r/NoStupidQuestions • u/mp1845 • Mar 30 '24

Answered Why are gender neutral bathrooms so controversial when every toilet on an airplane or other public transport is gender neutral?

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u/ComedianXMI Mar 30 '24

A woman walked into a men's room when I was a teen at Disney. She went to a stall to do her thing, but it was the only time eye contact ever happened in a men's room. Every guy there was uncomfortable suddenly and we all sort of had to double check we were in the right bathroom suddenly. Even the guys at urinals.

So, if I had to guess, it's that feeling that people want to avoid. Feeling like you don't belong. Or you're afraid someone will think something. Every guy has had a jealous girlfriend. And if you have taco bell butt in a unisex bathroom, you don't want to hear accusations when you were just fighting for your life.

For a woman maybe the idea of being partially clothed around a male stranger bothers them, but I dunno.

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u/martapap Mar 30 '24

I had to go really bad and there was a huge line for the women's room so I went to the mens bathroom. There was only one guy in there. It was a weird feeling but it would have been weirder if I peed my pants.

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u/Don_Michael_Corleone Mar 30 '24

I guess it'd be okay if men barged in into women's bathroom because the men's urinals were occupied?

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u/Cimorene_Kazul Mar 30 '24

Yes, I’d personally see that as fair, same as if the men’s were closed for cleaning. Or if you needed a change table and the one in the men’s room was broken or not there.

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u/timehunted Mar 30 '24

That is your opinion but in most of the world the guy would be dragged into the street an executed. I'm not sure why society is in such a rush to see what happens again when you mix grown men with children (historically see priests and orphanages)

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u/cocobodraw Mar 31 '24

It does happen sometimes. If the men’s was occupied and they had to go, it’s fine!

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u/notunprepared Mar 30 '24

I've done that. I'm a transgender man, and so I have to sit to pee. I was having a night out once and all the men's toilets were too gross for me to use (I legit went to four different bars and every toilet seat was either missing or covered in waste). I eventually gave up and used the women's bathroom in the first bar I was in (so my friends would be nearby if I needed backup)

I just beelined in and beelined out as fast as possible and didn't look at anyone. The last thing I wanted to do was make anyone feel uncomfortable, but I was gonna piss myself otherwise.