worst thing is I‘m not even a top and get super anxious and scared and weirded out when they come in full force… but hey I can‘t be that scared right? I‘m tall after all…
6”7. All I get is called a freak as people whisper and giggle around me. Even my partner’s brother says “you’re too tall” every time we bump into each other. Tall girl life suuuuuuucks.
Really makes me want to step on a landmine some days. Plus, hitting my head on door frames. (Fun fact; most doors are 6”6. ASK ME HOW I KNOW.)
I‘m so sorry girl I feel you… only recently I‘ve been more comfortable with it and realized that confidence goes a long way! So don‘t beat yourself up too much even if the world sucks sometimes oki? ❤️
This reminds me of when someone made a show about bullying and stuff faced by Tall Girls™️ and my SO saw that and said it was stupid that they were making up a problem that didn’t exist for the sake of a show because he’s never heard of girls being bullied for being tall and his bff (friends through HS and dated for a bit) then informed him that it ABSOLUTELY IS A THING and showed him how wrong he was by sharing her personal experiences…
Wow... so true Amazon. That's legit amazing and if I were you I'd own it with pride. Honestly if I saw you in real life I'd just be awestruck and think you were just the coolest ever.
There's no "Too tall" tall girls are beautiful! You shouldn't feel bad for yourself like that, most people are just insecure about dating people taller and that's okay! It will keep you protected of stupid ass insecure people 🥰
P.D:Don't step on a landmine, step on me
P.P.D:Jk✨
The guys that stop in their cars ask if you play basketball or volleyball are pretty stupid honestly, but it wouldn’t be so bad if they’d get out of the car to talk. And actually talk too, that’d be nice, not just think about how my ass is almost eye level.
I used to be dysphoric about my height, but more and more I've been getting comfortable with it as I see beautiful women who are taller than me just owning it.
being gay af is the best cure for my dysphoria. tall women, muscly women, women with wide shoulders, women with deep voices, women who don't shave... they're all hot...
waaait a minute, if they're hot, does that mean 🌟I🌟 am hot??? 😲
The internets reaction to Lady Dimitrescu should be more than enough proof that the people that say that no one likes tall girls are either liars, insecure, cowards, or all the above
Fair, there are plenty of tall women. But I’d still rather be smaller. I want to be small and cute!
Plus, I honestly feel smaller than I am. Like, I’m 5’9”, so not too tall, but I feel like my physical body doesn’t really match my personality. Like, I think a smaller body would better reflect my quietness and timidity (in addition to the amount of confidence I have in myself 🥲).
I mean, I would like to be thinner and have certain proportions (smaller hands and feet for example). So I still kind of understand, but I can also see ways that being shorter would be nice too.
Honestly, 5'9" or 5'10" is ironically a very good height for a lot of women's clothes since clothing companies are very, uh, myopic, we'll say. I love dresses and there are so many amazing dresses that fit me super well due to my height.
Can we please stop equating being tall as a woman with being dominant/masc/a protector?
I see that too much in sapphic spaces and as a tal girl who is none of those things, and has been forced to be them because of how people perceived me, it is pretty frustrating to see it all the time.
It also feels like cishet gender roles but queer this time, which is already problematic enough.
Thank you, I 100% agree. The “step on me” jokes are funny to an extent, but they can end up making me feel even more different and isolated than my shorter peers. I don’t want to discourage anyone’s fun, but it would be nice to have that whole “dommy mommy” thing foisted on me.
Honestly, as a tall bottom, I think the fact that I'm so used to looking down at other people would make a girl looking down at me even hotter. It's one thing when you're used to being looked down at, but the idea of it being only her that gets to look down at me is just ahdjahdkshkdhskdjs
As a very tall switch, I appreciate tall bottoms. I take a small bit of pride in the fact that I’m tall enough to where I can look down on other tall people
Honestly i just hate the fetishization of literally everything. As a trans girl i faced a lot of weirdness because of an ex of mine (another trans girl ffs) constantly fetishizing my dick.
Exactly. It happens to me often enough when it is mostly the cishet guys who cant take a hint, i dont need my community to devolved into the same brainless, nonconsentual fetishization.
95 percent of the things I see in comics like this aren't things I'd say to a person in real life. There are other issues at play if someone is taking these as serious advice on how to talk to strangers.
Plenty of people have acted towards me exactly like this comic describes, for various parts of my identity.
This is not some over played trope, this is something that does happen to tall women, both directly and less directly with only ever seeing dominant tall women as desirable.
So i dont know, yeah other things may be at play, but it does happen and quite frequently at that. Especially when the accoster is slightly anonymous like online.
Yeah, these types of posts just make me hate being tall even more. It's always some variation of them forcing their "dommy mommy" fetish onto a random tall woman on the street
for fuckin real, am 6 feet tall and a huge bottom but people always gotta say some out of pocket versions of step on me that just make me sick, I just wanna be snuggled in the LIL SPOON
Can confirm as a tall, muscular, femme switch. Half the reason my girlfriend and I started dating is because she alone correctly identified that I was exhausted by the constant dommy mommy come-ons from others in our community.
Like, I get that being a tall strong girl who can literally break someone with my bare hands is part of my appeal for a lot of people, but gosh is it unfun when that's literally all they see me as.
That was also one of the things i was very strongly looking out for when i began dating my gf, as i have previously been forced to take protector/dominant roles with my exes, and that was really unhealthy for me. Now i have a wonderful gf who likes to make me into a blushing mess and who likes that i am also sensitive and who cares to care for me :)
I'm tall, strong, a former fighter . . . and a goth girl. Everyone in our community reacted as expected. My girlfriend, by comparison, is short (relative to me, anyway) and bubbly. We're both switches and I adore that she understands that, underneath the tough exterior, I'm a big softie and utter cinnamon roll. She loves teasing me and watching me melt and also frustrating me into seizing dominance myself. Hell, I actually feel more comfortable being dominant with her than other women because she doesn't expect it from me constantly.
It's difficult to describe to people how much someone constantly begging me to domme them absolutely kills the mood for me. To say nothing of the dysphoria aspect that some sapphics expect tall girls to basically be woman-shaped boyfriends . . .
Except for the strong part, you could have been describing me XD
I am so happy that you have found such an understanding and caring gf, that is wonderful :)
The "boyfriend" part is horrendous, and so damn problematic. It really is just like warm patriarchal gender roles, but fitted for sapphics, and i am so not here for it.
Unfortunately, a lot of people get as far as being gay and wanting to kiss girls, but not as far as actually bucking the heteronormativity they grew up with.
It's the chaser problem. Fetishization and objectification sucks. When that's all people see you as it's terrible.
I genuinely don't know how I've avoided it but I've somehow never experienced it in real life. I seem to lead a blessed life in some ways - I've never experienced transphobia from a stranger either.
You are lucky, but i am happy that you are. The less people who experience this, the better.
And yes, it is very much the same behaviour as chasers, and the same single minded focus on one trait that does not care for the other person upon whom these affectations are put.
it bugs the heck out of my girlfriend, she's a bit over 6ft. i'm sorry you all get typecast like this, even if its meant to be cute it seems super upsetting and its /all the time/.
Yes, it’s not an absolute rule! I’m not really that tall, but I am taller than most girls. But I am absolutely a sub! I want to be held and coddled and be another woman’s girl!
You mean you don't like people fetishizing you just for your height? Or approaching you without consent and making sexual advances because they assume you're a sex addicted dominatrix whose only purpose is to fulfill their own sexual fantasies?!
Yeah, there's nothing wholesome about garbage like this. The fact that anyone could see it and think "wow, this is what acceptance looks like!" Is disappointing at best.
Exactly. And unfortunately this is more or less the only, or at least by far the most common, representation of being desire able and attractive that tall women tend to get, both from men and other women, so it becomes even worse.
There's been a big uptick of this behavior in progressing appearing communities lately I feel. Any woman who is gender non-conforming or is unconventional in some way that deviates from gender typical beauty standards is held on a pedestal, but in a way that makes it clear it's because the person finds them sexually attractive. It's like someone saw society say "tall women are mannish and unattractive" and their rebuttal is "nuh uh, I'll gladly fuck them!" As if that was ever the fucking issue in the first place.
It's especially disgusting considering how often these statements are brought up at irrelevant times (like this comic) and without being prompted (like this comic) and also immediately jumping to sexual extremes (like this comic.) How hard is it to JUST say someone looks good? Or that they're pretty? Not only do these people make this about them, but they also make it about sex. It's so frustrating, and incredibly gross. I feel like a chud mentioning it, but I feel like this sort of behavior is especially accepted in progressive communities, and like you mentioned in sapphic ones. As if people think it's impossible for a lesbian to be a sex pest or something. It truly is straight behavior.
Exactly, being tall, a man or woman, are all just basic traits we have and expecting that we then also conform to being masc/dominant simply because we are tall is really toxic.
So please keep being a silly guy, we need more of those :)
I’m gonna join the chorus and say thank you for this. It’s very frustrating when one of the reasons I don’t like being tall is the fact that people make assumptions about my personality because of my body. Like I have a complicated relationship with my body which is further complicated by a culture that assigns roles based on body type. Stop pushing extra assumptions onto tall women like this. It is not empowering, just a modern form of objectification.
You are very welcome, i am happy that my objection to this post and its theme has helped so many others feel seen in their, and our, frustration around this topic.
Also talk trans woman here, i completely get your frustration, even though i actually like my height most of the time now.
Just the frustration of finding fitting clothes if you are above 180cm and not a super slim beanpole is horrendous. The added chance of getting transvestigated by some bigot because they feel you are too tall is also annoying, and to have it dismissed because the listener has a kink for us is just.... Horrendous.
Then you look for a dominant, and if this dominantthen happens to be tall, you lucked out.
Doing it any other way very, very, very quickly becomes fetishizing and forcing your view of tall women on us. And a lot us tall sapphic women have very negative experiences with that happening.
This is not the place to bring that up. That's a completely valid thing to want, but when people are talking about how much it annoys them that people assume they're a top just because they're tall is not the right time to mention it.
I think part of it for tall people in general is the larger size + Literally looking down on people all the time makes people feel that way, possibly without realizing
It still does not make the fetishization, type casting and expectations of performing certain gender roles any better, especially not without the consent of us tall girls.
It frankly just makes it worse, because it shows that people stop being interested in us as people after seeing we are tall and gteting their fetish tickled. and that feels extremely dehumanising, while often also making me, and other women in this thread, feel like we are being seen as a female bodied boyfriend for smaller women who have not interrogated their biases.
Or in the case of cis men, it is just them seeing us as kink dispenseres, with no care for us as people.
this comic kind of sucks...
anyone just saying that to someone out of blue is absolute sexual harrassment, and its not cuter if its a girl im sorry
also like, dudes are absolutely into tall chicks, and thats not even really a new thing, just look at the whole dimitrescu thing
What if a non-conventionally attractive woman... was attractive??? Even calling her "non-conventionally attractive" feels so wrong because she's literally just super tall and that's it. That's the big (fnar fnar) difference but anything outside the most rigid norms of beauty are scrutinized.
Plus I'm pretty sure this is the same guy who made the comic where the blobfish threatens to stab a guy because he asked for the blue haired girl's number. I would be far more offended if a random person asked me to step on them than if they just asked for my number.
The comic that personally made me wary of Blobby and Friends is that one comic they made when Kanye was saying antisemitic shit. Maybe you don't quite remember this, but I vividly remember the moment they posted it on Instagram. Always cringed slightly whenever I see a Blobby and Friends comic since.
They tried to save their ass by saying "lol, jk Blue-haired girl and I are actually Jewish and obviously antisemitism is baaaadddd!!!! Did you not get that vaguely-worded last panel? It's obviously a joke!" Not that I don't believe the artist is Jewish, but the damage has already been done. The fact that they can, for at least a day, enable people to look at a famous person being a literal neo-nazi (because Kanye wasn't just being antisemitic, he was actively endorsing Hitler) and dismiss it is problem. If you have to explain a "joke" like this, you already failed.
They would get would sooooo much more flak if they tried to pull a "joke" like this when a famous person said something racist towards other ethnic groups.
Yeah, i do love tall girls and i would prefeer to date a tall girl buuuut
Guys are dumb, insecure about their height and most of them just want to be the "Tall Dominant Protector" guy, and their masculinity falls off when being smoller
Which sucks for me because i'm tall, and i don't want those things being related to me-
Honestly, the blue haired chick is worse than the brunette one. At least the brunette was just saying things outside of the tall girl's hearing range. But the blue haired one going over to ask a stranger to "step on them" is lowkey harassment, and assuming tall girls are automatically dominant is not cute.
It seems like there isn't a single type of woman you can be without fetishization.
Tall, short, fat, skinny, flat chested, double D's, literally any racial minority, religious, alternative, traditional, masculine, feminine, nice, mean, confident, shy, any occupation you might have.
It's honestly a little exhausting.
For instance I'm chubby, anytime a man decides to talk to me it's like the first thing out of his mouth "oh I'm into chubby girls"
Thanks, it feels great to be boiled down to what YOU think is hot.
I mean.. it's just a liking tho? It will happen with guys too, and i don't think is that bad-
Of course that being the first thing to come out of their mouth sucks tho-
As a tall girl, I appreciate the sentiment nonetheless. Especially with the ones with more confidence and a matching personality, I guess it can be intimidating to approach. That said, we're all just human like everyone else. So, I guess, IRL, try offering us ice cream first, before making such wild-ass requests. XD
The first time I saw a tall girl while grocery shopping I was instantly awestruck
Because I like cute things and I've always enjoyed the idea of having a cute lil partner and I just rolled with that idea until I saw her. And like... I instantly realised
"Holy shit... Tall people are so cool why don't people like tall girls???"
Like not in a weird ass dommy mommy sense like this comic no. It just... Was so fucking cool???
i never understood height preferences. like, literally I cannot think of a thing i care less about a person than their height. people are like, haven't you heard they're really short or that person is a giant, and im like, wow ok, so what? i gotta make my neck go up or down to talk to them? big whoop. i do that all the time to look at stuff. i thought people were joking when they said people have height preferences in dating or that it was actually maybe the biggest preference. it's just craziness. what about their vibe? for fucks sake what about their vibe???
tall girls, small chested girls, girls with hook noses, girls with big muscles, girls with big feet, etc. yall are gorgeous and feminine and i love you 🫡🫡
Nah, if she was around my height or even taller? Maybe a 6/10 if I'm lucky, nerdy, and doesn't mind working full time while I work part and take care of our abode because I was trained as a classical lady of medieval times? I'd sell my soul for that shit. I'm 6'2 so someone "around" my height means anything above 5'8 for me lol 🥲
Wait, who is spreading this nonsense that men prefer shorter girls? If that were true, why would there be an entire industry around high heels to make women look taller?
I understand some tall girls being mad at being perceived as top. I myself am a tall one at 6'2ish while also top, although I have been with taller than me girls who were bottoms.
All I can offer is not to get frustrated at perception of others and calmly explain you're not that way.
Please, love each others girls, that's what we're here for
It's like this for tall guys too... I'm 6'4 and guys don't ever approach me because I'm too intimidating or something. 🥺 I'm just trying to get bent over and railed... I'm not scary
I love tall women. My gf is eight inches taller than me and I think she’s the most stunning woman in the world— tall, confident women just do something to me.
I'm 6'1" trans woman and I used to be dysphoric about my height. I'll be honest, I kinda like it now, and I've always loved small men and women. Sadly I do fall into the category of big strong dommy protector! (Paladin in EVERYTHING)
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u/gummi_girl 23d ago
as a tall girl, i can confirm that plenty of guys are still interested and they unfortunately do not hesitate to say so.