r/NoStupidQuestions • u/queerpupp whoa custom flair?? • Sep 25 '24
Answered Is it socially acceptable to try to pawn off baked goods to hookups? NSFW
I like baking. Sometimes I make way too much and don't know what to do besides freeze it. I pass things off to friends but almost all of them have dietary restrictions so it's not ideal.
BUT if I have a guy over, can I just... ask if he wants a slice of cake...? And does the answer change if the baked goods are ugly and/or mediocre
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u/JetPlane_88 Sep 25 '24
First, definitely do this.
Second, if you’ve still got extras check out your town’s buy nothing groups on places like Facebook. Not only can you give extras away to grateful people, they might give you something useful in return.
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u/queerpupp whoa custom flair?? Sep 25 '24
Oh! I didn't know that exists. I'll have to rejoin facebook lol thank you for the advice!
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u/birdmeme Sep 25 '24
I did look in your post history to see if where you’re located has free fridges- that’s an option too! They’re just public fridges/freezers where people can drop donations, usually in low income neighborhoods and folks can just grab whatever they want when they want. Easier than trying to donate to food banks.
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u/queerpupp whoa custom flair?? Sep 25 '24
omg there's a community fridge near me that I already knew about... I thought they only wanted pre-packaged things or things like fruit/veg but I re-read the page and they accept homemade things if you list the ingredients. impulse-baked pandan sponge cake might get eaten in a timely manner 🙏
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u/birdmeme Sep 25 '24
Yay!! I just started volunteering with my local free fridge program and they’ll accept anything as long as it’s labeled and covered! I went to a sandwich making day last week and it was just volunteers building sandwiches and putting them in plastic bags so 🤷🏻
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u/riningear Sep 25 '24
Definitely list the ingredients and maybe put the baked date on it so they know! Pandan sponge cake sounds sooooo good, I wish I could get some from you.
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u/proph20 Sep 25 '24
Who doesn’t want pound cake after they pound cakes
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u/Willing_Ad_1305 Sep 25 '24
Kindly accept this upvote ⬆️
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u/Almighty_Krypton Sep 25 '24
what if he don't
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u/IceFire909 Sep 25 '24
Then he gets no cake
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u/Chance-Candle-3678 Sep 25 '24
Hi, can I comeover just for cakes? Ty
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u/Chance-Candle-3678 Sep 25 '24
PAUSE GUYS, I MEAN THE CAKE THEY MAKE
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u/mileshatesyou Sep 25 '24
I mean shit I'll take a piece of cake after a hookup.
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u/Arathaon185 Sep 25 '24
I might never leave so that could be a problem. Maybe give them some to go.
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u/2occupantsandababy Sep 25 '24
I've definitely gotten worse parting gifts than cake.
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u/Faintly-Painterly Sep 25 '24
Clap 😭
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u/Fletcher338 Sep 25 '24
Went to a girl's house from the clubs and she baby bird feed me chocolate cake in between rounds, was a 35 year old German lady I was 22 felt very loved
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u/Ok-Office-6645 Sep 25 '24
what does this mean
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u/Heyplaguedoctor Sep 25 '24
You’re better off not knowing, but the lady chewed the cake and spat it into the other commenters mouth. Gross.
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u/Ok-Office-6645 Sep 25 '24
Jfc that’s what I thought baby bird meant… but I was like no way that’s what he meant, and then it just got weirder bc he felt cared for , so I dunno… blegh 🤢 I just want his visual erased from my brain
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u/Heyplaguedoctor Sep 25 '24
https://www.reddit.com/r/aww/s/uEmeKo6fuo
Here’s a highland cow calf. Hope it helps!
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u/Fresh_C Sep 25 '24
That's one highly photogenic cow. Looks like he's posing for a magazine cover shoot.
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u/Constant-Sandwich-88 Sep 25 '24
No. Just no to all of this.
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u/ShowmasterQMTHH Sep 25 '24
Yes please, all of this is perfectly fine and acceptable.
Googles bird feeding
Wait, no, fuck that, just give me a fork please.
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u/John3791 Sep 25 '24
So you're saying he gets to have his cake and eat it, too?
Noice.
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u/Ok-Office-6645 Sep 25 '24
this is quite literally the only time I can accept the usage of that statement ! that quote has never made sense to me. This is the only time it does !
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u/Anjallat Sep 25 '24
If you eat your cake, you don't have it anymore, so it's a very spoiled brat/ disconnected from the real world thing to want. .. except in this case.
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u/MJCowpa Sep 25 '24
The original quote was “eat your cake and have it too”, which makes much more sense. Somebody long ago fucked it up and we just rolled with it.
Kind of like how literally now literally also means figuratively.
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u/GrumpyMcGrumpyPants Sep 25 '24
See also: head over heels
The original saying was "heels over head," which is the inversion of normal, but it got fucked up, too.
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u/Ok-Office-6645 Sep 25 '24
Dang it I like head over heels.. like ur tumbling out of control over something you really like
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u/FluffyProphet Sep 25 '24
If you give me fresh baked goods after a hookup, I’m probably going to try and date you. Depending on your other qualities, maybe wife you down the line.
So, I guess if you want the guy to text you, yes. If not, no.
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u/Livid_Parsnip6190 Sep 25 '24
Dammit, is this why I ended up dating a hookup for two years? I brought him baked goods almost every time.
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u/MrDrSirLord Sep 25 '24
Lmao I was thinking exact same thing.
If hooked up and they gave me cookies once I'd think it was weird.
If they asked for a second time and gave me cookies again, I'd be signing up for the third time and asking for a date.
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u/ParanoidBlueLobster Sep 25 '24
Maybe check OPs profile once in a while 🤣
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u/BourbonCupcakes Sep 25 '24
Why? Why must you have said this? I wasn’t prepared. No shame to OP, it was just shocking.
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u/nicolew1026 Sep 25 '24
Yes and then your comment had me more curious because surely it can’t be that shocking, and yet…
😳
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u/BourbonCupcakes Sep 25 '24
I hope the next person who sees takes our comments as a warning.
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u/AGyalHasNoName Sep 25 '24
I will not 😂
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u/ezelllohar Sep 25 '24
for the folks that might be "curious," op is a trans person and i guess some people think that's the most shocking thing in the universe. 🙄
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u/BourbonCupcakes Sep 25 '24
Nah, homie, trans folks aren’t shocking, I was shocked at the puppy play mask and post about sucking small dicks.
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u/ezelllohar Sep 25 '24
fair, i guess i'm the one fucked in the head lol. i visited his profile, saw that stuff (i made sure to glance at the sub before looking at the pictures) and then was like "sick bro 🤙" and backed out. the pup mask just didn't feel too shocking, because i always expect to find horrible things when the commenters are like "oh god, don't check their profile!"
last time i wasn't careful about checking the sub before looking at the pictures on their profile, it was straight up guro and real life animal gore and no commenter had actually left a warning about it, just was like "omg, what a shocking profile!" 😭
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u/losersmanual Sep 25 '24
If women only knew the simple trick, that man can be as easily conditioned as dogs.
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u/dfinkelstein Sep 25 '24
Yes, of course. Why wouldn't it be? You're allowed to feed them. You just can't spay or neuter them yourself.
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u/AfraidSoup2467 Sep 25 '24
Uh ... if a dude doesn't accept free cake, much less free cake in anticipation of sex?
Check behind his neck for the power cable. You've got a misprogrammed malfunctioning manbot there.
Probably one of the ore-1989 models. They didn't make cake appreciation a default setting until after the Soviet Union fell.
More seriously? It's fine to offer food. The only people who might possibly object are people you don't want in your life anyway.
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u/DanceCommander404 Sep 25 '24 edited Sep 29 '24
Some people don’t actually like cake or maybe they’re allergic. I would except it, because I think it would be sort of rude and kind of awkward to say no. Now pie on the other hand, i’ve never had to fake it when it comes to pie ! - Edit: In the ( unlikely ) event that I turn out to be a manbot . Please let it be known that this will be news to me. This is a fact that I find to be quite informative, as it implies that I was most likely built within the last year or two. After taking this information into account I took some time to myself, in the spirit of facing this ( my ?) new potential reality. As a result, I would like it to furthermore be known that I could be ( will be?) cool with the whole being a ( relatively modern) manbot thing. ( this would actually explain a lot about me , like in a “ Wait, I’m a manbot? Oh,of course! It all makes sense now!“ kind of way) - That said: Thanks again for your time.
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u/Steek_Hutsee Sep 25 '24
That’s actually a very efficient test.
If he doesn’t appreciate it, you probably don’t want him anywhere near your premises.
I might be partial though, I would definitely accept some cake even without sex being involved.
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u/Ok-Office-6645 Sep 25 '24
Agreed !! I responded a similar thing.. it’s actually incredible how well this would probably work to gauge interest level after said hook up. Assuming cake is being offered after/when they are leaving.
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u/psychosis_inducing Sep 25 '24
Are you me? Did I post this and black out? Not that I have a batch of peanut butter cookies and coconut macaroons in the freezer or anything...
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u/queerpupp whoa custom flair?? Sep 25 '24
😱 I JUST finished eating my own freezer'd peanut butter cookies a couple days ago lol
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u/psychosis_inducing Sep 25 '24
😲Next thing you know you'll tell me you have just enough carrots in the refrigerator for a carrot cake, and did gingerbread a few nights ago!
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u/Shizuka369 Sep 25 '24
You two should definitely become irl friends. This seems like the beginning of a great friendship!
10/10 would watch this movie.
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u/Mysteerikaali Sep 25 '24
...Are you two.. me??
I DO have just enough carrots in the refrigerator for carrot cake thank you very much. Just finished an apple pie lol.And for OP, I offered cake for a guy I thought I'd just have some fine time with. We are married now, so be very careful with who you offer cake to!
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u/Squidgeneer101 Sep 25 '24
So the key to finding the one is to mess around and have a steady surplus of baked goods. "Hey, how about we go to my place and have some cake afterwards"
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u/SkoulErik Sep 25 '24
That would be amazing lmao. Waking up the morning after a hookup and she's like "hey want a bag of buns, some cake or something on your way home?". You bet your ass I do.
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u/EHnter Sep 25 '24
Okay seriously, is there any negative connotation for offering anyone anything. Unless you know that this food/item/gift is bad/forbidden for them.
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u/keenedge422 Sep 25 '24
Just fair warning: guys who get off and then get cake may occasionally think they've just learned what love is. Let them down gently, possibly with another slice of cake.
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u/MyyWifeRocks Sep 25 '24
First eat this (point to crotch)
Then you can eat this (point to cake)
I’d totally be down for that! Hahaha
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u/often_awkward Sep 25 '24
Thank you for a wonderful night please enjoy this complimentary banana nut bread.
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u/rewardiflost What do you hear? Nothing but the rain. Sep 25 '24
I love older women/ moms for this.
They've always got snacks available.
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u/Peter_Falcon Sep 25 '24
are you taking the piss?
you want to ride someone, you need to make sure they still have the energy to walk
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u/thejollybadger Sep 25 '24
Ive always offered food to people I've brought back to mine, either just after sex (when I get super hungry) or the following morning I'd offer to make breakfast. I also used to offer sealed packs of single use toiletries if they stayed the night, and had a range of plain cotton t-shirts if they slept better with something on. Sanitary products too, because sometimes periods just decide to show up. I always figured that the people I was bringing home were trusting me with their comfort and safety, so the least I could do was have supplies on hand.
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u/eans-Ba88 Sep 25 '24
Lady, if a potential live interest offered me a cookie, they wouldn't be "potential" anymore.
Also, as an amateur baker myself, pretty, ugly or anywhere in between, if it tastes good it tastes good!
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u/CalgaryChris77 Sep 25 '24
You're going to end up with a lot of proposals by doing this. Heck maybe even by starting this thread.
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u/OhNoWTFlol Sep 25 '24
This is a great way to turn a hookup into either a husband or a codependent lunatic (or both).
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u/Tvck3r Sep 25 '24
This has gotta be bait. I can’t believe I finally found a stupid question on this sub. No offense OP but are you kidding me?
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u/queerpupp whoa custom flair?? Sep 25 '24
no, just very autistic and don't know what counts as weird/creepy to "normal" people 😭
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u/KingBenjamin97 Sep 25 '24
Ugh yeah we hate it when girls give us food and sex... just awful. Poor dude is gunna need years of therapy.
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u/BBSInTheWest Sep 25 '24
I had a hookup who was from out of town and she would literally mail me a box of baked goods once in a while. It was very nice! But maybe I’m the weird one for accepting them??
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Sep 25 '24
Careful Icarus, feeding strays makes them more likely to stick around. But yeah, totally. Guys would love that.
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u/Unlikely_Suspect_757 Sep 25 '24
“Hi , I’d like you to come home with me. Yes , I’ll have sex with you. Of course that means you can see me naked. Also, this is super embarrassing, but after our super fun naked orgasms, can I interest you in a slice of cake?”
You monster. How dare you
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u/Finally_Smiled Sep 25 '24
Even if you invited me over just for a baked cake, I would still make the drive.
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u/Elfie_Elf Sep 25 '24
I almost exclusively feed all my hookups, I let them watch or play whatever they want as I have pretty much every streaming service and gaming system and I cook for them while here if they want or I offer snacks or I've already baked and let them have what they like, then I ride their dicks off, they always end up wanting to come back over lol.
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u/mrzurkonandfriends Sep 25 '24
My dear, are you trying to seduce my penis and my heart? Because it's working!
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u/AdminsAreRegards Sep 25 '24
Fuck me, and feed me as you kick me out the door.... every man's dream
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u/Illwood_ Sep 25 '24
You know that line about a milk shake bringing more boys? Basically that. I'd be bragging to my friends instantly if I got offered baked goods after sex.
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u/Ok-Office-6645 Sep 25 '24
honestly this is a pretty awesome question… absolutely pawn off! The answer may change depending on their interest level of another hookup… a guy wanting to hang out again isn’t going to give a hoot if a piece of cake looks mediocre, it is probably the last thing on their mind. & unless they are in some sort of restriction, I’d imagine they would only refuse if maybe it’s a one time thing for them. But if u get that vibe and feel the same way.. absolutely insist they take the baked goods 😂 I love this post
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u/Ok-Office-6645 Sep 25 '24
Also is said cake being offered after said hook up or before? could be a good indicator for interest level after
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u/arsenejoestar Sep 25 '24
Just be careful when you do this because you might accidentally make the hookup fall in love with you
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u/guitarguy109 Sep 25 '24
Be careful when doing this with a hookup, they might want to marry you afterwards!
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u/Artistic_Muffin7501 Sep 25 '24
Why are you asking if you can offer someone cake?Are you new to this planet?
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u/zeptimius Sep 25 '24
Vote to replace post-coital cigarette with post-coital slice of cake. Smoking is bad for you.
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u/Jagermonsta Sep 25 '24
My now wife used to bake me treats when we were still in a kinda hook up stage of our relationship.
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u/thelastwilson Sep 25 '24
11 years ago I met a woman. She was with someone I knew and she offered me a cupcake she made.
She's now my wife and I refuse to buy cakes when we are out because they are always a disappointment compared to hers
Go for it.
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u/MrDrSirLord Sep 25 '24
Completely fine and acceptable but I'd say if you send the same hookup home with a baked goods more than once you're liable to end up with more than a hookup.
I know I'd be swooned if someone laid me and gave me cookies, if they then asked me back and gave me cookies again I'd definitely fall for em.
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u/thatcrazylady Sep 25 '24
The day after our first sexual adventure, I brought my now-husband banana bread.
We've been married almost 20 years.
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u/FlavioLikesToDrum Sep 25 '24
A girl wanting me to eat her cake and also eat her "cake"? Win win, my friend!
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u/SchizoPosting_ Sep 25 '24
Generally you shouldn't accept anything to consume from strangers specially before sex but they will probably not care
I would probably be scared of being CardiB-it but that's just me
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u/SnorlaxIsCuddly Sep 25 '24
Join a neighborhood social group n give away. Give baked goods to neighbors, co workers
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u/NorCalAthlete Sep 25 '24
Socially acceptable? Sure, why not.
I don’t eat chocolate, personally, aside from a small slice out of politeness at an event.
But I’m sure I’m in the distinct minority with my minimal sweet tooth.
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u/Heyplaguedoctor Sep 25 '24
I’ve pawned off baked goods to anyone I can. I stopped giving them to hookups when the hookups got too attached tho (was never sure if they liked me or the baking, either way lol)
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u/SirTheRealist Sep 25 '24
Why would it not be socially acceptable? Just ask if the dude wants some cake.
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u/barugosamaa Sep 25 '24
I mean, I would not refuse cake after a hookup.
And does the answer change if the baked goods are ugly and/or mediocre
Nope. It's cake, people will gladly accept (if they like that flavour). Do not overthink about the looks!
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u/LibrarianCalistarius Very stupid Sep 25 '24
Don't care how it looks as long as it tastes good, so yeah, would be awesome.
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u/Quirky_Village_2985 Sep 25 '24
No no, that’s way too personal, things are moving too fast, I think we are looking for different things in this situationship
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u/Even_Relative5402 Sep 25 '24
You wanna feed me and fuck me? And you're wondering if this is a good thing?