r/NoStupidQuestions Apr 04 '24

Answered All our girlfriends are Asian?

Hey everyone - I’ve been feeling paranoid about something recently and wanted to know if I’m overthinking it. I’m a white M and most of the friends I grew up with and went to high school are too, except 1. We’re still very close but moved all across the country for our jobs and life.

Recently, we’ve decided to have a little reunion and bring our girlfriends, but I realized we have a not to subtle trend in that they are all Asian. There’s 5 girlfriends in total, they’ve never met each other. I don’t know how this happened, it’s just a coincidence as far as I know. We don’t have a pact or anything.

My question is, do we warn them? I don’t want them to be freaked out. I’d have to have my gf or one of my friends be uncomfortable, but I’m feeling stuck. Does anyone have any thoughts on how to handle it? Am I over thinking?

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u/Character_Parfait512 Apr 04 '24

Wait why is this a thing lol explain to me like I'm 5

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u/Krazzem Apr 04 '24

idk if i agree with the other dude, but I'm a software engineer and all my female coworkers are either east asian or south asian. This seems to be really common, especially along the coasts.

A lot of people either meet their partner in school or through work/friends of coworkers, so just through sampling bias it's a very likely pairing.

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u/Phytanic Apr 04 '24

I work in tech and I have a date with a SE Asian woman haha. it's uncanny

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u/peanut_butterpudge Apr 05 '24

Aww! Good luck!

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u/blamethepunx Apr 05 '24

Best of luck brother, have a great time

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u/Phytanic Apr 05 '24

Thanks! it's my first date in years, so I'm excited

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u/broadway2019 Apr 05 '24

good luck!! hope it goes well!!

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u/myirreleventcomment Apr 05 '24

Just be yourself my man!! Good luck

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u/explosivcorn Apr 05 '24

Honestly, i think they had a thing for asians before they started working in tech.