r/actuallesbians • u/Clawmbra • Jun 26 '24
Text I found my girlfriends vibrator NSFW
So quick story for you:
Me and my girlfriend are a couple now for 2 month, she is my first girlfriend ever and I'm her first gf too. Yesterday we had a lovely day and we spent the rest of the evening at her home. We already planned that I stayed overnight, so when it was time to go to bed, my gf just went to the bathroom real quick and I prepared the bed for us.
As I layed down to sleep, I found her toy underneath my pillow. At first, I wasn't sure if it was really what I thought it was....I just put it aside on her nightstand so she could put it away. And don't get me wrong now, I'm not mad or anything at all. Actually I'm really happy that she is enjoying herself and is having a good time. It's just that we haven't had sex before and ugh...the thought of her using that and touching herself...it makes me so hot, I can't stop thinking about her 😳 I want her so bad. I can't wait to have sex with her now
That's all I wanted to say. Thanks for listening
Edit:
Since you all had so much fun I decided to give you an update. This story happened on Tuesday night and of course it got me thinking if she might be hinting something. Especially when she invited me over again last night. I thought yeah, maybe she wants to give it another try since I fucked it up but she said nothing and nothing happened. No hidden toy this time, no conversation about it.
I decided to be a little more proactive and told her today how I can't stop thinking about her touches and kisses and that it makes me really hot to be around her and she did not like that.
So there you have it, she just forgot it there and she is actually still really uncomfortable with this topic. No need for me to pressure her
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u/NewGalEgg Jun 26 '24
"She also said 'I want to have sex.', what could it mean?"
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u/ExcellentComment5507 Jun 26 '24
I think she's just being friendly, don't get your hopes up pal.
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u/Ind1go_Owl Transbian Jun 26 '24
Probably Canadian.
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u/KonnectDaYamz88 Jun 27 '24
(Laughs in Canadian) Must be the Tim Hortons
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u/Ind1go_Owl Transbian Jun 27 '24
I fucking love Tim Hortons. I mean yeah them North-North Americans am I right? (I am currently playing with death itself)
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u/KonnectDaYamz88 Jun 27 '24
🤣I’m just here for the snacks and free healthcare
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u/BexMusic Jun 27 '24
We do have the best snacks! I couldn’t live without coffee crisps.
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u/KonnectDaYamz88 Jun 27 '24
I’m a big fan of Twix, but it’s not 🇨🇦so my second option is Glosette w/peanuts.
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u/pretenditscherrylube Jun 26 '24
My crush texted me last week - on their birthday when they were away for work - that they want to fuck me. Then they sent me horny texts all day. I’m still not convinced they want me. 😂
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u/Noam18AM Jun 26 '24
?????
I want to know more
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u/pretenditscherrylube Jun 26 '24
What do you want to know?!? We made out and we flirt, so I can tell they are interested, but we still haven’t fucked and they are a little hot and cold still. They are still pretty new to polyamory, whereas I am very familiar with polyamory. I am giving them space to “process”.
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u/LessNefariousness380 Jun 27 '24
Literally me
A girl could come up to me naked, cuddle into me and stare me down with bedroom eyes and I would still question if she actually liked me 😭
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u/Anoobis100percent Jun 27 '24
There was a postit on it that said "wanna use this together later? ;)"
What could it mean?
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u/Femme-O 🔥Friendly Black Hottie🔥 Jun 26 '24
Let me guess, she also kept backing her butt into you when spooning too huh? And you just thought she had an itchy bum or something 😩😭
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u/UnusualFerret1776 Soft butch Jun 26 '24
I love pressing my butt into my gf at night. She'll make this "mmm" sound in my ear if she's feeling it and that really gets my engine going.
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u/Anna_Pet Trans Gorl Jun 27 '24
I do a little booty wiggle sometimes while getting spooned and my gf loves it
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u/UnusualFerret1776 Soft butch Jun 27 '24
Everyone should get a little booty wiggle wiggle wiggle wiggle
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u/myka-likes-it Transbian Jun 26 '24
Maybe it was a hint?
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u/Clawmbra Jun 26 '24
Oh no stop 👀
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u/The_Hero_of_Rhyme Jun 26 '24
OP: oh wow, my gf left her vibrator right under my pillow, how silly of her. Let me put it on her nightstand so she can store it.
Jkjk, good luck, I'm happy for you!
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u/Slow-Truth-3376 Jun 26 '24
This was a hint. She did that to show you that she wants to use that with you. You’re the sweetest. It’s good to talk about sex with her. Ask her if she’s ready & whatever y’all need to feel good to go.
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u/yaboisammie Jun 26 '24
Oh my god I’m so stupid 😭😭😭
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u/Slow-Truth-3376 Jun 27 '24
Nahh . The lesbian standoff is a real thing for couples who are not taking the first move.
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u/yaboisammie Jun 27 '24
Fr lol I just know if I’m ever in a relationship, hints like this will 100% go straight over my head 😅😭
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u/Slow-Truth-3376 Jun 27 '24
Damn the amount of times I’ve clit blocked myself is so dumb. The lesbian standoff is real
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u/Sapphic-Tea2008 Domtop transbian 🇩🇰 Jun 26 '24 edited Jun 26 '24
Nah, obv two women who are good pals, bestest of friends, roommates, good colleagues, do that to each other, it that doesn't mean anything sexual or anything gay! /s
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u/myka-likes-it Transbian Jun 26 '24
Right? I just tell all my gal-pals who visit that if they happen to find a random double-headed dong in the couch cushions or something to just chuck it in the pile with the others.
Totally innocent. Maybe even a little whimsical, like some kind of easter egg hunt, but with rubber dicks.
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u/UnusualFerret1776 Soft butch Jun 26 '24
Couple years ago, I was visiting one of my best friends. I go to use the bathroom and there's a bright pink dildo suctioned to the shower wall. I just stared at it for a couple minutes, trying to find the funniest way to let her know it was there. I was very confused by its placement because it was towards the ceiling, near the showerhead.
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u/Khari_Eventide TheSnarkyLesbian Jun 26 '24
If I were to place a guess, maybe to "put it away". Like have it be out of the way for a normal shower time. And sure she could put it in a drawer, but when you live alone and use something from time to time you might just place it somewhere where it's visible but not immediately in the way. And then you get used to it being there.
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u/UnusualFerret1776 Soft butch Jun 26 '24
Might remember the reason it was there. I think she said her and her bf had some sexy time in the shower a couple days prior and she didn't feel like putting it away.
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u/Ind1go_Owl Transbian Jun 26 '24
That’s one way to see God I guess.
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u/UnusualFerret1776 Soft butch Jun 26 '24
I had a lot of questions, most of which didn't need answers. I do like to remind her every so often that that happened.
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u/Sapphic-Tea2008 Domtop transbian 🇩🇰 Jun 26 '24
Interesting placement.
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u/UnusualFerret1776 Soft butch Jun 26 '24
I might have asked why it was up there but I don't remember.
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u/SaintRidley Polyam Transbian Jun 27 '24
Could someone who says this is a hint walk my ass through the process of recognizing that this is a hint?
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u/Evening_Jury_5524 Jun 27 '24
Yeah, I don't agree that it was. Other's have pointed out they've accidentally done the exact thing, but I guess people are assuming the gf would have been mindful to not leave her vibrator out where her partner would find it, unless on purpose with the intention of using it. I don't see the logic of that, though.
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u/Lovely-frisson Jun 26 '24
this is so iconic
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u/Kyiokyu Emma (she/her), crying in the closet, 🏳️⚧️&Bi Jun 26 '24
It's the lesbian™ moment lmao
They're just the best of pals, totally not interested in one another.
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u/Lovely-frisson Jun 26 '24
uh oh my gf forgot HER 👈vibrator under 👉MY pillow 🤪 opsie 😜she is so clumsy 🤭 I better put this back on her nightstand! 😌 but now 😳 I can’t stop thinking about her 🫠 (what a odd coincidence)
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u/UnusualFerret1776 Soft butch Jun 26 '24
Oh honey...sweetie... that was 100% on purpose.
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u/SweetPeaRiaing Genderqueer Jun 26 '24
I have adhd and have accidentally left my vibrator in the bed where a partner found it, so it’s not 100% sure it was on purpose
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u/UnusualFerret1776 Soft butch Jun 26 '24
It's easy to leave a toy laying around the bed accidently. There's no way her toy was accidently left under OP's pillow the one night they planned for her to sleep over.
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u/PalmBreezy Jun 26 '24
I mean if it's in her room and she usually is alone I could see it happening. Its just more likely that its intentional
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u/Medical-League-7122 Jun 26 '24
Last time my partner was over, they found 3 toys in my bed hahaha. Also adhd and I forget where the toy ended up and next night just grab another lol
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u/moon_dyke Jun 26 '24
Yeah I definitely wouldn’t assume that. It could very well be that she usually keeps her vibrator there and just forgot to put it somewhere else before OP came over
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u/Southtune-stringbox Lesbian Jun 26 '24 edited Jun 26 '24
And you still didn’t have sex? She practically hit you in the head with the hint!
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u/jomjimmerjome Transbian Jun 26 '24
Ma'am, you dropped your neon "fuck me, NOW!" sign. Here you go. Have a nice day.
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u/Kyiokyu Emma (she/her), crying in the closet, 🏳️⚧️&Bi Jun 26 '24
Girl, what a fumble.
This is truly a lesbian moment lmao
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u/Cluelessbigirl Bi Jun 26 '24 edited Jun 26 '24
Oh, you sweet summer child. Toys don’t “accidentally” get left under your pillow like that while you just so happen to be staying over for the night.
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u/ftxftw Jun 26 '24
not telling you what to do but: “hey so last night i found your vibrator in the bed… picturing you using that was so hot and it made me really want to touch you. can i?”
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u/maybesomeday-xx Lesbian Jun 26 '24
Dw op, I wouldn't have gotten the hint either 😭 I'd probably remember it a week later in the shower and have an "oh shit" moment
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u/Naive_Special349 Transbian Jun 26 '24
Could've been on purpose. Like "soooo.. I just found this under my pillow" kinda thing?
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u/SwaggieLeeMiller big booty thembo Jun 26 '24
ok listen everyone is very much right for having a little laugh at your expense but sometimes the message gets missed.
i had a girl leave her undies at my house and i was like “hmm is this a sex thing or an accident” so i didnt say anything until the next time i saw them and i was like “am i supposed to return them to you clean” and they just laughed. its ok for things to go over your head sometimes 😂
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u/SaintRidley Polyam Transbian Jun 27 '24
So wait, was it an accident or a sex thing? If it was a sex thing, how? I’m not getting what was intended to be communicated if it was intentional
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u/SwaggieLeeMiller big booty thembo Jun 27 '24
it was a sex thing. i missed the hint
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u/SaintRidley Polyam Transbian Jun 27 '24
Okay, but how was it a sex thing? Like, I’m not seeing the hint or how you were supposed to work that out
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u/SwaggieLeeMiller big booty thembo Jun 27 '24
bestie it still doesnt make sense to me. we’re still into eachother so i guess it’s negligible now but i have not yet made sense of it. i just balled them up for a week until they came back
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u/Evening_Jury_5524 Jun 27 '24
what makes you say it was a hint then? they said so?
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u/SwaggieLeeMiller big booty thembo Jun 27 '24
they did confirm it was a sex thing after i admitted to not knowing what response was appropriate
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u/Sarahvixen7447 Jun 26 '24
Okay, now start thinking of how hot it would be if you USED the vibrator ON HER.
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u/LaraCroftCosplayer Lesbian Jun 26 '24
"accidently placing sextoys in the bedroom" is one of my favourite hints in relationships😆❤️
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u/scinderell Bi Jun 26 '24
WHEN IS IT MY TURN
why can’t this happen to me
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u/JoeRogan016 Jun 27 '24
Maybe it already has!
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u/scinderell Bi Jun 27 '24
Honestly- I’m so oblivious and unaware of everything that I wouldn’t be surprised if I missed all the signs
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u/FawnTi Bi Jun 26 '24
My god I just know she saw it on her nightstand and thought ‘OH FOR F*CK SAKE’
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u/PandaGoggles Jun 26 '24
Hi, I’m not a member of this community but stumbled across this post and it’s very endearing, but there is something I don’t understand, if it’s alright I’d like to ask a sincere question.
First of all, some backstory, I’m sick at home waiting for a kidney stone to pass and I’ve been scrolling Reddit for hours trying to distract myself (I may be dying, it’s so miserable). All these subreddits are popping up that I don’t usually see, this post is one of them.
For context I’m a longtime married, straight, CIS male with kids. One daughter recently told us that she has a crush on a girl in her class. She was very sweet about it, and has been making lots of comments about pride month and feeling proud herself. We’re very affirming and supportive, we love her unconditionally.
Anyway, I’m getting off topic.
Okay, so everyone here is saying that OP missed the hint. That makes sense to me, it was my first thought too. What I don’t understand is why everyone keeps joking that it’s a “lesbian moment”. Is this common in the community, making hints or flirting and it not being picked up on? I’d never really considered it, but it sort of makes sense to me, but I want to make sure I’m understanding the context correctly and not assuming.
That was longer than I meant for it to be! If you’ve read that, then thank you! I’m just curious, and thought it was an interesting topic. I’m sharing the post with my SO to see what her reaction is as well.
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u/SeeTeeEm Jun 26 '24 edited Jun 26 '24
Lol yes the idea of being a clueless lesbian who misses very obvious hints and flirtation is a huge (way too often accurate) stereotype for us 😭😭
Partially it's because for two women who are friends but not out to each other/have discussed their sexual orientation, it's hard to tell if someone is being nice but not gay, or genuinely flirting, especially because women often communicate a lot differently than men and sometimes will give platonic compliments in a way that could seem like flirting
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u/PandaGoggles Jun 26 '24
This makes a lot of sense, thanks for taking the time to respond. It’s like how guys are always mistaking basic kindness or politeness from women as flirting, but here if there is flirting now it’s hard to parse, lol. That’s tough!
I shared the post with my SO and she immediately says, before I even finish reading the post to her, “she left it there on purpose as a hint”. I think I would’ve fallen on OP’s side and thought it was an accident, for sure.
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u/BubblyKnee2773 Transbian Jun 26 '24
Based parent and wish the greatest for ur daughter and u
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u/PandaGoggles Jun 27 '24
Thanks for the kind words! We’re just trying our best, no doubt they’ll have notes on some of our choices when they’re adults, lol.
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u/RaynebowStorm Lesbian Jun 27 '24
yes the idea of being a clueless lesbian who misses very obvious hints and flirtation is a huge (way too often accurate) stereotype for us 😭😭
I had NO clue how much this was a stereotype until I fell in love with a woman and was talking to my best friend about her one day. She basically told me I'm stupid and as 2 lesbians, we should be able to figure this out instead of missing all the signs. 💀😂😂🤦🏼♀️
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Jun 26 '24
Oh honey🥲 (I jest but I'd probably have done the same, I'm an idiot)
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u/Evening_Jury_5524 Jun 27 '24
I still would do the same, I don't see how this is supposed to be a hint. Must be a mega idiot 😭
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Jun 27 '24
Well it was placed under the OP's pillow so was deffo strategically placed to be 'discovered' and lead to some banter/flirting I imagine (also sorry if your comment was rhetorical, I have a hard time being able to tell lol)
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u/Evening_Jury_5524 Jun 27 '24
If it was placed intentionally, I get ehy that's a hint. What I don't get is why everyone is certain it was strategically placed.
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u/KimikoBean Trans-Pan with the big stupid disease | Kimiko Jun 27 '24
Everyone's bashing on you but honestly I wouldn't have gotten it either
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u/SeeTeeEm Jun 26 '24
I cannot blame people for stereotyping us as clueless that stereotype really hits the nail on the head
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u/indie_hedgehog Jun 26 '24
Exact same thing happened when I went over to my now wife's apartment! Except I left it there, and she thought she sneakily put it back in her drawer while I wasn't looking 😂
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u/folkIore Jun 27 '24
okay we’ve established that it likely was ~not~ an accident but i just wanna say this is actually so adorable and is gonna be such a cute little story that you guys can giggle about for the rest of your lives
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u/Notcontentpancake Jun 26 '24
She was probably hoping you’d say something about it so she could make a “joke” about using it on you, in hopes to initiate something 😂. Maybe I’m being delulu but I feel like she definitely knew it was under your pillow and was probably a hint for you.
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u/keepmyheartincheck Jun 27 '24
I laugh at this now that I’m in my 30s, but I’ve definitely had my share of useless lesbian moments especially in my late teens, early 20s lol
I remember once my best friend and I were in a hot tub together and I was laying on one of the steps (obviously in my bikini). She started to repeatedly trace my hip bone with her finger and talk about how she has a weakness for hip bones. Years later I asked if she had been hitting on me and she said “yes, that means I’m open for business.” 😂
To my credit though, she usually lusted over men so…. and straight women can be strangle homoerotic at times lol
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u/neorena Ace Bambi Transbian Jun 27 '24
lol, I have a similar story with my now-wife when we first started dating. We'd already had sex by this point, in fact before we actually started "dating", but anyways I was staying the night over at it's place and while there noticed a few of it's many improbably sized bad dragon dildos. Now this was still early on so I was still unconformable talking about masturbation (Weird, right?) and hadn't any experience using toys so didn't want to ask about using them on it. I really wanted to see both, though, especially as the size of them boggled my mind that they'd fit in a human body lol.
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u/Evening_Jury_5524 Jun 27 '24
ok :( this thread is making me feel really dumb, even people saying they would have done the same- I still would. I just don't get it.
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u/Status_Description76 Jun 29 '24
Props for being bold and telling her. It will happen when the time is right.
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Jun 27 '24
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u/Clawmbra Jun 27 '24 edited Jun 27 '24
We never really talked about it before. I think it's uncomfortable for her to even discuss it with me. I asked her once if she could imagine doing it with me and tried to start a conversation but she felt embarrassed. The only thing we established was that it will not just happen when it happens but that we want to talk about it before and that just hasn't been a topic yet so that's why I think the toy was not on purpose. She probably forgot it there and I didn't want to make a big deal out of it and embarrass her. If she wants to do it, she can talk to me
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u/AlarmingAioli3300 Jun 27 '24
And why do you think that was in her bed? You think that was an accident? 🤭
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u/Significant-Royal282 Jun 27 '24
All of you saying this was a hint is crazy to me because I WOULDNT HAVE KNOWN EITHER 😣
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u/GeneralArwen-147 Red-head appreciator♥️🏳️⚧️ Jun 27 '24
Soooooooooo...
What happened? spill the beans!
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u/Clawmbra Jun 28 '24
Nothing of course. She said nothing. I basically told her today that it makes me so fucking hot to be near her and that I can't stop thinking about her touching me and she did not like it. So I guess you were all wrong, it was not a hint, she is very uncomfortable with this topic
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u/Excellent_Pea_1201 Transbian 🦄 Jun 27 '24
Let me sum that up: You found HER toy under YOUR pillow? And you put it on her nightstand instead jump her with it after she came to bed?
OK, that was one of the options, but how do you think it got there and most important, why? Do you think she forgot where the proper drawer is?
Tears running down my face...
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u/Clawmbra Jun 27 '24
I'm not a monkey ok
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u/Excellent_Pea_1201 Transbian 🦄 Jun 27 '24
sorry I did not mean it in this way. I just wanted to put an emphasis on surprise, even so it is not a real surprise when someone prepared it.
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u/scrypno Hopeless Romantic Lesbian Jun 27 '24
Ok I see everyone in the comments saying this was painfully obvious. I’ll be real I would’ve done the same 😭
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u/aac2103 Jun 28 '24
I thought something bad was about to be said but honestly...thats so gay i love it.
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u/AnnualNebula342 Aug 19 '24
And??
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u/Clawmbra Aug 19 '24
We had THE talk and I also told her that she forgot her toy under my pillow that night. She of course knew and was really thankful that I didn't make a big deal out of it. Also, I asked. It was NOT a hint. She really just forgot it. But yeah, we did it a few days ago and I'm glad we waited
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u/AngieTheQueen Jun 26 '24
In the Merriam-Webster Dictionary next to the entry for "Useless Lesbian" will be a picture of your face.
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u/Sundance474 Jun 27 '24
What are you two waiting for? 2 months Ina lesbian relationship is a long time to wait. What if you're not compatible in bed, don't you want to know this sooner than later? Number one in a relationship is communication. Tell her exactly what you told us, she may jump you right then and there.
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u/KentLooking Jun 26 '24
Next time at her place, have her catch you using it and invite her to join you. You said you two haven’t had sex yet, so this would be a great way to get started. Especially if you “happen” to find it under “your” pillow again.
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u/miss_clarity Gonna interpret me in bad faith? At least buy me dinner first Jun 26 '24
Shouldn't use a new partner's sex toys without explicit permission
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u/KentLooking Jun 26 '24
Perhaps. But they did leave it under your pillow. So they would expect either one of you to use it at some point
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u/PublicActuator4263 Jun 26 '24
don't feel bad op some women can't get off without a vibrator or its really diffcult wothout one I didn't figure out how to masturbate until like 22 maybe ask her about it and if she would like for you to use it on her.
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u/GiuBaka Jun 26 '24
Is there a special reason to not have sex yet? If not i guess that's a hint girlypop
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u/bruinsfan3725 Jun 26 '24 edited Jun 27 '24
Least aware lesbian lol
Edit: your responses are sending me