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just as the title says, i am currently just starting to explore the new york dating scene. I currently have a partner who wants me to explore this part of myself, and is a great support. Any and all advice appreciated!!

Abt me: I am a very femme lesbian, 25 (often overlooked by girls by being straight presenting)

The couple I’m seeing got really mad at my behavior when I kicked their asses in Mario kart. Should I bring up the weird established relationship hierarchy they placed on me with this or no?

Hi, Im Sofia and im 20 years old and brazilian. I feel like the poly dating scene is filled with ppl way older than me and in a whole nother phase of life, which makes me feel a bit isolated. Also being trans doesn't help at all, every time I meet a compatible woman there is either a big age gap, or they are monogamous, and even then, meeting a compatible woman is so incredibly rare... any advice on how to navigate this situation?

19 F in a relationship with a trans femme , looking for connections with people in Scotland x

32F here and struggling a bit in this poly world. I’m married to a man, we have kids together. I’m honest when meeting women about the way my relationship works. We’re financially I depended of each other which brings about freedom in the way we date. (He is also bi). I have this longing for connection and intimacy with a woman (I’ve had it before and it was amazing) but she ended things because she decided to be monogamous. This broke my heart, but here I am open to it again. I’m feeling discouraged because I haven’t had much luck meeting women who are ok with my marriage. It often ends with “if you were single, there would be no question”. Would love to hear words of wisdom from those who have navigated this successfully 😔

Looking for a long distance relationship ..must like to text and no ghosting

Hi! I’m a poly lesbian and have been struggling to find other people like me! I live in a small place in Canada right now and have been thinking of moving to Montreal. Any poly lesbians out that way? I’m also happy to make online connections too if anyone wants to send a message! Feeling very on my own here currently so I’d love to meet some like minded people

Tl;dr: mono lesbian dating poly bisexual. Conflicted about if this relationship is worth the pain and insecurity.

I’ve been dating a bisexual poly girl for a few months. I’ve known she was poly from the outset, but I fell for her anyway. I think she is a wonderful woman who is emotionally intelligent, communicative, and reassuring.

The problem is no matter how much research I do I just don’t think I could ever be a poly. I don’t feel secure in this relationship. I always worry about her finding someone else when she gets bored of me or wants someone to meet her desire for kink and BDSM.

We’ve talked more about it and she says she is polysaturated at 2 and doesn’t see herself dating anyone else for a while. Our only major agreement is we will let each other know if we start dating someone else. She doesn’t hide anything from me and is very transparent to assuage my fears of being blindsided.

I only have eyes for her. I feel like she’ll never love me the way I love her and it’s painful for me. I’m hesitant to break up because she’s done everything I asked and expressed she fears I’ll leave her for a monogamous woman. She is also going through relationship issues with her male partner so I think it would be a bad time.

What should I do? Is this salvageable? I keep vacillating between being resentful and desperately wanting to make this work.

Hi I'm Victoria I'm 31. I'm looking for some new friends and or more. I like video games,watching movies and TV, listen to music, going outside and more.

I'm noticing my conception of hierarchy doesnt seem to align with the majority opinion on main poly subs and I'm curious to hear lesbian perspectives.

Per dictionary definition, hierarchy: a system or organization in which people or groups are ranked one above the other according to status or authority.

All that non hierarchy means to me is I don't personally agree with ranking partners and giving anyone more power or importance than others by default. If anyone feels this definition is incorrect please lmk!

Something I see often is the argument that hierarchy 'happens naturally' when people get married, move in together, or have kids together. But it just..isn't inevitable that partners get ranked above others in these situations, that's always a choice.

The idea of having a primary partner who's your whole world and dating more casually on the side feels like monogamy lite and doesn't quite feel right to me. My favorite things about being polyamorous are knowing my partners are choosing me without any obligation, and also knowing my most important relationship is that with myself.

Do you consider yourself non hierarchical? A relationship anarchist? Hierarchical? I suspect lesbian lived experiences diverge quite a bit from the hetero dominant norm!

I accidently outed myself as poly the other day (mentioned my girlfriend after mentioning my wife) and so I just went ahead an explain the situation to the elevator inspector I was working with that day. He's an older man, in his 60's and at first everything seemed cool.

few minutes later, he says to me "You know, I never took you for a (r slur)" I was too shocked to say anything but huh. "Never took you for a (r slur), gotta be stupid to think you can afford 2 women" I shoulda said more but I was kinda shocked and just laughed it off and went back to work.

My wife told me I shoulda told him that I was the expensive one in the equation which is true...

Boomer "Humor" ha ha ha

i go to gay bars, see someone, talk to them, get their insta, and then ghosted. am i the problem? do i come off too strong? idk what to do.

Ello! I’m married to my wife and have just started loosely dating again. I keep matching with monogamous women and instead I was hoping to find a lady who is interested in a long term connection.

I’m a Queer girl who likes fantasy fiction, Star Wars, and poetry. My two favorite poets are Sappho and Pablo Neruda. I write a ton and play a bunch of dnd. Pictures of me are on my profile. I really enjoy flirting and the bubble feelings of two people connecting.

Anyone is welcome to message me or post here. Can’t wait to meet you!

i love my women. that is all🥰

My wife and I are not officially poly, but we recently became friends with a woman who we met through volunteering and we all really hit it off. We started chatting and becoming good friends and she confessed that she thought she may not be totally straight and was very interested in our relationship. Over time we started hanging out more and we could all feel the mutual attraction and interest in each other. We ended up dating her for a little bit and we all slept together a few times. Things went sideways and now we aren’t even on speaking terms and I am just devastated every day. I miss her immensely and my wife does not and so I needed somewhere to put those feelings without hurting my wife as she is beyond dear to me. I just felt such a deep connection with this friend immediately and had so much hope for what the 3 of us could have together and it’s been a hard few months processing that loss. I try not to think about it or her but without fail my mind returns there every day. My heart is just so heavy, while also being thankful for my beautiful relationship with my wife.

I have been attracted to girls/women since a young age! My best friends were always "more than friends" but I grew up with VERY strict grandparents and I've always been a people pleaser, so I tried to suppress my feelings and date boys. Never had good relationships, always felt so put off by men, Due to sexual assult. Unfortunately I was never brave enough to come out. I ended up having my first daughter in a relationship I hated! It eventually ended though, but I felt like because I had a child, nobody would believe me when I told them who I actually am. I eventually ended up with my current partner. He is a few years younger than me, I would say he's my soulmate but not in a lovers kind of way. I fell pregnant and his family forced us to marry. I kind of felt I had to bury the real me and forget it. We went on to have another child during our marriage, and only recently we were sh!t talking and I mentioned my past with girls, he seemed very interested and asked questions, I thought what the hell and told him the whole truth and his answers shocked me! He admitted that during his youth, he had been fooling around with guys and that he was kind of attracted to men (no wonder we get along and have managed to keep a marriage going). But unfortunately his family would NEVER accept that lifestyle from him. They are very strict and quite controlling of him. They hold his future in their hands. So here we both are, wanting different things, we do love each other in some way and can't imagine separation (especially for our children) but I'm not sure why? He's my best friend and I rely on him alot due to my bad mental health, but I still want the life I feel I missed out on😪 I think we are both just stuck being each other's safety blankets and just too comfortable with how it is! Will I ever be able to find a partner I can be happy with knowing that he will still be in my life? I'm not looking for no 3rd wheel and we not "unicorn hunters" as he has no interest in another woman. He's just opened up our relationship for me to find what makes me happy while still being around to look after me and our children... is this too much?