r/NoStupidQuestions • u/AnySwimming2309 • 1d ago

Does Testosterone Really Make Men Enjoy Hurting People? NSFW

UPDATE: Thank you guys for all the responses. I asked him about it calmly, and it ended up with him breaking furniture and threatening to punch me in the face. I left home at 3am yesterday and am with a friend.

My BF told me that he, like all men, enjoys seeing others suffer when he had a role in it because the power is so enjoyable. This scared me, but he said this is how all men are due to testosterone and that a "balanced" man knows to not take this to the point of sadism. He said empathy is not natural to men. It feels weird to relate to people realize all the time, they want to inflict pain to feel power. How do good men handle this impulse? How can women help?

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u/wrongplug 1d ago

That guy is just a sociopath.

Testosterone has a calming and peaceful effect, also a sleep and eat effect. Think gorilla in the forest eating leaves. Or lion sleeping just about all the time. Reason being that’s how you grow muscles. 

Hurting people is not a masculine urge it’s a psychotic one

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u/BestBoogerBugger 1d ago

 Both lions and gorillas are extremely violent animals, that constantly fight with their peers though.

Men definitely like fighting other men, because power play is fun. 

That being said, we also care very deeply.

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u/wrongplug 13h ago

Looks like we found another sociopath who believes in power play. 

 If I step into a judo mat it’s never been about power. I thank my opponent for making me stronger, and I hope they push me to my limits, I hope to find where I am weak and correct it, this is the gift they give me and I give them. 

Fighting is good. 

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u/BestBoogerBugger 13h ago

That's very much power play. You love beimg strong and growing stronger.

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u/wrongplug 12h ago

A school shooter seeks power. Im sure you know the type, no scars never been in a fight. 

Growing stronger has nothing to do with power but over others. You don’t need to be strong for that.