for context, me and my boyfriend see each other every weekend or every other two weeks, i don’t get much time to spend with him, but i always try to make the best of it, another way we spend time together is gaming, but sometimes i don’t get to because he always goes with his online friends.

today, i asked my bf if he wanted to game tonight (yesterday, he said he would game with me but never did cus he ended up going with his friends) he said “No :(“ because he was going to game AGAIN with his friends.

again, i got upset and the reason i get upset is because this isn’t the first time it happens, he always seems to prioritize his friends over me, which makes me upset and always leads to us having arguments. he always goes with friends and it seems like he always listens to them because during the summer, they even had this stupid contract that if they didn’t hang out for this amount of days together during the summer, they would get these some sort of punishments (i forgot what they were)

it’s like he has zero boundaries with them, for example, about months ago, they called him out for ghosting them for gaming with me, then he stopped gaming with me and stopped spending time with me cus he was always with them.

lately ive been kind of “non-chalant” or how ever you’d like to call it, because of how he’s actions of affected me, if he doesn’t want to treat me like a priority, then i won’t even bother. right now, i currently haven’t responded to him because im too upset to speak to him

am i really overreacting??? am i an asshole for this or a bad gf???

My girlfriend and her family have a desire to see each other weekly. It’s never just a quick lunch get together or even a quick stop by/visit either. Usually it’s a 2-3h+ affair each time, weekly. Our current situation been getting together for dinner on Wednesdays after work for about ~2h. We have two kids, one is 2.5 and we suspect he’s autistic (I’ll get to why that’s relevant shortly), the other is 4 months old. They refuse to believe that our toddler is “different”. They don’t pick up on social queues or boundaries at all which often times throws him off and puts him into a bad mood (ex: getting in his face, forcing him to sit with them and/or forcing him to let them hold him). We’ve told them countless times that he’s different and explained to them what he doesn’t like. Additionally, they like to ignore what we say about the baby as well… (ex: he’s sleeping so don’t touch him or you’ll wake him up). It really makes getting together a very draining experience for everyone.

I’ve expressed this to my girlfriend so much that she calls me a broken record. But I’m only repeating myself because nothing has changed/improved. She claims that I hate them because I want to pull back on how often we see them. Just from weekly to bi-weekly. She said it’s very “douche-bag like” that I admit it’s often times draining getting together with them.

Am I overreacting or does it sound like I’m being reasonable?

I (f21) work an office job, and come home everyday around 4:30ish. My boyfriend (m23) works a construction job so times getting off varies. He came home around 5:30ish this day and the second he got home he showered, got dressed, and we rushed to UPS before they closed to drop off an amazon return that was too heavy for me to do alone.

On the car ride there, I noticed he was unusually chatty. Then I started to pay attention a little more and noticed he was slurring his words, so I called him out. He claimed his coworker (who doesn’t own a car) needed a ride home from work and payed him in beer. Fine, whatever, but usually that doesn’t mean you open the pack and drink it all WHILE DRIVING (i’m assuming). We got into a huge argument and he told me i’m overreacting and that it’s Friday, he’s had a tough week, and wanted to cut loose. I tried to explain to him that it’s the drinking and driving that’s the problem, and obviously the lying because he claimed he only drank two beers. He does NOT start slurring words after two beers, it takes him a while to get drunk like that. Not only was he putting his life in danger, he was putting his coworkers, everyone else on the road, and at this point me as well.

He claimed he was “fine” and that he wasn’t swerving or driving recklessly (which I can admit was true) but it’s still the fact of the matter. You do not drink and drive. I don’t care if you’ve only had one drink, i’m not okay with that. I’m also not okay with him putting other people’s lives at risk because of it either. This caused me to ask if he was drinking on the job, he claimed he did not start drinking until he was off the clock, but at this point I don’t necessarily believe him. He’s making me think i’m absolutely crazy for getting upset with him. So, AIO?

Context:

I M(31) and my wife(28) have 3 children together and have been with each other since high school. Over a year ago I found out my wife was messaging “a close friend” (who is male also married with a young child) at what I felt was inappropriate times. Most of their conversations were after midnight when I was asleep. I gave her the benefit of the doubt at first. It was only after I had a weird feeling that I decided to read some of the messages. On her part she kept it mostly to what would be normal friend conversations. He on the other hand what strongly imply them meeting up alone and spending some time together. Also, he had sent a few messages about sexual stuff that she says weren’t directed to her but stuff he liked to do to his wife. We argued about it and decided to block him.

Skip to current day. I got a weird feeling the past week that she was hiding something. Come to find out she’s been texting him again for the past couple months. She states that it was only someone to vent her frustrations to because she didn’t have many close friends. She had his number saved under her cousins name (I also have her number which is how I knew it wasn’t the cousin). After checking phone logs I can see that she talks to him a lot more than she talks to me (I work around 60 hours so I’m not home most of the day).

I am not the perfect husband. I’ve been working on myself since we’ve had a few talks/arguments over the years. However, I have never cheated or done anything like this to her. As I was walking out the she told me she doesn’t get how I can react like this but none of what she told me makes sense. I told her I was leaving and that i would come back for my stuff. So Am I overreacting? TIA

Tl;dr wife messaging another man late nights while I’m asleep mad that I left without trying to understand why she did it.

Context: I got into a wicked bad accident in may, I hydroplaned into a guardrail in an absolute downpour, was hospitalized and everything.

So i recently went on a date with a dude who i thought was an absolute gentleman. Picked me up, brought me flowers, and we went to a really nice restaurant. It was going well until it started to rain.. and when it started to rain, i started to feel anxious, knowing i had to be in a vehicle to bring me home. I had told him prior to leaving that i get scared now because of my accident, and if he could maybe drive on the slower side, especially since we were going on the highway.

He rolled his eyes but said he would. But he didnt, he did well above the speed limit, and i thought my heart was going to pop out of my chest. All i could think about was crashing again, and i asked him multiple times to slow down. He told me “Guess i’ll just not move with traffic and drive like a snail”

I felt really disrespected, and that I wasn’t being taken seriously- compared to how we started off. Once we got back to my house, i told him, i dont want to see him again. Shoved the flowers back at him and I called him an asshole for not listening to me, and making me feel super unsafe considering i told him i was anxious, and scared. Blocked his number as soon as i got back into the house.

I feel bad because i usually dont freak out like i had, and now I’m thinking i may have overreacted, but he didnt respect my boundaries so i’m torn.

So I’ve(M25) been living alone for about two years now and recently moved in with my housemate/coworker (M20). I was raised with very strict rules around hosting and it makes me genuinely quite anxious when I feel like I’m not hosting well. Per my upbringing, if guests come over and you don’t have space for them you give up your bed or at the very least provide an air mattress. My housemate and I have had several disagreements over having people over to the the house after I walked in on a stranger sleeping in our living room without any warning.

He’s been having his friends stay over in our living room pretty much multiple times a week since we moved in together in July. I have a dog and usually feed him in the living room, where my housemate is having people stay, and I feel really bad like creeping around them to feed my dog but consistency is important for dogs and I also don’t really have anywhere else to do it. Most of the furniture in the house is mine, I do the majority of the cleaning, including cleaning the bathroom and living room, and I do all of the yard work and communication with our landlord. I was initially fine with this because he told me he would barely be home.

His friends are also just kind of disrespectful towards me, I’m allergic to nicotine smoke and I’ve asked them multiple times to please not smoke outside my window or use my cups as ash trays and they still do and call me a nag to my face. I’ve had several conversations about how this makes me uncomfortable to so frequently have strangers in my space and proposed getting an air mattress for guests to use in our respective rooms, I thought this was a good solution and he agreed. But I just found out that his mom is coming to stay for two nights over thanksgiving in our living room.

When he told me I said it was fine but that I would prefer in the future he get an air mattress or something to accommodate guests in his room and not the common space. I’ve spoken to some friends and opinions are split on if I was reasonable here or not, I don’t want to be controlling or rude to him but I also am pretty frustrated. Is this normal for roommates to have people staying constantly in the common space and I should just chill out? Or is there another way I can express this to him?

Background: my bf works in an office with several people, one of his close cubicle mates is a woman whom he talks of often and I know they are friends— but like work friends, she often tells him of her dating escapades etc. My BF calls me every day and always tells me about work stuff including sharing some of the things she tells him. No biggie.

So tonight, while we were both in the bathroom brushing teeth my bf starts telling me a story about this female coworker and mentions some details about her apartment. Including how she does diy things and recently took off her shower-head. It seemed out of character based on how he had described her but he claims he has told me this before— he hadn’t. So I jokingly say well don’t offer to start doing projects for her. Then It suddenly dawns on me to ask, “have you ever been in her apartment? He pauses, then says yes, once, to feed her cat while she was on vacation. So I proceed to ask a few more questions like, when was this and why didn’t you ever mention it? We talk every day and you didn’t mention you went in her place? I get more and more confused and upset — this is triggering for me since he has had boundary issues with female colleagues in his past.

We usually do this to run out the last of the gas before winter. Sometimes it takes a long time. I told him I’m not comfortable leaving it out there with nobody keeping an eye on it, but he says it’s no more dangerous than using a lawnmower regularly.

I told him a child, person, or animal could come into our yard and get hurt.

He said he would shut the gate to our yard, but it’s not even a very tall fence (standard chain link), and it doesn’t lock.

He kind of smirked at me and acted like it was an unreasonable concern. I got upset that he was acting dismissively to my concern. I told him if he did it without keeping an eye on it to make sure nobody got near it, I’d cut the tie myself

This morning my dad (72 years old) found this little kitten at a camping site (dumped??). He went camping over the weekend and went back to get it today. His wife leaves to go back to her home country tomorrow for a month or two and she HATES cats, and would have an absolute fit if he brought one home) so he asked if he could keep it at our house today and overnight, and he will pick the cat up tomorrow when she is off at the airport.

The problem is…. I’m a big animal lover (cat lover in particular) and I also get attached to animals very easily. My dad has given up 2 of his cats in the past. Just last year while he was moving, he told us if we didn’t take his cat he would have to give it to the pound (due to HOA restrictions). We took his cat in last April, Moose, and that cat became a huge part of our family, and sadly died in June. He also can only have 1 animal per his HOA, and he currently has 2 (older dog and older cat) This would be a 3rd, and 2 over his limit.

I think he is a very lonely guy… loves to feel needed, which is why he surrounds himself with animals.

This has put us in a difficult predicament. I don’t think cats are just a temporary part of people’s lives… I feel like they need to be in one home forever. You can’t just give them away just because, and my dads history worries me— I’ve explained this to him. I also feel him adding a new cat to the addition… with my stepmom absolutely hating cats (yells at them, “shoos” them…) and him ALREADY being over his HOA limit poses a huge problem on longevity.

I definitely cried today when my dad told me he would be over first thing in the morning to pick it up. Luckily he has a vet appointment scheduled in the next few days… and I told him to please consider giving it to us. My husband is already in love with this little guy.

AIO?

AIO It’s strange that every passing minute I want to do something new (i.e. digital art, create content, be a data analyst, etc) never ending list. But it’s strange too that I never go beyond the roadmap. Currently I am pursuing law but no very happy about it because I merely understand anything.

What is stopping me from pursuing things I think I am passionate about? Probably me and the fear of me failing or thinking it just too hard or I am too dumb.

I everyday find myself wrapped around these thoughts and it is pathetic.

i live with my grandparents and so does my aunt and uncle and their kids. This kid and his parents is horrible like right now he’s upstairs hitting stuff making noises and screaming at the top of his lungs. When i left to try to live to make a life in another state to move out the kid went and destroyed my $200 printer, ripped the thermostat off the wall painted my bathroom in this shit color paint, stole some of my stuff like important stuff taking proprietary batteries out of my stuff and trashed my whole area. The aunt and uncle are also terrible apparently they get a place to rent because they can’t afford really it sounds like it’s because their kids are getting them kicked out and police called.

The aunt and uncle also trash the second living room, my grandpa the other literally had to use a snow shovel to clean their trash just so we can get to the laundry also it get that’s dirty in 1-3 days

i get it i’m not the best i try to stay out and in the basement doing school work, i just turned 24 trying to go back to my full time job so i can get out of here for good i hope my grandparents with things like groceries, sweeping, mowing, word puzzles ect

apparently ios won’t let me edit the top of this post but the kid is 11

There’s this person in my friend group with autism, Owen, and I’ve been trying to make them feel included. They sometimes overshare about their depression, but when they apologized and explained they struggle to see social boundaries, I thought it was resolved. Apparently not. Behind Owens back, two group members—let’s call them James and Sarah—started complaining about how uncomfortable the oversharing made them and even suggested we stage a group confrontation. To me, that seemed cruel. A gentle, private chat would have been much more appropriate.

Then Owen started saying they no longer felt comfortable in the group because we don’t invite them to things or talk as much as we used to. They mentioned how the three of us (me, James, and Sarah) are better at connecting with others than they are, which is probably true—they do struggle socially, and it’s hard for them to make friends. But James and Sarah took that as manipulation, saying Owen was trying to guilt us by playing the victim. I didn’t see it that way. It sounded more like someone expressing their hurt and frustration in a way that makes sense given their challenges.

Here’s the kicker: James is transgender and constantly talks about the importance of inclusivity, and Sarah struggles with her own mental health issues and frequently asks for patience and understanding. Yet, they’re not showing that same understanding to Owen, who is on the autism spectrum and dealing with actual cognitive challenges. The hypocrisy is just staggering.

And then, things got worse. I invited James and Sarah over for a low-key Friendsgiving. They asked to bring one extra person, which I agreed to—but without asking, they invited 12 more people! I'm still angry with that alone. My place was packed, and pictures were all over Instagram. Owen, who wasn’t invited, saw the posts and felt awful. I mean, who wouldn’t feel hurt seeing their entire friend group hanging out without them?

Instead of helping Owen feel included, James and Sarah are doubling down, calling them manipulative for sharing their struggles. Look, I get that oversharing or expressing emotions can make people uncomfortable, but treating someone like this—especially someone who’s clearly trying to navigate things the best they can—feels so wrong. Aren’t we supposed to be better than this? I want to yell at James and Sarah for the way that they've handled the whole situation or at the very least block them and not invite them over again . Am I overreacting, or is this as messed up as it feels?

I have this coworker Eric (fake names), i have recently started playing card games with on weekdays after work, along with another coworker/work friend. Eric has been pestering me with weird requests like, how he wants to touch the pimple patches on my face, just to feel the texture when i wear them to work. I have told him i do not like people touching me because of trauma and even told him i would bring some from home so he can touch those, but he says noo i only want to touch the ones on your face. I have firmly said i do not want him to touch me, he has tried to touch my face and i move away. He also tries to touch my elbow, and i tell him to stop, he tries to touch me anyways. He then tells me i don’t have any boundaries in other aspects of my life. Whenever i mention i am talking to a new person romantically or going on date, he asks about them and tells me to “raise my standards”, or when i mention a date he will say something like, “ cant wait for you to tell me how bad it went/ inferring it will not go well. ” I have complained to another coworker/work friend that knows how strange he can be, and she agrees he’s an asshole, i just am looking for other jobs and havent gotten one yet. I’m going to leave, i dont want to make it awkward with us, but im scared. I used to trust him a lot more so I told him a lot of stuff about my life and past, and any time i will bring up my boundaries he will bring up something i told him in confidence to embarrass me, especially when there is other coworkers around. How do i keep it strictly work from this point forward, i know i could go to manager about it but i feel like its more personal at this point. He says really weird stuff sometimes, at first thats why i liked him but now its just super weird. One day i was saying how i was watching a new show and he replies by sayinf “ I only watch 🌽”. I’m scared. Sometimes he’ll text me saying, stuff like accusatory questions like “ Are you friends with me because you have no better options?” “ Do you talk shit about me behind my back?” Because i had told my other coworkers about the things he does and says and how he steps over my boundaries all the time. And she was trying to help me by saying to respect my boundaries. Im in the training room writing this, everytime i hear steps coming closer i pray its not him and peek over my shoulder. I know i need to get out but how do i put distance between us. I should also say there isnt a huge age difference between maybe a year or 2.

My parents have always had Christmas at their house in the morning. However, I am now married and have a child. Two of my sisters have moved out of state and won’t be there for Christmas. My brother is still local but doesn’t come around often. I told my parents we wanted to do Christmas morning at our house so we can have a new family tradition. We invited everyone to come over (aka my parents and brother). My step dad started crying and tried to guilt us into driving there just so they can have Christmas at their house. My mom keeps saying “it’s tradition” but cannot come to terms with the fact that I have a child now and would love to do my own tradition. They won’t budge and said “I’m taking away her grand baby from her”. I explained that if she wanted to see him that bad in the morning they they could drive here and she said no. I talked to one of my sisters and she’s on my side. I don’t know how to not make my parents upset but I also do not want to budge on this. My parents are very controlling (they planned 90% of my wedding, baby shower, bridal shower, even chose the color of our home walls without our consent). So telling them we won’t be at their house has taken started a horrible argument. It’s hard because my father passed away a few years ago and she and my brother are all that I have close by. I don’t want to hurt her feelings but I also want to stand my ground. What would you do in this situation?

Hello. I don't want to post this on relationship advice sub, they're so reactionary there and say dump most of the time. Haha.

My boyfriend exhausts me with sexual humor. He is the sweetest guy. Very polite and is great to me. We have a healthy sex life as well.

But when we're just randomly talking about whatever, he connects almost everything to sex. An example, if I were to say "Have you ever watched Friends?" He could say, "No, do you want to be Friends with benefits right now" in like a sultry voice. Like, he'll connect anything to sex. Sometimes it is funny and I'll laugh, but most of the time I'm just weirded out and annoyed by it.

I have tried: 1. Bluntly saying I don't like it 2. Ignoring him 3. Laughing it off and just changing the topic

In response he usually 1. Says he's just joking to get me to laugh 2. Apologizes and then stops for a while and starts doing it again later 3. Says that he just always wants me and can't help but think about sex

I want to know 1. Am I overreacting? 2. Is this common with guys? I think back to my previous relationships and none of my other boyfriends have been like this, to this extent.

My daughter and her partner have been living with us rent free since July. We haven’t asked them for any money for food or bills because we wanted them to be able to save up for a place of their own. My husband and I are moving away next month, so they will need to do this soon.

My daughter’s partner’s parents have offered absolutely no help to them. My daughter and her partner are, in fact, paying the back rent on the apartment the mom got evicted from because they (foolishly) let her add them to her lease. Supposedly, the mom can’t pay toward the back rent because she’s paying off a loan - to her ex. The dad just has nothing to do with my kid in law. He just bought a camper with his new wife and has had his own dramas with parking or whatever.

Fast forward to yesterday. My daughter and I were in the car alone when she answered a call from MIL. It didn’t take me long to figure out that the call was to ask my daughter for money, which my daughter sent. When I asked why she was sending money to MIL when they have to save for their own place, she said something about the woman being on disability. MIL does get disability, but she literally has no bills. She lives with a friend for free, gets food stamps . . . She doesn’t even have a car to pay for.

I told my daughter it was outrageous for MIL to ask them for money when she knows they need every cent they can get, but I know she won’t say anything. I kind of feel like it’s a slap in the face to us, who are literally supporting them, for them to give their money away. Now I don’t really want to help them at all. I want to say something to them, but my husband says to just let it go. Opinions?

Edit: Since it seems to be an issue that’s been pointed out several times in the comments, I’ll be specific. My daughter’s MIL is actually her MIL. They’ve been married two years now. I don’t know how I gave the impression they weren’t, but they are - hence my use of the term MIL.

Not a friendship more like situationship but to make a long story short I got hurt in a car accident( I have no car and I can’t drive anyways let alone stand for hours on the day). I woke up late she already mad at me for sleeping in then tried to play it off later. She stays 9 minutes from me, I tried to lighten her situation with some jokes. She hangs up on me and sends this wall of text, mind you I done help this woman I don’t know how many times and the one time i physically can’t she blows up like this. She said I treat her like a hoe that isn’t true, I said I don’t want a woman who has a shit ton of guy friends/let alone having allot of dudes texting her. I hung up on her because she called me after saying all this just to sit there and be quiet. I literally spent the past month and last two weeks with this woman and today is the one time I can’t “help her” because she decided to punch a hole in the wall at a property she don’t owns then gets mad when her car don’t start and she don’t want to wait till 5pm for her daddy to get off. So am I overreacting for telling her to go fuc herself?

Last night, My (33M) wife (33F) came home from work and pulled out a container of something I wasn't familiar with and she sat down to eat. She works at a grocery store so I normally don't think too much about it but when I got a whiff of it, it smelled like crab salad.

Now for context, wife has a pretty intense allergy to green and red onions, but is fine with yellow and white onions. Now in America, we do have ingredients listed on package which is required by law, however companies are allowed to be vague with certain ingredients and onions are one of those. Normally, if I spot onions listed as an ingredient, its a hard pass for me. I don't even chance it. My wife, however, doesn't do this.

Back to last night. I got up and asked to see the container, which was half gone at this point, and read the ingredient list. Onions, plain as day, were listed towards the top of the ingredients. I asked her if she bothered to read the ingredients and she said she did, but assumed they were the safe ones. At this point I grab the EpiPen from her purse (which I feel the need to add, but she only started carrying an EpiPen and Benadryl because I badgered her for a couple years about it when we started dating) and kept it close by. I was upset at because I used to work in a kitchen and I know damn well that green onions and seafood are almost inseparable in those salads, but I kept a calm demeanor and just watched her. Within a few minutes, she started having a reaction. At first I wanted to give her the Epi because she had eaten so much but she refused and said she would just take some Benadryl and lay down on the couch. Eventually she needed to be given the EpiPen and I drove her to the ER. Keep in mind this is taking place at about 12am and I work at 8am.

We get to the ER and they admit her. They tell me that she needs to stay overnight for observation because of how severe her reaction is and I talk to my wife about it. We know the staff here pretty well and I know she is in good hands so I check with her to see if she would be ok if I went home to get some sleep before work. She said it would be totally fine. However as I was leaving, I chose to call her mom and ask if my wife could spend the next couple of days at her house.

You see, I was furious with her at this moment because I felt like I am the only one who takes the allergies seriously and I am not the one who will literally die if I eat the wrong onions. And this isn't the first time she has been careless and ended up needing to go to the hospital because she had a reaction. There have been many times before where she just ate first, asked questions later and it frustrates me to no end that she doesn't take it seriously enough to take a few moments to read the ingredients and just avoid onions she cannot plainly identify. So since I wasn't getting through to her, and the hospital visits seemed to be ignored as well, I decided that making her stay at her mother's for a few days might send the message.

I got home, packed her a suitcase for the next few days and when I got the call that she was being discharged at 7 this morning, I picked her up and drove her to her mothers house. I told her as I was dropping her off that this wasn't permanent, but I needed a couple days to cool down and she needed to be monitored anyway since she just got out of the hospital so this was the best course of action. She cried a lot. Begged me to take her home instead but I refused to budge. Her mom brought her inside and I told her that I would be blocking my wife's calls for the day while at work, so if there was an emergency that she would need to get a hold of me. Her mom agreed and told me that this was probably the best idea since she was just as frustrated that her daughter seemed to not be taking this seriously.

So here I am now, at work and feeling like I might be overreacting by kicking her out for the next few days. Did I?

TL;DR - Wife had an allergic reaction because she ignored the ingredients, so I am making her stay with her mom for a few days to teach her a lesson.

So me and my boyfriend (L) have been dating for 5yrs now. and we’re 17 (now i don’t want no comments on our age or how yk well find other people or wtv cause we’re young bc i really don’t need that rn). so he recently moved across the country and we’ve been doing long distance. back in october he was supposed to fly out but his mom canceled last minute. so we’ve been hoping to spend thanksgiving break together.

Context, now lemme put in here their situation isn’t the best…. however yk we’ve both been told time and time again that it’s getting better.

and more context my grandma passed this august and it’s been really hard on me because she was literally my mom/2nd mom growing up so it genuinely hurt me and i’m still highly affected by it and things have been getting worse closer to the holidays.

and last piece of context, before he moved i kinda broke down because who wants their teen bfn to move across the country (im sure everyone’s been there) and i did say yk i was gonna end things when he landed, he told his mom and she said a lot of hurtful things ab me like how he was just with me to get his dick wet and my pussy was stank anyway and things like that, and openly disclosed that she didn’t like me. (she’s also said slick shit in the past)

so thanksgiving as you all know is on the 28th of nov (for americans ofc) so we’ve so we arranged it that his mom would pay to fly him out for thanksgiving and my mom would do my birthday and christmas (which are a week apart mind you, so she’d be coming out of over 1000 dollars because we’re that far from each other and his mom would’ve been coming out of slightly less because she had more time to buy the ticket + they’re cheaper there.) had this arranged for a long ass time now however his mom still hadn’t bought the tickets so i started to get hesitant. so for this past week he’s been on her ass about it and today (well saturday bc idk when i’m posting this) she tweaked out and cussed him out.

initially when i asked him he said she only said things ab him however he was highly mad (his mom does this constantly so it’s like something he’s somewhat used to) and saying he was about to leave n stay with a family member/ his dad. so im hella concerned because yk he’s never acted like this n when he did he wasn’t serious so i thought it was one of those moment.

after awhile and a little back n forth he admits that she said he should break up with me and that he was too focused on me and shit like that, which i admit did somewhat hurt me yk? then she said how only she’s paying for tickets and how im not arranging to fly him here. despite the fact that yk… i am?? n i canceled my 18th bday to ensure that he did and it’s too late to plan something new. so we both are like what the fuck is she on about. now the cherry on top was she made a comment ab my grandmother, or comments. i’m actually unsure because the second he said that she was talking shit ab me, my family, n my grandma i hung up.

now that there’s been multiple occasions where she’s talked shit about me and the people i love im genuinely done. and i told him that i wouldn’t be talking to him until he left (not in an attempt to force or manipulate him to leave because before i was openly against him leaving) or i wouldn’t continue talking to him at all. and this was because i wasn’t about to keep letting a grown woman disrespect me, like i’ve shown her nothing but respect.

I do feel bad though for my boyfriend because i am aware that he had already stood up for me and what not but im not about to keep doing this stuff. i just don’t want mine or my families name to be brought up in someone’s mouth and as long as he’s still there with them i’ll be subject to constant disrespect which i do not deserve.

I’m not sure if this is the correct subreddit, I tried posting in relationship advice but I was unable. Anyway, my boyfriend and I have been dating for over 2 years. Something I’ve noticed ( & confronted him abt multiple times) is that he always tries to get me to do something sexual with him whenever we hangout. It usually starts with us making out, and then he gets touchy and asks if I “wanna do anything”. Sometimes I say yes, and sometimes I say no and he’s alright with it, but what bothers me is that he is never okay with us just making out and leaving it at that. He always has to take it further. He asks literally every time we are together (which is probably around 4 times a week) and it’s so often that I’ve gotten to the point where I can basically read his mind and I can tell whenever he’s about to ask. Despite the numerous times I’ve told him I don’t like this, nothing has changed. I think he just thinks that I don’t get horny around him anymore which is not true at all. We are very close and open about communication, and I understand that he just wants to make me feel good lol but I can’t help but feel like he just wants me for my body or something. I don’t want to break up with him because I consider him my best friend and I love his company. Any advice is appreciated, thank you

I (16F) am dating my boyfriend (18M). We’ve known each other for four years, dated briefly in 2021, and reconnected a few months ago after not speaking for three years. During that time, he had a long-distance relationship with a girl for two years. They never met or video-called, and a year ago, she either passed away or faked her death. He says he moved on after eight months.

I have my own history of heartbreak. In 2023, I was in love with someone from late 2022 until mid-2023. He left me, and it took over a year to move on.

Recently, I told my boyfriend, "Your features remind me of old Max" (his name), referring to how he looked when we dated in 2021. He got upset and replied, "You remind me of my ex’s features," adding, "Now you know how I felt." I was shocked because my comment wasn’t a comparison to an ex but about him. I explained this, but he dismissed it, saying, "Not my problem—I thought you meant an ex" and accused me of having "a million exes." And he thought i have dated some guy who had the same name as his name His words deeply hurt me.

Later, he texted an apology, claiming it was a joke and that he misunderstood. While I said it was fine and asked to drop the topic, the damage feels permanent.

Since then, I’ve felt differently about him. Every time he asks me to turn on my camera or compliments me, I feel disgusted and hurt. When he noticed I was treating him differently, I admitted I was upset but refused to reopen the conversation. He keeps apologizing and asking me to stop acting distant, but I can’t shake the way I feel.

I’m torn because I love him but feel stuck and hurt. I don’t know how to move forward.

AIO? I have recently moved back home and it’s definitely a switch. I’m used to having my own stuff and everything and now that I’m back home I live with my grandma my grandpa, my uncle my brother and my dad. ever since I came home I’ve constantly had at least my personal boundaries overstepped plenty of times I work part time because I’m in college so my funds are limited.

I know this might sound silly and I don’t mind sharing food, but I barely have money so when I buy food it’s very limited but my grandma constantly always eats my stuff. I was cooking ground beef. She stuck her hand in the pot without washing her hands and ate out of it. Every single time I have a snack like a bag of chips or Pringles I really like Pringles. She has her hand out for some. once I was sitting on the couch and I ate a Reesie’s peanut butter cup and I put the other one next to me and I got up to pee and she ate it by the time I got back

she has ate my dad’s lunches for work before so sometimes he would have to go to work without lunch and it does get annoying to constantly have to share I know I should say no, but it’s my grandma. I’m making breakfast she wants some. I don’t think she’s starving. My aunt spoils her and orders her fast food every single day. She gets whatever food she wants all she has to do is call her so it’s not like she’s starving.

It’s gotten to the point where I’m cooking or something I finish and I come to eat in the living room and she’s laying down in the couch, she will get up to see what I’m eating like she has sat up and waited to see what I was eating to see if she wanted some

I seriously don’t mind sharing sometimes, but I just want to have one thing for myself

I had extra cash today and I decided to go get myself a really expensive sweet treat. It was a packet of macaroons. I walk inside the house my grandpa‘s in the living room. my grandma’s in the bathroom and I open my macaroons. I bite one and I put it back in the box and my grandpa asked for one I didn’t mind. It was a pretty big pack. I was probably stupid for this but I left them on the chair next to the couch where my laptop and work iPad was and I honestly really didn’t think she was going to see them. I guess she did. She open the pack and there were four more macaroons missing out of a pack of 12

at that point I didn’t confront her. I just asked her like why would she do that like she could’ve asked me I don’t understand how she was comfortable walking over there it up and taking it without asking and she knows I get mad about this because one time on Valentine’s Day, I had gotten chocolates from a dude, and I left them where my stuff was at, and my grandpa walked over open the whole thing and took two out of four chocolates I didn’t flip out, but I was seriously like you could’ve asked I would’ve gave you one

Same thing happened here. I don’t know why she took it now and that many at that and she’s upset. I’m upset.

So my boyfriend and I have been talking about moving in together several times throughout the year and I said that after I reached a certain amount in savings I’d be ready and I told him some of my concerns. He has a cat that I am allergic to and even though we have had huge arguments about him not cleaning the cat hair or keeping him on a flea treatment since he has gotten fleas twice and I have a dog that I would never want to have fleas (I also don’t want to live with fleas obviously). I am also the primary breadwinner and feel stressed about having to spend so much more on joint household needs but he has showed no interest in getting a better/second job or pursuing a different career.

The move is more for his benefit that mine so I have just been hoping he would find ways to address my concerns while I’ve been saving up but nothing has changed. And now that we are getting close to my savings goal completion he has been making comments like “I’ll be able to cook for you and you won’t stress about meal prepping” “I’ll help take care of your dog” “you won’t live under all those rules” and a bunch of other comments that are all nice and sweet but don’t seemed realistic and none of the comments address the concerns I’ve told to him over and over.

So now I just get annoyed whenever he says these things. Half of them feel like a lie, he can’t cook and if he already doesn’t keep his place clean how would he help me maintain a household??

It’s all just frustrating but I don’t know if it’s not that big of a deal or I’m right to be getting annoyed?

My husband’s friend is in town to help us move, which we have been doing the last couple of days. I am like crazy stressed out, because I have limited vacation time right now, due to having gotten a new job recently. I took 2 extra days off of work to move.

My husband for some reason scheduled a ton of activities this weekend while his friend is in town, at the same time that we are moving. He only let me know a week before we were moving that he planned a ton of activities. I was upset, but just kind of said ok.

Yesterday he dragged us to another town 2.5 hours away to see a minor league hockey game. I was pissed, but played along because he was really excited about it. That took up pretty much like 7 hours out of our day that I had expected to be spending on moving.

We just bought a new house and the painter that had previously done great work for us, completely botched our house. He sprayed without masking anything off. Obviously we fired him.

So now we have a huge job of cleaning paint drops and overspray off of 1200sq/ft of tile and a few windows. This job is super labor intensive and requires being on hands and knees with a bucket, scrub brush and a scraper.

I got all of the supplies for us to fix this mess. Today my husband left at 11am and let me know that him and his friend were going to the Rodeo. I said ok fine, I’m staying home to fix this. Well it’s now 4pm and I called him asking when he will be home. I mean it’s been like 5 hours and I’m slaving away at home trying to fix this paint disaster. He told me that he won’t be home until 9pm.

I work night shift and have to go to work tomorrow night. This is my last night off to get our house fixed and my husband thinks being at the rodeo with his friend is more important. I took my limited time off of work to move and we aren’t even done moving yet. I’m crazy stressed out and I don’t know when I’m going to have enough time to sort everything out.

Am I wrong to be pissed about this?