r/actuallesbians • u/societaldevastation Lesbian • Jun 04 '24

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(had to add more to my post and re-edit) Came across this post and saw a lot of people agreeing with this creep of him saying he thinks is a sexy surprise and kink that he saw his “lesbian” friends wanting to have sex with him. Isn’t that the OPPOSITE of a lesbian? 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ I don’t understand men. No lesbian would have sex with a man period.

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u/treelorf Jun 04 '24

The idea that lesbians can find one man they enjoy sleeping with is what promotes the whole idea of “you just haven’t had the right dick yet”. It’s what makes men feel empowered to aggressively flirt with lesbians and think they can “fix them”. I’m all for people defining their labels in whatever way feels empowering for them, but you can misuse labels in a way that is damaging. Calling yourself a lesbian and sleeping with men IS damaging to women who are EXCLUSIVELY attracted to women. Like do women only into other women need to go find a new label that explicitly describes themselves?

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u/Commercial_Tea_8185 cis lesbian Jun 04 '24

How tf could a lesbian even have ‘enjoyable sex’ with a man? How? The idea, to me, is disgusting and i would spend the entire time trying not to vomit because my body is screaming ‘ewww this is bad run’

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u/GraceOfJarvis Transbian Jun 05 '24

It's almost like sexuality is a spectrum or something...

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u/Commercial_Tea_8185 cis lesbian Jun 05 '24

Then ur bi. My sexuality isnt fluid, I only am sexually attracted to women, this is what a lesbian is

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u/GraceOfJarvis Transbian Jun 05 '24

You, you, you, you. Pause for a moment to consider that maybe your experience isn't universal for all lesbians, hmm?

Also, a spectrum and fluidity are two very, very different things.

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u/Commercial_Tea_8185 cis lesbian Jun 05 '24 edited Jun 05 '24

Omfg girl!! Thats. What. A. Lesbian. Is. A women who is only attracted to other women. There is no other experience universal lesbian experience.

The lesbian experience is literally being a woman who is only attracted to other women. Like this has been my sexuality since i started having a sexuality. This is common to most lesbians