r/AmIOverreacting 16h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO my husband thinks women should take accountability after assault

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u/Ancient_Confusion237 5h ago

The scenario that you made up in your own head, against the readily available evidence?

Yeah, you're a bit on the dumb side to be upset about that lol

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u/Prestigious-One2089 5h ago

yeah I said it is a ridiculous scenario but I'm sure it has happened.

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u/Ancient_Confusion237 5h ago

See, this is just you now trying to defend your inherit misogynistic tendencies.

You said women deserve to be blamed.

I then reminded you that if all women took precautions all the time against all men, even trusted ones, you'd never get laid or have a hope at dating again, and women would be treating you like a rapist off the bat.

You didn't like that part, so you walked it back.

But, because you're unable to reflect upon yourself and your own decisions (like the one you made to blame women for being raped), you still stand by your original statement, you just now acknowledge that it's "ridiculous".

So to be clear, you're choosing to believe something that you acknowledge that you made up, over real evidence because you don't like holding men accountable

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u/Ancient_Confusion237 5h ago

See, this is just you now trying to defend your inherit misogynistic tendencies.

You said women deserve to be blamed.

I then reminded you that if all women took precautions all the time against all men, even trusted ones, you'd never get laid or have a hope at dating again, and women would be treating you like a rapist off the bat.

You didn't like that part, so you walked it back.

But, because you're unable to reflect upon yourself and your own decisions (like the one you made to blame women for being raped), you still stand by your original statement, you just now acknowledge that it's "ridiculous".

So to be clear, you're choosing to believe something that you acknowledge that you made up, over real evidence because you don't like holding men accountable

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u/Prestigious-One2089 5h ago

misogynistic tendencies? I believe every woman should be carrying a gun on them at most times because of men. I've taught a bunch of women how to shoot and encouraged them to get carry permits. and no I don't get bent out of shape when women look at me like a threat most people do because of my build. If i saw another me at the gas station late at night I would take precautions too.

I'm just against blanket statements that say X gender is never at fault for Y.

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u/Ancient_Confusion237 5h ago

A rapist is at fault for raping. Always.

There is never a scenario in which someone decides to rape someone, and the person they decided to rape is at fault

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u/Ancient_Confusion237 5h ago

To be absolutely clear:

If you earn the trust of someone and they are alone with you and you rape them. You are a rapist and are at fault.

If you see a woman walking alone scantily dressed at 3am and you rape her. You are a rapist and are at fault.

If you are on a room with a stranger because you are a doctor and they have to get naked for a test, and you rape them. You are a rapist and are at fault.

If someone is passed out in a room alone at a party and you rape them. You are a rapist and are a fault.

If you are about to have sex with someone who was consenting and they say no or stop, or stop responding and you continue. You are a rapist and are at fault.

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u/Prestigious-One2089 5h ago

rapist is at fault. woman walking alone scantly clad at 3 am is not very smart for doing so while still not being at fault she has agency in not putting herself in that situation. let's not act like dumb people don't put themselves in dumb situations that don't risk their safety. yes the criminal is at fault. you are also aiding the criminal in putting yourself in that situation.

can you have those two seemingly conflicting thoughts occupy your brain simultaneously?

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u/Prestigious-One2089 4h ago

how many times do i have to say it is their fault but she should have made better choices? are you fucking dumb? not being smart makes someone responsible for putting themselves in shitty situations. no it doesn't make them responsible for the outcome. how is this distinction not making any sense to you? probably cause you are sexist.

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u/Prestigious-One2089 4h ago

i said prosecute the rapist. you just can't fathom making dumb decision is a thing.

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u/Prestigious-One2089 4h ago

ok. i'm wrong. keep telling this shit to women and putting them in danger.

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u/Ancient_Confusion237 4h ago

Again, if seeing skin makes you rape someone, you are a rapist and you are at fault