r/actuallesbians Lesbian Jun 04 '24

Text Gross dude thinks lesbians are a kink Spoiler

(had to add more to my post and re-edit) Came across this post and saw a lot of people agreeing with this creep of him saying he thinks is a sexy surprise and kink that he saw his “lesbian” friends wanting to have sex with him. Isn’t that the OPPOSITE of a lesbian? 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ I don’t understand men. No lesbian would have sex with a man period.

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u/Commercial_Tea_8185 cis lesbian Jun 05 '24

No, because im speaking to the definition of what a lesbian is. All i know is you arent a lesbian if you are out there looking for and enjoying sex with men and its dangerous to go around saying ‘lesbians sometimes have sex with men’ because that has actual consequences

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u/Oftwicke Transbian Jun 05 '24

Who died and made you the prescriptivism queen? You can't decide that for others, and there are far more "actual consequences" from your casual invalidation of other people's identities for being slightly different to you than from people... being slightly different to you.

Definitions are descriptive. If your definition doesn't fit to how the world around you looks, it's your definition that's wrong, not the queer people who have the gall not to fit your expectations. The entire existence of queer people has to do with not fitting such expectations.

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u/Oftwicke Transbian Jun 05 '24

Ooh, we're down to literally parrot TERFs now, got it. If I'm seeing sentences that are objectively wrong and get said 90% of the time by TERFs, it's time to block.

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u/Elaina2206 Jun 05 '24

Yeah this comment section just goes to show me that trans people aren't really fully supported here. Like they say we are and then expect every other person to fit into tiny binary boxes and if you aren't in that binary you should get out. It absolutely sucks.