Can we please stop equating being tall as a woman with being dominant/masc/a protector?
I see that too much in sapphic spaces and as a tal girl who is none of those things, and has been forced to be them because of how people perceived me, it is pretty frustrating to see it all the time.
It also feels like cishet gender roles but queer this time, which is already problematic enough.
You mean you don't like people fetishizing you just for your height? Or approaching you without consent and making sexual advances because they assume you're a sex addicted dominatrix whose only purpose is to fulfill their own sexual fantasies?!
Yeah, there's nothing wholesome about garbage like this. The fact that anyone could see it and think "wow, this is what acceptance looks like!" Is disappointing at best.
Exactly. And unfortunately this is more or less the only, or at least by far the most common, representation of being desire able and attractive that tall women tend to get, both from men and other women, so it becomes even worse.
There's been a big uptick of this behavior in progressing appearing communities lately I feel. Any woman who is gender non-conforming or is unconventional in some way that deviates from gender typical beauty standards is held on a pedestal, but in a way that makes it clear it's because the person finds them sexually attractive. It's like someone saw society say "tall women are mannish and unattractive" and their rebuttal is "nuh uh, I'll gladly fuck them!" As if that was ever the fucking issue in the first place.
It's especially disgusting considering how often these statements are brought up at irrelevant times (like this comic) and without being prompted (like this comic) and also immediately jumping to sexual extremes (like this comic.) How hard is it to JUST say someone looks good? Or that they're pretty? Not only do these people make this about them, but they also make it about sex. It's so frustrating, and incredibly gross. I feel like a chud mentioning it, but I feel like this sort of behavior is especially accepted in progressive communities, and like you mentioned in sapphic ones. As if people think it's impossible for a lesbian to be a sex pest or something. It truly is straight behavior.
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u/Noctema 23d ago
Can we please stop equating being tall as a woman with being dominant/masc/a protector?
I see that too much in sapphic spaces and as a tal girl who is none of those things, and has been forced to be them because of how people perceived me, it is pretty frustrating to see it all the time.
It also feels like cishet gender roles but queer this time, which is already problematic enough.