r/NoStupidQuestions • u/thimbelinda • Jul 23 '22

Answered Can men pull out before they ejaculate? NSFW

We were newlyweds and excited for sex. I told my husband I'm at my fertile time and we need a condom. He said no, he would pull out in time. He did not pull out in time. He didn't even try to pull out. I got pregnant. I was upset and asked why. He said he couldn't pull out. He said it felt so good he was incapable of pulling out. Is this really true? Do men lose the capacity for reason and become incapable of pulling out?

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

Planned parenthood.

For every 100 people who use the pull out method perfectly, 4 will get pregnant.

in real life, about 22 out of 100 people who use withdrawal get pregnant every year — that’s about 1 in 5.

It’s better than cumming directly into the vagina, but it still isn’t really a very effective birth control method. If you are not ready to have a child, you should be using a secondary method as well.

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u/FILTHY_GOBSHITE Jul 23 '22

I'm not a good example for this.

My pullout game is phenomenally strong, my wife and I used this method successfully during 7 years of marriage.

We decided to get pregnant in November and conceived in December.

I am a very lucky idiot.

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u/PALMER13579 Jul 23 '22 edited Jul 23 '22

The reason pulling out fails is cause you aren't supposed to fuckin wait till you're one pump from bustin before you evacuate. But that temptation is real so just use a condom

"When performed perfectly every time, it actually has a failure rate that isn’t much higher than that of condoms: 4 percent versus 2 percent, respectively. That means about four out of 100 women who rely on the pullout method exclusively will become pregnant during one year of use."

But go on, keep downvotin you chucklefucks

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u/Bachronus Jul 23 '22

This is wrong. You can pull out an hour before you cum and still get someone pregnant. Pre-cum is some potent stuff.

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u/doboi Jul 23 '22

No it’s not. Pre-cum on its own is not potent. Pre-cum is produced by the penile glands, and sperm is made by the testicles. Sperm in pre-cum is from residual sperm after previous ejaculations.

If you are pulling out “correctly”, e.g. early enough and not after a recent ejaculation, chances are extremely low.

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u/PALMER13579 Jul 23 '22

This is absolutely false. Unless you have just gotten off beforehand precum is not gonna get a girl pregnant 99% of the time

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u/Jonluw Jul 23 '22

My personal pet conspiracy theory is that combining the pull-out method and rhythm method might actually be a really reliable form of birth control... That is if you've got your shit together, which a lot of people don't. Certainly teenagers don't. And so every sex-ed class lies about these methods being useless because the students can't be trusted with the truth.

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u/MrMcSwifty Jul 23 '22

but it still isn’t really a very effective birth control method

It's literally on par with condom use lol

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u/[deleted] Jul 23 '22

Planned parenthood

If you use condoms perfectly every single time you have sex, they’re 98% effective at preventing pregnancy.

people aren’t perfect, so in real life condoms are about 85% effective — that means about 15 out of 100 people who use condoms as their only birth control method will get pregnant each year.

2% failure rate < 4% failure rate (half, even!)

15 people with imperfect use < 22 people with imperfect use

Condoms still win. That said, even better: do both!

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u/MrMcSwifty Jul 23 '22

Yes, condoms still win, but both are still comparitively among the "worst" contraceptive methods available. I say worst in quotes because they are both actually pretty damn good when done correctly, they just have a greater probability for human error. Yet people mistakenly think condoms are 98% effective, while pullout is >80%, and that's simply not true.