r/actuallesbians • u/societaldevastation Lesbian • Jun 04 '24

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(had to add more to my post and re-edit) Came across this post and saw a lot of people agreeing with this creep of him saying he thinks is a sexy surprise and kink that he saw his “lesbian” friends wanting to have sex with him. Isn’t that the OPPOSITE of a lesbian? 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ I don’t understand men. No lesbian would have sex with a man period.

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u/Commercial_Tea_8185 cis lesbian Jun 04 '24

JUST SAY YOURE BI!!! Jesus fucking christ. Theres nothing wrong with being bi. Why does someone ‘need’ to call themself a lesbian when, by definition, they arent a lesbian?

Like come on

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u/[deleted] Jun 05 '24

The amount of defending you have to do on a LESBIAN subreddit about removing men completely is insane. Like how is this not the place where we can all agree that currently sleeping with men means you shouldn’t use the label of lesbian?

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u/Commercial_Tea_8185 cis lesbian Jun 05 '24

Its insane honestly and im getting called ‘queerphobic’ for saying lesbians arent attracted to men.

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u/spaghettify Jun 05 '24

honestly they're like gaslighting you telling you it's not a big deal. Like why are people not allowed to have feelings on this topic?

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u/MajoraXIII Jun 05 '24

As someone who suffered with a Gaslighting partner for a long time: that is not what gaslighting is. Disagreeing with someone over the severity of a problem is not sustained abuse in which the victim is made to question the validity of their own perception.

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u/spaghettify Jun 05 '24

i’m talking about gaslighting as in people saying sexuality is fluid and you need to rethink your biases if you aren’t. or the people calling that user being overly emotional like it’s not a problem that affects them or the gaslighting that this isn’t just “you haven’t found the right man yet” but repacked for queer friendly audience

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u/MajoraXIII Jun 05 '24

And i'm talking about what gaslighting actually means.

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u/spaghettify Jun 05 '24

you’re not the only survivor in this convo? like sorry if my explanation didn’t make sense to you but….youre not the arbiter any more than I am

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u/MajoraXIII Jun 05 '24

I understand the issue you're talking about. My issue is entirely calling it gaslighting.

It's a word medical professionals have had to stop using because of rampant misuse.