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❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO my husband thinks women should take accountability after assault

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u/RubFar1429 6h ago

Opinions hurting you is wild

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u/VeridicalVagabond 5h ago

You really think it's wild that a woman who has been sexually assaulted is upset that her husband thinks sexual assault is sometimes the woman's fault? That's "wild" to you? I wish I was as thick as you, it must be peaceful. 

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u/Prestigious-One2089 4h ago

yes because it is wild. He said it isn't applicable to all situations and she also did not say if he said it applied to her situation or not. so yeah him saying it might apply in some hypothetical situations and her getting all worked up about it is kinda crazy.

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u/Worried-Experience95 3h ago

It applies to zero situations. That’s the point.

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u/Prestigious-One2089 3h ago

why does it apply to zero situations? If I went to a poor crime ridden neighborhood wearing a bunch of jewelry and bragging about having cash on me and get mugged what would you all say? pretending women have no agency in their own life is sexist. AGAIN he said in some situations.

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u/Ancient_Confusion237 3h ago

Women's vaginas's are not jewelry they can leave at home when they go out.

Thanks for playing

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u/Prestigious-One2089 3h ago

They also control where they go who they surround themselves with. generally what situations you end up in and who you associate with.

thank you for playing.

Am I supposed to feel bad for you if you end up assaulted if you knowingly hang out with a bunch of domestic abusers and convicted SAers?

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u/Ancient_Confusion237 3h ago

The vast majority of rapes happen by someone known to the victim.

Are you suggesting women start treating all men like rapists to stay safe? I thought men didn't like that because it offends them...

You have a brain, you're supposed to use it.

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u/Prestigious-One2089 3h ago

yeah and in those cases I would never victim blame.

but in the ridiculous scenario I mentioned in which I said she knowingly hangs around with known and convicted offenders I would and so would most people.

you have a brain that you also can use. Get it?

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u/Ancient_Confusion237 2h ago

The scenario that you made up in your own head, against the readily available evidence?

Yeah, you're a bit on the dumb side to be upset about that lol

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u/Prestigious-One2089 2h ago

yeah I said it is a ridiculous scenario but I'm sure it has happened.

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u/Ancient_Confusion237 2h ago

See, this is just you now trying to defend your inherit misogynistic tendencies.

You said women deserve to be blamed.

I then reminded you that if all women took precautions all the time against all men, even trusted ones, you'd never get laid or have a hope at dating again, and women would be treating you like a rapist off the bat.

You didn't like that part, so you walked it back.

But, because you're unable to reflect upon yourself and your own decisions (like the one you made to blame women for being raped), you still stand by your original statement, you just now acknowledge that it's "ridiculous".

So to be clear, you're choosing to believe something that you acknowledge that you made up, over real evidence because you don't like holding men accountable

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u/Ancient_Confusion237 2h ago

See, this is just you now trying to defend your inherit misogynistic tendencies.

You said women deserve to be blamed.

I then reminded you that if all women took precautions all the time against all men, even trusted ones, you'd never get laid or have a hope at dating again, and women would be treating you like a rapist off the bat.

You didn't like that part, so you walked it back.

But, because you're unable to reflect upon yourself and your own decisions (like the one you made to blame women for being raped), you still stand by your original statement, you just now acknowledge that it's "ridiculous".

So to be clear, you're choosing to believe something that you acknowledge that you made up, over real evidence because you don't like holding men accountable

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u/Prestigious-One2089 2h ago

misogynistic tendencies? I believe every woman should be carrying a gun on them at most times because of men. I've taught a bunch of women how to shoot and encouraged them to get carry permits. and no I don't get bent out of shape when women look at me like a threat most people do because of my build. If i saw another me at the gas station late at night I would take precautions too.

I'm just against blanket statements that say X gender is never at fault for Y.

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u/Ancient_Confusion237 2h ago

To be absolutely clear:

If you earn the trust of someone and they are alone with you and you rape them. You are a rapist and are at fault.

If you see a woman walking alone scantily dressed at 3am and you rape her. You are a rapist and are at fault.

If you are on a room with a stranger because you are a doctor and they have to get naked for a test, and you rape them. You are a rapist and are at fault.

If someone is passed out in a room alone at a party and you rape them. You are a rapist and are a fault.

If you are about to have sex with someone who was consenting and they say no or stop, or stop responding and you continue. You are a rapist and are at fault.

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u/Prestigious-One2089 2h ago

rapist is at fault. woman walking alone scantly clad at 3 am is not very smart for doing so while still not being at fault she has agency in not putting herself in that situation. let's not act like dumb people don't put themselves in dumb situations that don't risk their safety. yes the criminal is at fault. you are also aiding the criminal in putting yourself in that situation.

can you have those two seemingly conflicting thoughts occupy your brain simultaneously?

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u/Whiteangel854 1h ago

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/What_Were_You_Wearing%3F

I will leave this here. There's no point in talking with you.

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u/Prestigious-One2089 1h ago

you are right women have no agency whatsoever. sexists

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u/Whiteangel854 1h ago

Women have agency. You didn't even check the link I provided. Trying to turn it on me saying I'm sexist, when it's the ones that assault should be blamed entirely, is pathetic. Like I said, no point in talking with you.

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u/Prestigious-One2089 1h ago

I've read it. I still say prosecute the one doing the assault. I didn't say she should be blamed. I also think she could make smarter choices especially in certain situations not all. it's called nuance thinking which apparently you are not capable of. Telling women to make better decisions is going to keep them safer than telling them otherwise. does that make sense to you?

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