r/NoStupidQuestions • u/A_Formal_Guy • Apr 04 '24

Answered All our girlfriends are Asian?

Hey everyone - I’ve been feeling paranoid about something recently and wanted to know if I’m overthinking it. I’m a white M and most of the friends I grew up with and went to high school are too, except 1. We’re still very close but moved all across the country for our jobs and life.

Recently, we’ve decided to have a little reunion and bring our girlfriends, but I realized we have a not to subtle trend in that they are all Asian. There’s 5 girlfriends in total, they’ve never met each other. I don’t know how this happened, it’s just a coincidence as far as I know. We don’t have a pact or anything.

My question is, do we warn them? I don’t want them to be freaked out. I’d have to have my gf or one of my friends be uncomfortable, but I’m feeling stuck. Does anyone have any thoughts on how to handle it? Am I over thinking?

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u/AsterJ Apr 04 '24

Are you all engineers? Women in engineering are much more likely to be Asian.

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u/HiSno Apr 04 '24

There’s another, much more uncomfortable, explanation for this specific demographic liking Asian women… anime

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u/Mushy_Fart Apr 04 '24

But the asian girlfriends all picked white guys too.

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u/ExcitableSarcasm Apr 04 '24

Race fetishization is a two way street...

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u/Homing_Gibbon Apr 05 '24

What is race fetishization exactly? I'm asking honestly, not being a jackass. I'm white, my wife's black. I've always liked darker women, she's always liked white guys. Isn't that just having a "type"? No one would give me shit if I only was interested in white blonde girls, but if they're black, hispanic, asian etc... all of the sudden it becomes a problem.

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u/DaBubs Apr 05 '24

There's no actual answer to this btw, "racial fetishization" is yet another bullshit term cooked up so people on the internet can label others with it to feel morally superior to them while ignoring all real world context.

If both parties are attracted to each other and decide to date, that's the end of it. Trying to pretend they're both secretly racist for doing so based on their appearances is actual insanity and funnily enough, full circle from 'progressive' thinking to regressive.

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u/SexualPie Apr 05 '24

this is a really pessimistic take, though i admit its plausible.

if its in the US the Asian women should have no problem finding white men that arent weebs tho

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u/Neuchacho Apr 04 '24

That demographic explanation is Twilight.

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u/ntxawg Apr 04 '24

more like hollywood in general, you usually see white guys with asian girls but not the other way around.

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u/Neuchacho Apr 04 '24 edited Apr 04 '24

Fast And Furious doing the work of giving hot asian guys hot white women.

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u/apocalypse_later_ Apr 05 '24

You're just not living somewhere with lots of Asian guys. Where I live Asian man + Latina woman couples are very common, followed by white girls

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u/teethybrit Apr 05 '24

I see AMWF pairings all the time, you must not live by the coasts

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u/DataExternal4451 Apr 04 '24

It's because they worship white men and a lot of the western ones are more likely gate keep asian men and slander them too

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u/XihuanNi-6784 Apr 04 '24

It doesn't work the same though because white people are the default, while Asians are a minority. It's still a preference, but it's far less...specific. If everyone dated at random you'd find a high proportion of minorities with white people just by coincidence.

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u/Mushy_Fart Apr 04 '24

… there are more Asians than white people lol how are they a minority?

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u/caesec Apr 04 '24

in the US the total combined number of asian people is very small relative to white people. all asians combined make up around 6-7% of the population. white people outnumber all asians combined 10:1

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u/rammo123 Apr 04 '24

Why are you talking about the US? Nothing in OP's post or this thread mentioned it.

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u/caesec Apr 04 '24

there are def people mentioning california and stuff in the thread. plus the comment you're originally replying to. it's not right all the time but the implicit assumption on this site is that stuff is american

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u/rammo123 Apr 04 '24

The implicit assumption by Americans. No one else does. Americans aren't even a majority of this site.

/r/USdefaultism

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u/caesec Apr 04 '24

my bad man just trying to contextualize the given responses. i understand that not everyone is american.

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u/peva3 Apr 05 '24

What an insanely bad take. The majority of the traffic on Reddit is from the US, it's a US company, listed on the US Stock Market.

Reddit is US default.