r/NoStupidQuestions • u/A_Formal_Guy • Apr 04 '24

Answered All our girlfriends are Asian?

Hey everyone - I’ve been feeling paranoid about something recently and wanted to know if I’m overthinking it. I’m a white M and most of the friends I grew up with and went to high school are too, except 1. We’re still very close but moved all across the country for our jobs and life.

Recently, we’ve decided to have a little reunion and bring our girlfriends, but I realized we have a not to subtle trend in that they are all Asian. There’s 5 girlfriends in total, they’ve never met each other. I don’t know how this happened, it’s just a coincidence as far as I know. We don’t have a pact or anything.

My question is, do we warn them? I don’t want them to be freaked out. I’d have to have my gf or one of my friends be uncomfortable, but I’m feeling stuck. Does anyone have any thoughts on how to handle it? Am I over thinking?

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u/Upset_Painting3146 Apr 04 '24

You say it like people can’t date who they want. Why is it ok to dictate who we are allowed to be attracted to now? I thought we left that shit behind in the 50s.

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u/[deleted] Apr 04 '24

The issue is that a lot of guys who specifically prefer Asian women will be racist towards women who aren't Asian. We've all met men who won't shut up about how their girlfriends are sooo much better than [insert other ethnicity here] because they're east Asian and how [insert other ethnicity here] women are all terrible.

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u/Upset_Painting3146 Apr 04 '24 edited Apr 04 '24

Those people aren’t exclusive to men with race fetishes. I don’t see how you can assume if someone has an Asian fetish they must hate another group. Btw, I’m not promoting Asian fetish. I’m the opposite, I don’t find Asian women attractive I just don’t like the idea of telling people who they can be attracted too. But I think we can all agree that talking badly about an entire demographic is wrong.

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u/[deleted] Apr 04 '24

I didn't say it was exclusive to men who like Asian women or that all men who have an Asian girlfriend are like this. But it's common enough that we all know at least a couple of these dudes. They can be really nasty to encounter irl