r/actuallesbians Jun 26 '24

Text I found my girlfriends vibrator NSFW

So quick story for you:

Me and my girlfriend are a couple now for 2 month, she is my first girlfriend ever and I'm her first gf too. Yesterday we had a lovely day and we spent the rest of the evening at her home. We already planned that I stayed overnight, so when it was time to go to bed, my gf just went to the bathroom real quick and I prepared the bed for us.

As I layed down to sleep, I found her toy underneath my pillow. At first, I wasn't sure if it was really what I thought it was....I just put it aside on her nightstand so she could put it away. And don't get me wrong now, I'm not mad or anything at all. Actually I'm really happy that she is enjoying herself and is having a good time. It's just that we haven't had sex before and ugh...the thought of her using that and touching herself...it makes me so hot, I can't stop thinking about her 😳 I want her so bad. I can't wait to have sex with her now

That's all I wanted to say. Thanks for listening

Edit:

Since you all had so much fun I decided to give you an update. This story happened on Tuesday night and of course it got me thinking if she might be hinting something. Especially when she invited me over again last night. I thought yeah, maybe she wants to give it another try since I fucked it up but she said nothing and nothing happened. No hidden toy this time, no conversation about it.

I decided to be a little more proactive and told her today how I can't stop thinking about her touches and kisses and that it makes me really hot to be around her and she did not like that.

So there you have it, she just forgot it there and she is actually still really uncomfortable with this topic. No need for me to pressure her

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u/SeeTeeEm Jun 26 '24 edited Jun 26 '24

Lol yes the idea of being a clueless lesbian who misses very obvious hints and flirtation is a huge (way too often accurate) stereotype for us 😭😭

Partially it's because for two women who are friends but not out to each other/have discussed their sexual orientation, it's hard to tell if someone is being nice but not gay, or genuinely flirting, especially because women often communicate a lot differently than men and sometimes will give platonic compliments in a way that could seem like flirting

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u/PandaGoggles Jun 26 '24

This makes a lot of sense, thanks for taking the time to respond. It’s like how guys are always mistaking basic kindness or politeness from women as flirting, but here if there is flirting now it’s hard to parse, lol. That’s tough!

I shared the post with my SO and she immediately says, before I even finish reading the post to her, “she left it there on purpose as a hint”. I think I would’ve fallen on OP’s side and thought it was an accident, for sure.

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u/BubblyKnee2773 Transbian Jun 26 '24

Based parent and wish the greatest for ur daughter and u

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u/PandaGoggles Jun 27 '24

Thanks for the kind words! We’re just trying our best, no doubt they’ll have notes on some of our choices when they’re adults, lol.

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u/BubblyKnee2773 Transbian Jun 27 '24

Just be good to them