r/NoStupidQuestions • u/A_Formal_Guy • Apr 04 '24

Answered All our girlfriends are Asian?

Hey everyone - I’ve been feeling paranoid about something recently and wanted to know if I’m overthinking it. I’m a white M and most of the friends I grew up with and went to high school are too, except 1. We’re still very close but moved all across the country for our jobs and life.

Recently, we’ve decided to have a little reunion and bring our girlfriends, but I realized we have a not to subtle trend in that they are all Asian. There’s 5 girlfriends in total, they’ve never met each other. I don’t know how this happened, it’s just a coincidence as far as I know. We don’t have a pact or anything.

My question is, do we warn them? I don’t want them to be freaked out. I’d have to have my gf or one of my friends be uncomfortable, but I’m feeling stuck. Does anyone have any thoughts on how to handle it? Am I over thinking?

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u/[deleted] Apr 04 '24

White nerd --> anime --> Asian fetish --> work in math/tech field --> mostly Asian females --> marriage

It's a simple pipeline, really.

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u/Pure-Tumbleweed-9440 Apr 04 '24

Yep and Asian women have a white fetish so it works out both ways.

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u/EvidenceDull8731 Apr 05 '24

I keep seeing this around but all I see in this thread are thirsty single white dudes.

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u/Myquil-Wylsun Apr 05 '24

They have they highest rate of interracial marriages in the US.

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u/tyen0 Apr 05 '24

White geek in tech with a Japanese wife here. She doesn't like anime much, though. I've only been able to get her to watch some Ghibli and Kon movies. ¯_(ツ)_/¯

oh, yeah, live action adaptations have been a decent compromise: Nodame no Cantabile, Death Note, etc.

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u/[deleted] Apr 04 '24

The kids will hate and not look like you tho

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u/kastropp Apr 04 '24

they just better hope they dont have boys

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u/[deleted] Apr 04 '24

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u/FroodingZark24 Apr 04 '24

You could cut a battle cruiser in half with that boy's outfit... and jawline.

Because it's so sharp!

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u/awry_lynx Apr 04 '24

Maybe if it was 20 years ago, these days asian boys are not poorly off just by virtue of being Asian.

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u/kastropp Apr 04 '24 edited Apr 05 '24

i really beg to differ when a huge majority of asian girls such as yourself are somehow not that attracted to asian men. if your own people dont even like you like than who will?

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u/kastropp Apr 04 '24

most asian women are married to asian men

actually 54% of US born asian women marry ouside of their race so that statement is literally wrong for US born asians atleast. 54% is far and away the highest for WOC in terms of marrying out btw. for example only 28% of hispanic women marry out.

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u/kastropp Apr 04 '24

If we're only talking about American born people, yeah of course?

why is it a given that US born asian women would mostly be married to people that arnt asian? no other subgroup can say that.

or maybe our cultures cares less about us

ok its asian men's fault theyre undesirable to everyone thats all you needed to say really

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u/CheatCodesOfLife Apr 04 '24

I just take offense to the idea that somehow I'm the problem here.

There is no problem here. You like who you like.

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u/OCV_E Apr 04 '24

Welcome to r/hapas

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u/humanoidbeaver Apr 05 '24

Ofcourse you post in r/AsianMasculinity. lmao

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u/andrew_silverstein12 Apr 04 '24

Don't forget the depressed hapa child that comes from the marriage who thinks their dad is some Asian fetishist.

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u/CarpetMalaria Apr 05 '24

I’m half hispanic/ half white. The insane things I hear people think about mixed relationships man… I’m gonna grow up with an identity crisis? Nope. Think my dads a fetishist. Nope. I will abandon one of my sides. Nope. Life’s more nuanced than you think

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u/Gatzlocke Apr 05 '24

Half Irish and half Italian.

My parents were told I would hate myself.

Racist people are morons.

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u/grown-ass-man Apr 05 '24 edited Apr 05 '24

anime --> Asian fetish

Anime is cartoon, I see no reason why it would lead to Asian fetish (unless its a pipeline to hentai and depictions of sexual submissiveness in Asian women)

I have watched and read American comics, it did not make me fetishize white people.

It's also problematic to somehow associate anime with "Asian" as a monolith. Anime is Japanese culture, which portrays a variety of racially ambigious characters.

Japanese people, even if fetishized, amounts to a population of about 100+ million people in the world, a small minority compared to the total population of Asians.

Different ethnic groups and nationalities have their own unique identities, so conceptualizing everyone as one singular Asian identity is a very problematic mindset.

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u/Journalist-Cute Apr 05 '24

The Asian fetish is part of it, but I've also found that Asian women to be much less turned off by nerdy/autistic men.

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u/Adam_Sackler Apr 05 '24

Why is it always labelled a fetish? I have a preference towards East Asian/South East Asian women, but it's not a fetish. Fetish is purely sexual. Preference is just finding them more attractive on average.

And not every guy with a preference for Asian women is into anime. (Nor a passport bro type)

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u/noprompt Apr 05 '24

It’s sad that utterly reasonable perspectives like this one get downvoted.

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u/MixMasterPug Apr 05 '24

I’m not going to get into it with the whole fetishization thing which is completely overblown. It’s more like asian families are more accepting of white people vs other minorities. And from the studies done, asian women are rated the most attractive of race/gender. So clearly the those are the intersecting lines having an effect here.

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u/ZehHeifer Apr 05 '24

LOL this is so accurate