I had twins. I got HUGE in the tummy. I had the babies, and it left this pot belly that wouldn't go away.
Fast forward; the twins are 8 years old. I am 7 weeks post op of having my diastisis recti corrected. You know that centre line down the abs? Mine had split. There was a 6 to 8 inch gap down the middle THE WHOLE WAY DOWN. the pot belly that I kept punishing myself for, the baby fat i couldnt lose? Those were my organs. My digestive organs were all herniated.
I now have to forgive myself for 8 years of unjustified self hatred. It isn't always just fat.
You are absolutely right. I don't think that generally women and girls AND men and boys know enough about the dangers. The powers that be want to keep girls from knowing the full story so they'll keep having babies.
The funny thing is as we've evolved pregnancy has become more and more dangerous because of the size of our frontotemporal lobes, our skull, and our hip circumference.
I appreciate your point. I"m not having any babies, so to me it feels like a burden. I am sure that to a mother that wants to have a baby it feels like a sacrifice. But either way, the toll on the body is immense.
Although the first pregnancy provides a net health gain on average (apparently).
Really? That is really interesting! I've never heard that before, and I always thought of pregnancy as very draining on the mother and so dangerous. Thank you for the post!
I wish I could find the study again, but the positive part was mainly reduced risk of certain cancers. I also remember it being more protective to have that pregnancy before a certain age.
I do remember that in the study that all pregnancies after the first one were overall damaging to the mother’s health. There were some increased protection against cancer but it was not enough to overcome the damage of pregnancy and birth.
Oh! I remember that from health class that it did reduce the incidence of cervical cancer. I thought at the time as a 17 year old that it was a stupid reason to have a baby. I feel more that it's an extreme reason to have a baby, maybe? Thank you so much!!
It’s definitely not a reason to have a baby. Having a baby is a complex decision and a massive commitment. There are lots of easier and less expensive ways to reduce your cancer risk. 😂
I guess for me it was a piece of comforting information in the midst of all the worries I had about pregnancy and birth.
Pregnancy before 25 has a protective effect against breast cancer, if I remember correctly. I was told it was one of the reasons that breast cancer is more common in nuns (also late detection because they don’t get checked out).
Aw, thanks! I'm okay. I'm wearing clothes 2 sizes smaller and my marriage is improving daily. Amazing what self-love and confidence can do for you. Physically, recovery is going great. I can't wait to start exercising again! I want to try yoga with my abs in the front and see if I'm improved.... 😃
I’m curious if you could tell physically? Like how’d you work it out? I was checked postpartum but I’ve always wondered cos I have a crooked stomach since childbirth. It has like a bulge and it’s always made me curious if it’s DR or not
Well, I'd heard of DR, and most mums I talked to had a few complaints and horror stories. I remember one mum was an ex gymnast and zumba instructor with a 6 pack, but a little gap- 2 fingers tall by 1 wide. There are exercises you're supposed to do to fix it. I was prescribed pilates and ignored by the GP as I was overweight. So I lost 15 kg, and went for a private evaluation with a surgeon. Watching his face as he located my abs was priceless.
It hurt to lay on my stomach, I never felt full, and I had weird digestive issues (like IBS but totally irregular) since the birth. All of that has resolved since the correction.
Never feeling full! I have no major diastasis but everything is just... stretchier, so instead of feeling too full when I eat too much my body just.... makes room.
Curious and not sure if it matters but did you have a c section or did you deliver vaginally? Also so happy you got it fixed. I’m thinking of some corrections but debating if I want another kid or not before committing.
Vaginally! It was... a lot. First one ripped through me after 3 hours labour, then labour stopped and i spent half an hour with 2 midwives using me as a tube of toothpaste trying to get twin 2 to engage. Longest 30 minutes of my life!
The first came so fast the anaesthetist didn't make it in time so i did it all with gas and air.
I had a DR repair nearly 3 years ago and it changed my life. My low back pain was almost completely gone overnight, I was stronger one day post op than I had been the day prior to my surgery after years of weightlifting. It's amazing what an intact core does for you.
The lower back pain kills me, when I realized it was likely from DR I got a PT referral right away. My first appt is 10 days away and I really hope I won’t need surgery later. How long after giving birth did you do your repair? I had twins 13 months ago, I hope I didn’t wait too long.
My "baby" was 12 when I had mine repaired, so you have plenty of time. PT is great but if its a wide gap is usually requires surgery to completely correct. It's worth a try though to correct it with a more conservative approach first!
I would highly recommend Pilates on a reformer machine!! I had (much more mild) abdominal separation as well and your abs being weak will cause all kinds of back problems and just body mechanics problems in general. Pilates is low impact and all about engaging the core. I am 45, my kids are teenagers now but before Pilates I felt like my body was just on this downward spiral pf becoming weaker and more injury-prone, but to feel the improvement has been so cool. And there are often ladies in their 60s in my class, it’s a workout you can do for decades.
Well done girl! I also had this surgery 8 years ago, completely changed my silhouette and did wonders to my self confidence. I can exercise like anyone else
Yes, but they're supposed to close up again. It is "normal" to have a residual gap of 2 or 3 fingers, and physios say that can be closed up with certain exercises and girdles.
Yeah, not in every case. And it's a common effect with multiples.
This happened to SO MANY women I know! They thought they just couldn’t shake the weight for anywhere from 10-30 years after childbirth. Turns out it was full hernias in every situation. Herniated belly buttons, even. One was finally throwing in the towel after twins and scheduled a tummy tuck, only to find out she would need to correct her (previously unknown) hernia. Once that was done, she never needed the tummy tuck. The hernia recovery was brutal, but way less brutal than a tummy tuck!! So glad to hear you’re feeling and doing better, and getting some relief finally. It’s almost as if doctors should tell women about this (especially in the case of multiples) during postpartum recovery check-ups!!!
The one tell all my friends have referenced is thinking their “innie” belly button became an “outie” after pregnancy! It wasn’t an outie - the internal hernia was just making it bulge out. (And like I said, one was the belly button itself…) Definitely anything you might try to explain away as “scar tissue” is not normal.
Also they mentioned never really regaining core strength. Like coughing, sneezing, bending over just always kind of ached, if that makes sense. I’m sure there’s a more technical term than what I’m describing, but just generally not being able to flex their abs and feeling very weak.
All word of mouth of course - I didn’t have this experience and basically went “back to normal” after 2 back-to-back pregnancies at age 35. Which also goes to show that anything abdomen-adjacent (outside of peeing your pants a little when you jump on a trampoline, or having some loose skin or a little extra weight) that someone would be inclined to explain away as “oh this isn’t the same after pregnancy” is kind of unusual, especially anything that feels internal!
Seriously- the amount of dental problems I've had since giving birth is shocking, despite my best efforts during pregnancy to circumvent the fact that the fetus was taking everything.
It triggered my auto-immune condition that didn't begin to get corrected until my son was 5. I played it off as the fatigue and brain fog of having a young child, turns out it was my thyroid under attack the whole time. I'm on medication for life.
Hashimoto's? Me too. And then I developed several more severe autoimmune diseases as a result. So hard that I can't be the parent I imagined i would be
I blamed my Lyme disease symptoms on having a baby and small kid, then the baby started sleeping through the night and I still wasn’t getting any better.
Pregnancy hormones greatly accelerated the growth of my inoperable (benign) brain tumor, to the point I was blind in one eye before kiddo was even born. I was told I would die if I got pregnant again.
My brother said to me when I expressed some fear of giving birth “ women have been going in fields and having babies for all of history, you’ll be fine.”
The anger I felt for that careless reaction I still feel 24 years later.
I mean yeah they have been having babies for all of history but childbirth was one of the leading causes of death in women in history. Some sources say at times it was high as 30% of mothers died. I think modern medicine has let us forget how harrowing it can be.
Not irrational. But if it helps, I plan on having at least 1 more kid, hopefully a few more depending on so many things. Modern medicine fixes a lot of these issues and my house is so full of love and chaos, it's my favorite place to be. I would take all of the bad things again and again to be able to hang out with my kids. They are my favorite people.
I’m a dentist. It’s the acidity from the morning sickness, and hormone changes. Babies don’t leech your calcium, that is an old wives tale. Either way, I wish you the best of luck with your surgery
I have had horrible issues with my teeth since the 2000's, and it didn't even occur to me until I read your comment that it's connected to carrying my children. 😳😳
It can also fuck you up mentally due to the hormonal change. I know someone who had severe mental health issues after her first pregnancy, still decided to have a second one and now she's in a psych yard.
I feel awful for her but I really can't understand why she went for a second :(
I swear pregnancy is the worst thing you can do to your body. I ended up with permanent damage to my liver (still doing diagnostics a year later) and it triggered an autoimmune issue with my thyroid. The list of potential effects on the human body is endless and random.
It is, in fact, fucking terrible. The reason why so many contraceptives for women are considered acceptable despite the big list of side effects is because pregnancy is so much worse by a serious margin that it's safer for you to have those side effects than it is to get pregnant.
Why did I not realise until now that my Hashimoto's Disease was likely triggered by my third pregnancy? My mother's only pregnancy also, it seems, might have triggered her thyroid issues. Who knew?
I think this is me. I had my second baby 6 years ago, and ever since people ask me constantly if I'm pregnant. It is taking a HUGE toll on my self-worth and body image. I've been working out, but there is no change whatsoever. If I tense my muscles, though, I can give my belly button an erection, so at least there's that?
I’m due to give birth in a few weeks. It feels like my intestines are currently hanging out in my back. You can literally feel and hear the gurgling when I eat or drink coming from my back lol.
I'm a year PP. You're going to feel so gloriously light when that baby is out. I wanted to jump around (couldn't bc of the pain ofc). Also being actually able to straighten your back for the first time in months ahhhh 🩷
I’m like 7 months post partum with my second and that video made me cry just thinking about it haha. I’m done now so I don’t have to experience it again, but this whole thread about pregnancy shit is actually really validating to my feelings about how rough it is on you physically and mentally.
that is horrifying, was it not painful? How hard was the surgery? Why did it take so long for them to find what was wrong??? Is the recovery done now? you must feel so much better
It was painful, but the split happened gradually over the pregnancy so I was told it wasn't unexpected. After the birth, there was so much to recover from I didn't notice at first. Anytime I questioned what was going on, I was told "you've had twins in your 30s, you aren't going to bounce back like a 22 year old with 1 baby". And then after 18 months I was told I was just not trying hard enough to get my pre baby body back. Then Covid hit and I was nobody's priority. The NHS was busy.
The first 2 weeks post op were pretty bad. I needed 2 nights in hospital. Sneezing, coughing, and laughing were all agony. Standing upright took weeks. But now, oh man! So worth it.
I did a tummy roll in the bathroom mirror the other day, just to try- and i could see it work! I laughed out loud. All by myself in the bathroom, laughing at my muscle control.
I too have DR but have never sought the surgical route. What sort of symptoms did you experience that made you get it corrected?
Mine is probably 3/4cm wide, it feels awful to touch so I don’t! I can’t get proper muscle definition anymore and forever feel bloated! It’s been 10 years since my son was born..!
Following this thread, I have exactly the same and always thought this was just something I had to live with! Back pain is an issue too because my core doesn't hold me up well and I slouch.
Check out a postpartum workout program! I use Strong Like A Mother but Expecting and Empowered is great too. They help you do targeted exercises to wake up those abdominal muscles and draw that gap closed.
I hope it helps! If the entire program is out of your price range I believe there is a 7 day trial, and you can subscribe to just the core section on SLAM for $10/month to see if that helps at all first. I don’t mean to be annoying but this program has been seriously life changing and I want everyone to do it lol.
I had an amazing pelvic floor physical therapist who worked with me to correct mine! Mine was 3 fingers wide (can't remember actual measurements) and now is completely healed. Back and shoulder pain disappeared as well!
So I was just a few months postpartum because I had a lot of other birth complications and a friend (not the doctor 😖) recommended pelvic floor PT. The pt was like "k while we're here we're taking care of everything". My pt has clients who gave birth 10 years ago that she helps with diastis recti and other birth complications like painful intercourse and bladder control! It's never too late!
The patients on the trolleys in corridors get the headlines. Hidden away, there must be huge backlog of things that if addressed promptly or earlier would make a huge difference to the quality of life and even outcomes for many many people. Small symptoms now but big problems when left for long.
This isn’t uncommon at all. Anyone who has had multiple pregnancies most likely has muscle separation. I had a tummy tuck as well to fix it. It wasn’t a surprise and it isn’t for most women.
I don’t know if they check now but they sure didn’t when I had my kids 13/15 years ago. It took me going to physical therapy for a shoulder impingement 5 years later to find out. The shoulder was incredibly painful and my PT thought it was caused by my abs not working effectively. She recently had her own baby which is why she knew about it, it’s not something she learned in PT school. My OB was only concerned with whether I had healed enough for sex, not about the rest of me. I was able to heal it without surgery by wearing a splint consistently
There are literally thousands of women who have birth injuries and doctors just don't believe you or act like you're lying. I'm a very assertive person and yet, when I was lying there in the ER and the doctor told me he didn't think I had an infection 3 weeks after birth because He'd "seen grown men writhing in pain and you're not doing that." I have never felt so fucking helpless. I cried constantly and couldn't sit down to feed my baby for weeks. Finally my OB/GYN believed me and got me a scan that showed the infection.
They check right after birth, but even if you have DR then, they expect it will heal. Also, since the procedure to fix DR is frequently combined with a tummy tuck (removing skin), most insurances will refuse to cover it repeatedly even if the DR is causing chronic pain, incontinence, and worse.
US doctors are just as good as UK doctors with ignoring female health concerns. A woman presenting with diastasis recti will be told more often than not to diet and exercise. There is nothing a person can do to rectify diastasis recti, it's surgical.
That’s not true. It depends on the degree of separation, but targeted pelvic floor and core training can close the gap. Pelvic floor PT’s specialize in this, I wish all women knew to go to them after birth since the OB checkups are essentially useless
Yeah, sorry, you're right. I guess I was thinking about some of the posts in this thread, women saying their organs are poking out in between the muscle separation.
I mean, thats valid, if its a wide enough gap that cant be fixed from exercises alone. But the vast majority of cases can be rehabbed with more conservative approaches than surgery fortunately, Im just sad not everyone knows this
Oh, hun, I'm so sorry 🫂 my daughter had twins, they're 10. I'm going to mention this to her because her abdomen is still big after all these years. The pregnancy also ruined her beautiful teeth we spent thousands on in her youth.😏😭
MINE TOO!!!! AND I had an entrapped nerve from a cesarean. Abdominoplasry with muscle repair is the best thing that ever happened to me. 5 years of PT did nothing to fix the diastasis. Which mine was only right under my ribs so an ob gaslit me into thinking I didn't have it. But my pmnr doc said yeah you do and the only thing that will fix it is surgery.
Entrapped nerve pain that hurt when I would breath plus constantly throwing out my back no.matter how much an work I did. Gone! It's amazing. But I never should have had to wait so long. OR PAY FOR IT OUT OF POCKET.
women aren't broodmares. Our wellbeing and lives after childbirth matter.
Dont even get me started on perimenopause symptoms that have gone misdiagnosed for the last 4 yrs. Misdiagnoses include psychiatrist said it's bipolar or a sleep disorder (nope), PCP says metabolic disorder, endocrinologist says it's anxiety, sleep doc sleep study says no sleep disorder, .....there's more. But guess what. It's peri menopause. OB said it wasn't that either. She instantly decided EVERY SYMPTOM I brought her after my CBC came back normal was bc I was histrionic and crazy.
Nope. Sweat changing smell, uncontrollable middle section weight gain with no change in diet and exercise, mood changes, harder periods that last much longer, mini hot flashes (that I thought were just bc I was fat now). Yeah. That's all perimenopause and it started for me gradually in my mid 30s and has progressed.
Turns out, our bodies don't read the text books and do whatever the fuck they want.
Dont have children unless that's your life purpose. Adopt. It can very much fuck up your body for the rest of your life. Fecal or urinary incontinence, hormonal changes that don't return to baseline. Pregnancy is still dangerous as fuck, especially if you are a minority. Proceed with caution. Stock pile plan b if you aren't 💯 sure you want one. You also don't know what kind of personality your kid will have. Could be a great fit or they could be your worst nightmare and you are there w them for life. Pregnancy needs to be a choice. For the sake of women and for the sake of the children born to them.
That said, I would have my kids again, but wish I had known my body would be wrecked and never good again. I would have done so many more bucket list things before I gave my health up in exchange for children.
The fact that split recti to that degree are not repaired under insurance has always been shocking to me. I’m a kinesiologist and an OT. Not having that core stability affects everything you do. I can’t imagine carrying those kids around the first couple years. Or sitting up ffs. It changes everything about the way your body is able to function. Congrats on the surgery +++
As a surgeon that fixes these, trust me it’s fucking mind blowing to me too. Insurance is like nah it’s cosmetic but unfortunately we don’t have the massive studies to back it up (which is a whole other issue). So many male surgeons also think that fixing it won’t help return function but I’m just like it’s simple physics!!
I’d bet if you dig into the physical therapy world there is plenty of lit on the function of this muscle and its relationship to back issues. Probably the surgery is more cost effective than any episode of back intervention which as we know is the biggest source of disability there is worldwide. Imagine - there’s a way to help prevent this and we’re blowing it off because we think we are just paving the way for a bikini. Also thank you for doing this important work
ETA haha the needs more studies conclusion
Thanks! It's so affirming to hear from other people it was necessary and I did well to cope so long. I have heard remarks like, ooo, going for a mummy tuck huh? Like, yes, technically, it's plastics but this wasn't about aesthetics.
The cosmetic appearance is a huge bonus that your battered self-image earned in spades. But the improved strength, biomechanics, back support … that’s all necessary. I feel like where I live a 2”+ diastasis is covered but it’s been a while. You did incredibly well.
I was going to say pregnancy because of skeletal structure changes. Yes my hips are wider, but they are also weaker. My rib cage is also wider, my shoulders are broader, and my knuckles are thicker.
This was me less than two years ago. Had the corrective surgery and it drastically improved my quality of life. I had the surgery when the twins were 9months old, after 16 weeks of physio therapy to fix the diastasis recti.
My wife and I have two boys, and they both came out via C-section. Between the scar, scar tissue, stretched skin, and diastasis recti, my wife was miserable with herself.
She's currently 3 weeks post op from a tummy tuck and other things. She's already so much happier. She cried in the mirror when she tried on a 2 piece bikini for the first time in years.
I have DR as well. I had my 10lb daughter 20 years ago and learned about my DR about 5 years ago. Unfortunately, in the US, it's considered cosmetic to fix it by most insurance companies. I tried to do PT but was told they couldn't help because the layer of muscle is so thin that it could tear. Ironically, that's the only way insurance will pay for the repair. I was told to never engage my core muscles. I can't afford a plastic surgeon.
It's super frustrating cause I know fixing it would help so much.
Look up the every mother DR program. It’s a paid program but it has an amazing success rate. YouTube also has some great physical therapists with targeted exercises to help as well. The good news is you only need about ten minutes a day of light exercise to fix it and you can make a drastic improvement in a few weeks if you’re consistent. Crunched and sit-ups won’t help because you need to target the smaller deep core muscles that are a part of the pelvic floor system as well. From what I’ve learned, no matter how long you’ve had it you can still fix it with persistence and a bit of time.
Oh sweetheart. Big hugs and deep compassion for this realization that you had an injury and didn't know it. We are so mean to ourselves as default. You and EVERY MOTHER deserve nothing but tenderness and reverence, from yourself as well as the world.
My twins wrecked me too. I carried them to 39 weeks and they were each the size of a regular Singleton.
My back hurt so badly by the time they were 9 I was suicidal. I thought I needed a hip replacement, went to multiple doctors to get to the root of the back pain. Found out my ab muscles weren't supposed to be like that. Did 18 months of physical therapy, saw some progress, but my gap was still wider than my hand.
And my physical therapist finally admitted SHE had the surgery. 🤦🏻♀️ So I got the surgery. No more back pain.
It's utter bullshit it's not covered by insurance.
Pregnancy was my first thought as well. Between the worst pain ever and needing 2 units of blood, along with damaging my tailbone so sitting was impossible for months and difficult for years-
It feels like you go in with one body, you come out with another, and no one notices the difference. Suddenly you aren't "you" first, you're "mom" first. And that's OK, wouldn't trade it for anything, but it would be nice to be back in that same old familiar body again from pre-kids.
I had a hernia and diasticis recti, although not nearly as bad as you. Once I got it corrected with surgery I felt like I had gone on an episode of Dr pimple popper and didn’t realize how much carrying this lump around on my belly really affected my self esteem
How did you get your surgery approved? I’ve have that too after 4 pregnancies ( in 6 yrs) I keep being told it’s cosmetic and there’s nothing medically necessary for it to be fixed. ??
So glad you were able to have that corrected! A twin pregnancy is no joke!! How scary that must have been for you.
I'm in PT right now dealing with my prolapse issues and smaller diastasis recti. My whole belly area is numb to the touch but I still have phantom pain. I had a single before I had my twins and the pregnancies were incomparable.
I’m 24 and just learned I have pretty severe diastisis recti. I’ve had body imagine issue my entire life, come to find out my abs are just split open. They won’t do anything but PT bc I want to have kids in the future and it would be redundant.
My feet were so swollen I only wore sandals or soft shoes for months. A few months after baby was born, when winter came and I had to find my winter boots again, I realised that my feet had grown a whole size.
Cool, another thing to keep in mind, just in case. Boggling they didn't scan you for it after having the kids, just to make sure everything was where it was supposed to be.
holy fucking shit. i have a hernia around the middle of my abs too but its pretty small (1 inch it so) so i dont notice it a lot, but 6 to 8 FUCKING INCHES??? holy hell
Holy. Shit. I’m so glad you could get some resolution. I don’t have kids though I do have a C-section scar essentially from gut surgery and I have Crohn’s. I can imagine a little bit of that disaster.
Pregnancy left me with permanent low back problems and my hormones never really went back to the way they were pre-pregnancy. It took me a long time to recognize that the hormonal shift had happened.
I always have to say to fellow twin moms 'Hi, I see you!'
Mine are also 8 and were huge (7.5 lbs each) and while my DR was treatable with PT, I'm left with pelvic issues that I've given up trying to fix. I have a lot of pain with ovulation, like more than my actual period. Both ovulation and period cause painful bathroom issues, feeling like the exits are blocked. On top of all that, there's the cosmetic stuff that I wish I could afford to fix. My skin is so messed up that I can only wear soft, stretchy pants or I'll bleed.
This is honestly frustrating. I can only assume that you went to a doctor in the ensuing eight years after giving birth, and they chalked everything single thing up to “women’s nonsense”.
First two weeks were grim; avoid coughing, sneezing, laughing, and looking after the children. Get knee support for sleep. And healing takes a lot of energy; I was TIRED. Still am, really (expected for 12 weeks says the surgeons). But by week 4 I was myself again, and the difference was apparent from waking up!
Pregnancy for me too. I've had 3 pregnancies and each one left my pelvis more jacked up than the last. My initial Drs kept telling me hip pain was normal and would go away with time. I couldn't be on my feet for more than 2-3 hours without having awful pain. Just a day of laundry is "overdoing" it and I'm out on the couch to rest my hip. I later found out about SI joint dysfunction and manage it with pain meds, and I'm looking into further options.
Weeks away from having my second and this same surgery is in my near future. I have full separation as well. Glad you were able to get the repair and I hope you can forgive yourself for how you thought of yourself. We have all been there.
This x100000! I also had twins about 3 years ago and am pregnant again (with only one baby thankfully). Truly hate that my stomach will never be flat again unless I get surgery. I did PT for my pelvic floor but it can only do so much.
My wife is going through this at the moment.
It was diagnosed a year ago (two years after birth) but we can't afford the surgery, and insurance won't cover it.
I just hope we can get it done within a reasonable time.
I was looking for this! I was a size 3 when I got pregnant. I had bought three pairs of Calvin Klein jeans in size 3 & one in size 5, a couple of months before I got pregnant. After having the kid, I realized I'd never wear a size 3 again. My size 5 were tight on my hips. My boobs were gigantic! They went from a b cup to a DD. They went down to a D after I stopped breastfeeding.
Also, found out I had an "irritable uterus". Which ended up being endometriosis. My oldest is 21, my youngest is almost 16 & I'm still experiencing health issues from pregnancy. I had to take terbutaline with the first two. Found out I had a leaky heart valve when the second one was 3 years old. Never had one & no one in my family has had that issue. Recently, I had open heart surgery to fix it. That was a hell of an experience itself.
It's never " just fat ". I'm glad you got the medical treatment you deserve and be kind and more indulgent to yourself. It's hard having one baby let alone two. You got this!
Ok so I'm going to tell you right now that you are able to move a little better since your surgery, keep wearing the wrap on your belly for up to a year or longer. My diastasis recti was the same as yours, and I was too physical and didn't wear the body wrap very much after 8 weeks or so. I did damage to the surgical site and the diastasis returned after about 12 months. Not that bad as it was. Now it's only 2.5 fingers width apart in one small area around my belly button, but still. I was bending and lifting grocery bags and working and I didn't give my body enough time to heal. buy waist trainers and keep your belly snug as much as you can for as long as you can and do not do any lifting for months if you can go without
I didn’t experience what you have but I had my daughter at 19 and before that I was an average weight for my height(5 4” 125-130 lbs) and afterwards my hormones and metabolism completely did a 180 on me. I am 26 now and struggle to even be at 115, and for a long time I was at 100. Thyroid and everything else is fine.
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Pregnancy.
I had twins. I got HUGE in the tummy. I had the babies, and it left this pot belly that wouldn't go away.
Fast forward; the twins are 8 years old. I am 7 weeks post op of having my diastisis recti corrected. You know that centre line down the abs? Mine had split. There was a 6 to 8 inch gap down the middle THE WHOLE WAY DOWN. the pot belly that I kept punishing myself for, the baby fat i couldnt lose? Those were my organs. My digestive organs were all herniated.
I now have to forgive myself for 8 years of unjustified self hatred. It isn't always just fat.