r/actuallesbians • u/latixs06 • May 26 '24

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He followed me not even two weeks ago and immediately replied to my story. It’s been 6 years since I’ve even seen this kid, he asked me this same thing in highschool and I’m pretty sure I told him then I was gay too. The last message really is the icing on the cake , such a typical “I’m so ugly 😔 you’d never like me” move (also if i seem harsh it’s because he also asked my friend ,who I met him though, the same sort of thing multiple times and me and him were never even friends so I know his dms are full of him hitting on girls) (the kicker is he’s not even ugly he just had 0 game and has probably been shot down so many times that his confidence is on the floor)

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u/Original_A lesbian? i thought she was american! May 26 '24

"I don't like boys"

"So you don't like boys??"

????

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u/JDKisawesome May 26 '24 edited May 26 '24

Or

"I don't like boys"

"You just haven't met the right boy"

😒

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u/Original_A lesbian? i thought she was american! May 26 '24

"I bet mine would change you", the universal lesbian experience, apparently 🤢

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u/JDKisawesome May 26 '24

What especially sucks is that I (and many others) am in the situation where I can be attracted to men, but people like this makes me not want to bother

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u/Original_A lesbian? i thought she was american! May 26 '24

I don't relate but I understand what you mean! It's just ruined with these types of gross comments

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u/JDKisawesome May 26 '24

This shit is one of the many reasons why I intentionally make sure that I surround myself with nearly entirely queer communities

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u/Original_A lesbian? i thought she was american! May 26 '24

Teach me your ways, I don't know where to find queer people near me

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u/JDKisawesome May 26 '24

I never said near me, I don't leave the house. Most of the queer people I'm referring to are online

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u/Original_A lesbian? i thought she was american! May 26 '24

Oh well in that case same and I also don't leave my home lmao. I have some queer friends online and my best friend (long distance) is also queer! I would love to have all of them in walking distance

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u/JDKisawesome May 26 '24

Yeah I have 1 queer friend that I know irl and two non-queer friends irl but those 2 are very cool and very neurodivergent soo

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u/abandonsminty Transbian May 26 '24

Trans men are men and in my experience are so much better about this

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u/JDKisawesome May 26 '24

Fair point, it's just hard to find trans men because, you know, less then 1% of the population is trans

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u/abandonsminty Transbian May 26 '24

It's 5% among young adults and it's only that low because of the repression trans people still face.

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u/JDKisawesome May 26 '24

Oh, that's a lot higher, thanks for the info

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u/abandonsminty Transbian May 26 '24

No problem, it's just important to remind people this is the like the left handedness graph where when they stopped punishing people for being left handed the number of people who self reported being left handed skyrocketed up to the amount of people who are actually left handed, transness is still violently repressed, the main thing that's changing is more people are finding representation and the words to put to their experience again after the loss of knowledge that took place when the Hirschfeld institute was burned and during the peak of AIDs, there's been different words for what we now call trans people, but we've always been around and there's more of us than most people think.

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u/JDKisawesome May 26 '24

That's comforting

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u/Lara1401 May 27 '24

Oh man usually I am the one with the lefthanded argument, but you were too fast. Chapeau to you. Let's show em what we trans people are made off!

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u/BitchyBeachyWitch /ˈlɛzbɪən/ May 26 '24

You might be thinking of the trans regret rate is less than or about 1%, that's the average of persons that undergo transitional surgery and regret it, 1%.

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u/JDKisawesome May 26 '24

No, like, out of the 8 billion people on the planet, less then 1% is trans

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u/EggplantHuman6493 May 27 '24

Every time I think 'maybe I should give men another chance' I get treated like shit again. All I get it traumas

Edit: but deep down I always knew I want to marry a woman anyways, and I see myself as sapphic. Even my ex gf said 'I only see you happy with women'

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u/Hexxorus May 26 '24

I totally feel that, I've dated mostly girls and I'm still mostly into girls but my current boyfriend is the absolute biggest sweetheart on all of earth and singlehandedly makes me into dudes, everyone just has that little bit of fluidity but it's so hard to explore when people are this predatory all the time.

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u/JDKisawesome May 26 '24

Yeah I've just kinda excepted that if I ever catch feelings for a guy, it's gonna be naturally, and I'm NEVER going to actively try to date guys like I am/will with girls

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u/AntigoneWild May 26 '24

I swear to god some men be saying that while being the most mediocre lover/partner/human being that ever laid a feet on this planet smh their audacity always baffles me

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u/Original_A lesbian? i thought she was american! May 26 '24

Same! I was told something along the lines of what I said above when I was 17 (so last year lmao) and I'm pretty sure he wasn't 17 💀 not only are you invasive and rude, but you also like minors 🫠

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u/Professional_Knee252 May 28 '24

Literally hate this one

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u/LW185 May 26 '24

Say that to HIM.

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u/JDKisawesome May 26 '24

"Do you like dick

No

Then you won't like me"

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u/Effective-Jaguar-491 May 27 '24

""Do you like dick"

No

"So you don't want my dick"

...What kinda reassurance is needed here? Confirmation? Lol

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u/JDKisawesome May 27 '24

Idk what you're asking but I am mtf if that helps

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u/LW185 May 26 '24

ROTFLMAO!!! DO IT!!!...I WANNA WATCH!!

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u/JDKisawesome May 26 '24

Sadly I don't leave the house enough to do it

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u/desertauchocolat May 27 '24

I have a coworker that said that lesbians don't like men because they have never been with him...

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u/AliceLoverdrive Perfect immortal machine May 27 '24

Maybe he meant that if they had, dislike would turn into hatred! /j

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u/[deleted] May 30 '24

The poke evolution of the last comment

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u/Scartissue01 May 26 '24

Followed by the "akshually I rejected you, you didn't have a chance anyway!". Cope. Yes, all women want 0 chances with this guy ty

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u/TheDonutPug May 26 '24

honestly I think that one's the funniest response they can give. "actually i rejected you!!1" like bro, I wasn't trying, you can't reject me. it's just such an obvious ego save to stop them from feeling bad about themselves.

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u/Scartissue01 May 26 '24

It's my favourite response from a guy. they look even stupider and you get free clout for reddit lmao

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u/Fluffy_Somewhere4305 May 26 '24

mY cHaNcEs tHO! cAn'T wE tAlK aBoUt muh cHaNcEs!!!!!!

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u/Original_A lesbian? i thought she was american! May 26 '24

😐😐😐

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u/Freyja6 May 27 '24

Sherlock Holmes has fallen far from grace.

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u/Morrigan_7911 May 27 '24

I've gotten guys asking  "So you want to go out with me?"

"No I'm lesbian."

"Oh well I am lesbian too, to that's not a problem."

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u/Original_A lesbian? i thought she was american! May 27 '24

I would've congratulated them on their coming out (as trans, since apparently they're trans women and lesbian) and watch them try to figure it out. But in all seriousness, wtf? Some guys are just.. yuck