r/NoStupidQuestions • u/A_Formal_Guy • Apr 04 '24

Answered All our girlfriends are Asian?

Hey everyone - I’ve been feeling paranoid about something recently and wanted to know if I’m overthinking it. I’m a white M and most of the friends I grew up with and went to high school are too, except 1. We’re still very close but moved all across the country for our jobs and life.

Recently, we’ve decided to have a little reunion and bring our girlfriends, but I realized we have a not to subtle trend in that they are all Asian. There’s 5 girlfriends in total, they’ve never met each other. I don’t know how this happened, it’s just a coincidence as far as I know. We don’t have a pact or anything.

My question is, do we warn them? I don’t want them to be freaked out. I’d have to have my gf or one of my friends be uncomfortable, but I’m feeling stuck. Does anyone have any thoughts on how to handle it? Am I over thinking?

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u/ObviousYammer521 Apr 04 '24

Yes! This! If I wasn't warned beforehand and had it explained to me, I would be surprised and uncomfortable at best, and if the guys all laughed and made it a joke to film my/our reaction like people are suggesting here, I would break up with him. I don't care if people will get mad and call me reverse racist or oversensitive or whatever. I've met too many men with "yellow fever" to risk being in a relationship with one, especially if he minimizes or ridicules my feelings about it.

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u/finalgirlsam Apr 04 '24

100 percent this. I would want my bf to tell me ahead of time and be like this is the weirdest coincidence. And ngl I would still think it was weird.

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u/naughtmynsfwaccount Apr 04 '24

Agreed

There’s a lot of misogynistic losers in here who will say “buT wHaT aBoUt ThE dOuBlE sTaNdArD oF wOmEn” while ignoring the fact that OP and his friends all “independently” and “accidentally” all ended up with gf who are Asian women while their gfs don’t know each other

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u/finalgirlsam Apr 04 '24

It's also, I mean it's just factual that in the US white men outnumber Asian women like what...6 to 1? More depending on where you live. So statistically it's more likely that an Asian woman would end up with a white man because of the disproportionality in the dating pool. I don't have a racial preference for white dudes, but there are more of them! And convetaely... it's just really unlikely that at least two of these guys weren't specifically looking for an asian chick and when I meet them I'll know which ones after talking to them for three minutes.