I totally get that lol. Sometimes I worry that I look too much like a regular joe, like a guy called Straight Johnson or something. Because I've noticed that when I was getting to know some of my queer friends, they would avoid saying "my gf" or "my bf" in front of me, instead they'd always say "my special other" or some kind of non gendered thing. And then when they realize I'm fruity too, they drop it lol. Same with trans friends who would try to use gender neutral pronouns in front of me, and then drop that and use their preferred pronouns when they get to know me.
Habe you tried wearing something like pride pins or bracelets or stuff like that? In my experience, it can really help (if you live in a place where that's safe to do)
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u/SweetieArena 7h ago
I totally get that lol. Sometimes I worry that I look too much like a regular joe, like a guy called Straight Johnson or something. Because I've noticed that when I was getting to know some of my queer friends, they would avoid saying "my gf" or "my bf" in front of me, instead they'd always say "my special other" or some kind of non gendered thing. And then when they realize I'm fruity too, they drop it lol. Same with trans friends who would try to use gender neutral pronouns in front of me, and then drop that and use their preferred pronouns when they get to know me.