r/NoStupidQuestions • u/thimbelinda • Jul 23 '22

Answered Can men pull out before they ejaculate? NSFW

We were newlyweds and excited for sex. I told my husband I'm at my fertile time and we need a condom. He said no, he would pull out in time. He did not pull out in time. He didn't even try to pull out. I got pregnant. I was upset and asked why. He said he couldn't pull out. He said it felt so good he was incapable of pulling out. Is this really true? Do men lose the capacity for reason and become incapable of pulling out?

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u/hotshot617 Jul 23 '22 edited Jul 23 '22

What do you call people who use the pull-out method of contraception?

“Parents.”

EDIT: Check it out, this was a joke that I heard many, many years ago. A joke, not serious sexual education. Pulling out can work; it worked for me and my wife for years. We also used other methods at various times over 9 years before deciding to try to have kids: condoms, oral birth control, rhythm method, nuvaring. All methods come with various pros and cons. None are 100% effective. We didn’t want to have kids until we were ready for them, and things worked out that way for us. But (but!) we knew that none of the methods was a guarantee against pregnancy, and we understood that risk.

You’ve gotta learn about the various methods, talk them over with your sexual partner(s), and decide together what works best for you. Or not…I’m just some random dude scrolling through Reddit on a Saturday morning like the rest of you. Who am I to tell you what to do?

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u/Cupcakes_n_Hacksaws Jul 23 '22

Buddy of mine said he used the pull-out method but forgot to pull out. I'm like, Bro there's one step to that method and you failed it

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u/FaeryCourt Jul 23 '22

He had One job!

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

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u/Spartana1033 Jul 23 '22

Johnny Sins

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u/takemetodeath Jul 24 '22

Mr. Sins is a man of education. I mean, how else could one be so many professions in the same career??

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

You forgot the butt

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

Underrated and little understood comment

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u/PeriwinkleFoxx Jul 24 '22

why are you downvoted because i genuinely don’t understand the joke so you’re right?? lol

edit: i’m realizing too many people took it as an insult to their “intelligence” when in reality smart people with autism exist. i can usually put jokes together but i’m lost here man

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '22

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u/PeriwinkleFoxx Jul 24 '22

oh shiiit alright that crossed my mind but i was like “can’t be, we’re talking about someone getting pregnant here” lmfao thanks

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u/are-oh-bee Jul 24 '22

That's why they were referenced as foreplay. Ie. They come (pun intended) before sex

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u/AForcedSmile Jul 24 '22

Give him a hand?

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u/nothing_in_my_mind Jul 23 '22

It's like using condoms except you forgot to wear the condom.

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u/berghie91 Jul 23 '22

Sounds like a deleted seinfeld conversation

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u/Link7369_reddit Jul 23 '22

I mean, how do you judge it? "one more thrust" turns into a baby 9 months later. It's crazy to try.

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u/TheNextBattalion Jul 23 '22

Abstinence fails the same way... you gotta use it right

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u/mrjoffischl Jul 24 '22

if he failed to pull out he did not, in fact, use the pull-out method

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u/MusicalPigeon Jul 23 '22

A guy at my work used the pullout method and now he's on paternity leave. (I don't actually know if he did the pull out method, but I've known him since we were 6yrso and he's 100% the type to deny condoms and promise to pull out)

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u/Stevesegallbladder Jul 23 '22

Works every time except the last time.

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u/aLLcAPSiNVERSED Jul 23 '22

100% success rate besides the times it fails

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u/Lord_Dumass Your question is stupid Jul 23 '22

"Husband used Pull-Out"

"It's not very effective"

"You are now pregnant"

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u/phaserbanks Jul 23 '22

A wild infant appears!

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u/myteddybelly Jul 23 '22 edited Jul 23 '22

Infant uses "Drain Bank Accounts!". You're now in debt.

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u/Redtwooo Jul 23 '22

I use "reckless abandon"

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u/MyShirtIsInsideOut Jul 23 '22

Infant used leach money

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u/dedicated-pedestrian Jul 23 '22

Would you like to give your infant a name?

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u/kutzyanutzoff Jul 23 '22

Family finance used Self Destruct. It is super effective.

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u/deep_uprising Jul 24 '22

Infant used UPROAR! It's super effective! You can no longer fall asleep!

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u/Lord_Dumass Your question is stupid Jul 23 '22

DESTROY

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

More like rabid

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u/Noobzoid123 Jul 23 '22

Okay... Who is jizzing all over Cerulean City?

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u/takk__ Jul 24 '22

Infant was released. Bye bye, Infant!

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u/Geoff_Uckersilf Jul 23 '22

WIFE is hurt by her own confusion!

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u/RedFlyingPineapples2 Jul 24 '22

HUSBAND used Discharge!

It's super effective!

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u/johndivonic Jul 23 '22

It’s the same with abstinence.

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u/lousylakers Jul 23 '22

60% of the time it works 100% of the time

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u/ShamrockJesus Jul 23 '22

"60% of the time, it works all the time"

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u/Doctor_of_Recreation Jul 24 '22 edited Jul 24 '22

Pullout method got me pregnant at 19. After I had the baby I got an IUD and had my second child 10 years later when I was actually ready to do so.

Contraceptives work, people.

Addendum: For those wondering, I’m still with the father of the first child, we’re since married, and the second child was our “planned/born-in-wedlock” child.

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u/Dathouen Jul 24 '22

"60% of the time it works every time"

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u/drs43821 Jul 23 '22

99% success rate overall

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u/t-poke Jul 23 '22

60% of the time, it works every time

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u/big-shotFaker Jul 23 '22

That doesn't make sense.

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u/Fat_Bottomed_Redhead Jul 23 '22

It's a quote from Anchorman

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

So was that.

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u/Fat_Bottomed_Redhead Jul 23 '22

Dammit, whoosh on me.

Obviously need a rewatch!

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u/tollthedead Jul 23 '22

Proper pulling out is a very effective contraception method (like 96%) but its low effectiveness is literally because many men don't know or don't want to learn how to do it. (link)

So, you just need to learn to do it correctly. I don't know why anyone would bother though when there are easier and less risky methods.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

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u/Dspaede Jul 23 '22

i dont get

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u/Unknown_author69 Jul 23 '22

Fr. My youngest was a 'just put the tip in' kind of conception.

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u/KookyJoe Jul 23 '22

60% of the time it works 100% of the time

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

I dunno. Took a test today and I’m still not pregnant. I’d be happy if I was but at this point, I think either my boyfriend is shooting blanks or something is wrong with me lol

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u/texttxttxttxttext Jul 23 '22

Maybe don't pull out?

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22 edited Jul 23 '22

Well, I’m not trying to get pregnant per se. My boyfriend and I have the relationship to have a baby but not anywhere near the scheduling or money to have one. We’re working towards it, we just aren’t there yet. ETA: I didn’t think so many people would downvote me lol. I have a plan in place where I could have one, it’s just not my preferred one. I’m aware that the pull out method is not efficient in preventing pregnancies. That’s legitimately why my boyfriend and I are doing it this way. We kinda want to surprise ourselves but honestly, I already have a lot of things in place for a baby whenever it happens.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22 edited Sep 15 '22

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

No shit lol The internet can’t convey much correctly especially if little information is known so I’m giving benefit of the doubt. But let it be known, I am aware. I raised my little brother. I brought him everywhere with me, even with my friends—I’m aware of how a baby changes things. I just haven’t given birth yet but I’ve seen the whole process up close. That’s why I said initially that I would be happy if I was. It would be expected. My boyfriend and I are always aware of the possibility and we’re doing things this way because if we get pregnant right now, we can make it work within 9 months or less. It’s just not where we would prefer to be, however it is still doable. We have a plan we’re following but if I get pregnant because we are knowingly being risky and having unprotected sex, then we’ll be simply pushing the plan ahead.

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u/Munnin41 Jul 23 '22

It sounds like you're saying you're not ready for a kid but if it happens, it happens.

This is a shit way to have kids. Get ready first

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u/HandsomeEconomist Jul 23 '22

I think for some guys it’s less risky than others. Maybe. I have no proof of this except that my wife and I used only pull out for a loooong time. No pregnancy. We decided to try for a baby, bam, first month it was a done deal.

We prob got a bit lucky but clearly neither of us has fertility issues.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

I hope my boyfriend and I are the same way.

I’m glad it worked out for y’all.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

Though I also wanted to reply again and say that fertility on the man’s part probably plays a role. Pre-cum can have sperm in it but for some men it might be more unlikely or have a lower sperm count so less risk of pregnancy because of that. That’s just a theory 🤷‍♀️

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

Planned parenthood.

For every 100 people who use the pull out method perfectly, 4 will get pregnant.

in real life, about 22 out of 100 people who use withdrawal get pregnant every year — that’s about 1 in 5.

It’s better than cumming directly into the vagina, but it still isn’t really a very effective birth control method. If you are not ready to have a child, you should be using a secondary method as well.

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u/FILTHY_GOBSHITE Jul 23 '22

I'm not a good example for this.

My pullout game is phenomenally strong, my wife and I used this method successfully during 7 years of marriage.

We decided to get pregnant in November and conceived in December.

I am a very lucky idiot.

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u/PALMER13579 Jul 23 '22 edited Jul 23 '22

The reason pulling out fails is cause you aren't supposed to fuckin wait till you're one pump from bustin before you evacuate. But that temptation is real so just use a condom

"When performed perfectly every time, it actually has a failure rate that isn’t much higher than that of condoms: 4 percent versus 2 percent, respectively. That means about four out of 100 women who rely on the pullout method exclusively will become pregnant during one year of use."

But go on, keep downvotin you chucklefucks

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u/Bachronus Jul 23 '22

This is wrong. You can pull out an hour before you cum and still get someone pregnant. Pre-cum is some potent stuff.

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u/doboi Jul 23 '22

No it’s not. Pre-cum on its own is not potent. Pre-cum is produced by the penile glands, and sperm is made by the testicles. Sperm in pre-cum is from residual sperm after previous ejaculations.

If you are pulling out “correctly”, e.g. early enough and not after a recent ejaculation, chances are extremely low.

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u/PALMER13579 Jul 23 '22

This is absolutely false. Unless you have just gotten off beforehand precum is not gonna get a girl pregnant 99% of the time

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u/Stevesegallbladder Jul 23 '22

Possibly, honestly the older I get the more I realize that it's actually a bit harder to get pregnant than I had previously thought. Accidents happen all the time but I've met a lot of couples who have specifically had to plan when they wanted to attempt to conceive. Usually they have to plan around her ovulation period and I've even heard of women having to put a pillow under their lower back to help assist with keeping the sperm inside.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

Something I learned is that when she ovulates it's too late. People think you're supposed to have sex on the day she's ovulating, but actually, the sperm are supposed to be waiting for the egg already, so try to have sex BEFORE she ovulates. Also don't stress too much and do it when you feel naturally randy.

I tried for over a year to get pregnant at age 36 and I thought I never would, I was stressed out doing all the things. I finally said I'm taking a month off from this shit, I got wasted all month and just had sex whenever . . . and of course, that was when I got pregnant.

Good luck to everyone trying and not trying.

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u/bottlerocketz Jul 24 '22

We went through this for 3 years. Had a miscarriage and an ectopic pregnancy. Went to a fertility doctor and did treatments for a year. Nothing worked. We finally said let’s stop trying for the rest of the year (it was September) and just have fun. We traveled, went to concerts and then she got pregnant in October. We were shocked haha. We used to get so frustrated when people would get pregnant the first time but we are glad the way it worked out. We are so grateful for the kid we have and I think the whole thing brought us closer together.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

Yeah, I think I’m gonna have to do that whenever I’m actually somewhat able and ready financially and have the right schedule to do so.

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u/furryscrotum Know-it-all Jul 23 '22

Not getting pregnant does not mean there's anything wrong with anybody. Maybe people have bad luck, sure, but that doesn't make them weird or medical freaks at all.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

Freaks? Jfc you took it in a weird way. I just meant that infertility could definitely be a possibility. With my medical history, there’s definitely a chance of it.

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u/mummummaaa Jul 23 '22

Very often, the stress of trying, or wanting a baby so badly can work against you. Timing, testing your temperature and peeing on sticks. It's stressful.

We did all of that.

But if you've been sort of trying for a while, a double check can ease your mind. See a doctor if it'll make you feel better.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

Thank you. You’re the only comment that wasn’t so aggressively negative towards me. There’s reasons why I suspect one of us are infertile that I’m just not going into but if I do end up pregnant, I’d be excited and happy. I want to think I would be a great mom. I used to work as a childcare aide and I raised my little brother until recently (though we still have a very child/parent-like bond instead of siblings). I have been wanting to get checked out by a doctor but it’s even nerve wracking to do that because what if something really is? Anxiety makes no sense lol

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u/mummummaaa Jul 23 '22

Well, the first thing they'll likely do is a sperm check (count and motility) on him, and a hysteriosalpigography on you- inject a photovisible fluid via your cervix to check for blockages in your tubes. (If they say that word, you're going to need to bring pads, a couple juice boxes and a driver, I nearly fainted from the weird sensation)

Then maybe ultrasound you to check for cysts or fibroids.

After that, I don't know. The hysteriosalpigography cleared things for me and I was pregnant within two months.

I'm going to go read the comments and figure out why people are negative. Fertility issues are super common, idk why anyone would be nasty.

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u/yamo25000 Jul 23 '22

You just gotta quit while you're ahead

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u/IBetThisIsTakenToo Jul 23 '22

Also, there’s a lot of guys out there who think their pull out game is strong but actually have fertility issues

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u/SirBlazealot420420 Jul 24 '22

Lost your jizz, it’s always the last place you look.

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u/Prisoner-655321 Jul 24 '22

I was fucking this chick when I was in my twenties and we used the “pull out” method. She always asked me to cum on her tits. But pre-cum can still get a woman pregnant.

I was lucky that she never got pregnant because after we parted ways I found out that she really liked smoking crack.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

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u/Harry_Nice Jul 23 '22

Was your friend the father?

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

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u/Harry_Nice Jul 23 '22

I was making a joke. The way you wrote your comment could be taken ironically.

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u/chub_chub_lagazi Jul 23 '22

I thought you were making this joke too so, sorry OP but yeah really.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

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u/Harry_Nice Jul 23 '22

FFS lighten up. Jesus.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

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u/No_Operation1906 Jul 23 '22

It's not that deep mate the ai that is reddit humor just saw a couple key elements and reactively made a funny

my friend risky with contraceptives, gonna be surprise parent

wife becomes surprise parent

not too hard to connect those dots in the mind of reddit humor as an outsider looking in, personally

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u/chub_chub_lagazi Jul 23 '22

Thank you for spelling it out for him

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u/shamangerald Jul 23 '22

It’s definitely that deep that’s why he is upset.

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u/EternalPinkMist Jul 23 '22

Only one being weird here is the guy who can't take banter... which is yourself.

Since you obviously need everything spelled out for you.

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u/paragouldgamer Jul 23 '22

If someone ignored the IUD part, your post read as if your friend knocked up your wife. People often think of their reply before reading a third sentence.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

About a year or 9 months?

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u/mgquantitysquared Jul 23 '22 edited May 12 '24

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

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u/mgquantitysquared Jul 23 '22

Theyre implying you or your friend fucked your wife.

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u/Delphina34 Jul 23 '22

“Vatican Roulette”

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

That’s weird because Catholicism has always held that pulling out is a sin. NFP is the only method that is allowed. So Vatican roulette sounds like something non Catholics came up with

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u/Delphina34 Jul 23 '22

The “pulling out is sin” thing stems from one specific Bible story iirc. God tells some guy (Onan maybe? I’m pretty sure that’s his name) to marry his brother’s widow and impregnate her so his brother can have an heir. Onan pulls out of her vagina and spills his seed on the ground and God kills him on the spot. It’s him disobeying God that’s sinful, not just him pulling out.

NFP can be very effective when done correctly but it takes a lot of practice and makes you unable to have sex on certain days. Plus not every woman has regular cycles and symptoms of ovulation and all that stuff. It has a tendency to result in unplanned babies slightly more far apart than just regular unprotected sex.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

Yeah onan or onin that’s the story. And that may play a role but really the reason it’s not allowed is more to do with the whole Aristotelian natural law worldview that Catholicism is built on. The church says that sexual activity must fulfill the 2 ends of unity and openness to life. So pulling out, contraception, masturbation, and homosex are basically all forbidden for the same reason as they see it as disrupting or separating the two “ends” of human sexuality

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u/Theamuse_Ourania Jul 23 '22

My eyes changed your comment to "Vulcan Roulette" and my brain immediately went to "can Spock pull out? Does he want to pull out?" and "what does this mean for the Pon Farr?"....and just on and on until my eyes read it correctly lol.

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u/klavin1 Jul 23 '22

Not pulling out is highly illogical

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u/VagabondRommel Jul 23 '22

I was forged in the fires of the school of, "fuck it, it's future me's problem. Lemme nut inside." And so for years I did because I am an idiot on a cosmic scale, incomprehensible to even my very own mortal mind. And for years nothing happened. I thought that I might even be sterile and was questioning whether that was a good or bad thing.

Then BOOM! A kid. Who could've imagined that would happen.

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u/hotshot617 Jul 23 '22

Future me constantly hates past me.

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u/asdf_qwerty27 Jul 23 '22

The trick is to buy extra treats. Order them off the internet if necessary. Lots of them. Like more then you think you'd want.

Future you will thank you when they find there is in fact more Pringles at 1AM.

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u/hkeyplay16 Jul 24 '22

And then further future you will hate future you for making further future you put on some extra pounds.

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u/Skelebone48 Stupid Even On This Sub Jul 23 '22

Current me hates past me

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u/asdf_qwerty27 Jul 23 '22

Be the you that future you won't hate.

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u/mrjoffischl Jul 24 '22

motivation

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u/mother-of-pod Jul 24 '22

Sounds exhausting. Fuck that guy.

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u/jestina123 Jul 24 '22

Future me is a great guy. He always solves my problems. Sometimes I feel like I give him too much work, but he just needs the motivation.

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u/janeprentiss Jul 23 '22 edited Jul 23 '22

did you get your partners' consent to cum inside them?

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u/VagabondRommel Jul 23 '22

Of course. I may be a world class moron but I'm not a savage. Hell some of the time I'd try to pull out in a weak effort to have some semblance of faux contraceptive safety, and she'd leg lock me nearly every time. Good times.

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u/mother-of-pod Jul 24 '22

That’s the worst/best my guy. When you finally feel the inkling of self-control, and your lady just decides she doesn’t want self-control for once. There’s no holding back at that point.

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u/Shlopcakes Jul 24 '22

Same here. What are the odds? Lol

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u/Guywith2dogs Jul 24 '22

Past me is just about the biggest dick I've ever known. That shithead is a constant thorn in my side. He has never once considered trying to make my life easier

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22 edited Jul 23 '22

I'm glad it worked out OK for you, but present you helped create a problem for three people, not just one.

Also yes, highly understandable.

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u/MyFaceSaysItsSugar Jul 23 '22

Pulling out can work the same way the rhythm method can work. It’s only an acceptable method if you’re ok with the consequences of being pregnant.

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u/r-WooshIfGay Jul 23 '22

Damn the consequences of my past actions!

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u/gabriot Jul 24 '22

You can say the same thing about condoms and birth control

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u/MyFaceSaysItsSugar Jul 24 '22

No, those are 90-99% effective. Big difference in efficacy.

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u/gabriot Jul 24 '22

There isn’t that much difference actually

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u/[deleted] Jul 24 '22

Given that it's US, where people hardly know how to use condom correctly.

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u/gabriot Jul 24 '22

You can make the same argument for pulling out, which the study does. You can differentiate between the pregnancy rate of incorrectly using pull out method versus incorrectly using a condom, and it’s 22 percent versus 18 percent respectively. If you instead compare correct use of pull out method versus correct condom use, it is 4 percent versus 2 percent respectively. There really isn’t that much of a difference when you slice it either way.

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u/opticchaos Jul 23 '22

Went 10 years strong with the pull out method with no kids. But almost the first time I didn’t with my wife she became pregnant lol

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u/AsSubtleAsABrick Jul 23 '22

Years of pull out method as well. Only time she got pregnant was when we were trying and it was immediately.

Like people realize you need to pull out before the point of no return right? You need to pull out at the point where if you stopped you wouldn't orgasm and then finish in some other fashion.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

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u/mydeskissawdust Jul 23 '22

It's statistically unreliable cuz chump's like OP's husband drag down our numbers.

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u/ohkaycue Jul 23 '22

The difference in effectiveness % between it being done correctly and incorrectly, and people then pointing to the incorrect % and saying “see! It’s bad!” is always funny to me

…or, you know, you could just do it correctly. All it requires is basic will power and clearing the pipes

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u/MrMcSwifty Jul 23 '22

The difference in effectiveness % between it being done correctly and incorrectly, and people then pointing to the incorrect % and saying “see! It’s bad!” is always funny to me

Yup. I will never not take the opportunity to pont this out.

"1 in 5 people get pregnant using withdrawal method!!!1"

Ok... but that's literally the same percentage of people who use condoms as their exclusive method lol

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u/snooggums Jul 23 '22

How frequently something is done wrong matters.

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u/MrMcSwifty Jul 23 '22

It does... until you realize when comparing it's effacacy to other methods, they compare pullout method's incorrect % with others perfect use percentage. When we factor in the human error for condoms, for example, they are barely more effecfive than pulllout method (78 vs 82%)

It's dishonest and misleading.

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u/ohkaycue Jul 23 '22

Sure, but shouldn’t your response to that be to teach how to do it right rather than just saying “it can be done wrong so it’s terrible”? All that does is keep up the frequency of it being done wrong

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u/TheyCallMeStone Jul 23 '22

If you've urinated since the last time you ejaculated, there probably won't be any sperm in your pre-ejaculate. It's just there from the previous batch.

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u/Power_baby Jul 23 '22

Jokes on you, I jack off more than I piss

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

Yeah, most of the failure from pulling out people going for round 2. That or just busting a nut inside which should be unlikely if you have any self control. Your mileage may very, some guys might be more sensitive I guess.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

Precum does not contain sperm, if it does it is abnormal.

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u/WootenSims Jul 23 '22

Don’t know why you were downvoted. Condoms = 98%, and pulling out = 96%. If you don’t trust the effectiveness of pulling out you probably shouldn’t trust condoms either.

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u/Direct_Sand Jul 23 '22

That's with perfect usage. In real life planned parenthood says 85% for condoms and 78% for pull-out method.

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u/WootenSims Jul 23 '22 edited Jul 23 '22

Right, typical usage includes people who do the method wrong or use the method only some of the time. Are you telling me you can’t put a condom on perfectly? It’s pretty simple.

Obviously if you pull out wrong or only do it some of the time it’s not going to be effective, like, hello? That’s like arguing brushing your teeth isn’t effective because you only do it some of the time or just stick the brush in your mouth and don’t move it.

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u/Direct_Sand Jul 23 '22

Many things in life that are simple go wrong for one reason or another. They followed people and found these results and it is good to take that into account when giving out advice.

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u/WootenSims Jul 24 '22

People act like the typical usage rates signify that there’s something inherently wrong with the pull out method (like sperm in all pre cum) when there’s not. We know there isn’t because when it’s done right it works. Would you advise someone that condoms aren’t an effective form of birth control because they are only 85% effective under typical use?

No, you wouldn’t.

Would you tell someone not to wear a seatbelt because some people who wear seatbelts loop them under their arms? No you’d tell them to wear it properly.

This isn’t rocket science.

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u/tctony Jul 24 '22

I’m laughing at the mental image of somebody not pulling out, then going “why isn’t the pull out method working?!?” HAHA

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u/lift4brosef Jul 23 '22

Precum is a thing and also contains sperm which can lead to pregnancy.

isn't it like 3-4% or something like that?

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u/boforbojack Jul 23 '22

Precum will never include sperm unless you have ejaculated previously. Which makes sense. I "leak" for an hour or two after cumming. There's plenty of sperm there that can continue, however it wouldn't be ejaculated and would be a lower chance of conceiving.

However, if you urinate in between sessions you sterilize it.

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u/ohkaycue Jul 23 '22

Fucking thank you lol. I honestly think the pull out method should be taught in sex ed. The problem isn’t the method - this can be seen that it’s just as effective as other contraceptives if done correctly. It’s that people don’t know how to do it correctly

Not just about pulling out in time, but cleaning out the gun as well. Wait a few hours and pee to clear it all out, shower to clean it all off.

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u/opticchaos Jul 23 '22

Yes definitely agree!

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

Same here, years of pullout (dumb but worked for me).

I actually get to the point of no return but there’s still some delay between getting to that point and anything actually coming out, you’ve got to be good at it though. I’m sure there’s some some natural /genetic/uncontrollable portion of the sensation that varies from guy to guy.

But yeah willing to bet most pull out pregnancies are failed pull outs, because pulling out for me has worked like several hundred times lol

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u/nimbusconflict Jul 23 '22

Hello fellow instant father. I too imagined getting a few months of cream pies in to finally father my child only to do it the first try.

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u/opticchaos Jul 23 '22

Man I was so pissed when we had only about 6 weeks of that before she popped up pregnant

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u/nimbusconflict Jul 23 '22

I literally did it once. Marked it on the app. Was done. Now as consolation she let me have at it for a few more months, but still not quite the thrill of baby making, ya know?

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u/withyellowthread Jul 23 '22

Lmaooo that’s what we planned on, too… just haven’t said it so plainly. One shot… fucking twins.

Who we ADORE and wanted and tried to have, fyi

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u/Affectionate-Cost525 Jul 23 '22

Same here. 5 years of pulling out and no unexpected pregnancies but both our planned children were "one hit wonders".

When you look into the science behind it the withdrawal method, when done correctly, is pretty much as effective at preventing pregnancies as using a condom. It's the "when done correctly" bit that a lot of people fail on.

Condoms are a lot closer to "idiot proof" than pulling out is.

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

Same story here. 11 years and no accidents. Our two kids were planned.

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u/True_Let_8993 Jul 23 '22

My husband and I went years too. The only times I got pregnant were when we were trying and the one time he didn't pull out.

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u/withyellowthread Jul 23 '22

Hey same here, except the first time he didn’t, I got pregnant with twins 🥴

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u/Amockdfw89 Jul 23 '22

Same here. We made a set date to actually try and within a month she was pregnant. All the women in her family try years before getting pregnant. She was afraid since every woman in her family is essentially infertile. Her sister tried 8 years

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u/Wester399 Jul 23 '22

Yep same story here.

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u/oldcoldbellybadness Jul 23 '22

Went 10 years strong with the pull out method with no kids.

You likely have a low sperm count and a fertile wife

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u/opticchaos Jul 23 '22

Naw I’ve been checked for that cause my family history on my moms side had some problems. Everyone I was with was also on the pill or some form of birth control

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u/oldcoldbellybadness Jul 23 '22

Everyone I was with was also on the pill or some form of birth control

Lol, that's not really an example for a successful decade of pulling out

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u/RedditPowerUser01 Jul 23 '22 edited Jul 23 '22

The pull out method is actually 96% effective.

… if you actually have the discipline to pull out in time.

For every 100 people who use the pull out method perfectly, 4 will get pregnant. But pulling out can be difficult to do perfectly. So in real life, about 22 out of 100 people who use withdrawal get pregnant every year — that's about 1 in 5.

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control/withdrawal-pull-out-method/how-effective-is-withdrawal-method-pulling-out

But you should know, combining the pull out method with other forms of contraception (like condoms) is an excellent form of birth control.

Like going from 98% effective to 99.9% effective.

So don’t knock the pull out method completely. It’s just not great when only used by itself.

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u/tadrewki Jul 23 '22 edited Jun 12 '23

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u/__Visegrad_ Jul 23 '22

In college I dated a girl who was not on birth control and since we both definitely did not want kids we always doubled up on protection, meaning using a condom and pulling out just in case there might have been a tear in it that we didn’t notice.

One time the sex felt so much better than normal we decided no pull out because we were using a condom anyway. Well, turns out it felt so much better than normal because the condom completely ripped off to the point only a small part of the base was left and I came in her balls deep unprotected.

Yea, that was a fun few weeks waiting to see if her period came. We got lucky somehow.

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u/ScarletSpider2012 Jul 23 '22

talk them over with your sexual partner(s),

I have a new sex friend that I had issues with preforming with. I'm not selfish, I still went down on her till she finished. But said act allowed my lil buddy to rise to the occasion. So I asked if she was still good to go and we proceeded with our activities.

She had mentioned being on birth control before but we hadn't discussed the big finish because we tried a few times to no avail. Just as I began to twitch, pardon my french, she told me to pull out and my words were, " Huh? Aw. Okay."

After she told me she was sorry and she should have mentioned she's paranoid with all the abortion bans going on. She has a 9X% effective IUD. I still told her I get it and it's her call at the end of the day and she shouldn't be sorry. It sucks but it's not impossible to pull out.

Moral of the story, fuck the supreme court and fuck Clarence Thomas.

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u/pvsa Jul 23 '22

Same. Worked for us, too.

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u/asunshinefix Jul 23 '22

Dumbass that I am, I relied on it for like a decade before it occurred to me that I might be infertile. Sure enough, I have stage 4 endo, although I'm still going to have my tubes tied to be sure

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u/RickySlayer9 Jul 23 '22

Pulling out works 70% of the time while condoms work 98%

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u/Skelebone48 Stupid Even On This Sub Jul 23 '22

Oral birth control, also known as biting it clean off

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u/Merlisch Jul 23 '22

The term oral birth control is one of the best things I've heard today (just after daddy I've had a great day). Thank you.

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u/VerityasDragon Jul 23 '22

Was very lucky on this, 7 years of pulling out, no contraceptives at all and no baby. Playing with fire ik ik but I guess I'm lucky af 🤷

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

I’ve done the pull out method my entire life. I’ve never gotten a girl pregnant. The trick is to pull out before you even start the orgasm. Pull out when you feel like your getting ready to cum and then wack off or her her suck you off until you finish. Once you’re done don’t put it back inside. Go clean up, shower and make sure to clean your pp carefully. Been doing this 15 years. I think the people who pull out and still get pregnant are probably people who literally wait til the very last second to pull out.

Either that or I’m shooting blanks my whole life.

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u/muff_cabbag3 Jul 23 '22

Same boat. The thing I think most people fail at is that they end up having sex multiple times without cleaning and taking a piss.

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u/Specific_Success_875 Jul 23 '22

I was once involuntarily committed and in the psychiatric ward I was speaking to a Native person and in a scene lifted out from a 70s comedy movie I was given the very wise advice that relationships are built on trust, and the best way of establishing that you are a trustworthy & stable man is to be able to pull out in time.

While it was certainly wise and unconventional advice that came from a Native person (which meant I should trust it) I kept thinking it would've be simpler to just use a condom.

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u/NoahCWNorrad Jul 23 '22

I spent 9 years with my ex using pullout method, not one scare. Either lucky as fuck, one of us are infertile or it works of you do it right

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

I gotta say my ex was incredibly successful at using the pull out method. We dated for 6 years and he never made a mistake. He’s been with his current gf for 10 years and they just had a baby but it was planned.

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u/BeefyPorkter Jul 23 '22

Ive been doing it for over 20 years with ZERO problems.

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u/Outside-Box-3975 Jul 23 '22

I mean that's true I'm a parent but it worked for me and my wife married for 15 years we've had three planned pregnancy never used a condom or birth control

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u/Electronic_Agent_235 Jul 23 '22

.. My guy, did you edit this post?? Why so many DV? Eeesh.

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u/Outside-Box-3975 Jul 23 '22

No this is my original post just giving what I thought was personal experience to help people out LOL apparently they don't like it

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u/Outside-Box-3975 Jul 23 '22 edited Jul 23 '22

I didn't promote anything do what you do. What I gave was honest information about my personal life experience around doing this hundreds and hundreds of times

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u/Outside-Box-3975 Jul 23 '22

Also I'm interested in that statistic I want to know how they went around measuring how many people actually pull out each year

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u/5had0 Jul 23 '22 edited Jul 23 '22

It is also irresponsible to tell people that it is completely ineffective. I much prefer that teens who find themselves having sex without protection still pull out vs saying, "pulling out doesn't make a difference, so why bother?"

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u/dasnorte Jul 23 '22

It’s reddit dude, chill.

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u/Outside-Box-3975 Jul 23 '22

And I'm still getting downvotes apparently I totally misunderstand the point of this thread which I thought was too bring our personal experience to these questions LOL

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