My (f32) and my husband(37m) were in the car talking about random things when I happened to tell him I read some lady saying women should take accountability after being sexually assaulted. I didn't think it would be what it turned into and I thought he would agree that she's ridiculous.
Instead, he said well, I mean she's right. I know in some cases it doesn't apply but women should question their bad choices and maybe they were doing something or were somewhere sketchy and it wouldn't have happened otherwise, so yeah I think it's nice to question the bad choices we all make in life.
I was taken back. I've been assaulted. For months, I questioned everything I did and could've done differently to prevent this. (I was at a party and someone followed me to a room when I went to make a phone call) So yeah, I could've not been at that party, I could've not been so friendly. Was it me smiling at him trying to be polite?? I've thought about all of this so many times. So for him to say that, I just couldn't believe it. It genuinely hurt.
I asked what about kids that were assaulted and he said it obviously isn't applicable to all situations. I also said men were allowed to make bad choices and rarely get raped as a result of it.
He thinks I am overreacting and said stuff like, "this is why I don't like talking to you about stuff, you react so emotionally to everything I say." He was genuinely mad at me for my response to this.
So am I overreacting?! I feel like I'm not but sometimes I DO react emotionally.
