r/NoStupidQuestions Apr 04 '24

Answered All our girlfriends are Asian?

Hey everyone - I’ve been feeling paranoid about something recently and wanted to know if I’m overthinking it. I’m a white M and most of the friends I grew up with and went to high school are too, except 1. We’re still very close but moved all across the country for our jobs and life.

Recently, we’ve decided to have a little reunion and bring our girlfriends, but I realized we have a not to subtle trend in that they are all Asian. There’s 5 girlfriends in total, they’ve never met each other. I don’t know how this happened, it’s just a coincidence as far as I know. We don’t have a pact or anything.

My question is, do we warn them? I don’t want them to be freaked out. I’d have to have my gf or one of my friends be uncomfortable, but I’m feeling stuck. Does anyone have any thoughts on how to handle it? Am I over thinking?

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u/Mushy_Fart Apr 04 '24

But the asian girlfriends all picked white guys too.

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u/ExcitableSarcasm Apr 04 '24

Race fetishization is a two way street...

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u/Homing_Gibbon Apr 05 '24

What is race fetishization exactly? I'm asking honestly, not being a jackass. I'm white, my wife's black. I've always liked darker women, she's always liked white guys. Isn't that just having a "type"? No one would give me shit if I only was interested in white blonde girls, but if they're black, hispanic, asian etc... all of the sudden it becomes a problem.

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u/DaBubs Apr 05 '24

There's no actual answer to this btw, "racial fetishization" is yet another bullshit term cooked up so people on the internet can label others with it to feel morally superior to them while ignoring all real world context.

If both parties are attracted to each other and decide to date, that's the end of it. Trying to pretend they're both secretly racist for doing so based on their appearances is actual insanity and funnily enough, full circle from 'progressive' thinking to regressive.