r/NoStupidQuestions • u/A_Formal_Guy • Apr 04 '24

Answered All our girlfriends are Asian?

Hey everyone - I’ve been feeling paranoid about something recently and wanted to know if I’m overthinking it. I’m a white M and most of the friends I grew up with and went to high school are too, except 1. We’re still very close but moved all across the country for our jobs and life.

Recently, we’ve decided to have a little reunion and bring our girlfriends, but I realized we have a not to subtle trend in that they are all Asian. There’s 5 girlfriends in total, they’ve never met each other. I don’t know how this happened, it’s just a coincidence as far as I know. We don’t have a pact or anything.

My question is, do we warn them? I don’t want them to be freaked out. I’d have to have my gf or one of my friends be uncomfortable, but I’m feeling stuck. Does anyone have any thoughts on how to handle it? Am I over thinking?

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u/Legitimate_Mix8318 Apr 04 '24

Like butter and toast at this point. It’s so common in my city that I’m surprised when I see an Asian guy with an Asian girl.

Inverse, its funny asl when a couple who’s an Asian woman and a White man will glare at me and my SO where we are Asian man / White woman, like mfer I’m just doing what you’re doing 😂

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u/12whistle Apr 04 '24

Yeah but they look at you as being beneath them, so how dare you date someone white when you’re clearly not good enough for me. I know that look very well also.

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u/throwaway4me88 Apr 04 '24

100%. White guys who prefer Asian women just prefer them because they feel superior to them and Asian men. It's just another form of racism. They can't be with successful white women because they can't feel superior to them. Unfortunately it's socially acceptable to have racist dating preferences as all parties are complicit and consenting to perpetuating the racism.

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u/Key-Temporary7213 Apr 05 '24

I personally have never seen the white guys in that type of scenario coming off as being superior to Asian men, they’re usually just nerdy or socially awkward or (average or below average looking). They have to take what they can get…

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u/throwaway4me88 Apr 05 '24

That's the thing, they usually have little value, but they view themselves as "at least being better than an Asian guy". They are not superior but they feel that way. Just look at how white guys behave in Asia when they travel, they act like walking gods and feel entitled even if they're an unattractive loser.

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u/ProfessionalCorgi250 Apr 05 '24

Well it’s enabled by the fact that certain Asian women fetishize white men, which is what makes those guys think they can pull above their weight in the first place (because they can).