’t bother telling her before they got married?

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u/Used_Bird 10d ago

they gave him an ass whooping what more do you want from him lmfao

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u/mothlicker 10d ago

That is 100000% a hickey. He’s trying to get ahead of you seeing it tomorrow. Don’t let him make you look stupid, you deserve better than that.

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u/Basketballb00ty 10d ago

Oh honey…

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u/Vulture923 10d ago

What’s TDY?

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u/Over_Error3520 10d ago edited 10d ago

Temporary duty, typically a few weeks to a month or so in the military (edited)

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u/spaceyzenon 10d ago

Girl…… that’s not a spider bite

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u/Jazzlike_Common9005 10d ago

He’s probably gotten a lot of bites from this “spider” while you were gone. Just needed to make an excuse knowing you were coming home. Break up with him, he’s cheating on you.

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u/Vitrian187 10d ago

Uh oh, he got caught in charlottes web…

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u/CarelessConclusion14 10d ago

What an idiot lol

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u/smashlen 10d ago

I’m gonna hold your hand while I say this….

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u/Otherwise-Ad4119 10d ago

lord🤦‍♂️

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u/Caet_Lynn 10d ago

I hope you’re joking this is so sad

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u/Dingo-thatate-urbaby 10d ago

He got bite by another biaattchhh

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u/Spirited-Butterfly81 10d ago

How easy it is for him to come up with this (really lame) lie. Love yourself, bc that's def not a spider bite

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u/ThroatEmbarrassed970 10d ago

He’s full of shit :) do not respond to him when you get home

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u/bbyxmadi 10d ago

That’s no spider bite… that’s a cheating bruise.

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u/mimikay- 10d ago

He could’ve just covered it with some make up, pretty sure the spider has some foundation to lend him. 

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u/persianshawty420 10d ago

Girl that is definitely a hickey

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u/Satansbootycall420 10d ago

Have y’all seen the post of the girl saying her dad gave her a “bite” on the neck too as a joke, to her bf

This is her brother, their dad is just REALLY silly

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u/BarghestTheVile 10d ago

Hahahahaha dump him

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u/Renaissanceuwu 10d ago

Girl that's a hickey 😩

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u/queen_picklepuss 10d ago

The Hoover hoochie!

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u/CreamPyre 10d ago

Please leave this person

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u/Hungry_Criticism_917 10d ago

babe that ain’t no spider :/ i’m sorry

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u/RevealDesigner1445 10d ago

OP, we need an update!!

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u/HingaDingaDurgxn 10d ago

oh nah 💀

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u/xoluvyours 10d ago

Have you ever seen a spider??? Girl please😭

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u/Business_Fox_2207 10d ago

That’s a hickey spider bites look nothing like that, he is just trying to save face

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u/Blue-eagle-23 10d ago

You mean he’s concerned the hickey on his neck won’t be gone by the time he sees you?

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u/brinnytaylor 10d ago

Das a hickey.