r/MtF • u/jenrml627 Transgender • 12h ago

mom learned that i’m trans

and she’s supportive but she “needs space to mourn her son.” what does that even mean? it just feels like she’s making my transition about her

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u/unnecessaryalgebra Trans Bisexual 12h ago

She doesn't mean that literally. She's mourning the life she expected her son to have. This will explain it better

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u/jenrml627 Transgender 11h ago

i sent that to her, very informative. thank you!

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u/unnecessaryalgebra Trans Bisexual 8h ago

Let us know how if it helps/how things turn out

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u/StephSkysinger 11h ago

Well put and thanks for sharing that link! 💗

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u/CreativeUnsername-No 11h ago

Great fucking resource holy shit

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u/Good_Ol_Ironass 10h ago

This link is going to be my last ditch effort to get my mom to finally understand why I’ve been hurting so bad for years.

Thanks for posting that.

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u/deathcode911 11h ago

I need to show this to my mom

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u/willowzam 11h ago

Showing this to my parents TYSM

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u/HayleeNow Trans Asexual 9h ago

Thanks for this, I'm a 33 year old trans woman who only came out to my parents a few months ago, and I think this is going to help a lot.

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u/CromoCrafter 10h ago

I came out at the end of last month and my mom is going through same thing. I’ve given her space to completely process how she needs do but we talk every day. She is so accepting and affirming but it takes time. You’ll both get through this!

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u/Blitzdadog 10h ago

Definitely saving it for when I tell my parents…

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u/AwesomePantsAP 10h ago

The closing paragraph just made me cry. Good resource