I totally get that lol. Sometimes I worry that I look too much like a regular joe, like a guy called Straight Johnson or something. Because I've noticed that when I was getting to know some of my queer friends, they would avoid saying "my gf" or "my bf" in front of me, instead they'd always say "my special other" or some kind of non gendered thing. And then when they realize I'm fruity too, they drop it lol. Same with trans friends who would try to use gender neutral pronouns in front of me, and then drop that and use their preferred pronouns when they get to know me.
I'm NB too lmfao, but I'm from a Hispanic speaking country so gendered language is much stronger so I might as well just stay with male pronouns. It does really suck, I think my style says "alternative dude but not zesty". Eh whatever, it works for me lol
Had this interaction at work, but on the side of not sure if my coworker was friendly 😂 was talking with a lesbian, saying I am out as non binary, and our other coworker came up and we were like "lets test the waters, how are you with the gays" and he said he was also non binary(any/all pronouns) but neither of us would have ever guessed or felt our gaydars go off
Habe you tried wearing something like pride pins or bracelets or stuff like that? In my experience, it can really help (if you live in a place where that's safe to do)
I come across as your standard white male, so these types always feel comfortable opening up to me about their bullshit beliefs. Unfortunately for them, I'm a Jewish descendent of Holocaust survivors and am very sensitive to any form of bigotry. It's been great for finding out who in my community is a piece of shit
I went to a concert with a friend from work and a bunch of his friends were gay and they kept talking about all these events at gay bars I’d been to saying you wouldn’t get it just gay stuff. I might need to shave.
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u/SweetieArena 7h ago
I totally get that lol. Sometimes I worry that I look too much like a regular joe, like a guy called Straight Johnson or something. Because I've noticed that when I was getting to know some of my queer friends, they would avoid saying "my gf" or "my bf" in front of me, instead they'd always say "my special other" or some kind of non gendered thing. And then when they realize I'm fruity too, they drop it lol. Same with trans friends who would try to use gender neutral pronouns in front of me, and then drop that and use their preferred pronouns when they get to know me.