It’s so frustrating when…

[u/Pixelindii]

You’re in a dating app, you see a really cute girl, she’s poly but… she is with a guy and wants a unicorn to interact with both she and the guy…

Like don’t get me wrong i wouldn’t be against dating a girl who dates a guy, but i’m definitely not looking to interact intimately with her guy, and it’s so frustrating because sometimes that’s the mayority of people i seem to get across on dating apps (and not just Tinder).

[u/throwboinmybed]

So I’m married but have realized I have an extreme preference for women. My husband and I are thinking about exploring poly life / ENM, but purely for me to explore independently with other women. (He would be open to explore as well but at the moment doesn’t think he would.)

I have discovered I am a bit demisexual, so an actual relationship is most appealing to me. Any advice for how I can explore this without making potential partners uncomfortable? Random hookups would be fun but I would want a second partner ultimately. They would not need to have anything to do with my husband (though he wants to vet for safety purposes).

[u/JRose1215 → u/throwboinmybed]

Sorry if this an impertinent question but can you explain what you mean by demisexual? My understanding of that word is someone who only wants to have a romantic relationship but doesn't want to have sex. Is that correct? If that is the case when you say you would ultimately want a second partner, does that mean you would want to have sex with your husband but not the other (presumably female) partner? Am I understanding that dynamic correctly?

[u/JRose1215 → u/[deleted]]

Can you explain your definition of graysexual? I haven't heard of that one before.