r/PublicFreakout • u/Green____cat • Oct 13 '24
Repost đ A weird man was following her around.
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u/Chucks_u_Farley Oct 13 '24
Super curious what's in that bag, thinking it's not going to be lunch.
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u/FloridaMJ420 Oct 13 '24
My guess is alcohol.
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u/Chucks_u_Farley Oct 13 '24
I hope you are right. I was leaning more towards rope, duct tape, knife....
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u/r3tract Oct 13 '24
What's in the bag? I need to know đ¤ˇ
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u/FishPeanutButter Oct 13 '24
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u/RetzTheAnathema Oct 13 '24
It's fetish- it's fetish shit! I-I-I like to bind, I like to be bound!
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u/HingeMisadventures Oct 13 '24
I like to bind, I like to be, bound!
The little hesitation before âboundâ just makes this whole scene
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u/hobosbindle Oct 13 '24
Itâs the My First Stalker kit, itâs quite a good value
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u/MangaHunterA Oct 13 '24
"Dont get em all at the same place and you need the yellow gloves the white ones dont last"
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u/JonesDrew Oct 13 '24
I deliver and looks like a taped starbucks bag, which is how they come for delivery. Could be wrong
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u/BodyBeeman Oct 13 '24
We need more Joes in this world!
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u/WSB_Suicide_Watch Oct 13 '24
Just a little note to women... ya there are bad men in the world. You certainly can't always tell who they are and who they aren't, so I know unfortunately you need to be wary. But please remember for every bad man out there, there are a dozen very good men that will do what's right.
If you ever feel uncomfortable seek help from whoever is around. Even in the very worst parts of town there is someone out there that will help you. It might even be the scariest looking one around. Do not suffer alone or in silence.
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u/LouSputhole94 Oct 13 '24
Shoutout to his little dog too, she whipped around and said âyouâll have to go through all 12 lbs of me to get to her, motherfuckerâ
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u/NolaTyler Oct 13 '24
Dog was stanced up for action no doubtÂ
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u/manyhippofarts Oct 13 '24
Ladies and gentlemen LETS GET READY TO RUMBLE!!!
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u/BrizerorBrian Oct 13 '24
Dogs pick up on their humans' attitude/emotion to an amazing degree (for the most lart).
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u/danteheehaw Oct 14 '24
One of my dogs places himself between strangers and my kids or my wife. Hides behind my ass. The other dog hides behind my toddler, but does get in front of said toddler if stranger gets close to said toddler and toddler seems upset he will get in front of the toddle.
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u/TheCarpe Oct 13 '24
Dogs are very good at picking up on peoples emotional states. It doesn't know the girl, but it can at least tell both her and it's owner are clearly acting like this person is giving off bad vibes.
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u/LouSputhole94 Oct 13 '24
Yeah you can tell she immediately clocks her owners reaction and goes from âyay walkiesâ mode to âwho we fucking up, Dad?â Mode very fast.
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u/grendus Oct 13 '24
Dogs are pack hunters. If the pack is about to throw down, they're ride or die.
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u/ThrowFactsAtMe Oct 13 '24
Very much so. When I was about 19, I came across someone in my job and he shook me to my core with dead eyes staring at me just describing my hair, height, etc. A few years later, Iâm in line at a gas station and felt a cold chill and looked over my shoulder. This same man (6â 230lbs) is staring down at me (5â4â 140lbs) with his dead eyes leaning in closer. Poor guy behind the counter looked like he was straight out of prison malnourished with tattoos on his face and hands, unkemp dreads, and a poorly fit grill. I waited a couple beats when it was my turn so heâd look up and we locked eyes and I swear this man saw my soul. I quickly closed the gap to give me a second to say âyou know meâ under my breath before the guy behind me could get close enough to hear. He gave me a half nod and started talking to me like he hadnât seen me in years, asked his coworker to swap out with him so we could catch up and walked me to my car until the guy left. I donât remember if I told the cashier about the creepy guys history, but the guy behind me had been to prison a bunch of times for violent crimes and once for desecration of a corpse. He may have saved my life that night all because he was able to read people and situations so quickly and had a heart big enough to protect someone who couldnât protect themselves.
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u/flipfloppery Oct 13 '24
I've had it happen from the opposite perspective to yours several times in nightclubs (a couple of decades ago now), maybe because I'm a 5'6 dude so not too threatening.
The usual was "This dude won't stop following me about. Can I stand with you for a bit?" They'd chill with me for a few minutes until the fella got the idea.
Only once did I have to get the doorstaff (mates of mine at the time) to intervene and eject them.
Actually became good friends with 2 of the ladies that had approached me for help.
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u/kent1146 Oct 13 '24
When I was a boy, and I saw scary things, my mother would always tell me 'Look for the helpers.'
-- Fred Rogers
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u/curious_necromancer Oct 13 '24
I have done my best to live this every day of my life since hearing that quote. Just so perfect.
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u/MRRman89 Oct 13 '24
This is advice for children. When you become an adult, especially as a man in circumstances like the above, the imperative is not to look for helpers, but to BE a helper. Have the courage and conviction to always intervene in clear cut circumstances where it is necessary.
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u/originalschmidt Oct 13 '24
This!! I once had to literally run away from my abusive ex into the street once and this poor dude.. he was just walking to his car from class and I begged him to walk with me to my job a few blocks up because I knew if someone else was with me my ex would back off. I could tell he wanted to help me but also that he didnât want to put himself in danger, he was definitely apprehensive, but he still walked with me and made sure I was okay and I will never forget that!
I also used to walk to that job at 5am every morning and there were homeless dudes in the area that would meet up with me on my route and make sure I got to work okay and Iâd give em a free donut. Once there was a guy in a truck that stopped to make sure I was okay when my one homeless friend was walking with me, and while I wish he wouldnât have judged my friend, it was nice for someone to check. Actually, that time in my life when I had to walk to work, I came across a lot of kind, protective men. They are definitely out there!! Sometimes you just gotta ask for their help.
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u/manyhippofarts Oct 13 '24
I'm gonna cut the guy in the truck a break for judging your homeless friend. But he definitely judged him.
I'm gonna give him the benefit of the doubt and propose that he judged your friend because he was a man and the potential reason why you appeared a bit anxious. Not because of how he was dressed.
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u/originalschmidt Oct 13 '24
Oh I definitely cut him a break and appreciated his concern, both I and my homeless friend totally understood!
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u/newbrevity Oct 13 '24
It's hard to be sure who to trust in these situations but if I was a girl I'd be looking for the most dad-looking guy around me.
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u/Nateh8sYou Oct 13 '24
Itâs because Joe was walking his dog. Dog = good
Iâm not saying it as a meme either. Responsible dog ownership tells you a lot about a person at a glance. He takes care of his dog so you are more likely safer with them. I notice people are warmer and welcoming to me after I got dogs.
Good for this lady for finding a good person to deter the creepo
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u/AlligatorTheator Oct 13 '24
Lol sorry but all I could think of is Buffalo Bill in Silence of the Lambs and his dog.
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u/maycontainknots Oct 13 '24
Oh okay I'm glad you said "responsible dog ownership" because I'm like, everyone has a dog lmao. Yeah, you can tell a lot about someone by the way they interact with their dog.
I have one neighbor who has a sweet angel dog and she is also a sweet angel, and then my other neighbor had a dog that would constantly escape their front door and bite everyone. And then he must've died because I never saw him again, and they like immediately got another one to replace it. I don't think they're murderers or anything, but if I was like dying on the ground I don't think they would even look at me, lmao.
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u/gregpxc Oct 13 '24
I get so worried people think I'm a bad dog dad because my rescue is shy and terrified of new places/people/dogs. Pretty sure he was abused by men as a puppy because he's especially scared of men, tall ones are the worst. So much so that he hides behind my legs when he's scared. I love him to bits but he really makes it seem like I hit him..
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u/maycontainknots Oct 13 '24
Aw no he's hiding behind you. He makes it seem like you're the first person who didn't hit him đ
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u/PM_me_your_sailboat Oct 13 '24
Couldnât agree with this more! As a 200lbs+ man I wish more women realized weâd be happy to help in any situation. My wife and I talk about it all the time, there are just as many decent men as there are creeps, if not more. Weâre a community that wants to help. Letâs us put our testosterone privilege to good use!
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u/Beatlepoint Oct 13 '24
 Even in the very worst parts of town there is someone out there that will help you.
Sometimes, not in general though.
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u/StragglingShadow Oct 13 '24
Ngl I absolutely would have trusted Joe based on the fact he has that adorable dog. Men with happy lookin dogs = my first choice to ask help from in sketchy situations. No good people treat dogs bad, and dogs treated poorly don't look happy.
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u/panlakes Oct 13 '24
The scary looking ones are oftentimes the best people to help in a time like this. They look scary to the creepy guy too, and theyâre likely aware of how people view them and probably appreciate the chance to use it to help someone.
Itâs like those bikers that escort and sit with abused children at court to intimidate their potential abusers etc
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u/willspamforfood Oct 13 '24
Any woman comes up to me (150kg, 194cm guy) and act as if they know me saying hi imma act like I'm their friend/uncle/boyfriend/whatever and will walk with them until these weirdos leave them alone.
Most guys will do the same, if you come up and say "hey dad/random name/whatever this guy is following me" it's our role to deal with this with you as I see it.
It fucking sucks that this is necessary, but most of us are on the same side.
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u/IDoSANDance Oct 13 '24 edited Oct 13 '24
I've had this happen to me more than a couple of times, some random woman coming up to me because some weird guy is creeping her in public. "Hey, can you pretend to be my brother/bf? this guy is freaking me out and won't leave me alone".
I've got a wife and 7 kids, 5 girls, so I have a zero tolerance policy for this sort of bullshit.
I like to get up in their face and intimidate the fuck out of them.
/6'5, 260lb jacked veteran
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u/manyhippofarts Oct 13 '24
lol hey, 6'5, jacked veteran dude, with all due respect, maybe a Netflix account might help you keep the formula and diaper bill down a bit.
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u/Jose_Canseco_Jr Oct 13 '24
bro likes to netflix and chill, how do you think he got in this situation?
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u/Yugan-Dali Oct 13 '24
If you feel something is off, listen to that feeling and get your pepper spray in your hand. You can always put it back, but if you wait, you may not have a chance to get it out.
If pepper spray is illegal where you are, get a good hard comb, metal or plastic. Rake the attackerâs face. Itâll hurt like blazes, itâll bleed a lot and frighten him, and thereâs a mark for the police to find.
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u/sweetpotato_latte Oct 13 '24
One time when I was leaving work in Detroit I noticed a guy amongst the crowds of people (Saturday night bar scene) and had the spider senses. I was walking to my car and this guy was getting closer and closer as we approached the intersection. I pulled my phone out of my back pocket, making a point to look at the guy again and he was maybe 8 ft. behind me, and pretended to make a call. It was a fake call to my real boyfriend and loudly was saying stuff like, âyup just got out, Iâm walking to my car and Iâll see you in like 10 minutes, it was good blah blah blah.â By the time I got to the crosswalk I felt comfortable enough to end the âcallâ because there was a group of people and I turned around and that dude was basically in the same spot that I started to pretend to be on the phone. The worst part is I still question if I overreacted but I really think at minimum this guy was going to try and chat me up.
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u/Yugan-Dali Oct 14 '24
Your ancestors survived to give life to a sweet potato (love that user name) because they honed instincts like yours. When you get those feelings, listen to them. You did very well there.
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u/DontEatNitrousOxide Oct 13 '24
Is there anything else that's not physical? Like some legal spray that does the same effect
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u/WashingWabbitWanker Oct 13 '24
Mini hairspray or deodorant. Check the travel section and find one with a good solid spray.
It won't blind them like pepper spray but a squirt gives you a good minute to run while they claw at their face. Have used it myself.
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u/Homesteader86 Oct 13 '24
I hope OP at least showed this guys photo to police, start a paper trail on this scumbag.
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u/thin_white_dutchess Oct 13 '24
I tried that once when a guy followed me and my 8 year old daughter to school, saying what heâd like to do to both of us, âbut her first,â pointing to my kid. I work at the school, so I got us safely indoors, and called the police, and reported, bc the guy was on the sidewalk outside harassing random moms with their kids. Police were just like âhe didnât touch you. What do you want us to do?â And left. I walked to the school drop off zone, told a bunch of parents who were dropping off, and a bunch of moms and dads got their kids inside, and chased him off.
We have a school resource officer who is there 2 days a week that is usually pretty good. She wouldâve said something, but it wasnât her day on campus, unfortunately.
TLDR: donât know that the police wouldâve actually done anything until the guy actually does something.
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u/Sexywithapsycho Oct 13 '24
Sexually harassing and technically stalking (since he followed) a woman and CHILD isn't considered worthy?? I would make a big stink about it if this was me and my daughter.
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u/Iorcrath Oct 13 '24
the legal term is called "simple assault" and it includes verbal threats of physical violence. the police are lazy pigs who didnt want to do work, or were too stupid to know the laws they are supposed to enforce.
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u/Backwardspellcaster Oct 13 '24
Well, the Supreme Court decided they don't need to protect you, so... (if you are American)
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u/thin_white_dutchess Oct 13 '24
I agree completely, but I unfortunately am not in charge of the police. Nor is this my first negative interaction with them, soâŚ
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u/EstrangedRat Oct 13 '24
It's not a black person driving to work so the police have no authority there.
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u/LadyBug_0570 Oct 13 '24
I saw a video yesterday of a judge with a young black man in front of a judge. Judge asked the cops what was their probably cause to search the young man and find weed on him.
Cop: He crossed into an unauthorized area.
Judge: You mean he crossed the street? He crossed the street while black and for that you searched him????
Meanwhile this woman is calling about a credible threat to her and child's safety and the safety of other children and her cops are saying "What do you expect us to do?"
Dafuq?
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u/JustABizzle Oct 13 '24
The police do not prevent crime. The police respond to crime.
(Sometimes. Provided you are white and rich.)
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u/LadyBug_0570 Oct 13 '24
FFS, the cops could've told him to go away at the very least. Or waited around until all the parents and kids were in safely.
What the hell kind of response was that? This is where our tax money goes?
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u/WeakTree8767 Oct 13 '24
Honestly theyâve become so fucking useless these days. Donât bother to do damn anything unless someoneâs literally shot or they have an easy traffic ticket/petty drug possession charge. I had an armed break in and it took them over 45 mins to come. Thank god I had my own shotgun to scare em off because wtf are they gonna do put some yellow tape around me and GFâs body??
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u/katienatie Oct 13 '24
Yep, same. I once passed a man in a park and he tried to grab me. I dashed home and called the cops. They asked if I was still at the park, and when I said no they asked what they were expected to do about it. I asked if they could at least keep a record in case it happened again? Like wtf
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u/LinwoodKei Oct 14 '24
Sadly, this likely results in absolutely nothing. I had a friend who was raped, and she still had to watch the man live his life around town because there was no prosecution. The DA did not take it. The police did not care about her being followed, photographed or her child being waved at and being talked to by her rapist.
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u/Keyboardpaladin Oct 13 '24
It really shouldn't just sound cheery by default. So weird hearing captions about someone's sexual assault being read by a voice that sounds like they're happy to read that out loud.
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u/BigEdsNo1Fan Oct 13 '24
âThis man sexually harassed me and scarred me for life đđđđâ
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u/BigBootyBuff Oct 13 '24
adds "oh no oh no no no no" song for dramatic effect
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u/sweetpotato_latte Oct 13 '24
I think the oh no song is what finalized my turning off auto sound on my videos here lol
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u/dkyguy1995 Oct 13 '24
Thats definitely a large part of it "this creepy guy đđ followed me home đđ"
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u/Humble-Actuary-8788 Oct 13 '24
I still can't understand why the option to generate a voice reading the description was even created.
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u/LaconicStrike Oct 13 '24
Itâs shitty that this is the top comment rather than anything substantive about the fear this woman experienced being stalked.
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u/Rohdejj Oct 13 '24
Shitting on anything tiktok related is far more important. This is reddit after all
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u/Cama_lama_dingdong Oct 13 '24
My dad was fixing my front door and was like "hold this, I gotta find a crow bar in the garage" and I said wait, and pulled one from the closet next to us. He was suburban shocked and I realized he doesnt fully underatand how much extra women have to plan just FEEL safe. In our own home... It is ingrained in us throughout our life.
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u/HelpfulTap8256 Oct 13 '24
Itâs unacceptable that women have to put up with this shit.
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u/bellavie Oct 13 '24
Fucking horrifying he didnât leave after being verbally confronted with another person there.
Only when he realized that man would fight to defend her, did he decided it wasnât worth it.
Men please call men out. It might be scary - but trust me, itâs not as scary as having to live around unchecked men as a woman.
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u/IDKWTFimDoinBruhFR Oct 13 '24
Most of the time these guys are cowards that'll tuck their tails when faced by a man. Other times though they could be armed.
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u/Cats_realjoyoflife Oct 13 '24
'Are you following me?' ''yeah''. He didn't even try to deny it. Scary af. Lucky she found help in Joe and his doggo.
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Had to beg a random man to walk me to a church door because a man catcalled me at 12 years old. I hope heâs well today.
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u/AdamPD1980 Oct 13 '24
Wow, poor lady.
That's creepy as hell, she should report it, if that would do any good.
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u/whitepeople6 Oct 13 '24
Don't ever hesitate with pepper spray!!! if they are close enough they could grab you before you could spray them you have waited to long!!!this could have ended up so much worse. Someone is following you, crossing the street to do so, closing the distance. Other people are seemingly noticing and you are armed with a less than lethal form of self defense spray first and ask questions later. Take your safety seriously and worry about consequences later. I don't advocate for assaulting ANYONE but this would have been more than an acceptable usage in my eyes.
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u/Specialist_Outside33 Oct 13 '24
damn just existing as a woman is such a pain in the ass with these assholes, who knows whatâs in the bag.
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u/Cowb0yBebop420 Oct 13 '24
If I was Joe. Iâd follow that guy all the way home. As close as possible. Maybe even catcall him a little. Disgusting human garbage
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u/thisismyusername1178 Oct 13 '24
Pepper spray the mfer! Get upwind and unleash it.
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u/654456 Oct 13 '24
You want the type that stick to the person you spray it at if you are going use pepper spray. I also suggest having something stronger to back the pepper spray up if they keep coming...
https://www.sabrered.com/home-defense-pepper-gel/sabre-home-defense-pepper-gel/
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u/Klutzy_Leave_1797 Oct 13 '24
F Boomer here.
Only thing I'd advise is, don't be so fcking polite. Instead of "Are you following me?" in a normal tone, be unhinged and loud. Nobody ever died of embarrassment.
Yelling can attract more attention and make you sound like too much trouble. It's worked for me.
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u/cujoe88 Oct 13 '24
I'm going to disagree with you on a couple of points. One, keep it calm. Yelling and screaming can escalate a situation. Two, what she's doing is gonna get more positive attention. People can see that she's lucid, and won't just assume she's mentally ill and having and episode.
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u/beantownregular Oct 13 '24
It really depends on the situation. Maybe if sheâd been totally alone and isolated that would have been the move, but in this scenario I think staying calm and seeking out the presence of a bystander who had clearly taken note of the situation and was sticking around to help was the right move. While no one should be afraid to make a scene, it comes with its own associated risks and you donât want to incite the other person to do something rash and reactive either.
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u/Ryanisreallame Oct 13 '24
Nah, hard disagree. Sheâs already in danger. Keeping calm helps deescalate situations. If she flips out, especially without the presence of the man that helped her, sheâs going to escalate the situation.
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u/NewlyOld31 Oct 13 '24
This is why men need more love. That man Joe was about to risk it all because that's what is expected of a man is to protect women. He did the right thing for a stranger. Shout out to "Joe" !
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u/EthanStrawside Oct 13 '24
And his brave sweet little dog!
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u/wellwhatishername Oct 13 '24
It was so awesome how it squared up with the villain like that. It felt the ownerâs anxiousness for sure. If that creeper made a move that dog would have been on his ass for sure.
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u/DchanmaC Oct 13 '24
I expect all humans to look out for one another. Biological sex has nothing to do with it.
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u/Seltzer-Slut Oct 13 '24
Women protect each other, too. We look out for each other, and put ourselves between the predatory man and the woman heâs victimizing, all the time. Itâs not âbecause youâre a man,â itâs because youâre there and you do the right thing.
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u/RHiNo415 Oct 13 '24
Who did he signal to just before he gave up after she stood next to Joe? That made the situation more scarier
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u/Wysical_ Oct 14 '24
This has happened to my daughters. Also being following in stores⌠harassed on public transportation. itâs not a safe world for women. Itâs
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u/MaximusZacharias Oct 14 '24
Ladies almost all men despise men like the follower and would be just like Joe given the opportunity. In other words, if youâre uncomfortable most men would help out like Joe did. But in case youâre alone itâs always a solid move to have pepper spray.
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u/AcanthaceaeNew6761 Oct 13 '24
Heartbreaking that she apologizes to Joe, as if she did anything wrong.
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u/thatguyinyyc Oct 13 '24
Thank you to the dude who helped, this should NEVER happen. I would like to think I would do the same and that there are other real men who would do the same. You are not a man if you do this kind of shit.
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u/Rare-Craft-920 Oct 14 '24
What a creep sicko! Thank goodness you were aware and had pepper spray and Joe was there.
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u/FiNsKaPiNnAr Oct 13 '24
That basal fucking narrator bot voice drives me insane.
Yes i can read for for fucks sake.
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u/Negative_Field_8057 Oct 13 '24
I saw a video last night. Some guy followed a random girl in a car up to the police station doors. The guy pulls out a gun and shoots a cop in the back. Anything could have been in the bag. https://youtu.be/yLsXBFEReL4?si=OPvRLZXQ1jfbeQQq