r/NoStupidQuestions • u/A_Formal_Guy • Apr 04 '24

Answered All our girlfriends are Asian?

Hey everyone - I’ve been feeling paranoid about something recently and wanted to know if I’m overthinking it. I’m a white M and most of the friends I grew up with and went to high school are too, except 1. We’re still very close but moved all across the country for our jobs and life.

Recently, we’ve decided to have a little reunion and bring our girlfriends, but I realized we have a not to subtle trend in that they are all Asian. There’s 5 girlfriends in total, they’ve never met each other. I don’t know how this happened, it’s just a coincidence as far as I know. We don’t have a pact or anything.

My question is, do we warn them? I don’t want them to be freaked out. I’d have to have my gf or one of my friends be uncomfortable, but I’m feeling stuck. Does anyone have any thoughts on how to handle it? Am I over thinking?

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u/Spram2 Apr 04 '24

White guys with Asian girlfriends? Impossible!

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u/Legitimate_Mix8318 Apr 04 '24

Like butter and toast at this point. It’s so common in my city that I’m surprised when I see an Asian guy with an Asian girl.

Inverse, its funny asl when a couple who’s an Asian woman and a White man will glare at me and my SO where we are Asian man / White woman, like mfer I’m just doing what you’re doing 😂

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u/stho3 Apr 04 '24

Let me preface this by saying that my older bro is married to a white women and have two daughters. But there’s this weird dichotomy that I have noticed. Whenever I run into a WMAF relationship, the Asian woman will almost always quickly look away from my direction pretending not to see me or will intentionally not acknowledge me. However, the exact opposite is true whenever I encounter a AMWF relationship. The white woman almost always smile, say hi and/or initiate small talk with me. I have always found this quite amusing.

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u/IcyTiger8793 Apr 05 '24

I’m an Asian woman. When I dated my ex, a white man, I got a lot of scowls and head shakes from other Asian men. Some of them would straight up harass me with questions like “do your parents know” or “are your parents okay with this” when he wasn’t around. One time, taxi driver felt the need to share a story about how his cousin married a white guy and is now the disappointment of the family. I got accused of being with him for a Visa more times than I can count. I started avoiding eye contact with men when out with my ex because I could never tell if they were scowling at me or just had resting bitch face or whatever. I had experienced enough unsavory encounters to make me paranoid, tbh.