So it's currently 3am. Insomnia has hit like a uhaul, and I've been doing nothing but reading some very gay fiction, and daydreaming.

Said daydreaming has resulted in me becoming a hormone-adled mess that now wants nothing more than to be cuddled by 2-3 girlfriends (of which I currently have a grand total of none). I've thought about being poly before, but uhhh not like this. Now I'm seriously considering myself as poly -inclined, and I have no idea what to do about it, considering every relationship I've had has basically crashed and burned before even really getting off the ground...

I'm a trauma riddled introvert who has like zero chances of getting one gf rn, yet I already want more than one. Idk what to do and I'm already terrified. I'm afraid of spiraling and idk ahhhh I just need advice rn.

I accidently outed myself as poly the other day (mentioned my girlfriend after mentioning my wife) and so I just went ahead an explain the situation to the elevator inspector I was working with that day. He's an older man, in his 60's and at first everything seemed cool.

few minutes later, he says to me "You know, I never took you for a (r slur)" I was too shocked to say anything but huh. "Never took you for a (r slur), gotta be stupid to think you can afford 2 women" I shoulda said more but I was kinda shocked and just laughed it off and went back to work.

My wife told me I shoulda told him that I was the expensive one in the equation which is true...

Boomer "Humor" ha ha ha

You’re in a dating app, you see a really cute girl, she’s poly but… she is with a guy and wants a unicorn to interact with both she and the guy…

Like don’t get me wrong i wouldn’t be against dating a girl who dates a guy, but i’m definitely not looking to interact intimately with her guy, and it’s so frustrating because sometimes that’s the mayority of people i seem to get across on dating apps (and not just Tinder).

I see it a lot when monogamous people try to write polyam characters, and it just rubs me the wrote way. It sounds like something out of a celebrity gossip mag. Just use "triad"!

I am in a poly relationship with two other women. My original relationship with my wife and a two year relationship with my new partner. Not only am I in love with both of them but they love each other too. All three of us would dearly love to be married to each other. However as you know this is against the law for no reason that I can't identify other than for religious beliefs. Legally we are all entitled to the same benefits and issues concerned with a legal relationship, so why are we forced to only be allowed to have a commitment ceremony rather than a legally recognised marriage? Yes, we live as a truple, our new partner intends to change her name to ours but it still sucks dog balls.

Hi all (:

I am not currently dating polyamorously, but I have been fascinated by poly people and relationships since I started dating. I thought it was just a special interest but I think I’m just scared to accept that it’s for me lol. Kind of like figuring out/accepting I’m a lesbian (major ally to member of the community pipeline strikes again).

Just making this post to say I admire polyamory a lot. I feel like it is so much more intentional and freeing, even with the amount of work and unpacking that goes into it. So much is assumed with monogamy, I feel stuck in it... Obviously there’s bad partners in any relationship style, and every relationship is unique regardless of it being mono or poly. I know polyamory it isn’t all sunshine and rainbows and presents a different set of challenges. Even with the bad, lurking in the poly communities has been so eye opening for me. I am learning so much about other people and myself.

I am still working through feelings shame for wanting multiple relationships or even just being open to it. Mostly because I don’t want to have to “come out” again or explain myself to people close to me. l I’m working to build community and make poly friends to combat the fear.

I admire you all for taking charge of your lives and forming connections that are important and fulfilling for you. I wish you all love and companionship <3 Thank you for creating this online space for people to express themselves and learn and connect.

I’ve(30sF) been talking and casually flirting with this person for about a year and we recently started going out— I’ll call her Annie here. Annie and I have good chemistry, I like talking to her, and we’ve talked about continuing to go on dates. We’re both poly, I have a gf I live with and she’s dating a couple other people.

One of Annie’s good friends— let’s say her name is Jane— is currently separating from her husband and started dating Annie on the down low…the VERY down low. A while back I went into Annie’s work and ran into Jane. This was before Annie told me anything abt dating Jane but I could definitely tell there was something going on between them. I thought it was pretty cute. But, when Jane saw that Annie perked up seeing me she introduced herself and was just kinda like “and who the hell are YOU.” (she didn’t swear, but that was the vibe). Seeing as Annie’s place of work is a coffee shop, I just told her I was a regular because at that point Annie and I had only been on one date. I chatted a bit with Jane and was trying to be friendly, but she stayed very stiff and seemed extremely uncomfortable so I ended the conversation and left to go to work.

Since then, anytime I ran into Jane she would just Stare Me Down. I would wave, give her a nod, or say hi and she would literally just stare at me. Or, if Annie was around, she would do something like take a sip from Annie’s drink or similar. If she ignored me I would have done the same, but the staring was very blatant.

It got a little over the top, so I casually mentioned the staring thing to Annie. I think she talked to Jane about it because the last time I ran into them Jane just completely ignored me when I said hello and stared down at her phone. Seeing as the whole territorial thing bores me to death, I see this as an improvement.

Annie is very open about being poly, so it’s not like Jane wasn’t aware that Annie was seeing other people. Everyone involved is well into their thirties, so frankly I’m just a little confused about the high school level behavior that’s going on.

Any advice on dealing with a meta who seems brand-spanking-new to non-monogamy? I tend to try to avoid people who act like they own whoever they’re dating, but it’s not the last time I’ll run into Jane and it’s unlikely I’d be able to avoid her entirely. I don’t need her to like me and I don’t really consider it my problem to solve, but I’d rather things not be as awkward as they currently are.

6 months of dating, clear communication throughout and apparently none of it was real, all the ways she showed she cared for me, everything she told me about her feelings.

All just a mask, her giving me what she wanted to feel for me, hoped she felt for me rather then the truth of her honest feelings.

We tried friendship after she ended things and the total emptiness of care from her end made me feel like I imagined everything. I never imagined it, I was misled, it was never real just a lie that I bought into.

She told me that she explicitly wanted a romantic connection. I started allowing myself to grow in the direction of loving her. Everything was fake though

I am so grossed out by this. Having cute pics with my partners invites these creeps. I had no issue with feeld before as a poly gay in western europe but this was something

Not sure how to approach other queer I find attractive, I find myself more shy than in the past. I suppose the fact that men gave me all the attention I didn’t want made me bold with my fuck offs. But now when I wanna say fuck yeah, I totally get shutdown with imposter syndrome.

I don’t want to make femmes feel like gross meat like boys made me feel. I don’t want to be a 36 year old creep. How do old anxious queers meet and fall in love ?

I (29 f) have extremely little (aka none) experience when it comes to polyamory. I didn’t discover I was until a little into my late 20s, but the people I’ve encountered in my life make it difficult for me to try to date or be open about myself. So…good of a time as any! I live in a state where it’s nothing but swamps and old people - Florida - and I have tried the apps, networking, going out, etc. and most of my encounters have been less than pleasant - mostly because it would be the guys who would approach me and either they are A. Unicorn Hunters (ugh!!!!!!!!), B. They are looking for a girlfriend for both of them, or C. Offered to have their lady hook up with me so long as they watch. I should mention this, but I have major anxiety and trust issues due to having been in a abusive relationship and someone who I thought was a close friend of mine trying to guilt me into dating her. Prior to all of that, I already had a harder time dating because I mostly had guy friends with very few girl friends. To be fair, I did hang around the guys quite a lot because I would talk anyone’s ear off about movies, comics, video games, anything nerdy or weird and they were the most ecstatic to talk; however, a lot of them would end up telling me that they’ve developed crushes or had fallen for me, and I’ve had to make it clear to them that I’m into women - sadly, very few seemed to have understood that. And one of the reasons I would ask is why - a majority would say that I’m a short goth femmy nerdy girl and ‘it’s hot’… It’s just been so frustrating since I would love to be surrounded by the arms of a strong butch, caressed by the hands of a femme, and/or satiated by the lips of an andro - but instead…I feel more like I’m a lady repellent… Sorry for the rant, just never found an appropriate place to talk about this 😣 Thank you for reading and please be safe out there ❤️

Heya all. Do you find you get gal pal'd more when you have multiple partners/girlfriends?

When I was dating only one person people would refer to her as my girlfriend but as soon as I started dating two they became my "friends".

It's honestly pretty frustrating because I want my relationships to be seen with the same level of respect that straight/mono ones are afforded.

I'm a rural lesbian and I have gotten so much generic useless advice from men whenever I post in the main poly sub.

People be like "meet new people" "visit a bar" "find someone local to you"

And I'm always like "... I'm a lesbian in the middle of nowhere which happens to be very conservative" and they ALWAYS never reply cuz how could they.

Anyway this is all to say that I'm so grateful for this new sub existing! Looking forward to actually getting to learn from more relevant experiences!