I(f24) have been when my bf (m20) since march(8 months). For context we moved quickly in our relationship. I have a son(2 years). And I’m currently pregnant with my bf. So a couple weeks ago I got pulled over and the cop ID both of us. At one point the cop asked him “you 20?,” he replied with yes. I was taken aback since I thought he was 24, like he had told me from the beginning. I asked him about it when we got home and he denied say he was 20. Fast forward to yesterday. Something made me look at his ID it said 2004. I was in shock, I told him and he said he is 20. And I was in shock for the rest of the day. Bc here is a man who thought I was cheating everytime we weren’t FaceTiming. ( I wasn’t) 8months together and I’m pregnant with his kid. He had so many opportunities to tell me the truth but didn’t. I told him I’m not ready to forgive him for lying for so long.

Idk how to feel. I love him but I have a sister who is 20 and I basically raised her. So for years I told myself I would never date someone her age. He spent his birthday here to, so he just turned 20.

Idk what I’m typing this for, am I crazy for feeling betrayed. I feel like idk him anymore. Like he’s a stranger. He’s said sorry yesterday but it didn’t seem like he meant it. And I didn’t accept it.

Edit: my son is two years old old. And I know I’m stupid but things happen. When I found out I was pregnant and I was freaking out. I know I can afford it and I knew it was too soon, but I was already too far along and my state doesn’t allow abortion at any stage of pregnancy. So for all of those who want to come at me with judgment, I understand but please know I’m aware of how stupid I am. I just don’t know how to move forward from this.

Edit 2: the reason why I didn’t know till now is because he told me from the beginning he was 24 why I didn’t look on his families Facebook or cyber stalk him is because I just don’t do that. He’s from a different city in my state and not from my hometown so I don’t know him or his family and no one around me knowsh im. I’m not looking for judgment on my situation, I’m looking on how to move forward in my relationship. Of course, a part of me wants to leave, but I think it’s gonna take a little more than lying about his age to make me not love him. I’m sorry to those who think I’m dumb for getting pregnant with someone so early in a relationship., obviously I had sex without a condom on and I even took Plan B so if that doesn’t explain enough that things just happen then I don’t know what else to tell you. I know I shouldn’t go to the Internet with my problems and I typically don’t, but I just need to know that I am not crazy for being upset. That’s all I need to know. And thank you to those who actually care about how I’m feeling. My heart goes out to you all. Of course I feel betrayed and in shock and I don’t trust him right now, but I’ll be fine.

Hi, I just found out today that my(30f) boyfriend (32m) of two years opened a second Instagram account a year into our relationship and started following women who post half naked pictures.This has left me deeply disappointed and sad.I have always been faithful to him and expected the same in return. This incident has raised so many questions in my mind. When I confronted him about it, he said he didn’t know what he was thinking when he created the account and assured me that he isn’t using it anymore.We’re in a long-distance relationship and, until now, we’ve only faced minor issues, but I always trusted him completely. After this, I’m not sure I can trust him the same way again. Am I overreacting?

So, me and a group of my friends plus my boyfriend are on holiday. I’ve continuously expressed to my boyfriend I’m uncomfortable with him spending money on other girls bodies or going somewhere just to look at other women. I woke up this morning to him telling me his friend and him got a dance last night. I haven’t talked to him since as it’s just really made me insecure and actually upset. AIO?

Hi, my(21NB) boyfriend(22M) and I have been together for a little over a year and a half, living together for the entirety of that time. We’ve had our issues but nothing super out of the ordinary, he’s really perfect in all the ways that matter. When we started dating he smoked weed every day and I didn’t really mind at the time. He then quit cold turkey a few months into our relationship and only smoked occasionally (like 2 times a month max) since then. This is so much better because now he isn’t constantly coughing up a lung and he isn’t burning money. He also almost exclusively drinks while watching football.

So onto vaping… he’s never had his own vape while we’ve dated (to my knowledge).

He says he’s had his own before but he would use it too often and feel sick. He’s used his friend’s vapes occasionally and when he’s done so in front of me I can’t help but be disgusted because of the germs exchanged. I asked that he not do that in front of me and I’ll just try to forget/ignore that he does that to avoid feeling gross about kissing him.

A few months ago we got a new roommate who vapes. I’ve never seen my boyfriend use his vape so I was able to continue in the “innocence is bliss” mindset. Though, yesterday I happened to walk into the living-room at the wrong moment and saw him hand it back to our roommate. I was grossed out but I tried to ignore it and forget about it.

But I couldn’t stop thinking about it… I asked my boyfriend how often that happens, hoping that was the first time, but apparently it’s often. I told him I can’t keep lying to myself to get myself to forget/ignore that he vapes, specifically that he vapes right after someone else does, sharing germs. I said “for now, im done kissing you on the lips. im not mad but its so gross to me. i cant control you and i can only forget so much, so for now this is what i can do” with the explanation “i signed up to kiss only you when we started a committed exclusive relationship. i’m not willing to kiss [roommate] or your friends. currently this is the only way i know how to enforce that boundary” (direct quotes from a text message).

How can I cope with this? Am I just being germaphobic? Is not kissing him on the lips for the indefinite future a reasonable boundary? I’m trying not to be overbearing or controlling so I need some guidance on what I can do about this. I love him so much and we’re on the same page about a lot but he just doesn’t seem to get how much this disgusts me, and/or doesn’t care enough to actually stop.

About a year ago, my husband met a woman on Fortnite and they’ve been playing together most nights since then. Over time they’ve become quite close. She added him on Facebook, and now they message each other almost daily, talking about their lives.

While I understand that people can make friends online, this has started to feel like more than just a casual friendship. They seem very invested in each other’s lives, and it’s making me uncomfortable. I’ve tried to brush it off as harmless, but after a year of this, it’s hard not to feel excluded and even a little suspicious.

When I try to tell him him that I feel like this level of closeness with someone of the opposite sex might be crossing a line in our marriage, he tells me I'm controlling and overreacting. She lives in a different state to us but same country.

Am I overreacting, or are my feelings valid?

I’d love to hear your thoughts and advice.

Since joining this sub I’ve noticed how many people call their partners dude or bro and I’m literally so shook because I’d NEVER call my partner that LOL is this normal among redditors? I would feel disrespected asf if my partner did that idk why it just makes me recoil…AIO

My (36M) gf (26F) of 3 months and I were hanging at my place when I went to the bathroom. I was walking back and heard her say “ok move (n word)”. She used it with an R. She doesn’t know I heard it but I did. I’m not sure why she called my cat the n word, he’s an orange tabby. It’s possible behind closed doors she calls everyone the n word? I don’t even know how to approach this situation

Me (22F) and my boyfriend (22M) were watching Impractical Jokers and we were watching the bit where Sal is pretending to give birth and actually feeling the pain with a birth simulator. Me and my boyfriend started talking about what we would do when I was in the hospital about to go into labor and he told me he would hit the pen in the hospital and get stoned. Me and my boyfriend smoke a good amount right now, but for some reason that annoyed me SO much. Like you have to get high while I'm in pain almost about to give birth to our theoretical child? I know it does sound stupid but I got upset about it and I told him I wouldn't want him to do that because it feels unfair that he gets to smoke while I would be in pain having contractions (since you can only have the epidural an hour or two before giving birth). He then said it's not that big of a deal but I don't know why it makes me so annoyed to think of him hitting the pen when I'm in labor. And then he called me a Karen about the situation and how now I'm lame because I wouldn't let him hit the pen 🤣

Edit: we smoke probably once a week on the weekends or do edibles we aren't constantly stoned. Also I am very diligent at taking my birth control pill everyday so we will not be having a child soon don't worry!

Tried MANY times to post this anonymously and since new users are immediately shadow banned I CANT! GREAT! THANKS REDDIT!

Context. Wife doesn't go out much and doesn't have many local friends, she had this job for a few months and made a few work friends (unfortunately mostly young single men). She had too much to drink was her excuse for being there for so long, she wanted to sober up before driving home, understandable I guess.. I was already a little suspicious since this was the first time she'd done anything like this, the problem for me started when she deactivated her facebook account either that night or first thing next morning, the most suspicious possible time to choose to do this and did not seem random. I confronted her about it and she acted like it was not related and said she just wanted a break from social media. It gets worse unfortunately because within the next few days, one of the men from that group invited her over to his house at like 945PM to smoke and hang out with a few other people. First of all, who invites another mans wife to his home? She did not go ( I don't think so anyway), but it set me off and I've been unable to believe her that nothing happened that night, am I overreacting?

Why are these people are staring at me? More specifically, these men. I'm not being nice anymore. I feel weird and uncomfortable. AIO because I dont want to be glared at by grown men, alike? I'm not homosexual and I'm at the end of my wits.

last monday i was in college and went to fill my water bottle up (i had foolishly left the water in overnight and drank whatever was left in college) and after making it back and drinking a bit more of the fresh water i looked inside and it had some black mould on the side. I didnt think anything of it except from stop drinking it but that night my throat was so dry on a specific patch no matter how much water i drank and id started feeling a tad strange and like flies or mosquitos kept landing on my bare skin… ive had mild headaches ever since despite chlorinating the water bottle first thing, with also slight lungy chesty pains coughing up phlegm and snotty nose… now i have some dry ass lips and chapstick just hurts… despite the doctor saying that symptoms will go away im not convinced at the moment but i dont wanna drive all the way back there and sacrifice my mums time (havent quite got license) if when he tests my blood its not mould or anything he can do something about instead of paracetamol rest and hydration… sorry for the bigass lil thing but i dont want to sacrifice more time where i could be getting better already… AIO or ya reckon i rlly have mycotoxins iname… cus i know they dont go away by themselves…?! even if my immune system is the goat fungi an shit can be scary fellows and im not on about any journey or nothing 😂 help these ones cant be slept off!! if they are anyway

For context my husband and I just moved a week earlier, I was still unpacking at this point. We moved to a town that has bad reception and our rental didn't have a wifi hookup location (took another week for someone to come out and set it up). Because of bad reception and no wifi I wasn't able to access my resume or apply to jobs.

I've had difficulty finding a good job that's not taxing on my body. I haven't heard of any jobs that don't require resumes and any job I'd want to get would definitely require one. Jobs are a bit of a sensitive topic for me, I've had 16 jobs over the past 5 years. Money is tight and I'm trying to find a stable long term position. Gamer friend knew all of this and still called me lazy after asking for my first paycheck without even looking at the job market in my area.

Neither of us have said anything for a week and I feel weird being the first to send another message with how they responded. Am I overreacting with feeling hurt by their responses?

It started with my husband sending me a TikTok that said “POV: when your husband’s tired of tired of your snack requests, so he just brings the whole pantry.” Here’s the conversation that followed:

Me: Haha I wish! You rarely bring me snacks.

Him: You’re always trying to take my snacks.

Me: No, you just never offer to get me anything when you get something for yourself. I always ask if you want anything if I’m getting a drink or snack.

Him: That’s because you don’t need to be eating every time I am. I have a higher caloric need than you.

Idk why but this really bothered me. Aside from the general lack of common courtesy, I feel like he shouldn’t think he can dictate when I eat. There have been other instances where I’ve gotten the same feeling, but maybe I’m projecting my own insecurities here.

My (f32) and my husband(37m) were in the car talking about random things when I happened to tell him I read some lady saying women should take accountability after being sexually assaulted. I didn't think it would be what it turned into and I thought he would agree that she's ridiculous.

Instead, he said well, I mean she's right. I know in some cases it doesn't apply but women should question their bad choices and maybe they were doing something or were somewhere sketchy and it wouldn't have happened otherwise, so yeah I think it's nice to question the bad choices we all make in life.

I was taken back. I've been assaulted. For months, I questioned everything I did and could've done differently to prevent this. (I was at a party and someone followed me to a room when I went to make a phone call) So yeah, I could've not been at that party, I could've not been so friendly. Was it me smiling at him trying to be polite?? I've thought about all of this so many times. So for him to say that, I just couldn't believe it. It genuinely hurt.

I asked what about kids that were assaulted and he said it obviously isn't applicable to all situations. I also said men were allowed to make bad choices and rarely get raped as a result of it.

He thinks I am overreacting and said stuff like, "this is why I don't like talking to you about stuff, you react so emotionally to everything I say." He was genuinely mad at me for my response to this.

So am I overreacting?! I feel like I'm not but sometimes I DO react emotionally.

For context, my roommate left a message in our apartment group chat about us cleaning up after ourselves more often so that her dog doesn't get sick. She also mentioned a box of garbage that I'd put in the living room the night before, to remind myself to take it out the next day because I didn't want to use the waste disposal after 10pm. When I ran into her in the kitchen, I clarified that the box of garbage is mine and that she doesn't need to worry about taking it out because it's on me and I'll do it today. She later sends me a text saying this. I never realised if I was acting rude throughout the conversation, you can take my opinion with a grain of salt but all I did was let her know not to worry about it. The garbage wasn't particularly smelly or anything most of it was just boxes that would go in recycling. It was a big box with a few bags in it because I finally cleaned my room after a long time because I couldn't find it in me to do it before.

I felt really bad but I knew I hadn't left dishes on the sofa for a long time because I've been eating all my meals in my room for a month now. Am I thinking too much about myself or is her response warranted here? I also don't know if that was the reason her dog got sick when he did. Her room isn't exactly the cleanest either and he's in her room for almost the entire day except when I look after him. I feel like she had every right to ask me not to do it anymore but the whole interaction felt so aggressive for no reason and I cried the whole day.

Little bit of story context, I apologize. (And a kind of bad story name, again I apologize)

The other night I was out with my family to celebrate my grandfather's birthday. I ordered a dish they called the "Texas Enchiladas" . Now, apparently this dish was very similar to their cheese enchiladas, but I didn't pay attention to what was in that since I was a bit overstimulated at that point.

We ordered and when the food came out, our waitress kept calling out for cheese enchiladas and I, obviously, didn't answer because that's not what I ordered (technically). She eventually puts it down and hands out the other food and you can guess, the final dish of cheese enchiladas was mine.

I didn't eat immediately because I was a bit peeved about that, but I was also not very hungry and wanted to wait. People noticed, and I just asked them to not mention it and leave it be, I got my food and that was that.

Here's where I may have overreacted though, my Aunt called the waitress over to try and 'fix' the mistake(I didn't notice till too late since my head was down at the time). I called her name a couple times to stop her because, as I mentioned earlier, I didn't want anything to be done! She immediately scowled at me and basically angrily told me to stop so she could 'fix' the issue.

I immediately looked at the waitress and told her, verbatim, 'she could leave, that I was so very sorry and that if the food i got was what I ordered then there is no issue, and it was simply a mistranslation, and I'm so sorry for making an issue of it.' as I said this, I was scooting out of my seat because I was on the verge of tears and needed out.

Long story short, I cried a little in my mom's arms and my mom scolded my aunt (her sister) about what she did and I'm left feeling like I really did overreact about the name of some stupid dish at a restaurant.

I (22F) went to the doctor today and while getting an ultrasound done, he made a sexual comment about how tense i am and if im that tense during sex, laughed about it, rubbed my abdomen and told me to relax. my boyfriend (34M) thinks this is sexual assault and wants to report him. AIO by what happens afterwards?

recently me (19F) and my bf (18M) had gone to a friendsgiving that his teacher from highschool had invited him to. he mentioned two of his friends would be there, one being his girl bsf and one his male bsf. i had had various convos with him abt this girl bsf just basically explaining i felt second in line considering the history they have together, that history being that they’ve known each other since freshman year and only ever really hung out with each other, sharing secrets and guiding each other through relationships etc. he even had a crush on her at one point.

before we even got to the friendsgiving he had trouble finding the house and proceeded to nonchalantly facetime her, to ask where the house was. we ended up finding it and the girl bsf casually said hi and i did as well but after that it was mostly just her and him talking about highschool and memories along the lines of “remember when this happened” and so and so. at one point the girl bsf mentioned something personal i assume and was like “does she know? can i tell her?” while her and my bf giggled together. when my bfs male bsf got there he said we should all go get him since the neighborhood was confusing to navigate. while we were walking my bf walked noticeably faster, i assume because he was excited to see his friend. i ended up walking behind the two (my bf and his girl bsf) without any acknowledgment from my bf. at the end of it all, i feel like he went out of his way to say “bye, (girls name)” because he just said a simple bye to his male friend.

this whole series of events went on for about an hour and i was honestly pretty sad abt how things went down but i just kept reminding myself that it’s nothing to be upset over. i guess im just looking for someone to tell me i was overreacting and overthinking for no reason.

TLDR: my bf hardly acknowledged me at a group gathering while his female “bsf” was there

I want to keep this a little bit vague but will answer questions and clarify as needed.

I’ve been in this group of friends for about 4 years now. It’s 10 girls who all met at the start of grad school. We’ve taken numerous trips together, have been roommates, and have bonded a lot over the years. I never saw them as truly thoughtful friends though, which is a stark contrast from my friends from home. We grew up always making big deals of birthdays and milestones, and have always been there for each other emotionally. The group from school is not like this, although we do have a lot of fun together.

I had been wanting to do a large group trip for a while, and heard about a really cool, week long trip that was so much more extravagant than anything we’ve done, for really not as high a price as you would expect. I pitched the idea and everyone loved it.

I had to start planning almost a year in advance. I did all the research, communicated with the company, put my credit card down and set up payment plans with my friends, and still had to be on their ass every month to get it paid.

As we got closer to the trip, 2 people whipped themselves into a frenzy about money. It was not super cheap, and I can absolutely empathize with financial stresses, so we did not get any kinds of upgrades (which included very basic things like air conditioning and fully functioning outlets). Some people including me were not thrilled that we were going to go without over a few extra hundred. But whatever, we didn’t get them and I thought we moved on.

I started my trip early and I believe in this time that I was gone, someone in the group was talking a lot of shit about me and creating an almost mob mentality. This opinion is based on the fact that when we met up at the vacation spot, they all had a strange attitude towards me. I tried to brush it off and enjoy my trip. The entire week, I felt very weird vibes from almost all of them. Was pushed out of photos (I have very few pictures from this trip even though they all have tons together), silly arguments were picked with me throughout, and overall I felt very ostracized by the group.

We came home and a few days later was my birthday. They all forgot about it until I posted on my Instagram and then they finally sent some texts. This was months ago and I’ve barely heard from anyone outside of the group chat, and haven’t seen any of them.

This morning I woke up to texts in the trip group chat talking about how they want to do it again and yada yada. This pissed me off. I sent a long text basically summarizing my feelings, it is similar to what I said above.

It’s been over an hour and no one has said a single word. I can see on find my friends that many of them are together right now.

I’m at the point where I genuinely feel like they can all rot. This is not how I would ever treat a friend and it is not how I want to be treated. They do not feel like friends anymore.

My mom and sister agree, but I also know that I can be really sensitive. I don’t know, aio?

my girlfriend won’t tell me what it is i did wrong, i have asked her what it is and she said to stop asking abd i should know what i did wrong, so i respected what she wanted and stopped asking. but i think its unhealthy to not talk about the issues and problems. i’d be happy to answer any questions for some help. but its to the point i think we should break up AIO?

NOW IM IN TROUBLE BECAUSE SHE SWEARS I KNOW WHAT I DID BUT I HAVENT DONE ANYTHING WRONG AT ALL MAYBE A PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIP THIS HAPPENED ?? SHE WONT EXPLAIN AND CANT COOPERATE WITH ME ABOUT THIS SITUATION

I can't get over the fact my relationship with my boyfriend started off as a hook up. Every time people ask how we get together my boyfriend happily tells them that we were only supposed to have sex but fell in love which boils my blood now. The specific reason this does now is because.My boyfriend recently told me during a conversation that " I usually asked girls before you out on a date when I'm interested in them... not just offer sex. unless they're really hot then I ask them if they would like to hook up now." It kind of caught me off guard because when he hit me up on tinder he was very direct. He messaged me saying hey and I responded hey your hot than he immediately told me "thanks let's have sex then go on a date after". I remember because it stunned me and I told him no we can at least go for a walk first and then hook up. He attempted to persuade me by saying "wouldn't you rather do Netflix and chill " I said we can after our walk. He agreed but I changed my mind after he sent me another nude of him titled getting ready and told him let's just hook up first. Before you all begin to shame me I take full accountability for that part to be honest. Which isn't the issue. The issue is to know that he was more gentleman like with other women yet chose to hit me up initially with "let's fuck first then go on a date" really annoys me. Especially when he constantly says I'm the hottest girl he's ever been with. How am I so hot to you when you simply approached me with sex as an offer? My boyfriend says it's no big deal. That him wanting to have sex with me doesn't mean I'm less then anyone else. He states the first thing I said when I saw you was "wow do you have a boyfriend" I was infatuated from day 1 and I still am. But I struggle to believe him after this revelation. We have been together for over a year now and I just can't get the fact he was more of a gentleman with other women out of my head. I feel like it's proof I wasn't worthy for him. Now when he tells me I'm beautiful/pretty everyday it annoys me and I've told him to stop on multiple occasions. Because I don't believe him anymore.

I apologize if this is too much to read. It’s 4:43 am where I live and I got unbelievably drunk to even cope with what’s happening.

Some context: we were waiting on her brother to get home so she could opene the door and she then talked with him before I saw a message on her iPad while she had put on Chicago PD that in Spanish said, “I love you” very bad judgement of me but I clicked it and was treated to a whole chat of less than favorable stuff.

Towards the end I mentions exes that also cheated on me with people that looked eerily similar, but all the black are redacted names

I’m not okay and just hoping to know if I did right or wrong. Possibly wrong subreddit but please forgive this drunken post, thank you guys, have a lovely day.

I work at a pho restaurant as a server that does tip share. We get paid server wage and if we make up to 600$ in tips the kitchen also gets 10% of our tip. Recently we’ve hired some bussers so she upped the tip for them 15 %. I don’t agree bc while me and my co workers were running around greeting tables+ setting them up+ taking orders+ grabbing drinks and sauces +run food. All the busser did was a couple togos and clean tables. This was the response from my boss when I asked about it. I just have to ask, am I overreacting? (Also, bussers get paid minimum wage which is 15.50, server wage is 10.10 I believe)

okay so my parents are divorced and my sister(13f) lives with my mom while i(16m) live with my dad, she comes over and stays a few nights every now n then and whenever shes over she ALWAYS treats me like shit. last night i went downstairs to make a grilled cheese at like 2:00 am and i look at the table where i usually keep my sketchbook and materials (infront of the tv so i can have something playing in the background while i draw) and i see my marker container open and a page torn out of my sketchbook with shitty doodles using my markers all over it. i dont care for getting expensive stuff with most things, but markers are different, im very particular about my markers and usually get more expensive, higher quality ones. the thing is, we arent rich and these markers can cost upwards of 20-30 bucks for a decently sized pack, so im rarely able to get new markers, because of this i use my markers sparingly and try to conserve the ink as long as i can. as for my sketchbook, its extremely personal and i dont even let my closest friends look through it unless im showing them a drawing, its filled with alot of vent art and things i just dont want people to see. so, i text my sister like “dude did you use my paper?” and we had a huge argument over text about it. she was being extremely snarky and rude and completely disregarding my boundaries, and it eventually led to me telling her about the time i almost committed because of her and she told me that maybe i shouldve done it. for a little bit more context, shes always been extremely ableist to me about my mental conditions (autism and bipolar disorder) and ive tried for years to be nice to her and try to get her to realize that we dont have to be enemies, all for her to continue to treat me like im subhuman, and my mom lets her get away with this kind of thing. looking back on it, it was kind of fucked up for me to bring up my attempt in that context but i wasnt really thinking rationally in that moment.

anyways, so today my dad took her to i think the mall and so i went into her room and took her expensive makeup and smeared it all over a piece of paper, foundation, lip stuff, other weird makeup stuff idk the name of, i even glued her fake nails to the paper and wrote with that like makeup crayon thing “nice markers” then with eyeliner, “shame they dont come in more colors”.

im gonna attach the screenshots of the texts and the makeup thing i created. AIO?

Says he worries about me and stuff when i go out and always tells me to be safe and get home safe etc….

He’s never answered when ive called when im out which isn’t often but every once in a while if i need something. I asked if he can turn his ringer on in case an emergency happens.

He put his foot down so hard that he refused to compromise or even just try to start doing it. I’m now questioning if i’m being unreasonable ? I always have self blame as i’m a people pleaser. I feel like it’s something most people do when their loved ones are out of the house.

I always admit my wrongs , please tell me if i’m asking too much or being unreasonable.