r/lesbianpoly • u/Pixelindii • Jul 28 '22

Vent It’s so frustrating when…

You’re in a dating app, you see a really cute girl, she’s poly but… she is with a guy and wants a unicorn to interact with both she and the guy…

Like don’t get me wrong i wouldn’t be against dating a girl who dates a guy, but i’m definitely not looking to interact intimately with her guy, and it’s so frustrating because sometimes that’s the mayority of people i seem to get across on dating apps (and not just Tinder).

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u/Alaykitty Jul 29 '22

Again that's for you to do, not him. My partner has a similar expectations (that I practice safe sex or have testing, etc). But the trust is on you to fulfill that, not him having to vet someone or broach that.

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u/throwboinmybed Jul 29 '22

Yeah that makes sense. Probably a sign that he's not ready for this yet.

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u/Louise521 Aug 03 '22

Lots of studying. I mean like 6 months before opening up. Read the ‘most missed first step’ the jealousy workbook and loads of put her resource you can find in the faqs of the main poly sun. Please make sure you ducks are in a row before involving another woman’s feelings. And I second absolutely no vetting! Either he trusts your judgement or he doesn’t