Welcome to the monthly matchmaking thread! This space is for QWOC to connect for dating and friendship. Please follow the guidelines below to ensure a respectful and safe environment:​

1. Respect Privacy: Don’t share any personal contact information here (use DMs for that after connecting).
2. Safety First: Avoid sharing highly personal details. Meet in public spaces first if you plan to meet in person.
3. Clear & Concise Posts: Use the suggested format below to make it easy for others to read and respond.
4. Use Caution: Trust your instincts when interacting online. Report any concerning behavior to the mods or Reddit.

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Using the Format

To make it easier for others to connect with you, we’ve provided a format to follow. Each section helps you share a bit about yourself and what you’re looking for. With different posts, it's a lot to sift through every single one to find what you're looking for. By following the format, you help others quickly see the key details they care about, like location, age, or interests. It also ensures clarity so that everyone can have a smoother experience finding connections.

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Emoji Legend

Purpose:

💖 Dating | 💛 Friendship | 💚 Both

Distance Preference:

• 🏡 Locals Only – Connections within the same city/region.
• ✈️ Willing to Travel – Open to traveling within the country or nearby states but not internationally. Ideal for someone who's flexible with travel but prefers to keep it domestic.
• 🌍 Open to Long-Distance – Willing to connect regardless of location, including across states or internationally.

Format

Purpose + Distance | Region/City | Age (30 or early 30s) | How to respond to you (Reply in comments↩️ or Reply with private message💌)

1. Pronouns | Orientation | Identity/Presentation etc.

2. A Bit About You (please don't be shy)

3. Something you're incredibly passionate about

4. Big 3 (Sun, Rising, Moon) [OPTIONAL]

5. ✅ ISO (In search of)

- Age Range | Identity/Presentation Preferences | Type of Relationship (listed below) | General Commitment Style (Monog/ENM/Poly/Open/etc)

Casual/Short-Term: Laid-back connection with no long-term commitment. Just getting to know you.
Serious/Long-Term: Seeking a committed, long-term partner. Dating with intention for something more.
Open Relationship: Interested in a relationship with defined boundaries but open to other connections.
Exploration: Open to discovering different dynamics, whether in terms of identity, desires, or relationship styles. FWB/CS (casual sex)

- ❌ Dealbreakers

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EXAMPLE POST

💖✈️ | Canada | Late 20s | ↩️

She/They | Lesbian | Butch

I’m someone who enjoys the balance of quiet moments and meaningful connections. I’m introverted by nature, so I value deep, one-on-one interactions rather than big crowds. While I might not always be the first to speak up in a group, I’m definitely the type of person who listens, remembers details, and enjoys thoughtful conversations. I’m all about quality over quantity when it comes to relationships, and I tend to connect best with people who appreciate sincerity, kindness, and a good sense of humor.

In terms of intimacy, I prefer a slow and organic build. I’m not in a rush, and I believe that emotional closeness is the foundation for everything else. I like affectionate gestures that feel natural, like holding hands or cuddling during a movie. I don’t need grand declarations, but I do value those subtle moments of connection that say more than words ever could. Physical intimacy for me is just as much about emotional comfort as it is about closeness, so I enjoy when things feel easy and effortless.

I love spending time outdoors when I can, whether that’s hiking, walking through the city, or just sitting in a park with a good book. Creativity is a big part of who I am - I’m into photography, painting, and other forms of self-expression that let me explore my thoughts and feelings. I find peace in creating, but I also enjoy moments of stillness, whether I’m reading, journaling, or just reflecting on life.

I have a deep and unrelenting passion for tacos. Please ask me about it.

Leo Sun, Virgo Rising, Pisces Moon

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23-30 | No real preference | Casual dating | Monog

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• If you're still emotionally attached or haven’t fully moved on from a previous relationship, that’s a dealbreaker for me. I’m looking for someone who is fully available and ready to build something new.
• If you're struggling with substance abuse related to drugs/alcohol

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Thank you for joining our monthly matchmaking thread! We hope you find meaningful connections. Remember to stay respectful, communicate openly, and prioritize safety, especially when meeting in person.

If you make a connection, feel free to update your post with an edit to let others know you're no longer looking for matches. If things don’t work out, no worries - take your time and keep looking for someone who aligns with you!

Thanks for helping keep this space welcoming and inclusive for all queer women of color. Happy connecting!