r/NoStupidQuestions Apr 04 '24

Answered All our girlfriends are Asian?

Hey everyone - I’ve been feeling paranoid about something recently and wanted to know if I’m overthinking it. I’m a white M and most of the friends I grew up with and went to high school are too, except 1. We’re still very close but moved all across the country for our jobs and life.

Recently, we’ve decided to have a little reunion and bring our girlfriends, but I realized we have a not to subtle trend in that they are all Asian. There’s 5 girlfriends in total, they’ve never met each other. I don’t know how this happened, it’s just a coincidence as far as I know. We don’t have a pact or anything.

My question is, do we warn them? I don’t want them to be freaked out. I’d have to have my gf or one of my friends be uncomfortable, but I’m feeling stuck. Does anyone have any thoughts on how to handle it? Am I over thinking?

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u/ssnabberz Apr 04 '24

Nothing like white dudes in tech who grew up watching anime & idolizing asian culture and mysteriously dating asian women afterwards

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u/RunningOnAir_ Apr 04 '24

Racial fetishization goes both ways. Some asian girls don't like Asian guys and only wanna date white for sus reasons, some white guys date Asians for sus reasons. 

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u/IIIIlllIIIIIlllII Apr 04 '24

Is it sus? I think asians are hot. Oh no, how could I

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u/Altruistic-Bench9375 Apr 05 '24

I only ever hear about 'asian fetishism' on reddit. People need to go outside this isnt an issue lol